doubles72

doubles72

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New fantasy for us to be ticked off the list

September 29 2014

My wife and I have not played with anyone in maybe a year now but happy that we enjoy a healthy sex life, and still discuss fantasies with each other when we find that valuable commodity ..... TIME. Most recently my wife advised me that she has a fantasy to discuss.... this involves a mini gang bang (3 guys) she would it to be kind of rough, blind folds can be involved, hand cuffs or ropes etc and she would like me to sit and watch it... I advised her i'm happy to try and tick this off her list and not because I don't like the idea but I also find it erotic and sexual to me, so it's a win win I guess... As we discussed further some of the things she brought up I believe come into the BDSM or dominating category, submissive?? We are 100% new to the idea and never really have entertained it so need help from the RHP community on ideas, toys whatever you think we may need to know. The idea of me setting this up for her, where she perhaps is tied to the bed blindfolded while I am meeting or bringing the 3 lucky gents to the hotel really excites her...... add in the rough play, spanking, and well she gets really really excited.

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    maybe with some tethers if she wants to be restrained which can be tied to bedposts or around under the mattress. Go and suss out some whips together as a lot of them have a very different variations of pain. Soft rubber whips are almost painless but you can feel them against the skin with a good flogging or you can also use them to tickle and run lightly over the body or you can get rubber paddles which hurt like hell with a light spank (well for me anyway as I am a sook). Riding crops also pack a bit of a punch. You might like to look at some candles if she wants a stinging effect, a wartenberg wheel and of course you can use things like ice or tingling or warming lubes or feathers to create other effects. A vibrating bullet or massager can be used all over the body also to heighten her senses and get her jumping. For a first time, that is probably enough to see what she likes and doesn't like.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I do like your idea of being blindfolded, tied up and pleasured by three mystery men. I am getting excited for her. Will be watching this one with much interest

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I would make a list of what sorts of things are acceptable and what are not and discuss this with the blokes because to me a bit of spanking and tying up and other toys as Ralf mentioned is not rough sex to me and I am sure everyone would have a different interpretation. For instance forcing her to gag on a cock, choking, slapping her face etc... Acceptable or not? Have a safe word and also consider what marks the blokes can leave on your wife, welts bruises, etc.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    So will she ever see the men? I remember a couple writing about their fantasy which was that Mr found the man based on what he knew wifey liked, then Mrs was blindfolded when the guy came in and did filthy things to her... She never took her blindfold off so never saw the guy during the sex play. However hubby filmed the whole thing so she was able to watch it after the guy had left. :P

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    10 years ago

    😝

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Wow that sounds hot! I would love to join in the fun with her!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    To screen for STIs among these three men? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • tiamo

    tiamo

    10 years ago

    Thats soo sexy. I would love to pleasure her while you watch it and help you fulfill your fantasy !!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Definitely establish the boundaries of what is acceptable and what is not. Select the guys carefully as they play a key role in a whether it is a good experience or a fantastic one.

  • TWOfourYOU

    TWOfourYOU

    10 years ago

    Safe Word comes to mind.... If the situation does come off...but during the fun, she has had enough or actually gets scared as opposed to getting off, a safe word is essential and also thus ensuring the guys will respect that if she does not want to continue, to respect the situation and stop....with no questions asked.

  • IamMrSilly

    IamMrSilly

    10 years ago

    Pick me too, me too! :) Maybe something else is to ensure you get guys that can perform in front of other guys! and decide if you want to know them individually first so you can trust them.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    When I first read...New fantasy for us to be ticked off... I thought you were looking for a grumpy old woman like me:-) xxQ

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Need to speak to all involved so all limits are respected and have a safe word if your not comfortable in the moment I' d like to turn her bottom red with my floggers and paddles

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    If she wants you to watch, powerless to restrain the men who fuck her, that's cuckolding. A form of female dominance. If she wants you to call the shots (eg restrain her, ready for use then supervise) that's submissive. I get the confusion implied in your question- I'm not sure either. Safe words: try "red" = stop everything right now! Yellow/ amber = "easy boys, ease up". Unoriginal, but clear as a bell. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    With burning love make sure they are clean STI free etc!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    For rough play use YES as the safe word, cause if your are all doing it right she should be saying NOBefore you flame me read it carefully

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Naughty80sGuy' For rough play use YES as the safe word, cause if your are all doing it right she should be saying NOBefore you flame me read it carefully The idea of a safeword is that it's something unambiguous that won't possibly come up naturally during sex or "the scene" in general. So, unless esoteric fruit is usually your thing, mystical pineapples is a good one. Yes is probably the worst one ever. But if this would be a first time experience and new to the potentially disastrous idea of submission/BDSM in general, I'd caution against involving stuff to the level that it needed a safeword. That sort of stuff is something that, IMO, should be worked-up towards gradually, and with trusted partners only. Instead of a true safe word, what about a traffic light metaphor? Green light at the start of the action for activities within the limits already discussed. Either of doubles72 (the OP) could say "orange light" if they don't think everything needs to stop altogether, but that last spank/flog was too hard or someone let slip a forbidden word (e.g. "slut") and it needs to tone down. Say "green light" to continue, but everyone knows to be more careful. "Red light" is stop immediately.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    If Mrs doubles72 isn't really used to "impact play" (floggers, etc) -- and if the gentlemen invited aren't used to giving it either -- I'd suggest not including that the first, or even first few times. An implement can deliver a lot of force over a smaller surface area, making it easy to get carried away without knowing it. I suggest sticking to hands only and figuring out ahead of time what's wanted, and what's not. Show the guys beforehand so they know. The psychological aspect combined with the restraints and blindfold, and multiple men, will make even the gentlest touch seem heightened for her. She could probably be flogged with a peacock feather, so hands would probably more than do the trick. How to screen for STIs? Use condoms, which hubby can enforce. If Mrs doubles72 wants cum as part of the experience, ask the guys to blow over her breasts/tummy/back or wherever desired, keeping it away from "mucous membranes" (incl. eyes). But that might not be wanted as part of the experience, in which case inside the condoms will be easy enough to manage. I also suggest using stone-cold sober guys, and a sober referee too. Daytime play is a way to decrease the chances of the blokes rocking up with a few under their belt. Mrs doubles72 could make her own choice about whether she wants a small tipple first to help relax, but after one or two the senses dull and the likelihood of going along with something later decided was unwanted increases.