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Nervous and Awkward...
February 19 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
if it was just nerves that got the better of us all, and not that they weren't at all like their profile (assuming we had found each other on here), then yes, we'd want to give it a 2nd chance, but would probably want to chat online a bit before arranging the next meeting, to try and iron out any awkwardness :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
How nervous you were then sure. Haven't had any awkward first meets yet so can't comment from personal experience.. I'm betting my next first meet will be though...
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RHP User
12 years ago
If I still don't feel comfortable after the first half hour, it's a clear sign for me it's not going to happen.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' If I still don't feel comfortable after the first half hour, it's a clear sign for me it's not going to happen. ten minutes for me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was being generous, but you're right. Ten minutes is enough for me too.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Leads to all sorts of embarrassing situations.....it happens. Sometimes it's a Barrel of laughs when look back... Other times I go WTF - NO WAY IN HELL am I going there again!! FOXY - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Had a lickable belly like yours OP. Yum........ But in reality, if I'm not comfortable with them in a reasonably short time, it's probably never going to happen.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nope.............you truly do know within 10
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RHP User
12 years ago
Great question! I use to get nervous all the time when I would meet people but now I look at it that I am just meeting another person in the big wide world. Since changing my thought process on the situation I feel alot calmer and this tends to make the other person feel more comfortable as well. Good luck : )Ms newcouple2147x
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you were both nervous and there was still attraction and both parties are willing to meet again... why not? If the person is just damn awkward and uncomfortable, I could not imagine you would want to meet again? For me, I'm confident and love conversation, whether it be silly, witty, intelligent and I would hope my date would be like minded.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Speaking from experience, if the nerves didn't go within a first meet/date then you just won't click.There needs to be a dominant personality to takes the lead and can make the other open up and feel comfortable.If both people are awkward and nervous then there isn't much hope.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am pretty easy going ,no expectations and always happy to meet people.If you go in expecting something, i think that's when you get nervous.If you go in to meet someone to get to know them with no expectations ,thats when you enjoy yourself.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Awkward does not equal wrong. For some people meeting for the first time is like sitting and exam and they can't relax. Others their heart never skips a beat. As long as you can communicate, and feel mutual attraction, why not. Rome as to built in a day.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Being nervous is really hard for some people as they maybe shy or something like that and nerves get the better of them..difficult..I guess some people would be like that on this site...not as outgoing as others FOXY- Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
12 years ago
I don't do nervous.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
So generally speaking, if the first date is a nervous disaster, I'm unlikely to try again. It's the Universe's way of saying, "wrong person, try someone else". So I do!
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RHP User
12 years ago
If it didn't happen then, it's not "gonna" (unless it's forced)
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
Neither do I........ I dont see whats to be nervous about..... I walk out the door knowing, because of previous communications and screening.... that you're gonna love me!!!!!But if youre nervous, I'll see it.And if there's potential, I'll see that too.DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
If it ends up in both of us laughing at the silliness of being nervous on a date and the conversation flows, then I'd go back. Once we start talking about how lovely/shitty the weather is, then I probably wouldn't go back for another round awkwardness.
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RHP User
12 years ago
At the start, txt, email, chat, etc AND the build up was good, sexy, and we both looked forward to meeting BUT nerves got in the way, I would by all means consider a 2nd meeting - as long as we both communicate well and talk about it, laugh and give it another try - TD&H - Posted from rhpmobile
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Twisted_Mister
12 years ago
I'm as nervous as a chihuahua in a thunderstorm, although at work I'm quite a different person. If it's mutually recognized that both parties are nervous, I recommend six tequila slammers each. It's a wonderful icebreaker.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think I now know how the Disastrous Dating came to be your middle name. I am shy and get nervous so I would love a second chance too. However, most of the other posters are right. It takes about 10 minutes to figure out whether you want to be with a person or not. If your gut says yes, then go ahead and give him a second chance. Do not over analyse as you can then talk yourself in or out of anything. Go with your first impressions. Friends have told me that they went against they gut feeling and it was a disaster after that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
sometimes I have known instantly,sometimes it has taken maybe Ten minutes,sometimes it has taken weeks,months,even years. But if we are just talking about sex.then it is all in the kiss,if that doesn't work ,then all the time in the world will not make a difference.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If things look like getting awkward it's time for the sense of humour to step up to the plate. If the first date fizzles after that, then it wasn't meant to be.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If we put "SEX" and "KISS" aside...and just focus on nervousness would that then change way of thinking to give the other a 2nd chance knowing full well they are nervousness...??- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
SF, I would like to say yes but it really depends. Usually, nervousness should only be there in the beginning but both should be comfortable with each other soon enough. How long was the first date? 30minutes? From my own experience, I get nervous but after talking with the other person, we quite quickly figure out if we want to see each other again. There is nothing better than a woman going, give me a call, I would like to see you again. On the second date, both are more relaxed and have a good time. If there is no chemistry on the first date, it ends quickly and the usual statement at the end is I'll give you a call. Sounds like the date is not what you expected but the guy is decent and you want to give it a second chance. I say go for it.
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