"Need Female Advise" - I get turned on watching other men with my woman

May 23 2017

Before any answers, pls read my brief note and only reply if it is well considered, I really need a female perspective. Thank-you. Since 17 I have always adored girls and sex. In the following 33 years I have only been unfaithful 3 or 4 times and that was after I found my partner was/had lied to me, and thus the relationship ended very soon after. I get turned on watching someone I love getting touched and turned on by other men. This is not something that has to happen every week or even month, but to me that's something that blows my mind. A mixture of jealousy, love, lust etc etc Its hard to explain. I dont wish to be with other woman, but to watch the woman I love getting turned on and coming with another man, but still loving me is my ultimate turn on. To know she stil loves and respects me and is coming home to live her life and love me, BUT that we can share this together, I cant explain. I am going through a divorce at the moment with my second much younger wife, as she now thinks I'm sick even though it was fine when we met. Its not about me wanting group sex and having other women, I don't like that, I like watching my wife or Love getting excited with others. Am I sick? Is it Ok to see the woman you love having excitement and fun? Will woman that I fall in love with always one day feel there is something wrong with this? I doubt I will ever change, but just want to hear from a woman's perspective whether they feel I am letting my partner down by allowing, wanting to see them with others. Thanks, Husband.

Comments

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    Absolutely nothing wrong with the feelings you have. You would be surprised how many share that turn on, both female and male. The only downside is finding and raising the subject with your partner/s. Not everyone is after that and must remember we as a society are not brought up in this world to accept that scenario. I share the same fundamentals as getting turned on by the thought of my gf with other playmates. Not something l even thought of until l came to Rhp along with many other things, but my mind has been vastly broadened to try, accept and seek many things that our society deems taboo. So don't put yourself down for your kinks. You aren't hurting anyone and if anything, allowing your partners to enjoy their sexuality if they are up for that journey. Just that many are not up for the trip. Good luck on your own journey

  • langton11

    langton11

    8 years ago

    That thought drives me crazy and I see nothing wrong with it at all. In fact, my wife would like a unicorn to join us, and that does very little for me. Actually, now I think about it, if you join us Annie, we'll have all bases covered ;)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    No you are not sick. You just have unconventional sexual tastes. I do too so I know how "traditional" people just can't get their heads around certain sexual concepts or anything that challenges what they think they know to be true like Love = sex and monogamy is the right and normal way to be.

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    8 years ago

    For your heartfelt post OP. No, you are not "sick". In my view you're sexually mature in understanding your sexual desires/needs. I too enjoy voyeurism with a lover. It's HOT. Enjoy your journey. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    8 years ago

    I experienced it with my ex and it is a damn huge turn on.. Besides ali the sex going on , I loved it when she looked up, smiled , and gave the thumbs up while she was being fucked .. It really is about pushing your emotions to the limit...

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    OP - You are not sick. I think what you feel is normal and is fantasy and desire shared by many other men too. I can understand the feelings behind it, because I too sometimes think how hot it would be to watch my man fuck another lady but I'm there and watching on or joining in, but knowing he is all mine and our love is just for us. He too shares the same desires, to watch me be pleasured by another man and that excites him... ALOT. His sentiment behind it is seeing me happy and having my sexual desires and pleasures fulfilled and thinks there is nothing sexier than seeing a lady in the raptures of orgasm. We are a breed that is not scene as "normal" by some people... but I ask you, what is normal? We are all normal, none of us are sick regardless of our desires to explore our sexuality in a way that meets our needs.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I haven't experienced what you want to do but I don't find it offensive in anyway. It may be that with age we become more open minded. All of the replies so far have been positive but with the exception of Candyd are from people around your age. I know when I was much younger I associated sex with love. I know better now 😉

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ....as each to their own as long as between consenting adults. All about communication and making sure you are on the same page. Not something I would just spring on a partner nor would I put any pressure on my partner to be involved unless they were ok with the fantasy. Oh and that goes for any fantasy :) I wish you well KH

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    There's nothing wrong with what you find arousing. Wanting to see your partner being pleasured is a very selfless and caring thing. And it shows you don't have any insecurities about sharing a partner. Unfortunately, traditional society won't see these things the same way, even though a lot of seemingly traditional couples are doing this behind closed doors anyway. I think you're desire to see a female partner experience another man is s lot more common than you may think. And definitely more common than many would care to admit. MM - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    8 years ago

    Ain't that the truth.. The older we get ' the better we reason things out.. Things we once thought taboo ' now became things we want to entertain.. Just another chapter to explore in our life.. Jay..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Nothing wrong with that in the slightest. I just got off the phone from my wife, excitedly talking about plans for her first hotwife experience. We're so pumped!! So two votes here for you not being sick at all. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    8 years ago

    Bought back some nice memory's ... I know the excitement your experiencing and feeling a little envious.. lol...