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My Feminine Point Of View As To The Equal Importance Of My Masculine Partner In Our Swinging Lifestyle Through And Through.

March 27 2021

I am an outspoken, confident, strong willed and happy woman. I have never felt down trodden, held back or under privileged in my very feminine identity. I am coming up to 22 years now with my husband and wouldn't change the dynamic in our relationship that allows me to be a little. It has evolved and changed over the years especially with the arrival of our 4 children, but my husband really takes his place as Daddy seriously and properly. I am treated with care, love and devotion, he never takes from me like some sort of thoughtless junkie. Always putting my needs as paramount on his agenda, he will even sacrifice some of his own needs if it is necessary in order to provide for my sexual, emotional and mental wellbeing. Always treating me as important, loved and wanted. It is not about discipline or roleplay, more about his masculine persona which thrives on protecting, providing and pleasing my feminine side which in turn nurtures, cares and accepts willingly the importance he places on me as the center of his world. This does not mean I don't have independence, free thinking ideas or a voice to speak them with whenever I choose. We simply define different roles within our very happy marraige, neither is more important or disposable, each requires the other in order to satisfy our need for feeling complete, we are a team that requires both of us to stay successful, each role cannot be replaced by another team mate of the same type, this would lead to unbalance within our relationship and so cause instability that would make it collapse in a most devastating way for either one of us. In the more accepted role as father to our children he is fantastic and tries very hard to be what they require in a non sexual physical, emotional and mentally supportive man, I have no doubts that there are many, many men who exhibit the necessary and important traits of this very masculine identity just as my man does and I hope that there are just as many women enjoying the essential love that they can rely upon and in return give to their partners also. I am not ashamed of my role or my love and need for my Daddy. It is a really horrific reality that there are many other people on this planet who do not experience the truly satisfying and enjoyable experience of a well balanced relationship or family in their lifetime or even worse an abusive and damaging dynamic or an absence altogether of what I see as giving a firm and stable foundation for our wellbeing that is difficult or impossible to find somewhere else outside these roles. So encourage all those good Daddies and Fathers with praise and recognition, thank them for being the real men who's strengths we require for healthy minds, bodies and souls allowing us to be free to use our strengths in return and being the best littles, children, wives and mothers. This way both of our roles are able to exhibit care and devotion that shine with beauty and so fulfill all our requirements for each others needs. A well balanced team is always going to be stronger and more successful than an individual who must battle through life alone. Please do not express an unbalance in sexism as a virtue or of any real importance as it creates a biased and discriminatory atmosphere. Unhappiness and unfulfilled desires for some sort of complete psyche is that is almost never achieved lurks in the subconscious minds of those who embrace such as an ideal to be aimed for. Celebrate each and every difference we have and find those who complement your strengths in their needs and your needs in their strengths as best you can. It will take real honesty, communication, hard work, self sacrifice and loyalty to each other but if you can focus on these it is an amazing bounty of love and strength that is worth the effort in my opinion. Nothing worthwhile comes without hardwork, without it your dynamic may obtain an value of easy come easy go, or throw away status. Ofcourse everyone has a right to have their own views on what is right, wrong and important in life, not everyone will agree with me. I just hope there are more than just a few that do. With a strong sense of an equal partnership of feminine and masculine traits working in unison will achieve the highest possible chance for success in life. Even if it is just an expression of a partnerships roles and not necessarily their gender. I Love My Swinging Daddy and Love Being His Swinging Good Girl. Twisted I hope not, sure doesn't feel like it. Live, Love and Embrace Your Lifestyle Choice With Pride, Never Feel Shame For Any Of Your Choices In Your Sex Life. 😘

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2EssesExploring

4 years ago

Congratulations! Twenty two years is an achievement for any team! We are only 5 years young and relate to much of what you have said. I hope we can look back in another 17 years and see the success of our family from the choices we have made. Many will say they do not need their partner but only choose to share time with them and many may find what you say sexist in defining the feminine and masculine. My beliefs and what I have seen in successful long term unions really supports your ideas. This doesn’t mean that it is always the male that takes the masculine role as sometimes it is reversed and sometimes may be more equally shared but from my experience most commonly the most successful partnerships have clearly defined roles. These roles are not of greater importance but absolutely necessary to achieve balance. I think my partner is a true “Little” and in saying that I feel that part of this title involves a very strong mind, she is fierce within herself and fierce in protecting herself and her flock. She is very inexperienced and very submissive sexually. She is naturally more reserved and not adventurous and I am more the opposite but she adores that I open up chances for her experience that she would not dare indulge in. We find our shared desires and explorations are bringing us closer and closer and the intensity of our sexual union is mind blowing. Just recently I experienced how far she has evolved as a sexual being when for the first time she took the lead with another man. It was amazing to see her take what she wanted and see her enjoy directing exactly what she wants. It was one of the most erotic things I have ever witnessed intensified by the fact that she has never acted like that with me. I love that we share in our strengths and weaknesses, that we really accept our individual personal limitations and one can usually can take up the slack when the other is out of their depth. There have been very few times when we are both struggling and these are the times where a couple could hurt each other and diminish their bond but so far we have been able to pass through these times and either learn how to handle them in the future or sometimes it’s the case of just accepting that sometimes we will both be in the hole at the same time and will just have to climb out by ourselves. I think many people find it disturbing that a woman calls her sexual partner Daddy and there must be some issues there. My partner has the most loving family upbringing with great relationships with her parents, who are going strong after 40 odd years together and their life has been harder than most of us could ever imagine. She refers to me as daddy when talking to the children and often Daddy in bed but these two references are completely different in intent and there are no blurred lines. We don’t feel the need to enact role plays and costumes as can be seen on fetlife and such and there is not any idea of it being a daddy-daughter fetish, I guess that’s why they label it Daddy-Little, I guess it’s just a tamer, cuter version of the leather-clad, whip wielding dom-sub vibe. Anyway OP, thank you for your post. It is nice to hear from a long term couple whose path it seems we may be following. I cannot even contemplate tackling life without my Little Girl, she is the rock in the centre of my world and I am hers.

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Phoenix_Rising

4 years ago

Sounds like it works for you guys and that’s fantastic! Regardless of what you’re into, if you can find someone you can work so well with and enjoy it for so long I reckon that’s pretty cool.

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Obi1kenietzsche

4 years ago

That is possibly the best post I have read for a long, long time. Xx Obi1

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My Feminine Point Of View As To The Equal Importance Of My Masculine Partner In Our Swinging Lifestyle Through And Through.

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