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Mindsets..do you think that we conjure up our reality?
June 27 2016
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Andremmo
8 years ago
No need to be negative - the glass is refillable...I recommend the Chateau Ver DeFlor (Richie Benaud's own vineyard according to Billy Birmingham)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Glass half full, definately. Even when things are really bad, theres only one direction left,and thats up. I was only chatting to a friend last night who is at a crossroads in his life and feels out of sync.And he has a dreaded feeling of the unknown. My spin on it was to look at it as the beginning of something new and exciting.A crossroads is a time to stop and just acknowledge there will be changes, and that you are ready and empowered for those changes.A new road on your life journey. Close your eyes every night with a smile, knowing that tomorrow brings something new and amazing. "Life is a gift. Unwrap it every day"
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RHP User
8 years ago
50% full of liquid & 50% full of air. However an engineer will tell you the glass is twice as big as it needs to be.
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RHP User
8 years ago
definitely glass half full, full to the brim
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RHP User
8 years ago
... every day whether we are going to be happy or simply suffer through another 24 hours. We can not control the people, places or things that often come into our lives however we can choose how we react to them. Simply, all behaviour has consequence and again we have the choice as to whether those consequences are positive or negative. Given a choice, I will choose to be happy and be the benefactor of the consequences of my own behaviour. Yes, I've read the books... they make a great deal of sense, Wayne Dyer in particular with classics such as ''Your Erroneous Zones'' and ''Pulling Your Own Strings''. Inner directed rather than outer effected.... the choice is always ours. Pass me another half full glass of life... I'll fill the rest as I go. Thanks, Q..... all good!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Glass half full, it takes too much hard work to be negative and down. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
In my experience people tend to swing between the two. In reality no person is an always one kind of person. I've met some who winge pretty regularly when it comes to the little things and then they pull up strongly when the chips are down. Then I've met those who appear to have a constantly sunny disposition but when the chips are down they turn sour. That's my take on the old cliche.
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RHP User
8 years ago
things just happen We control very little of what happens to us, only our reaction to it (the events) Planets align and bang, its done and all you can do is accept it, work with it and do the best you can with the situation at hand, good or bad I am neither half empty or full person and I don't believe just because you work hard or really kind or doing for others always etc that you will necessarily be rewarded for your "good efforts". It just is I'm just a doer, accepting what's happened and then getting on with what has to be done as a result So if we were all in a "Lost" situation, stuck on the island, I wouldn't be half full "Yay I'm stuck on a tropical island" or "Fuck we are all gonna die cause no-one will ever find us" I just get on with it working with the situation at hand Firstly, Id trace a HELP sign in the sand, organize and build shelter, set about finding food and water and interviewing those with me to ascertain who has got what skills and equipment relevant to our survival (hopefully someone is a smoker with a lighter) I just do, in any given situation. I try to be positive everyday but the reality is that at times I do become despondent, frustrated and a little negative with Life, especially when over tired. But I'm self aware and that's a start I'm a realist, with a smidgeon of idealism thrown in
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
We all have a different take on reality. What is real to me today may not be the way I view the same situation tomorrow.....and my reality is not the same as someone elses. Positive mindset is something we can all establish for ourselves...with practice. Not every day comes with a guarantee to be the bestest, but we can approach it with enthusiasm, a willingness to find joy and contentment with those we interact with. The smallest things can help establish your positivity....if you let them.
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On_Safari
8 years ago
I'm going to say my glass is half empty because some lazy arse hasn't refilled it yet!! You wanted a serious answer......I'm serious the glass is getting low.....WAITER!!! In all honesty you can't be up all the time no matter what your mindset is, I've found it entirely useful to be able to roll with the punches (after a little bitching), cop it on the chin and eventually everything will sort itself out in the long run. That's not to say I go quietly into this good night it's simply that I own my part in my errors, my fate and my future and am a staunch believer in tomorrow being a whole new day with no mistakes in it. I'm not a victim I'm a fighter. There's only been one moment in my life where I had zero fight......and that's not a place I will ever revisit. Random things happen. Opportunities, challenges, wonders. Without them how would we learn about ourselves, the world around us or the part we play in it? That was random
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RHP User
8 years ago
let me give an example of glass half full/glass half empty. This for me sums up how 2 people can be in a completely different space. So you have a husband and wife. The husband works extremely hard, absolutely spent when he gets home, earns big money, but has the stress and commitment to the role that is required to get to that level and well, you know, all that. The wife isn't working many hours BUT loves what she does and is happy and healthy beyond desciption. This means when the husband gets home, she's relaxed, has two drinks poured (having already had one herself lol) wearing a sexy little skirt, music going, hoping the husband will put his stuff down, come and sit and appreciate the moment, she's gaggin for it. In her mind, no, she may not be contributing to the mortgage or the bills, but he arrives home to a very horny wife. Yes, he has the stress of having to support the family and is absolutely buggered when he gets home, but its his glass half empty or half full? When his wife is sitting there in a sexy little skirt in summer, ready to please, gaggin for action, her glass is half full, life is pretty damn good, she's floating on air. His glass is half empty because all he sees is the wife not working enough hours or bringing in enough money Pretty simple mathematics to me
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RHP User
8 years ago
'is his' I meant
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RHP User
8 years ago
I am glass half full kinda girl, but do have my empty glass moments. I had a big cry tonight over something and I don't remember the last time I cried. After speaking with a friend I've put my big girls undies back on and am laughing again. I find the people I hang out with and talk to influence my outlook greatly. I'm a bit of a sponge. If everyone around me is negative, I wake up one day and realise I've started to dwell on unnecessary things. It's something I'm conscious of now and try and limit how much negativity I'm exposed to. But life is meant to be lived. Do what sets your soul on fire.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think how I feel about myself is what I project outwardly. Rather than be positive or negative, just to let things be and enjoy what you get out of both .. - Posted from rhpmobile
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lovman8
8 years ago
Quoting 'SoftandCurious' I am glass half full kinda girl, but do have my empty glass moments. I had a big cry tonight over something and I don't remember the last time I cried. After speaking with a friend I've put my big girls undies back on and am laughing again. But life is meant to be lived. Do what sets your soul on fire. Great philosphy, now we'll all be laughing and passionate when youslip those undies off again.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I appreciate and agree with some of the sentiments expressed by others here. I've already made no secret of my own views on some of these matters as far as they relate to other thread topics in the forum. I believe everything most certainly does happen for a reason, though I do not subscribe to anyone's attribution of these things to "divine intervention". Rather, every action has it's impacts and consequences. Frequently cause and correlation become confused (or incorrectly identified/attributed). It can take more careful investigation, analysis and consideration than many people are willing to devote to finding the truth of any given matter. Sometimes the only value to be gained by doing so is to satisfy yourself that at least YOU know the truth of the matter. In other words, in some instances the truth is immaterial. Who really cries over spilt milk? Other times, issues may appear minor, yet the truth is critical to sorting out far greater issues. It seems to me real wisdom is learning how to discern the difference. My sense of humour is sorely tested at times. (So recently as VERY recently in fact! Tonight my daughter... ahh anyhow, ne'ermind ) It helps me to be mindful of my thinking at those times - particularly when I'm around other people. Whilst venting or sharing may provide some temporary relief, there are times I've found it easy to say things I've later regretted. On occasion I've encountered nasty individuals keen to goad me to insurrection! (Actually, it seems I've sired such an individual. I contend she gets that from her mother. I find it a real test of my patience and perhaps my character to deny those sorts of individuals the satisfaction. (Have you ever found yourself engaged in a battle of wits against an unarmed man (or woman for that matter)? Whilst sometimes it may get started as a bit of banter or an occasional bit of sport, other times it is not, and it is frequently frustrating, or even downright tedious). At times I fail. Abysmally on occasion. Sometimes I'll bite and the provocateur takes their bat and ball (or his f@cking Golf Club) and goes home feeling stung. Usually, when that does happen I don't feel proud of myself for too long. Still, what do you do eh? I try (with mixed success) to not dwell on it too long; remind myself what victories I may have had during the day, pat the neighbours' dog, go for a walk, remind myself tomorrow's another day, or remind myself there are shitloads of poor bastards out there who will most certainly have had a worse day than me today (pretty much irrespective of anything at all adverse I may have experienced today). Sure helps if you can have a laugh.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Then it wouldn't matter if the glass is half full! As you would have unlimited milk supply !! So it wouldn't matter If the glas was half full or half empty !! And you would have cream aswell ! You would be able to make other milk products if you had the cow ! This reminds me of the QUESTION what came first the chicken or the egg? I think everything happens for a reason ! I also believe history will keep repeating itself if you haven't learnt from your lesson ! I have learn reacently to find at least one possitive to come out from with in every nagative that happens to you.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Just after posting my comment last night which I love!!! Big girls panties? No! I'm going to put on my ass kicker boots and head out commando 😝
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Lovinit28andKC72
8 years ago
Yes, positive thinking works, changing your thought process, can change your life. I've been a glass half full girl for quite some years. I try and keep my thoughts as positive as possible, but of course that doesn't always happen, because sometimes life throws things at you that you are not always sure how to deal with. So what I do if I'm feeling negitive and not feeling as positive as I usually do is, I tend to withdraw from people, work on myself and concentrate on whatever it is that is making me feel this way, as so I can get back to feeling more like positive myself.💋
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes, agree that positive thinking does work! It's natural to fall into a negative mindset every now and again. That is just life! But I often try to look at the positive things in the negetive as well! What is this situation I find myself in trying to teach me? Why did I react that way? Why did they react that way? What can I learn from this? I always try and put a positive spin on it! I try and look at negetive situations as opportunities to learn, about myself, about others and gain positives that way! But I'm also a reasonably positive person by nature, so I always look for the good in all things.
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RHP User
8 years ago
We are human beings, we succeed and we also fail. We have happy times and sad times. Im in a very happy place right now but at the start of the year I was very anxious and down on myself. I coped by reminding myself that there were people far worse off than myself and I had a lot to be thankful for. Set my mind on getting things turned around. My glass has always been half full, sometimes been filled to the top, but never half empty. Brought things home when one of our RHP friends was taken far too young just recently. No matter what you go through, there will always be sunshine after the storm. Before I moved to Oz I had a friend who was very negative all the time. Even when things were going her way. After a chat to her I would always feel unhappy, so I agree that negativity can be contagious. Luckily my friends and family are all happy souls
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RHP User
8 years ago
In my collegiate years, Carlos Castenada was an authour whose books formed part of the requiem reading in Spanish literature. ''A Separate Reality'' and ''The Teachings of Don Juan'' were among them and looked to express the idea that no two people will view the same situation or set of circumstances in the same way, thus we each have our own version of reality. When we combine those, we then form a collective conscious which may be reality in itself. ''The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same.'' - C. Catenada It's a well-know fact that Castenada was blown out of his mind most of the time on organic hallucinagenics when he was writing extensively about the Yaqui shamans and life in general although other authors like Lewis Carroll, Robert Lewis Stevenson, Edgar Allan Poe, Steven King et al were not exempt from a few nasty little pharmaceutical indulgences. Oh well, life is and that's the best we can hope for. Be well.....
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RHP User
8 years ago
I used to love watching his show on TV when I was a kid. I've read a couple of his books too... Anyway, I've suggested previously there are in fact three sides to every story: His side, Her side, and the Truth. As a form of mental exercise, I could offer a second view on the scenario you describe, and we could test my "three sides" hypothesis. If you're familiar with Mr Robertson's work and the format of his "Hypotheticals" show (and if you'll indulge me), I could start a new topic for consideration. If not, no matter. If you (or any others) have an aversion to long posts, or a prejudice against having your thinking challenged, you'd likely not want to get into it... Any takers?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm a little opportunist! I make MY best out of any situation. I set my own parameters and stay quite happy within them. No need to break the mould over here. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thanks for putting a smile on me face this morning, filling my glass up 👍👌😘 funny stuff, loved the rolling with the punches after a bit of bitching 😜
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RHP User
8 years ago
Good call Andremmo I like to think I can always change my life beverage at any stage.All you need to do is tip out the things your not liking and add the mix of the things you want in your life. The most important bit is getting rid of the bit that's not working completely or else it'll ruin the new mix your trying to make - Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
Quoting 'StarJustice' This reminds me of the QUESTION what came first the chicken or the egg? The egg.
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RHP User
8 years ago
That's the only reason a mans glass becomes empty. Otherwise my glass will always be full. I'm not a negative person at all . Negativity is a complete waste of time and soul destroying.. Even thinking about if the glass is half full or half empty is a negative. Stay positive and trust your judgement, The glass is FULL.. Now , who's shout is it. ?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I dunno if that's meant to be some kind of analogy or not. It sounds like it could be, I'm just not sure what it means. With respect to the OP. Yes and No, I think mindset can colour ones perception of events one way or the other to an extent but I personally can't take a shit situation and make it rosy just by being positive about it. I strive to be a realist about my perception of reality. The glass is both half full and half empty. It is what it is, now what can I do about it and what do I want to do about it? To drink or not to drink, that is the question. (Ok I'm done) I like both types of people in my life, too much of either gets dull and predictable.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Go ahead. I'm all ears. 😝
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ive always loved this quote from Ghandhi: Your beliefs become your thoughts,Your thoughts become your words,Your words become your actions,Your actions become your habits,Your habits become your values,Your values become your destiny. Believe you are good, and the world is good. Start from there and good things will flow. Energy (positive or negative) is contagious, but I find people prefer to be happy. If you smile, its nice to see other people start smiling around you.
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RHP User
8 years ago
If you are all ears then you can move in to the Playboy mansion... rumour has it that I've a couple of keys but what do ''they'' know?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Deep in philosophical thought in this forum. From experience I would say that one can think too deeply into a situation to not act on it, and therefore an opportunity is list to inaction. Positivity is essential, but actions speak greater than any words.
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langton11
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' let me give an example of glass half full/glass half empty. This for me sums up how 2 people can be in a completely different space. So you have a husband and wife. The husband works extremely hard, absolutely spent when he gets home, earns big money, but has the stress and commitment to the role that is required to get to that level and well, you know, all that. The wife isn't working many hours BUT loves what she does and is happy and healthy beyond desciption. This means when the husband gets home, she's relaxed, has two drinks poured (having already had one herself lol) wearing a sexy little skirt, music going, hoping the husband will put his stuff down, come and sit and appreciate the moment, she's gaggin for it. In her mind, no, she may not be contributing to the mortgage or the bills, but he arrives home to a very horny wife. Yes, he has the stress of having to support the family and is absolutely buggered when he gets home, but its his glass half empty or half full? When his wife is sitting there in a sexy little skirt in summer, ready to please, gaggin for action, her glass is half full, life is pretty damn good, she's floating on air. His glass is half empty because all he sees is the wife not working enough hours or bringing in enough money Pretty simple mathematics to me an enjoyable read
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langton11
8 years ago
as it reads in my profile strangely enough very rarely will I get beat up over life, annoyingly to some I always see the silver lining lol
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RHP User
8 years ago
I will make it happen. Otherwise, life is a set of random events and I get to choose how to manage them. In Australia we are lucky to have freedom to choose our destiny by putting strategies in place to achieve them or we can just cruise along and let random events lead us. We have this luxury because we live in a democratic and free country. Those unfortunate people who live in societies where poverty, war and strict cultural demands determine how they live don't have the luxury to speculate whether they have a glass half full or half empty they are too busy just surviving. Thank you for the question Q. It reminds me of the movie Sliding Doors with Gwyneth Paltrow. Excellent and thought provoking movie for me at the time when I was at a cross road in life. It showed how her life had 2 completely different outcomes that changed her life forever based on catching the subway on time or running late and missing it and the consequential series of events that followed. LG
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RHP User
8 years ago
Only in the '1st world' do we have the luxury of indulging in the Game of analysing our mindsets. Having lived in the third world i do understand that our environments have a huge influence over who we are and how we think. in the west we tie ourselves in knots with the over think. But it's interesting, no!? Lol.
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RHP User
8 years ago
My ears flopped.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I swear to God it must be auto correct, my comment above, 'put a smile on MY face' is what I meant or is what I typed. Starting to sound like quite the bogan again, disclaimer, hi to all the bogans out there, love yas all
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Service_man
8 years ago
I drink from the bottle and don't sweat the small stuff
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RHP User
8 years ago
I will post a topic of my own for the purpose of this "Three Sides" Hypothetical. I expect it may not be everyone's cup of tea, and I anticipate it could get untidy were it conducted in a haphazard manner. Therefore I have considered, developed and drafted what I believe will be a fitting format/structure which will enable me to properly facilitate an interactive forumite presentation faithful to Mr Robertson's established high standard. I have a couple of other things I need to get done in the next couple of days, but I will complete my preparations and post a new topic to the forum on Friday night. (It will differ just a little from the usual way we interact. I will give further explanation when I launch that post). Thanks for your patience Q. Appreciated : )
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RHP User
8 years ago
For all the thought provoking responses. It's also been my experience that what initially has seemed the most devastating experiences have in the end been gifts to change my life for the better xQ
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RHP User
8 years ago
Finding the silver lining in a dark cloud. Under employment when the kids were young is my example of just that.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Hank_E_Panky' Finding the silver lining in a dark cloud. Under employment when the kids were young is my example of just that. There's nothing wrong with a "Touch of Grey". Who'd be Grateful Dead? I wouldn't be dead for quids, but I do have a few of their albums.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think that this topic is 2 part. There is the glass half full/half empty issue that really is more about how we view each day, and there is the power of the thought. The former can fluctuate depending on what gets thrown our way and how we elect to deal with it. For me, probably the biggest half empty issue is that of not being remunerated appropriately. When it comes to the fore, I get frustrated at my lot but that in itself plays into the latter. The latter being to see your reality. Regarding the mentioned example, nothing will change as long as I see that as my reality. Conversely, I had previously visualised a reality that was just not going to ever happen and now I am living it. I am exactly where I dared to fantasise about being...and amazed as hell that it actually happened. Another example. At Uni I maintained the relentless affirmation that I would get Distinctions and High Distinctions. And against all probability, I graduated with Honours. One exam sticks in my mind. Attempting previous exams showed me that I couldn't do any of it. It was all beyond me. When I stood outside the exam room, a friend said "How do you think you will go?". I replied " Distinctions or High Distinctions", even though I could not do any of the previous exam questions. He said "I just want to pass". When I picked up the exam paper, I was amazed...every question was written just for me. I got a Distinction and my friend just passed. The powers of positive thinking are about CLEARLY visualising the reality that you seek. And it works. Be warned, do NOT visualise what you don't want because the Not gets lost and you get that which you envisaged...more of the same. Sadly, I still struggle with that myself. The more I focus on not getting the promotions promised, the more my reality steers away from it happening. Summarising, see yourself where you want to be, not where you don't want to be, and try to keep topping that glass up so it is always full, avoiding the half full/half empty conundrum.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'ontology' I will post a topic of my own for the purpose of this "Three Sides" Hypothetical. I expect it may not be everyone's cup of tea, and I anticipate it could get untidy were it conducted in a haphazard manner. Therefore I have considered, developed and drafted what I believe will be a fitting format/structure which will enable me to properly facilitate an interactive forumite presentation faithful to Mr Robertson's established high standard. I have a couple of other things I need to get done in the next couple of days, but I will complete my preparations and post a new topic to the forum on Friday night. (It will differ just a little from the usual way we interact. I will give further explanation when I launch that post). Thanks for your patience Q. Appreciated : ) I have elected not to commence a "Hypotheticals" thread at this time. Whilst I'm confident the concept is sound, I have a number of other matters requiring my attention and I'm not confident I could do justice to those matters and a "Hypotheticals" thread also. I might revisit/refloat this idea some time down the track.
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RHP User
8 years ago
for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction so all will balance out. Just honor yourself and roll with that guys... if your pissed off then its ok to be so but yeah positivity goes a long way. and as for glasses half full or empty... always take the fullest glass and hope that someone's spiked it with something awesome.
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RHP User
8 years ago
agreed with you )))
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