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NO BI GUYS!!!
March 06 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
we've wondered the very same thing...i think its fear....and misunderstanding. being 'bi' doesnt mean thats it the only way you play...it just means theres a whole lot more 'openness' and 'acceptance'.... people shold be more tolerant...and practise some of the 'open mindedness' they preach... a bi guy will come to you...a couple i mean... and likely be a whole lot more accepting of the other male...and any trepidation he may feel... and 'bi' guys....absolutely play 'straight' ......all you have to do is ask, or tell....and it happens..easy peasy..
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think it's due to a few things, homophobia plays a big part. Whether it's a straight out distaste for homosexual acts or the person's own sexual fears projected outwardly. I have noticed this when I used to have a couple profile on here and experienced it in the initial stages of contact with numerous couples. These unsuprisingly never ended in meets. Another factor is the mentality of the bisexual man being a cross polinator for diseases from the gay community to the straight as seen in the early fear filled days of the HIV/AIDS virus. It's still fairly taboo to be a bi-guy but is slowly gaining acceptance and will increasingly do so as more open dialog occurs. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I suppose Women may not want a Bi Guy because they won't get 100% of his attention . Couples may not want a Bi Guy for pretty much the same reason . He won't give the Female 100% & will want to fuck the Man as well . Just a Theory ... GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Maybe, some people out there think that they will catch Bi or Gay if they get too close, lol.
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RHP User
12 years ago
For those in partnerships it could be that the Male is HomophobicSingle Women seeking more committed relationships could be feeling that a bi-male could not be totally committed to a relationshipWho knows what motivates people to be so blatantly negative, Myself i see it as Risk Reduction.The only safe sex is no sex at all.
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RHP User
12 years ago
bi men,they seem to be more secure in who they are,more in touch with their sexuality,a broad statement but that has been my experience. Who knows why couples would have that on their profiles OP,perhaps they are afraid of inadvertently falling on a cock....or if they play with someone who is openly bi that they might be bi too.....or tempted.....the lure of the elegant cock is a powerful thing afterall
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is al that there is when you're not in the said situation. So my way thinking isn't to understand it. It just is what it is....their choice and preference. If you're not fitting into their criteria why worry? NEXT!!
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blkcapricornday
12 years ago
Said no man EVER.
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RHP User
12 years ago
When I have read "NO BI-GUYS!!!" like that on a profile or any stuff like that in capitals...its like they are shouting at reader...making a statement alright..for me its a turnoff.. Wouldn't it be better to write something like "straight men need only apply" or something like that??? Oh heck what would I know I`m just a single woman looking fir elegant cock with substance...LOL So in your case the people writing that clearly are making a statement.. My judge is past experiences have led them to put that there, me thinking. ~\(**)/~ Foxy- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Also there is often the perception that gay and bi men are hugely promiscuous and possibly do not practice safe sex and should be in a high risk category when it comes to STDs. So people prefer not to play with them. It's a generalization. Mind you I have a bi friend who has had sexually contact with 50 men in a weekend once, he was on a mission that weekend, I believe he lost count after that. For a man going to one of those gay spas or bisexual club its nothing to have sexual contact with 5, 10 or even more men in a night. I know cause I have been there and I have seen it for myself. In all the years my friend has never had any STD's at all but I think he must just be immune or something. Or as they say it is harder for men to get it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
He has been frequenting these clubs for about 10 years and he says there are LOTS of "straight" married men there. In my mind nobody is riskier than the other. It only takes contact with one person after all.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'd be willing to bet that in many cases it stems from homophobia on the guy's part, and some (usually incorrect) ideas they hold about the sexual behaviour of bi men. For single females, I'm not too sure but it could be that some feel like they won't be the centre of his attention, and / or they will have to 'compete' not only with other females but also with males for his attention and they don't like the thought of that (I'm not saying that would be the case, just that it's what some women may think). Personally I love the thought of playing with bi guys. I've finally managed to find myself one up here to play with and I'm planning on making the most of it.....the only thing that could improve the situation is if I could find two of them to play with...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Its phobia mainly.But its very subjective everyone has their reasons, maybe they had a bad experience?Each to their own. Play is play, just enjoy the encounter and don't freak out around the other guy(s) :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Easy answer,we have no desire what so ever for a bi guy.
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RHP User
12 years ago
LURRRRRRRRRRVES WATCHING AND PLAYING WITH BI MEN AND I BET A LOT OF WOMEN DO TOO.......... Alot of people never tried it so dont knock it until you try it i say...each to their own....(__0__) LOL
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RHP User
12 years ago
At this point in history, society (at large) views bisexuality very differently depending on what sex you are. Male bisexuality......bad bad bad, female bisexuality.....beautiful. Who cares? Don't worry......beeeeeeee happy, be happy now
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xFunlovingx
12 years ago
What happened to "My body, my choice"...If someone doesn't want a bi guy why is the word "Homophobe" thrown around so easily? It is a nice soft word to fall back on isn't it? . What about the couples that don't want Straight Females or Experimental Females? The Couples that don't want men at all? The couples that don't want females at all? The Gay men that don't want a Bi guy? . Is there such a word as "Straightophobia"? xFunlovingx - MY BODY MY CHOICE!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Can I just ask everyone to send all their unwanted Bi guys my way?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Can I just ask everyone to send all their unwanted Bi guys my way? can you send a couple up my way?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Can I just ask everyone to send all their unwanted Bi guys my way? can you send a couple up my way? I take the ones over 6 ft, the rest are yours.
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RHP User
12 years ago
BellaRH, thank you for addressing the question from the actual rather than imagined perspective. You said "no interest". Can you elaborate? Is it no interest in a bi-male experience (ie, m-on-m action) - and therefore, you'd be fine with a but guy who put a part of himself on ice? Or no interest in a bi-guy, because there is something intrinsic about but guys? Like being short or blonde? Again, no judgement, just curious... xfunlovinx... good point, about preferences... does that mean there is something unmistakably bi about a bi guy? Eg, no tall men, no white men, no but men... And for those concerned that I should just accept and move on, thank you, but this is an intellectual question. I really couldn't give a rats what someone thinks of my own sexuality... whatever it might be :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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Playful2looking
12 years ago
I dont know why they have that on there profile but; as a bi guy I dont care what they think. all the hits on my profile are from straight guys. I have a male lover who is married. work that out. Iam bi because I am half female and half male; in my thinking and outlook. I dont suddenly see a straight guy and go his hot. There has to be an attraction. Yes I am attracted to women very much and love going shopping. I grew up with two sisters and a macho dad who played foot ball. Confused good
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RHP User
12 years ago
We have stated that we do not want single men and that if you are or play with with bi or bi curious men or transexuals that we are not interested as it is not our thing. I'ts not homophobia it's just choice. We have cut out the single men because we only want to play with committed men so there are no hassels over wanting what they cant have because they already have someone that keeps them happy. As for not wanting to play with bi/bi curious or transexuals it purely because watching them in the throngs of passion is not a turn on for us and my partner never wants a mans cock in his arse as he would not like it. Nor would either of us be turned on by the sight of a man sucking on his cock or vice versa. Purely a case of eliminating what we know does not turn us on. And after all it's about being turned on and enjoying yourselves. Each to thier own is what I say. If you are bi/bi curious male or transexual best of luck to you in your play time and hope you are enjoying yourselves. If it's not hurting anyone and your enjoying it then go for it. It just might not be something for us so don't get offended or wonder why as it's a matter of sexual preference. To those that say a bi man can play straight, well maybe he can, but the thought of knowing that he is probably thinking about wanting to play his way at the time and worrying about accidental bi play would be on my mind. Would rather avoid accidental innappropriate play. I don't know about all others but when I play I like to relax and just be myself. If I knew someone was playing in a manner adverse to thier real desires and needs then I would find that sad and in itself a turn off making a good fuck session less than it should have been for all involved. Play with those that have the same interests and same ideas of fun and you never get into a situation that does not suit your needs. When you know what you want why not state it in your profile.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Automagic typing... but guy = bi guy... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Can I just ask everyone to send all their unwanted Bi guys my way? can you send a couple up my way? I take the ones over 6 ft, the rest are yours. I am a short-arse, so as long as they're over 5 ft 5 then you've got a deal!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Nudierudie2' For those in partnerships it could be that the Male is HomophobicSingle Women seeking more committed relationships could be feeling that a bi-male could not be totally committed to a relationshipWho knows what motivates people to be so blatantly negative, Myself i see it as Risk Reduction.The only safe sex is no sex at all. Nudie have I told you recently what a cute toosh you have Oh and in response to the topic... in a round about way... If Michelangelo had been straight, the Sistine Chapel would have been wallpapered. True, he was gay.Why is it that, as a culture, we are more comfortable seeing two men holding guns than holding hands?But in the words of Woody Allen...Bisexuality immediately doubles your chances for a date on Saturday night.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Luckdragon & Ms_Devious, easiest way to solve this is to organise a time share arrangement. But keep some flexibility, if you have an excess on any given week, offer to trade for other dates ;-) And now the 6 footers can all stay happy too :-)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
wefukugood, thank you, really enlightening. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
wefukugood, thank you, really enlightening. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's quite simple really. I'm so insecure in my ability to please anyway, so if I was with a bi guy and he desired a little/lot of bum action, I just couldn't go there.Yes I know some straight guys like bum action also and I'm making all kinds of assumptions, generaliations and being ignorant about bi guys wanting/needing bum play to get off. It's ridiculous for me to even think that and the more I'm typing the more I want to stop typing and just shut up....because I'm an idiot.In all honesty, I truly thought it eliminated another area where I felt inadequate in pleasuring my partner.So it's all about meeeeeeeeeeee
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RHP User
12 years ago
Your wonderfully disarming post reveals why I think labels can be so counter-productive... and why there is more to life than orifice fixations. Gay, bi or straight, if it ends up being just making sure you get some bum / vag / armpit action, then it feels to me like there is something missing. I know you said it as part of the spectrum of pleasuring that person, but it is hard for me to imagine some who has attraction for women (ie, bi or straight) coming away from experience with you thinking "well, she is smart, funny, gorgeous, sexual and sexy... but, man, I really missed sticking it in her bum / vagina / armpit...".- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
can be descriptive and or prescriptive.If sexuality is a continuum ,a sliding scale,then surely the label ''bi'' or ''bi curious'' is the one which is the most flexible when it comes to play. Does a man who enjoys anal sex suddenly become overwelmed by the sight of one or more arses and feel a compulsion to have at 'em? Does a woman who sees a vagina feel that no matter what, she has to give it a good licking? It doesn't seem to be about preference to me,it seems to be more about people not being comfortble with their own sexuality,and hence the excuse of ''preference''. Isn't it really about attraction? Surely if we are attracted to someone and we are secure in our sexuality we can have a discussion about what we enjoy and what we dont,what we want to try etc,regardless of any label.
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RHP User
12 years ago
some of the responses show an incredibly ignorant set of attitudes are in play.....why equate 'bi' with 'bum play'....or anal? ffs as many bi or even gay males DO NOT enjoy anal as women...its very much an individual choice, you either like it...or not. I'm bi, have been all my life....and i dont enjoy anal......either way...so its not something thats on my radar or agenda, and we've met many many men of the same feeling... bi...but no anal. the idea that a bi guy cant play straight or is obsessed with male play is wrong, and totally unfair. we play with other men....bi usually...does bi interaction always occur? no...not at all. does it have to? no not at all....being bi just means not feeling like i should run screaming from the room should the other guy touch me, being bi just means having a broader set of sexual tastes than being 'straight' allows.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm sorry if I inflamed you with my post, it was not meant to upset anyone and the intention was to for me to openly and honestly express why I initially had on my profile "straight" Men only please….which I have since deleted based on my own realisation that I'm an idiot.My aim in answering posts is to always do it with an open heart and I do try to word my answers so I don't cause offence, but sometimes I fail….again I am sorry.I am also first to admit I am ignorant, naive and inexperienced in all things sexual.Quoting 'mikeandshel' some of the responses show an incredibly ignorant set of attitudes are in play.....why equate 'bi' with 'bum play'....or anal? ffs as many bi or even gay males DO NOT enjoy anal as women...its very much an individual choice, you either like it...or not. I'm bi, have been all my life....and i dont enjoy anal......either way...so its not something thats on my radar or agenda, and we've met many many men of the same feeling... bi...but no anal. the idea that a bi guy cant play straight or is obsessed with male play is wrong, and totally unfair. we play with other men....bi usually...does bi interaction always occur? no...not at all. does it have to? no not at all....being bi just means not feeling like i should run screaming from the room should the other guy touch me, being bi just means having a broader set of sexual tastes than being 'straight' allows.
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RHP User
12 years ago
how does anyone 'know' whether the guy theyve met, and decided to include in their 'play'......is straight, bi, or otherwise? there is NO WAY to know these things. we've had guys say were staight with one breath, and bi with the next. for the most part, guys will tell you only what they feel they need to, in order to gain your trust....and an invite.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' how does anyone 'know' whether the guy theyve met, and decided to include in their 'play'......is straight, bi, or otherwise? there is NO WAY to know these things. we've had guys say were staight with one breath, and bi with the next. for the most part, guys will tell you only what they feel they need to, in order to gain your trust....and an invite. Thank you for bring this up...I guess it happens a lot??As a single woman meeting men, how would I know for sure??How do I know when meeting a man, he tells me he is "dead set straight" (attracted to women only) when in fact he is BI??Oh course some men will gain ones trust over time and say the sweet nothings.. Just so they can get a shag or have a conquest.Actually I think this has just happened to me.. I DO NOT have issues with a BI man what so ever.The issue I have is the Lies/deceit and misleading.I don't like that. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
This could get explicit but stay with me.I would like to propose a scenario.I'll ask one of the lovely ladies on RHP to join in and lets imagine she is have a steamy session with two blokes (dp). One of them 'falls out' and because of the positions they are in, it's easier for the other guy to help him 'back in'. Does she freak out and accuse him of being bi, throw him out because she doesn't like bi guy's? or does she go back to enjoying her steamy session?Later on, she is having a 69 with on of the guy's (her on top) and the other enters her from behind. The guy on the bottom happily continues doing what he was doing but occasionally his nose rubs the other blokes penis. What does she do?Still later one of the guy's really wants to come (blue balls) and MissPoppins starts to oblige with a blow job. She gets lockjaw and the other bloke through curiosity or whatever decides to help her out. In the end, together they give him a blow job to end all blowjobs. Does she kick him out for being bi or does she just go with the flow and enjoy new experiences.The real question I have is this. Is this Bi Sexuality or is this Heteroflexibility?to quote mikeandshelbeing bi just means not feeling like i should run screaming from the room should the other guy touch me, being bi just means having a broader set of sexual tastes than being 'straight' allows.Again, I ask is this really Bi or Heteroflexible?By the way (pun intended), five of the seven levels on the Kinsey scale relate to bisexual behaviour, only two, 0 (Heterosexual) and 6 (Homosexual) don't. I personally think the scale should be much wider than it is as it doesn't cover BUGS ("bisexual until graduation") or the different times of a persons life.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'AttentiveLover50' This could get explicit but stay with me.I would like to propose a scenario.I'll ask one of the lovely ladies on RHP to join in and lets imagine she is have a steamy session with two blokes (dp). One of them 'falls out' and because of the positions they are in, it's easier for the other guy to help him 'back in'. Does she freak out and accuse him of being bi, throw him out because she doesn't like bi guy's? or does she go back to enjoying her steamy session?Later on, she is having a 69 with on of the guy's (her on top) and the other enters her from behind. The guy on the bottom happily continues doing what he was doing but occasionally his nose rubs the other blokes penis. What does she do?Still later one of the guy's really wants to come (blue balls) and MissPoppins starts to oblige with a blow job. She gets lockjaw and the other bloke through curiosity or whatever decides to help her out. In the end, together they give him a blow job to end all blowjobs. Does she kick him out for being bi or does she just go with the flow and enjoy new experiences.The real question I have is this. Is this Bi Sexuality or is this Heteroflexibility?to quote mikeandshelbeing bi just means not feeling like i should run screaming from the room should the other guy touch me, being bi just means having a broader set of sexual tastes than being 'straight' allows.Again, I ask is this really Bi or Heteroflexible?By the way (pun intended), five of the seven levels on the Kinsey scale relate to bisexual behaviour, only two, 0 (Heterosexual) and 6 (Homosexual) don't. I personally think the scale should be much wider than it is as it doesn't cover BUGS ("bisexual until graduation") or the different times of a persons life. as MsPoppins and 2 bi guys just made my pussy TWINGE!!! Mees baaaaad.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFox' Quoting 'mikeandshel' how does anyone 'know' whether the guy theyve met, and decided to include in their 'play'......is straight, bi, or otherwise? there is NO WAY to know these things. we've had guys say were staight with one breath, and bi with the next. for the most part, guys will tell you only what they feel they need to, in order to gain your trust....and an invite. Thank you for bring this up...I guess it happens a lot??As a single woman meeting men, how would I know for sure??How do I know when meeting a man, he tells me he is "dead set straight" (attracted to women only) when in fact he is BI??Oh course some men will gain ones trust over time and say the sweet nothings.. Just so they can get a shag or have a conquest.Actually I think this has just happened to me.. I DO NOT have issues with a BI man what so ever.The issue I have is the Lies/deceit and misleading.I don't like that. Foxyno one knows whats going on in anyones head...except that person and perhaps their therapist.... we've been contacted by many many men who tell us they are and have always been 'straight'....but are curious and would like to explore a little bi play...with a couple (theres safety and options if a woman is there i imagine)....we've also been contacted over and over by the male halves of swinging couples.....and they say they'd like to play 'bi'......but dont want their wife/girlfriend to know (we say thanks but no)....these men are , for all intents and purposes, 'straight'...at least in their partners eyes and minds....but the reality is that they are 'bi curious'....at the minimum.... more men than not, who contact us, admit to, or claim, that they'd like to explore m/m play.....its so common a theme that we believe...that men, in spite of claiming otherwise, are much more open to same sex contact that we all have been lead to believe... at least same sex contact....in a threesome environment, as thats the way we choose to enjoy our play....and no, we dont see that men make this claim, just for a chance at Shel....we ask that question straight up ....
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RHP User
12 years ago
DamThat rules me out (LOL)GT
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RHP User
12 years ago
Paintme, is that a dare?????- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sounds like a plan in the making to me Quoting 'paintme' Quoting 'AttentiveLover50' This could get explicit but stay with me.I would like to propose a scenario.I'll ask one of the lovely ladies on RHP to join in and lets imagine she is have a steamy session with two blokes (dp). One of them 'falls out' and because of the positions they are in, it's easier for the other guy to help him 'back in'. Does she freak out and accuse him of being bi, throw him out because she doesn't like bi guy's? or does she go back to enjoying her steamy session?Later on, she is having a 69 with on of the guy's (her on top) and the other enters her from behind. The guy on the bottom happily continues doing what he was doing but occasionally his nose rubs the other blokes penis. What does she do?Still later one of the guy's really wants to come (blue balls) and MissPoppins starts to oblige with a blow job. She gets lockjaw and the other bloke through curiosity or whatever decides to help her out. In the end, together they give him a blow job to end all blowjobs. Does she kick him out for being bi or does she just go with the flow and enjoy new experiences.The real question I have is this. Is this Bi Sexuality or is this Heteroflexibility?to quote mikeandshelbeing bi just means not feeling like i should run screaming from the room should the other guy touch me, being bi just means having a broader set of sexual tastes than being 'straight' allows.Again, I ask is this really Bi or Heteroflexible?By the way (pun intended), five of the seven levels on the Kinsey scale relate to bisexual behaviour, only two, 0 (Heterosexual) and 6 (Homosexual) don't. I personally think the scale should be much wider than it is as it doesn't cover BUGS ("bisexual until graduation") or the different times of a persons life. as MsPoppins and 2 bi guys just made my pussy TWINGE!!! Mees baaaaad.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
;) well said!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't think it's homophobia at all. I think that it's simply reinforcing what they're after or not after as the case may be. We have "women only" because, a) that's what we're after, and b) we are inundated with flirts and emails from straight and bi guys as well as couples. We aren't interested in anything more than bisexual women. We don't find anyone or anything else a turn on whether they're potential or real. interestingly we are constantly bombarded with requests from bi guys in particular. Bi guys arent a turn on to us and its not because we're homophobes, in fact we're both fag hags, it's because they don't turn us on.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well we been looking for bi guys and all I can say is there are a lot more bi guys out there that don't advertise it than do, some are older than we or I won't but most are pretty relaxed and open to all fun and play. - Posted from rhpmobile
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cbdlivin
12 years ago
Quoting 'MissPoppins' Sounds like a plan in the making to me Quoting 'paintme' Quoting 'AttentiveLover50' This could get explicit but stay with me.I would like to propose a scenario.I'll ask one of the lovely ladies on RHP to join in and lets imagine she is have a steamy session with two blokes (dp). One of them 'falls out' and because of the positions they are in, it's easier for the other guy to help him 'back in'. Does she freak out and accuse him of being bi, throw him out because she doesn't like bi guy's? or does she go back to enjoying her steamy session?Later on, she is having a 69 with on of the guy's (her on top) and the other enters her from behind. The guy on the bottom happily continues doing what he was doing but occasionally his nose rubs the other blokes penis. What does she do?Still later one of the guy's really wants to come (blue balls) and MissPoppins starts to oblige with a blow job. She gets lockjaw and the other bloke through curiosity or whatever decides to help her out. In the end, together they give him a blow job to end all blowjobs. Does she kick him out for being bi or does she just go with the flow and enjoy new experiences.The real question I have is this. Is this Bi Sexuality or is this Heteroflexibility?to quote mikeandshelbeing bi just means not feeling like i should run screaming from the room should the other guy touch me, being bi just means having a broader set of sexual tastes than being 'straight' allows.Again, I ask is this really Bi or Heteroflexible?By the way (pun intended), five of the seven levels on the Kinsey scale relate to bisexual behaviour, only two, 0 (Heterosexual) and 6 (Homosexual) don't. I personally think the scale should be much wider than it is as it doesn't cover BUGS ("bisexual until graduation") or the different times of a persons life. as MsPoppins and 2 bi guys just made my pussy TWINGE!!! Mees baaaaad..... This scenario is how I got started a nice MFM threesome that became more interesting, and I was corrupted :-)....Once corrupted its all down hill....
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RHP User
12 years ago
paintme, I just thought you were conjuring up a random good time for us, until I realised AttentiveLoer50 actually mentioned me for goodness sake.....I really should read more carefully.Now, AttentiveLover, I'm not quite sure how I got involved in your scenario and I'm not very happy about it either...and here is why - I have NEVER had lockjaw in my entire life and certainly do not like the implication....Poppins does quite well on her own thank you very much Quoting 'AttentiveLover50'Still later one of the guy's really wants to come (blue balls) and MissPoppins starts to oblige with a blow job. She gets lockjaw and the other bloke through curiosity or whatever decides to help her out. In the end, together they give him a blow job to end all blowjobs. Does she kick him out for being bi or does she just go with the flow and enjoy new experiences. Quoting 'paintme' as MsPoppins and 2 bi guys just made my pussy TWINGE!!! Mees baaaaad.....
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playfulminx
12 years ago
I know this to be case for a lot of couples lolQuoting 'MisterGreen' I suppose Women may not want a Bi Guy because they won't get 100% of his attention . Couples may not want a Bi Guy for pretty much the same reason . He won't give the Female 100% & will want to fuck the Man as well . Just a Theory ... GG♒
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playfulminx
12 years ago
I think if the straight male of a couple is given an iron-clad guarantee that a bi guy who joins them is not going to play with him at all, it wouldn't be an issue. Perhaps for some couples, they were assured that no male/male would occur but it did in the heat of the moment and it spoiled the moment (probably for the woman who wanted 100% attention on her). I don't think it's unreasonable to state what you want out of a play friend.If you didn't want to be social friends with a bi guy then I think it leans towards homophobia tho :|
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm bi and we only like bi-guys and we do have on our profile No Straight guys so whats the problem if someone does not want bi-guys this is their choice.....So are we straight-phobics?? no we just like bi-guys Why do people make such a big thing out of it???As I would say: Suck it up princess and get over it.........Go find someone you like and have a good time and play safe GT
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't know how that happened... As I was drafting my post, I put a few regular posters in the examples to add some spice and then decided to change it back to being generic....Looks like a missed one... very sorry MissP I'm certain that you would always do quite well on your own
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RHP User
12 years ago
i'm straight as my profile says but i still keep getting requests from guy's to meet ( does bisexuality in males confer dyslexia?)why do some males pretend to be straight if they are bi or gay? personal choice
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's more about the guy in the relationship. I know my partner is not comfortable in the situation of having another man in the room. The only reason he agrees to couples is because he feels better with the ratio of men to women and he is 'strictly sraight'. even couples he is a bit wary of trying as he doesnt want anything to happen "in the heat of the moment" that he isnt comfortable with. So I imagine that most couples have girls who are curious or like to mess around with other girls and guys who want to join in the fun... Its not fair to say "Homophobia" though as neither of us have an issue with anyone's preference of sexuality and have even spent a year or so living with a Bi Guy who we are friends with and had no problem with who he would bring home or what he would do. Its just personal preference. putting a word such as homophobia on something puts as narrow minded/discriminating meaning to it... which is not the case
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have to say that as a much younger man I did experiment with a couple of guys my age (talkin early teens here). Over the years have certainly been around men in social situations who I would say had a certain something. I also admit to while watching the very occassional porn flick (Ok so more than the occassional) I can be aroused by the site of a man for his physique you know nice abs and a good looking member. But at this point I don't know if I could go any further but having said that if the circumstances were right anything may happen although there are certain things that spring to mind that (Ihate to admit scare me). I will admit I don't enjoy or watch "Gay" male videos and I find that an interesting situation, another male when a female is present not so bad but just two men doesn't gel. I am not "Homophobic" I don't care everyone has the right to live there life the way the feel is best for them. So I have had my ramble on to the next.
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RHP User
12 years ago
All hypothetical of course, but...At what point does a guy become, or admit to being either bi-curious or bi-sexual?Is it an action or a thought?I've never found or seen a guy I find attractive. I drool over women and I can't even say that I have a type as any feature, mental or physical can turn me on. But how do I know I'm NOT bi in any way shape or form if I don't try it? Isn't that the formula we try in almost every other aspect of life? As a boy, did most men just know they would enjoy giving oral sex to a woman before they even tried it or did they just do it to please a girl and then realise it was enjoyable for them too?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think its fair to say that most hetro guys weather single or with a female do not like the idea of a bi or bi curious guy even having an attraction for them so being in a sexual situation with that person would be out of the question Its worth remembering that male homosexuality although more common on sex websites such as RHP is still in a minority when looking at society as a whole Its nothing to do with being homophobic or not accepting that society is made up of many sexually diverse people its just a preference that most hetro guys I know have Obviously for a female they dont really care weather the guy is straight or bi its cock at the end of the day
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well said !!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi All,For us it's just simple. She is very Bi and that makes for an even better night.I am straight and not interested in a guy at all. it's not meant to be an insult, just a statement of what we are looking for.I don't understand the point of making crap up on here, we are who we are and if we can have a great night or better yet make some great friends then fantastic.As for the earlier scenario; if a bloke reached over and decided to "help me out" I'd be certainly turned off and I would be very annoyed. it's not homophobia, just a serious disinterest in guys. if I was homophobic would I enjoy watching mrs madmanx getting seriously off with the bloke half of a couple??We are comfortable with ourselves and what we want.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SoulsinSync'All hypothetical of course, but... At what point does a guy become, or admit to being either bi-curious or bi-sexual? Is it an action or a thought? I've never found or seen a guy I find attractive. I drool over women and I can't even say that I have a type as any feature, mental or physical can turn me on. But how do I know I'm NOT bi in any way shape or form if I don't try it? Isn't that the formula we try in almost every other aspect of life? As a boy, did most men just know they would enjoy giving oral sex to a woman before they even tried it or did they just do it to please a girl and then realise it was enjoyable for them too? its not something you can define....one way or the other....i think every persons sexual journey and discovery, is unique, and personal..... for some, its a realisation, for others, its an unexpected experience, for others again, its something inexplicable... a 'knowing' without knowing kind of thing.... some find its their only opportunity for 'release' because they cant form close intimate relationships with women, and for others again, its a deliberate calculated step away from one life.....into another..... each unique, each individual...theres likely no 'formula' that could describe a persons sexuality, ..........for me, i 'drool' over women as well...always have, always will, but i also appreciate and enjoy the close contact our play offers with another male.....something i dont seek on my own, or outside the boundaries of our relationship...dont need to, as sex doesnt 'drive' me....other things tend to do that...things that revolve around my shared life with the woman i love....my wife.
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cbdlivin
12 years ago
Quoting 'SoulsinSync' All hypothetical of course, but...At what point does a guy become, or admit to being either bi-curious or bi-sexual?Is it an action or a thought?I've never found or seen a guy I find attractive. I drool over women and I can't even say that I have a type as any feature, mental or physical can turn me on. But how do I know I'm NOT bi in any way shape or form if I don't try it? Isn't that the formula we try in almost every other aspect of life? As a boy, did most men just know they would enjoy giving oral sex to a woman before they even tried it or did they just do it to please a girl and then realise it was enjoyable for them too? Just a comment being Bi does not mean you find guys attractive, there are many different levels of bisexuality. There have been many discussions on this, with the lowest defined level is where you have sexual contact with another guy. I have always wondered if you are going a DP and cocks touch would that make both guys bi under the definitions..:-). As an aside to this, if a male who is bi is playing with a couple you abide by the ground rules, that should have been laid out before play started. After all only a fool will do something unwanted as you will find the door hitting you on the arse pretty fast, as it should.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'cbdlivin' Quoting 'SoulsinSync' All hypothetical of course, but...At what point does a guy become, or admit to being either bi-curious or bi-sexual?Is it an action or a thought?I've never found or seen a guy I find attractive. I drool over women and I can't even say that I have a type as any feature, mental or physical can turn me on. But how do I know I'm NOT bi in any way shape or form if I don't try it? Isn't that the formula we try in almost every other aspect of life? As a boy, did most men just know they would enjoy giving oral sex to a woman before they even tried it or did they just do it to please a girl and then realise it was enjoyable for them too? Just a comment being Bi does not mean you find guys attractive, there are many different levels of bisexuality. There have been many discussions on this, with the lowest defined level is where you have sexual contact with another guy. I have always wondered if you are going a DP and cocks touch would that make both guys bi under the definitions..:-). As an aside to this, if a male who is bi is playing with a couple you abide by the ground rules, that should have been laid out before play started. After all only a fool will do something unwanted as you will find the door hitting you on the arse pretty fast, as it should. Interesting viewpoint on bisexuality. Can't say I agree or disagree, but I can understand what you are saying. I think part of the problem is that most people disregard the defined levels and are set in their ways and thought processes.I'm certainly not homophobic, and have no issues over accidental or incidental touching between males if they are both/all pleasuring a female, but I would have a problem if a guy decided to help out and "finish me off"!. I/we would never discriminate against a couple if the male was bi, and as your 2nd point mentioned, you abide by the ground rules, whatever they are. To assume that because someone is bi that they will disregard your wishes is pretty disrespectful to the people concerned. You have to have a level of trust I would have thought.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think alot comes down to simple fear of rejection or been judged, ie say a couple invited a bi bloke to play and despite the ground rules "in the heat of the moment" some "all in" interaction did happen there would be a element of fear from the male "partner" that his lady would judge him into the future on that one occurrence. It is interesting that female bi-sexuality seems more accepted in society then male bi-sexuality and I wonder if that acceptance is due to the lack of "penetration" or maybe the analogy of " I eat brussell sprouts" but dont identify as been a "vegetarian"
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RHP User
12 years ago
turn the lights of and let the games begin life is to short
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RHP User
12 years ago
Straight guys are too hard work in 3some play, after all it all gets very closecontact if your having fun.Just because a couple are both bi-sexual, doesn't mean they have to play that way. After all we have a brain too...Bi-guy doesn't mean we are homosexual, but more that we are comfortable with our masculinity and happy to experiment.
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cbdlivin
12 years ago
Quoting 'SoulsinSync' Quoting 'cbdlivin' Quoting 'SoulsinSync' All hypothetical of course, but...At what point does a guy become, or admit to being either bi-curious or bi-sexual?Is it an action or a thought?I've never found or seen a guy I find attractive. I drool over women and I can't even say that I have a type as any feature, mental or physical can turn me on. But how do I know I'm NOT bi in any way shape or form if I don't try it? Isn't that the formula we try in almost every other aspect of life? As a boy, did most men just know they would enjoy giving oral sex to a woman before they even tried it or did they just do it to please a girl and then realise it was enjoyable for them too? Just a comment being Bi does not mean you find guys attractive, there are many different levels of bisexuality. There have been many discussions on this, with the lowest defined level is where you have sexual contact with another guy. I have always wondered if you are going a DP and cocks touch would that make both guys bi under the definitions..:-). As an aside to this, if a male who is bi is playing with a couple you abide by the ground rules, that should have been laid out before play started. After all only a fool will do something unwanted as you will find the door hitting you on the arse pretty fast, as it should. Interesting viewpoint on bisexuality. Can't say I agree or disagree, but I can understand what you are saying. I think part of the problem is that most people disregard the defined levels and are set in their ways and thought processes.I'm certainly not homophobic, and have no issues over accidental or incidental touching between males if they are both/all pleasuring a female, but I would have a problem if a guy decided to help out and "finish me off"!. I/we would never discriminate against a couple if the male was bi, and as your 2nd point mentioned, you abide by the ground rules, whatever they are. To assume that because someone is bi that they will disregard your wishes is pretty disrespectful to the people concerned. You have to have a level of trust I would have thought. Exactly you get my point and someone 'finishing you off' that is unwanted is just wrong. It is all about respecting boundaries. As you said trust is important and I have always thought if you respect boundaries so everyone has a good time then there is more chance you get invited back.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'Ms_Devious' If I hear of some travelling, will tell them to check in. :) Can I just ask everyone to send all their unwanted Bi guys my way? can you send a couple up my way? I take the ones over 6 ft, the rest are yours.
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RHP User
12 years ago
But I think I can speak for Luckdragon when I say we kinda meant the single ones...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Eh...Please count me in...homophobia is a turned off, bi & curious guys, Hot Hot Hot!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Spice_me' Eh...Please count me in...homophobia is a turned off, bi & curious guys, Hot Hot Hot!!! But no one is being homophobic, its just that some couples only like straight guy this is their choice...As we only like bi-guys, not all guys like a guy touching them, its called respecting other peoples boundaries.......I still don't under stand why people make such a big thing out of it..... GT
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've learnt a lot in this discussion ... most particularly that for those couples with a strong preference to not have bi-guys, the preference isn't because the bi -guy is less attractive, but because he is perceived (rightly or wrongly) unable or unwilling to play completely straight in a mmf situation. For single women, it's more about the bi -guys inability or unwillingness to be either faithful or singularly focused on her, or be totally fulfilled by her. I don't belittled these perceptions at all, but I wonder if they're justified? Maybe they are, and just understand bi-guys. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
My husband is bi and so am I, if someone is not into it then it does not mean we will force them to do it, you can have a bi guy join you and just make it clear that Bi action is not on the menu tonight, end of topic.As for us we love to have bi guys join us ,it enhances the situation, expands our pleasure base and well for me it gives me more cock to play with, what more can a woman want. I do have to say we are not into effeminate bi guys and maybe that is where the issue arises, many people will not be into the Pink thing but other than that it is wonderful.Give us bi guys anyday
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm putting my vote in for Heteroflexible as word of the year! A few years ago the ex, a good friend and I were having fun with an MFM party and we accidently crossed swords (vigorous athletics and all) and he freaked out... so I'm guessing for him it was a homophobia thing. This also came through in his aversion to being naked in a room with another man when the woman wasn't present. As for a woman feeling as not being 100% the focus of the melee I can appreciate that, but either man would also not be the 100% focus. My math may be rusty but with 2 bi guys and a woman it should be 33.3% all round. I was recently asked by a lady on this forum if I had Bi tendencies (not an uncommon question given we were in a gay bar) and to be honest I couldn't answer yes or no as I've never really given it thought. Having a lot of gay friends and a lot of straight friends the concept of Bi and Bi-Curious is just a natural middle ground. If I had a partner and she wanted the mix with a Bi guy I wouldn't mind... just as I wouldn't mind if she wanted to mix with a Bi girl... as long as the night was fun and everybody got what they came for.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I hate labels. Real people are unlikely to be so clearly outlined as to fit neatly into "straight" "gay" and "bi". What do these actually mean?- do these labels refer to only to sexual orientation, or to preferences?- do they refer to relationship attractions as well? (I can only fall in love with a woman)- does bi mean equally attracted, or is it merely can be attracted either way?- what about people who are "open minded" ie very much enjoy some bodies of some same sex others, but are actually much more attracted to opposite sex bodies? Or the other way around?Personally - I have had sex with a number of men, and have enjoyed it very much. However I do much prefer sex and especially relationships, with women. In pondering why this should be I have realised that I cannot achieve with a man, anything close to the emotional intimacy I arrive to with a woman during sex. I realise that's in my head.... but I don't get worried about that either. And because sex for me is vastly more enjoyable as an intimate sharing encounter between two basically emotional beings, that means I generally much more enjoy sex with a woman where we are really into each other.So - am I bi-sexual (implying equal feelings either way)? I call myself bi-sexual because I think that's the most honest of these poor fitting labels. Open-minded however fits me better.I love the idea of a sexual experience with a couple, but have never been there. If it ever does happen for me then I know I will be especially turned on by the couple's relationship and dynamic with each other and that I am pleasing them together. In other words, I would want to be there for him as well as for her, and I hope both sides get into that. This probably turns a lot of guys especially off. Maybe that's why a lot of couples expressly ask for no bi-guys. Personally when checking out couple profiles I look at their stated sexual prefs for both side; if the guy's does not say at least open-minded, or bi-curious then I skip over them, since I doubt I would much enjoy the cuckolding or the voyeuristic scenarios so much as the all-in-it-together possibilities - but then again - I really don't know since I've never been there!Sorry for the long post - I may be a newbie but this is a rather closely felt subject Feedback?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Al l this talk about "we choose not to invite Bi men into our bed because were not interested, but we're not homophobic" I find quite amusing. I find it really freaky that more than two people can be naked in bed and NOT touch someone because of what hangs between their legs.... As a wise man once said to me (or maybe he was just an old perv... :) Put on a blindfold and a mouth around a dick, feels like a mouth around a dick ! Someone posted earlier that they have never seen a profile saying NO BI CHICKS ! lol.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is not that 2 guys and 1 female can get into bed and the guys don't touch the other male, but the couples I have been with that do not like bi-guys at all, if you don't tell them they don't know...But now days I rather tell people I am Bi, its more fun...In a 3some its better 1 for all and all for 1... lick, suck and fuck GTPSS off to Shark Bay for a week of fishing and kayaking
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Amicus75' I'm putting my vote in for Heteroflexible as word of the year! Thanks for that - I agree - heteroflex is prob the best label around :-)
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