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Misread the situation because of RHP mindset?

November 28 2015

Have you misread a social situation because you have been on PIE to long?Before you came here you would have been in social settings and remained well behaved in your vanilla world. Now, having been to a few private swinging parties, experienced a bit of couple swapping, done that 3some business a few times, talked about sex and various scenarios in the forums, have you embarrassed yourself by making a move on someone that normally would have not even entered your mind?It could be a funny moment or it could have had serious repurcussions and damaged a relationship. Out with it..........

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RHP User

9 years ago

No, but the question has crystallised something. These sites have made me more aware of the existence of people's 'secrets' and secret desires, which has made so-called-vanilla dating much more interesting. Just requires a bit more nous and gentle questioning to get people to open up about those wanton pleasures they dare not speak of. In particular - which is why I had to respond to your thread Annie - lots of men out there don't mind (won't resist for long) slipping into something more (actually less) comfortable.

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lily1970

9 years ago

Hahah...this one made me laugh....Im usually "upfront" with what I seek here...in vanilla world..im sure they are like a deer caught in the headlights...Far less bullshit here though!!

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sweetgem

9 years ago

I have not yet confused or misread a social situation with RHP mindset because, I am still the same me as I am in the real world because, I did not join RHP for sexual fantasies fulfilling or experimenting any sexual fetish. I have come on Pie for one specific purpose and sadly, that one purpose is still not yet served 😛 However, having said the above, I do start worrying about trusting a man in general! After been on RHP for a few years and been exposed to the fact that there are so many people cheating, and that cheating lives amongst our normal daily life like a fashion trend nowadays, I am beginning to concern that I might meet one too in the future and how can I trust him for his words thoroughly, since some of them can disguise so well and get on with life like nothing has happened?! - Posted from rhpmobile

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Missb4u

9 years ago

When certain words are used I will sometimes get the giggles or have a little snicker to myself... How very childish of me 🙄🤗😋

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RHP User

9 years ago

Recently Annie my straight G/F and i had way way too many wines were getting loose talking about sex , i asked her to try on my lingere which she did so im snapping away on my phone both laughing then i made a move on her , next she said i have to go .........The next morning i apoligised and she was cool with it and thankfully were still friends so yes i was in PIELAND I don't usually do it but she was to hard to resist

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oralalot

9 years ago

I have been on pie for some time but try not to let that change me.... Meeting people from here usually means you have discussed desires and needs prior to that happening. But I still go into a meeting with no expectations and the knowledge that one or both parties may decide not to proceed. In this way I feel I have some protection from making assumptions when I meet people outside of pie. Treat everyone with the same level of respect and if more is meant to happen it will happen.

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RHP User

9 years ago

I'm the same person on every date, but the things I'll bring up will depend on whether I met my date here or on a vanilla site. One time I forgot my date was not from RHP. Let's just say I was ever so slightly too forthcoming and my date was left looking like a dear in the headlights. I do think being here and having experienced quite a few non-vanilla things sometimes makes forget how shocking some acts I wouldn't even call kinks are to "Muggles".

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QLDtwo4fun

9 years ago

After a couple of social nights with swinging friends we caught up with a couple who are very vanilla friends. After a nice dinner and some good wines it was time to go our seperate ways. She is alway a hugg and kisses person. I was a bit pissed and out of practice with vanilla hugs and kisses. She went to kiss me good night, I kissed her on the lips, not the cheek, and fondled her bottom. The kiss and hug lingered, I realised and stopped fondling. My wife notice, her husband didn't, she seemed happy, and no damage appeared to have been done.

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RHP User

9 years ago

I learnt years ago that alcohol and me can be social suicide..so no ,have not recently embarrassed myself or others ..but in my twenties and thirties there is a list of shame😱xxFreya

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RHP User

9 years ago

God, embarrassing, but yeah, hit on a guy who I thought had been checking me out, well quite sure he was. So on the beach, oops I kinda forgot in the real world, there aren't many young guys who would randomly hook up and fuck a woman of my age on the spot lol they might look but live in a vanilla world and percentages are not in my favour. Also, like Meander said, muggles, it's easy to forget how different the two worlds are. The poor guy looked shocked haha oops - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

Went to a normal friends birthday bash last night. Had one or several shots as you do, saying goodbye at the end of the night. A simple goodbye kiss to my best friends sister. Appears I had a pie moment and it evolved into a 15 second pash. All my vanilla friends lapsed into silence and watched ........ And watched. Today it's on Facebook. My besties husband posted Did you get a pash rash?

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solrose

9 years ago

Mmmm Facebook, the taddletail little brother/ sister of a good night out! I love kissing my girlfriends good nite. Funny thing is I've kissed most of them but neither one has spoken of it to the other. Especially the ones that decided to take it all the way on their own accord leaving me wanting them again. The majority putting it to a drunken one time fling....... For a one off they've showed a lot of enthusiasm......... - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

I am yet to mis-read a situation, I am pretty clueless anyway .. derr... But I do wonder if I am turning into a sexual predator! Here I am a 40 something butter wouldn't melt in my mouth kinda lady but am so much more aware of the men around me. Love to discreetly look at mens crotches in their work pants in the checkout queue or watch those tight buns as he leans over at the petrol pump... I wipe the drool from chin and wonders what he look like naked.

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RHP User

9 years ago

...I've let my naughty side out of her cage in vanilla company BUT it has certainly changed the way I view what's going on around me. The world looks like a completely different place through my RHP tinted lenses. Perhaps that third at dinner is actually dessert? Perhaps that double date has an after party in the penthouse? Perhaps that look held more than just humour? The voyeur in me is working overtime!

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RHP User

9 years ago

I assume everyone else is doing what i'm doing, when i'm out and I see everyone looking at their phone, I assume they're all secretly hooking up haha no shit, I do, I notice people get in their car after shopping and get straight on the phone, men and women. How many of them are fooling around hey? Lol and I quite often see hook ups, I never would have noticed before. Saw one yesterday at the beach. The guy was waiting nervously, looked clean, freshly showered, neat but casual clothes, looked like a nice guy. After a while, his chick walks up to him, dressed to kill, heels and jeans, makeup, god I rock up in a bikini and shorts haha so the standard long hug but no kiss, a friendly warm greeting but no kiss, see I just go straight in for the kiss haha but how many people are doing this online, there must be so many - Posted from rhpmobile

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helmet60

9 years ago

Writing the truth on my profile has led to no meetings from any member except for a few messages, So instead of having cock size listed as small I'm thinking of giving it a fudging and increasing the size a pinch to extra large!The only problem is what the man is going to say when he see's my cock?Even worse how do I explain the difference?Does anybody out there think a man would believe my excuse if I told him it shrank in the wash ? HA HA HA LOL Shurly there must be other men on this site with small cocks that will date another man with the same size one?Well I can only dream.

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