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NSA vs FWB - what is your definition and distinction?

January 10 2020

I’m curious to find out what people’s definition of NSA - No Strings Attached FWB - Friends with Benefits I have a sense that people use these terms interchangeably and or to get what they want. I get annoyed when people approach me here with NSA in their profile and then when I decline and explain my accepted relationship styles (also in my profile, but people don’t read or perhaps misunderstand) they say FWB is also cool and I am not sure they are clear on what they are saying yes to. For me NSA is this: No strings in any relationship means upfront absolving yourself of responsibility for the emotional health of the other person. It’s pure Sex and no expectations. If they come up, too bad. My argument: There is always strings as we are not emotionless automatons that can be intimate with anyone over time, without developing some sort of attachment. FWB: People that I spend time with outside the bedroom, do social things with, have common interests, however am not in love with them to have a romantic relationship. Usually not exclusive and open relationship type. Tend to be intertwined with common friends, social circles and be at events together. May or may not present as a “couple” to the outside world. Usually gets pressure from mono and relationship escalator type people to make an “honest man/woman” out of the relationship. What are your thoughts? - Posted from rhpmobile

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non_such

5 years ago

I agree completely with your definitions. Many people hope that there is such a thing as NSA, but good sex will automatically create some strings, if only the ones that pull you back for more. FWB is certainly a friend first, and the benefits second. The friendship will endure with or without the sex.

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KittyDeluxe

5 years ago

My personal definition. NSA = Fuck Buddy (FB for me. NSA/FB I don't need to know you as a person. I have zero interest in your profession, interests, family, personality. All I am interested in is our sexual chemistry. There will be no before or after play banter or interaction. FWBI know your name, the area you live in, your job. We talk about friends/family/life. There may be lingering before and after play to just enjoy each other's company. We may have the occasional drink/meal together or even attend the occasional event together. We might communicate just to say hello and ask how you've been. We are not exclusive and play with other people without having to communicate that or ask permission from each other.

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RHP User

5 years ago

Nailed it.except for the intertwined bit. I think FWB is a bit more private than that.

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MsSuperFoxy

5 years ago

As my profile states, I am someone who understands that 'No strings attached', "FWB" and "looking for fun", means meaningless sex, is uncaring and lacks substance and courtesy. Anyone that I have sexual relationships with are my lovers. That's it. Nothing more, nothing less and no need to explain as it is respectful. Ms Foxy

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Kokoflamingo

5 years ago

Your description of fwb is exactly what I think. Im very affectionate and care about people I am with. Strangely, though, I have toyed with the idea of a male escort after being disappointed and let down a few zillion times. I had a few online conversations with him and he was very articulate and down to earth, but in the end it didnt happen. He said Id be paying for a whole experience, not just a fuck and go. Many guys on here say they want fwb, but in the end they are only saying what they think you want to hear. Im not man bashing, Ive had a few lovely fwb on RHP and still talk to each of them ( and catch up now and again) but in my opinion, its someone who is a friend and not just a dial-a-dick. NSA to me means someone who will willingly come over to your house, shag then leave straight away which would leave me feeling like a robot rather than a human. This has given me food for thought.

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RHP User

5 years ago

I didn’t read your definitions.....as my input is for you to compare, not for me to write what I think you want to read.... But ... NSA: you call, travel, fuck, you leave. Fwb: you are friends that hang out, and fuck, but not full time hang outs....Hence the friend criteria.... Mr dragon

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EarthQueen

5 years ago

.... NSA your conversations only revolve around sex. Friends you are interested in the whole person and your interactions convey that. FWB a grey area that can easily slide into NSA .

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Kokoflamingo

5 years ago

I agree, it doesnt take long for that slide .....

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RHP User

5 years ago

Thank you so much for your answers. It’s great to hear different and agreeing viewpoints. I also agree that unless you spend enough time to build a genuine friendship, it can slide into NSA. Also people we thought are compatible in the beginning are less so later on when we get to know them better. It’s sometimes easy to think that you can get on with someone only to find values clashes later. I’m in favor these days of taking it slow. Not rush into what the relationship could be or get attached quickly. That is not to say when there’s intense attraction I throw all that out of the window.

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RHP User

5 years ago

I agree with the majority definitions. NSA - meet, chat a bit, have awesome sex, part ways. Ive had some of the best experiences this way. The casual chat flowed, the chemustry was there and the monent was intense and amazing. FWB - we have mutual interests, we hang out, sometines it's just a booty call, sometimes its a weekend away. There is no exclusiveness, no permission to ask, no jealousy to be had. Part time partner in some ways. No promises for the future.

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