My wife wants to try a dp.

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  Sawadee

  8 years ago

  About inviting your friend that is.. If things go pear shape you might lose a good friend . Whereas , if it's someone not in your same circle it doesn't really matter that much.. But it's up to you. Being a guy who has been the invited , I would never partisipate if we never meet for a drink or coffee beforehand. It's not only the couple that needs to feel comfortable , I need to feel that too.. The memorable meets have always been those who looked at it for what it is without too much expectation.

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  QLDtwo4fun

  8 years ago

  I think you both need to be at the same place in your relationship to get into swinging and maintain a marriage. And you both need to have agreed 'rules' as what freedoms does your partner have. Basically you both need to be into it. So how do you know your ready, you'll never know if you don't try. Cucknshells' advice is good. It is easier to recover from a stumble when you take a small step than it is to recover from a giant leap. So gently test things out.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Comes down to communication, like anything in a relationship. Go with your gut instinct, and don't second guess yourselves. Your a partnership after all!

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  pizzadogs

  8 years ago

  Mm dangerous when /if the wife and or mate develop feelings for each other and then you find yourself and mrs palmer in an ongoing relationship. Plenty of others out there other than mate

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I'd leave the friend out of it and go for a random, a sexy stranger, and just let it happen. If it doesn't go well or you're all not into each other, or one or more aren't into the others, you can put that behind you if it's someone you won't see again, but if it's a friend, then what? That could make for a very awkward friendship if that friendship was still in place. The coffee thing is probably more important for couples, I just like to bowl on in, all systems go I don't mind the coffee thing, but would want more than coffee

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I absolutely love MFM, but DP is something that takes time, and often though the girl feels she's in the right place (her mind), she's just not relaxed enough. And you've got to make sure she's feeling incontroll, cherished and above all safe. From a technical side, there needs to be plenty of time spent playing, oral, normal, and swapping. Personally, I prefer to use a anal vibe with Analube whilst she's being spit roasted. This allows her arse to become more relaxed whilst a cock is in her. REMEMBER be gentle, and make sure her arse is a little pre stretched so to speak. When it comes time to DP, get her more comfortable lover to lay knees over the end of the bed, she mounts and begins normal intercourse lots of lube, as she beckons you in, lay her forward and then slide in, no 1 guy needs to show right down, she will roll and rock to take you in. Be aware if its your or her first, it may be difficult to get into it. Porn shows so much pounding, I've never met a girl who enjoys this, or could do it. I've heard first hand of girls tearing, this is BAD. Make sure that she is in control of the rythem and depth of penatration. Play safe, have fun if in dobut slow down and chill out. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  johnisfun3

  8 years ago

  Quoting 'outback6pack' I absolutely love MFM, but DP is something that takes time, and often though the girl feels she's in the right place (her mind), she's just not relaxed enough. And you've got to make sure she's feeling incontroll, cherished and above all safe. From a technical side, there needs to be plenty of time spent playing, oral, normal, and swapping. Personally, I prefer to use a anal vibe with Analube whilst she's being spit roasted. This allows her arse to become more relaxed whilst a cock is in her. REMEMBER be gentle, and make sure her arse is a little pre stretched so to speak. While DP is not my thing I was amazed to read this post. Its really great sharing the experience such detail. My suggestion would be let her be in absolute control and if its not working and she wants to back off any time let it be. As far as doing with a friend it depends on relationship between the three of you.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  And I'm not going to touch on the emotional aspects of it but have you also talked about the practical aspects? For example; is it double vaginal or vag/anal DP that interests your wife (and you?) Are you ok with frotting another guy while having sex with your wife? How sure are you that you will be able to maintain an erection in such circumstances, it will take some adjustments to make sure everyone has room, this wont be a quick and easy thing to accomplish for the first time (and probs not the second and third either)? Can you access a quarter/half of a little blue pill to lock it in Eddy? In the case of vag/anal; Who gets the bum? Is this person happy to remain fairly still and passive for a decent part (perhaps all) of the procedings? (again consider the little blue helper) Because unless your wife is a total arse queen its going to take some warming up before she can handle thrusting into both holes simultaneously. Bum dude really has to hold it right in or vag dude will tend to thrust him out. It's going to be a tight squeeze. On the topic of double thrusting, it can be difficult enough to sync the rhythm up with two. I'm sure you and your wife had that sorted but add a third player and things become more complicated. Make sure you and your wife have realistic expectations going into it. You are learning a new dance, things will likely be clumsy at first. How girthy are you (and your wife) this is going to inform your choice of second partner. Unless you are tiny or your wife is cavernous I would definitely recommend you make sure the third party is not much fatter than average, preferably a little less. You might want to test this out with a dildo or dildos ahead of time to get a guide to how much more she can actually handle. It's not as easy as it sounds. I hope this helps, I think you are doing the right thing by carefully considering the emotional side of this decision but also do not neglect the practical considerations if you decide to follow through with this endeavour.

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  melbcouple9

  8 years ago

  My other half and I have mmf threesomes and they are heaps of fun but I think you both need to be comfortable with your relationship and the idea and set boundaries. For example my boyfriend talks to the guys and organises it. I would never get a friend or someone I knew as it complicates things. A friend of mine had a horror story with a threesome involving someone they knew and that turned me off big time. As for dp this is something my other half is keen to try but I'm not so sure of the logistics haha. It will only ruin your relationship if either of you aren't ready or you cross boundaries

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  nortynorty

  8 years ago

  Speaking from experience, an ex and I enjoyed sharing our intimacy with another man from time to time. The most important aspect for me was that she was comfortable with the other guy. Thankfully we had an amazing third wheel that we trusted, we build rapport and a relationship of sorts followed... I would steer clear from mates and people who are going to be hard to cut out of the picture when it is time to move on. The beauty of our third wheel was that he was disposable at anytime we felt like ditching him and though it does take time or a few encounters to find out of the person is the right fit for the 3way it made for a much easier transition to the next adventure when the time did come to cut him off.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Ggreat advice from all guys and lady's, I've never tried it but been very interested in the topic for a long time, as many have said the dynamics of a friend being part of equitation could get a little difficult if the situation was to end, a new connection seems more appropriate, i think the couple in the situation has to have a great understanding f each other before they take tat giant step Cheers guys and thanks for the many views on the topic

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