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Nerves when adding a 3rd.

January 21 2021

Hi, Me and my missus have decided to spice up the bedroom activities with a 3rd woman. Now as a male, I am very keen on this idea and I always have been, but I am able to understand that in the moment I might start to feel a bit nervous as I’ve been with my fiancé for over 10 years now and only know her feel and touch. I was just curious as to how I could ease the pressure and enjoy the moment fully. We intend to share a few drinks beforehand of course, but what other ways could I do to relax properly. I did read an article that suggested, I only penetrate my missus to begin with, and I feel that might be a good idea to begin with. Any other suggestions would be appreciated! Thanks

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2EssesExploring

4 years ago

I see your partner is listed as straight here so if she’s not interested in FF fun then you are going to be the main act! That can be scary but I suggest you just take your time, enjoy drinks and a chat ans lots of foreplay without jumping into intercourse right away, you’ll likely all get so hot that there will be no worries. If your partner wants to try being interactive with another girl then just take a back seat ans enjoy the show, I’m also sure this will have you springing into action without a worry!

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Sawadee

4 years ago

Hi... first you have to find the ever elusive unicorn.. Thats the hardest part. Maybe start with a couple til you get the feel on how this all works...

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The_Antichrist

4 years ago

Pay a hooker....that way it’s purely transactional, clean, and without risk of getting a stalker ....

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Freaky_Fun

4 years ago

I doubt there are too many women that are here just to "spice up" other people's relationship. I would be more concerned about what you have to offer her not the other way around..

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RHP User

4 years ago

Id go with a mfm first as ive seen what the unprepared female partner can go through. She may realise in the moment that she doesnt feel good about seeing her man enjoy another woman. Show her u are prepared to watch her with another man first. I think that would go along way with making a ffm or fmf be a more positive experience.

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FeistyFatty

4 years ago

And what are you pair bringing to the table? The whole "spicing up" a couples sex life must be hella uninviting to a woman.

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jonax2

4 years ago

‘My, Missus & I’ is always a step in the right direction

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wildcrazyloving

4 years ago

Express any concerns you may have with the 'new friend' prior to the play date. If there is any issues at least they are aware and this makes things less awkward if any issues arise. 'New friend' may be able to offer some ideas or understanding. I prob would start with an intial play date only focusing on a sexy swap massage between the three of you to build rapport, confidence and desire. Alcohol can boost confidence but hinder performance.

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RHP User

4 years ago

Maybe don’t put so much pressure on the first meet with your unicorn with the expectation that sex will occur. Take it slow. You might meet her in person and one of you may not be attracted to her. Or she might only be attracted to one of you. If one element of the attraction falls down, it’s going to go downhill if moving to the bedroom just for the sake of having a threesome. And make sure she knows your ground rules so she can make an informed decision on whether she wants to progress because this is her decision as much as yours. And definitely take into account her ground rules too. It should be a level playing field (so to speak) between each person. At least meeting her together first, you can both walk away and discuss whether or not you are both comfortable in progressing to the next level. Good luck to you both. I hope it’s an amazing experience for the three of you.

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Seeking1more

4 years ago

Thanks to all for the advice and comments so far, we’re currently talking to some that are interested in us as much as we are in them. We are getting rather excited and keen for a fun evening with some that is keen to see us, speaking to a few couples and singles has really given us an understanding of the new route we’re delving into and I think personally once we’ve met up and had a few drinks then my nerves would settle and I’ll be able to enjoy the company without any worry :)

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Dallas1975

4 years ago

I'd suggest going along to a swingers club first. There's zero pressure to actually do anything at all, you can chat to some women or couples, maybe even have a little kiss and a cuddle, but when the time comes to get more serious that small interaction you've had might make you both feel more at ease. It might also give your an indication of what you're both comfortable with.

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RHP User

4 years ago

I'm seeing a bi-sexual woman and recently I received a message from another bi-sexual woman, we chatted and so did the two women. We were all set to meet for a lunch to see how we got on together, as the meeting got closer we started to receive mixed messages, to get to the point she cancelled our planned meeting and that was the end of that. My friend and I were disappointed and a bit mystified as to how it went from promising to a non-event so quickly. We do know that the other lady had been disappointed in the past and we were keen to show her as good a time as we could. Anyway we think the other lady got nervous and decided to can it, that's life and it goes on. I think possibly that makes three of us who missed out something which potentially could have been pretty damned good. I guess we;ll never know now.

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RHP User

4 years ago

I think you ment to say two women not a 3rd woman.But would love to find a bed with three ladies such fun for all

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RHP User

4 years ago

Hey! We are about to try our first by adding a second male..

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billjr73

4 years ago

My biggest fantasy is to eat cum out of a woman

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MindSweeper

4 years ago

Do you have 2 cocks? I'd advise doing something sexually special for your wife first. Plenty of issues come up with a guy spending too much time on the new woman. Tread carefully.

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RHP User

4 years ago

3 what m or f

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Cruisercpl

4 years ago

We have been with a woman that we met with her partner, she contacted us after they had split. She was great, it was our first time and we are looking forward to seeing her again. We just took our time and enjoyed it.

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RHP User

4 years ago

Mff orffm

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energiser69

4 years ago

most men like FFM - and i think many gals do too. actually doing it and enjoying it is another thing.? jealousy kicks in and all sorts of things., i would imagine.

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