Need a nicer way to tell my fwb it hurts.

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  cheekyone9

  2 years ago

  Maybe suggest he does something else with his hands and tell him you really like that instead. Just a thought, good luck ✌ ♥ 🏝

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  FeistyFatty

  2 years ago

  Ummmm just say stop 🛑. Pretty simple.

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  Margo_Lover

  2 years ago

  When someone is doing something you don't like, grab their hand etc, and change it some something you do like. Slower, more gentle, whatever you need. Or move it off the spot they're touching, and rest it somewhere else. While you keep having sex, or whatever enjoyable thing you're doing. If they stop to talk about it, take the opportunity to say it was too , hard, soft, fast slow etc. Might be a good time to teach them how you like to be touched? Or say let's finish having sexy fun and talk about it after. This way you haven't had to say anything, but now you're getting or not getting touched as you like it ❤️ - Alex

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  CuriousAsianCpl

  2 years ago

  Tell him directly. You can't have good sex without good communication. You're 38, time to put on your big girl pants and learn to speak up.

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  Jester45

  2 years ago

  Know it might feel difficult but just try to tell him straight. If he is a real FWB, and he has respect for you, sure he will understand. And you then get much better sex (hopefully)!

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  Sawadee

  2 years ago

  You are being thoughtful not wanting to hurt his feelings but at the same time hurting yourself ? You really do need to be upfront and let him know the stress he's causing.. You could always show him how and where you feel good minus the pain.. You did say he's a fwb ' and we all know fwb are here today ' gone tomorrow.. So talk up and let him know he's too rough ? Seems he thinks he's giving you what you want ... Good luck...

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  Patrick2510

  2 years ago

  Like all great intimacy, communication is the key, just be honest with him as everyone likes different things and unless we communicate we never know what our partners want and our partners don't know what we enjoy, good luck with it

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  TheMinx

  2 years ago

  Tie him to the bed then you can control the situation 😈 Or alternatively push him off/away. Tell him want you want/like...... communication is key

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  MsSuperFoxy

  2 years ago

  If you're not comfortable or able to verbally tell him in a respectful, adult conversation that he hurts you, it's broken. Simple, don't see him again. If it's broken, it's broken. Communication by being open and honest in a verbal conversation is the key. Ms Foxy

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  EarthQueen

  2 years ago

  Its ok to tell someone what you need and want especially if it hurts you. Gather your courage and just have a conversation with him when you are not having sex. If he really likes and cares for you he will want to please you. If he gets annoyed about you telling him what you need he is not a person you want to be having intimacy with.

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  nightingale8

  2 years ago

  I wonder if women not being able to tell men what pleases them is a big part of why so many men have NO IDEA. None of this mainstream porno rubbish fingering a clit like a scratch and sniff sticker. You don’t have to say anything in the moment if you don’t want to. Bat that claw away! Move away even if you need. He probably wouldn’t accept you painfully pinching him hard on the ball while f*cking and would tell you to stop or at least move away. No different. Show and tell him what you like

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  mr_big

  2 years ago

  Just say "Gentle, please. Like this..." and show him the right way. I don't think a normal person would be offended by this. If he does get offended... well, it's for the better - you should look elsewhere for FWB.

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  dontpanic

  2 years ago

  Seriously, just tell us. Tell us what works and tell us what doesn't. We're not mind readers. Just be honest and open and it will lead to better sex.

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