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My hat goes off to you

August 22 2010

For what ever reason you have become a single parent my hat goes off to you...I was raised by a single Mum, have a few friends that are currently or have previously been..a single parent (and this includes my Mother who is also a wonderful foster carer). The reason for my post isnt just to say, once again, I have an awesome mother, but as I have been child minding 1 small girl for the weekend (under 10) so her parents could have a much deserved wekend away - I do hope everyone is reading dirty weekend there - I have come to greatly appreciate the effort that goes into raising a child on your own... Yes I know I have only had a weekend of it and this in now way would give me a true understanding of what it is like...but guys...I am exhausted - can someone send her parents back early to get her...please??? I mean the child is fanatstic been extremly well beaved but I want my child free haven again. yep my hat goes off to the guys and gals alike on here that have or are rasing kids on their own. Mwah guys - you are awesome... Kisses Focus

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Is that you can give them back at the end of the day :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Thank you again Ms Focus for your hats off to us....... Yes it is hard but a tonne of fun......I wouldn't trade my life for anyones. I chose to have these kids (20 & 10) or did they choose me? It's a matter of balance, and without being there and experiencing it as a parent it's hard to explain. I guess it will be a wonder for you, until you have your own. That feeling of unconditional love. In saying that I know your status on the subject. It's a job that is priceless and rewarded in so many different ways. Latte xxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I have NO idea how single parents do it.... wash, cook, clean, love, care the list goes on!I'm so grateful I have an awesome hubby who helps out!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'eunuch'Is that you can give them back at the end of the day :) The advantage of being an Aunt too.....suagr them up and send them home...lol Kisses Focus

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    focus i have raised my 16yo daughter from the age of two it was hard work as i was an older bloke when she was born but having said that sure you have many ups and downs exhaustion but for me even though it was hard i am now proud to have done it alone it played havoc with social life and intimacy was always difficult however now shes a young lady it is time for me so i look forward now to meeting some new friends at brissy drinks night for some nice conversation etc

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    ...Just for those who dont know my stance on the whole parenting thing (as alluded to by Latte) I have no intention of being a parent ever - and dont anyone start telling me i will change my mind etc on this one have had my rant on a previous thread about such comments - parenthood is just not for me. That being said I do admire anyone who can and does undertake this emormous task even more so now after my weekend and especiallly those that take the task on single handed for what ever reason. Kisses Focus

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    focus please...just for the weekend come on please...there is only a few they are trained well ok sometimes...but only one still has a nappy come on hun...you know i love you its only for the weekend you know you want too hehe roxxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    I take off my hat to me! Not easy and agree with GirlTuesday... MrsP ..I am happy for your daughter. xxx I have my days wishing there was that man around the house to support me when I am at my lil darling to clean his room..Pick up the Lego, socks go in the washing basket not the floor. Yes, we love the sofa but it is not for doing flips n jumping off. . Don't use the poor dog as your arch enemy with your toys swords..( poor doggy copes so well ) . But I am blessed... A beautiful son that is my best friend and gives hugs n kisses many times a day..And tells me he loves me so much. ..A lil bioy that pulls the chair out for me to sit in when we go out for dinner. Opens doors for girls. Offers ladies first for the toilet if we been out from a long drive. Loves to play chef and nurse when I am sick, and always shows compassion. Now if I can just talk him into trying modelling and dance classes....lol. Love to all the beautiful kids out there. To you single parents..We are blessed..Even though it is sometimes tough on your own. Hugs n kisses Sweetpetite41xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    Quoting 'TassieRose' focus please...just for the weekend come on please...there is only a few they are trained well ok sometimes...but only one still has a nappy come on hun...you know i love you its only for the weekend you know you want too hehe roxxy Oh wait you said nappy ... not happening my Sweet...sorry... Kisses Focus

  • xFunlovingx

    xFunlovingx

    14 years ago

    It is hard being a single parent...not only for women...but men as well. I am a single mother and have been single for almost 10 years...I was at my Uncles funeral yesterday and at the wake had the many Aunts and Cousins ask why I am still single (Italian family). I told them what my week consists of (as I had put up on another post) and it sure made them back off haha. Not only is it looking after the kids but when they play basketball (that is not seasonal) as a parent, you can't have a life. I envy the families where they can have both parents help with the sharing of the driving around to training and game nights/days. It is exhausting, I tell you. As others have said on here though...you can't take away from the hugs, the kisses and the endless "I love you" that you hear each day. I also take my hat off to the men out there (as they are in the majority) who do not get to see their kids much anymore, who take their kids everywhere when they do get time with them...who do the best they possibly can with the limited time they have with them. Too much focus is on deadbeat dads...but alot of men are not like that at all. Focus hun..it is your decision if you want kids or not..and if you don't want them..well basically that is noones business. If I hear of someone wanting kids..I offer them mine for a week lol. Be happy with who you are and you never have to defend your decision..nor should anyone that stops at having one child or keeps going till they have 12. We all make our own choices in life..and as long as you are happy...stuff what others say!! xFunlovingx PS: (Bragging mum coming in) Son's team in Rep won the first final and still have a double chance

  • RHP

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    14 years ago

    Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Focus hun..it is your decision if you want kids or not..and if you don't want them..well basically that is noones business. If I hear of someone wanting kids..I offer them mine for a week lol. Be happy with who you are and you never have to defend your decision..nor should anyone that stops at having one child or keeps going till they have 12. We all make our own choices in life..and as long as you are happy...stuff what others say!! xFunlovingx PS: (Bragging mum coming in) Son's team in Rep won the first final and still have a double chance having said my piece on a previous thread of mine and knowing that we get newbies through here all the time I just felt the need to reiterate my point but thanks for the support there Funloving...and Congrats to your sons team...well deserved I am sure. Kisses Focus

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Those of us who are or have been single parents all have stories of how we came to be one. I know there were times I did my very best, other times I wished I could have done better, sometimes I have thought I was the world's worst parent and now I take pride in the people my sons have become. I know I contributed to their magnificence. Wild with Pride x x x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Quoting 'focusliason' Quoting 'TassieRose' focus please...just for the weekend come on please...there is only a few they are trained well ok sometimes...but only one still has a nappy come on hun...you know i love you its only for the weekend you know you want too hehe roxxy Oh wait you said nappy ... not happening my Sweet...sorry... Kisses Focus she will get her own nappy and she will even take the yukkk one to the rubbish for you and if you ask her she will even fetch the wipes when she has poo'd...so this one is very well trained for a baby you will love her, she is very cute lol roxxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    14 years ago

    Yes I have been a single parent and in fact am still one. I also choose to take foster children into my life and my home. I currently have three girls in my care but can, and have had as many as seven at one time. It is hard, very hard. These gorgeous little darlings are twice the work as one of your own kids and so much more rewarding to raise. They will NEVER show appreciation for what you do, they will very rarely, if ever thank you, they need doctors, counsellors, dentists, optomitrists, pediatricians and a host of other appointments. Their problems are numerous and they have all, without exception been horribly let down by the very people they should be able to depend on. Would I swap one minute of my time with these beautiful broken babies? HELL NO!!! But there are times when I just want someone to walk through the door at the end of the day, give me a big hug and say "Let me help you".

  • tempered

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    one year ago

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