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Moral Compass- which way are you pointing?
April 14 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
I definitely have a high moral compass for myself. I don't cheat and I don't play with married/attached women. But I don't judge others and everyones circumstances are different. As long as you don't try and tell me your single when you're attached then each to their own. I'm up front about what I want and I'm looking for, and as long as the other person is as well then everythings fine by me.As you say, it seems a little hypocritical to judge other peoples circumstances/behaviour when you've joined a site like RHP where people are predominantly looking for sex and a good time - not love and a long time.As for whether it's a sign of morality if you dont care what others do in the space of there own life - No, I don't think you have a right to judge or dictate another persons behaviour, it's their business and their lives. It should only be your concern if it direct impacts yourself and your life.That's my 2 cents for the day :-) xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hey Mrs Sat :) ... maybe I should call you "Sister Saturn" . Judge, people do. I'm conscious of not judging others in a negative light based upon their preoccupations and fetishes etc. But I'm always being judged and somehow being seen as easily manipulated and fuckable. . I had a 'date' last night and as usual the conversation turned to sex (why does that always happen ?). He was a non-rhp guy (or so I thought). This time I was playing it rather innocent due to some recent bad experiences. He said to me, "Soo is Red Hot Pie, still around" ? WTF... why would he ask ME that question ? "Mmm I think so" was my reply. Should I have said "what's RHP?". In hindsight I will next time as I started getting "those" looks and the night changed from a casual drink to a "how do I get this woman to bed" discussion. . It seems I'm learning rapidly about how I'm judged by men. But I still make way too many errors and I'm way too open and honest. . For instance, this time I INSISTED on driving to the venue and meeting him there BUT I didn't count on his request for a lift home ! So I still ended up with a guy in my car, outside his place who invited me in for a cup of tea. This time I even said, "you mean a CUP OF TEA, not sex ?". He said "of course". Turns out when I get inside he has no milk ! I suggest I should leave, he says no. The rest is very predictable. . Soooo it seems that others judge me but I foolishly don't judge them enough ! . Could someone tell me when a cup of tea or a glass of water actually means what it's supposed to ? . Hugs, Miss Saturn
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RHP User
14 years ago
Heya Miss or is that "Sis" xxx Seems there's a touch of confusion in regards to the spoken word and what it alludes to with the male and female species. Check out the "Confused" thread in guys ask and you will see what I mean. May be that you have to wear goggles so your "come hither" eyes are hidden honey.Oh and maybe a top to toe jacket to hide your curves...and a gaffa tape your mouth so they dont misinterpret your spoken word. Then you may be safe ...Judged as a weirdo- but safe!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Miss_Saturn' Hey Mrs Sat :) ... maybe I should call you "Sister Saturn" . Judge, people do. I'm conscious of not judging others in a negative light based upon their preoccupations and fetishes etc. But I'm always being judged and somehow being seen as easily manipulated and fuckable. . I had a 'date' last night and as usual the conversation turned to sex (why does that always happen ?). He was a non-rhp guy (or so I thought). This time I was playing it rather innocent due to some recent bad experiences. He said to me, "Soo is Red Hot Pie, still around" ? WTF... why would he ask ME that question ? "Mmm I think so" was my reply. Should I have said "what's RHP?". In hindsight I will next time as I started getting "those" looks and the night changed from a casual drink to a "how do I get this woman to bed" discussion. . It seems I'm learning rapidly about how I'm judged by men. But I still make way too many errors and I'm way too open and honest. . For instance, this time I INSISTED on driving to the venue and meeting him there BUT I didn't count on his request for a lift home ! So I still ended up with a guy in my car, outside his place who invited me in for a cup of tea. This time I even said, "you mean a CUP OF TEA, not sex ?". He said "of course". Turns out when I get inside he has no milk ! I suggest I should leave, he says no. The rest is very predictable. . Soooo it seems that others judge me but I foolishly don't judge them enough ! . Could someone tell me when a cup of tea or a glass of water actually means what it's supposed to ? . Hugs, Miss Saturn B4 you get together with someone, assess what it is that you want for the date and explicitly tell the person b4 you meet up, eg. "I am only up for coffee/dinner/few drinks 2day/2night, does that suit you? I cannot promise you anything else. I am just telling you as in the past I have had few guys that have expected more which was a surprise at the time, not to say that it is definitely off the cards, it is just I don't want you to expect anything..." I am sure you could come up with something better. That should weed them out, if i guy can’t respect that, then let him go higher a hooker. It is your life and your right to run it the way you want and take control! OP Saturn, i have to paste your question(s) as i am too am having trouble getting what you are actually asking into my head too hehe "Is it a sign of morality if you dont care what others do in the space of there own life even if they do open it up for discussion? " Well without all the facts I feel it unfair to judge whether or not people are doing true bad and are immoral in my mind... Everyone has their own story, their own needs, over the years i have become more open to understanding how peoples’ minds tick... what may seem WRONG WRONG to others, is perfectly fine for some... I had trouble understanding peoples rational say 10 years ago in some cases, and i did my judging. Ten years on, I have experienced more ‘life’ and i have an insight into why some people do what they do. It may not be ‘right’ in the eyes of some, but we are all different and LIFE HAS SO MANY AREAS WHERE YOU CAN BE JUDGED.... so in saying that, most of us wouldn’t be ‘perfect’ so the peeps in here may push morality with the way they approach their sex lives, but it doesn’t really differ to other areas in life. How you approach your job, family, friends, environment, animals, yourself, community, etc etc someone moral in their sexual behaviour could be quite corrupt in business etc GAWD, this question is a hard one, my head can’t seem to get it quite straight? Ok ummm summary, don’t be too quick to judge, you may not have all the facts and we humans aren’t all perfect? I like being open minded, neglect family etc "Have people a right on a site like this to judge or make demeaning comments to others?Hmmmmm hope this makes sence and people can see what Im trying to say..." I think that is what forums are about, to get your say. I know it isn't polite to judge or make demeaning comments to others, but just take a look out our politicians??? It is embarrassing what happens during election time... Plus when people have SUPER STRONG OPNIONS that is what they are thinking, so it is honest. If the OP isn’t prepared to hear it all then they shouldn't post the topic? But off topic insults like i received the other day in one of my topics isn’t exactly helpful to the topic and the forum then went off the rails and became a shit fight between selfish girls and done wrong by guys and it was then shutdown.... so that was the end of anymore answers to the question i had posted, which was going rather well b4 that!! Lol...
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RHP User
14 years ago
meant to be: OP Saturn, i have to paste your question(s) as i am too am having trouble getting what you are actually asking into my head too hehe "Is it a sign of morality if you dont care what others do in the space of there own life even if they do open it up for discussion? " Well without all the facts I feel it unfair to judge whether or not people are doing true bad and are immoral in my mind... Everyone has their own story, their own needs, over the years i have become more open to understanding how peoples’ minds tick... what may seem WRONG WRONG to others, is perfectly fine for some... I had trouble understanding peoples rational say 10 years ago in some cases, and i did my judging. Ten years on, I have experienced more ‘life’ and i have an insight into why some people do what they do. It may not be ‘right’ in the eyes of some, but we are all different and LIFE HAS SO MANY AREAS WHERE YOU CAN BE JUDGED.... so in saying that, most of us wouldn’t be ‘perfect’ so the peeps in here may push morality with the way they approach their sex lives, but it doesn’t really differ to other areas in life. How you approach your job, family, friends, environment, animals, yourself, community, etc etc someone moral in their sexual behaviour could be quite corrupt in business, neglect family etc etc GAWD, this question is a hard one, my head can’t seem to get it quite straight? Ok ummm summary, don’t be too quick to judge, you may not have all the facts and we humans aren’t all perfect? I like being open minded
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RHP User
14 years ago
well im just a closed minded whore...well thats what i was told today anyway but i am open minded until someone tries to shove something down my throat, then i close up and nothing can persuade me other wise lol somethings you could never change my mind on...but thats because of personal reasons married men, older men...i wont go there and no matter how much or what you say you will never change my mind on those some things i would never do...but i get it...if you want to do it then thats fine, go for it...as long as your happy we all have a line that we wont cross and we will fight to keep that line it doesnt matter if we are on this site or a church site....people are judgemental...its human nature even the most open minded person has a line if they didnt we would be fucking animals and machinery roxxy...hoping she made sense for once
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RHP User
14 years ago
. Could someone tell me when a cup of tea or a glass of water actually means what it's supposed to ? . Hugs, Miss Saturn When you learn to say NO! and mean it I guess. Once you figure it out and accept in your own mind...then that is what it becomes.
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RHP User
14 years ago
If, in the normal course of events, you decide to try a new and exotic sex position, decide to have an affair with a married/pregnant/single/transgender person or simply want to know if your cock/pussy shots come up to scratch then I will give a non judgemental opinion if that is what you are asking for. But if you decide to do something I know is dangerous, silly or will have a detrimental effect on another person, then I will tell you straight up. I don't say something like that if it is merely an opinion, I will give you the facts and if possible the figures with all the bells and whistles.I recently got into a war of words with a very young lady who decided on a rather dangerous course of action. Normally I wouldn't bother trying to change her mind as it's her life but unfortunately she seemed to be recommending the dangerous action as part of sex play. I felt that I should at least warn others of the dangers so even though I knew she wasn't taking me seriously I kept up the posting. I hope I and all the other intelligent people who posted comments have deterred anyone from following her example.I say to each their own, whatever floats your boat and keep it safe, sane and consensual. From someone who has seen nearly all and is no longer surprised by the weird and wonderful. In fact the weird and wonderful is normal.....!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'TassieRose' well im just a closed minded whore...well thats what i was told today anyway but i am open minded until someone tries to shove something down my throat, then i close up and nothing can persuade me other wise lol somethings you could never change my mind on...but thats because of personal reasons married men, older men...i wont go there and no matter how much or what you say you will never change my mind on those some things i would never do...but i get it...if you want to do it then thats fine, go for it...as long as your happy we all have a line that we wont cross and we will fight to keep that line it doesnt matter if we are on this site or a church site....people are judgemental...its human nature even the most open minded person has a line if they didnt we would be fucking animals and machinery roxxy...hoping she made sense for once I think you are "a closed minded whore" ( a girl who knows WHAT she wants... lots of HAWT sex with men SHE wants! oh and accessories ) But darling dear, you always make perfect sense. P.S. Now this would be funny, what are the chances that someone on RHP is a frequent forum member on a church site too baaahaaahaaaa
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RHP User
14 years ago
These dont necessarily go hand in hand. I mean those wonderful christian people are full of morality and righteousness but look at all the strife done in the name of religion. I guess it depends on what your own morals and beliefs are. There are things that are just plain abhorrent to me and no, I will not sit back and let it slide, Well, that is not true, there has been the occassional post where I have had to back away because it just goes too far outside the grain.....for me! Everyone on this site is fond of saying each to thier own, whatever turns you on and I am sorry but I must dissagree. There are some things that we just cannot accept. Most on this site would not accept some of them. Some would and say nothing I am sure. We are, by nature, a judgemental beast. It is only human and no one will ever be able to stop that. I wonder a bit about your wording ....is it a sign of morality if we dont care..... Personally I would think that not caring is a sign of apathy. Everybody has thier own morals and what is beyond thier moral conduct. What we dont have is the right to say "Look at me. You should do what I do." What is right for one is not right for all. l l LOL Roxxy...fucking animals? some do! Fucking machinery? What is a fuck machine then?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I guess we form our opinions from making judgements. Opinions are fluid and can therefore change especially if new information causes us to see things in a different way. Open mindedness and narrow mindedness make for a *head banging against the wall* debate especially if either cannot see the others point of view. Lateral thinking makes fror a great conversation. . So I really don't feel that judging is a bad thing unless it's intenetion is to demean the other person. . As for morals, well, I have standards - same thing different spelling :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I am pointing straight up, but it doesn't feel very moral... hehehehe
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RHP User
14 years ago
(or at least I like to think so). Some of you surely saw my recent thread about being TOO moral, but thats who I am. However, I do have thoughts and opinions that others would find immoral or even shocking, like what I think should be done to rapists and those who hurt children, and even some of the things I have done in the past that were entirely justified in my eyes. Everyone lives by a different set of principles or morals, so I generally just stick to my own and try not to judge others for theirs, except in the most extreme cases. I am a strong believer in personal freedom, and think people should be allowed to do absolutely anything they want... so long as it doesnt hurt others (which is why I generally despise cheaters).
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Miss_Saturn' Could someone tell me when a cup of tea or a glass of water actually means what it's supposed to ? . Hugs, Miss Saturn I know I am double posting here, and it seems like I am not taking this serious, but I am. I promise :) This may give away the American in me, but do you watch Seinfeld? The episode where George is invited up for "coffee" late at night, and he doesn't know what to do (who drinks coffee that late...coffee isn't coffee; coffee is SEX!"). It is hilarious, but it gets at something real (as all good comedy does). It is damn hard to interpret what people mean, and people rarely come out say what it is they truly are after. That is all I am sayin'...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Krissy_G'Exactly what is wrong with my wording. Makes sence to me. It was the OP's. l Is it a sign of morality if you DONT care......... l Immoral and ammoral people dont care. It just does not matter to them. Those with morals stop and think a bit...... JMO.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I disagree... I have morals and use them when i wish to. I point NORTH onwards and upwards I dont care what people tend to think about me I say what i think I hold no punches and find speaking your mind is the easiest thing to do. If i seriuosly upset somone with my words or actions and can see it has affected them i will front up and say i am sorry. But in general life should be fun so i try to keep it light and look for the good but happy to pint out the fucked up shit also Enough From The WOW
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RHP User
14 years ago
It is funny how we are all judged here..i guess it is very safe to write things behind the comfort of their keyboard..snipers !!! you can tell who responds honestly , by consistency...i gave up taking things to heart here along time ago !! live on forum fun..
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RHP User
14 years ago
Some people are just assholes, never understood the "this is what I think and if you disagree you're a bad person" mentality.
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