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New profile pics ... new inundation of messages :)

April 11 2017

Now, I love words, I adore well written responses in the forums, well written profiles and articulate and personalised messages. When I've sent messages, I've looked at profiles and drawn from them for inspiration in writing a personalised message. Since we've added some new profile pics, we have been inundated by messages. Anything from the inane 3 word sentence 'How are yous...' (not even a question mark lol), 'can you open your pg' ... to a poorly written attempt at an erotic piece of writing (a template response which wasn't edited when it went from the plural too the singular lol). I have to say that I do read the messages and we have a disclaimer in our profile that says 'no response from us is a no thank you'! I'm fighting every urge to not write my own template response that might read something like: "Really, is that the best you've got. You've read our profile and you offer that inane message as an attempt to lure us into further conversation that might lead to a play. WTF!!!!! " Please note I've not specified the gender of people we are receiving these messages from ... this is not a gender attack but a generalised discussion on: What are your frustrations with messaging on this site? Share (briefly) any good messages that you may have received and have stood out to you positively. (Please don't disclose who has sent them to you, lol) Let's build up the messaging repertoire of fellow RHPers :) Mary xx

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Gorgeous new pics Mary 😉 I'll come back to respond to the topic 😃

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I love your template response and would use it, but I suspect it would lead to a barrage of abusive messages. That's what happens sometimes when we respond in the negative. Which is why a lot of times people just don't respond. I like messages that acknowledge they have read my profile. That include a bit about themselves and and why they contacted me. I love a bit of humour and of course good grammar is important. It doesn't have to be perfect but at least try. I have replied to guys who are outside of what I am looking for just because their messages were so well written. And I have ignored guys who do match my criteria because they have come across like a Neanderthal. I struggle with writing a first message too but if I am interested in a profile I do try to make an effort.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Wait, now I'm tempted to send the OP a message and see if I can avoid the dreaded template response 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    8 years ago

    Nice topic. I have never stopped learning here and have learnt that the people who send these messages are as varied as the messages themselves. I'm tempted to reply in the fashion suggested and recently on another site, resisted the urge to respond like that to a "hi how are u" with no pics. So in a restrained fashion, replied and received a second message with follow up pics that exceeded all expectations. Appears there are no rules in this game of chance we partake in. Like a game of poker, some skill comes into play but often governed by luck and chance on the day. Love the photos you 2 have put up. Hot. Xxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    To create a template response out of frustration to all of the 'hey' or 'wanna hook up sexy' messages that hit my inbox (no question marks either). I'm with Ticklish though and based on past experience, you'd need to saddle up for the onslaught of tantrums in response. Ticklish has pretty much summed up my feelings on messaging too The best messages I've received have been complimentary without being over the top, insightful, appreciative and have used real words. U up 4 a 👉👌 doesn't do it for me. The ones that appreciate I'm a person and not just a hole.

  • boobsandbusted

    boobsandbusted

    8 years ago

    Sorry but your Not what we are looking for message once ,actually was the nicest messsage ever, so thoughtful and positive ,I'm sure it was a generic template ,they had come up with ,but who cares ,left us feeling good .our gripe is the consistent flirts and messages ,thank god we don't attract many anyway ,but no pics of anything ?what the hell are we meant to respond to you twits ! Best one that made me laugh then think asshole, then laugh again was ,your wife told me last week you were shit in bed and wants a better lover ,message me please ,! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ''Hello and thank you for the well-written and articulate message. You would be amazed at some of the garbage that I get here so let's talk and get to know each other. The worst thing that could happen is that we might just become good friends''. Bonus... I really liked that response as it was neither a premature ''no'' nor a ludicrous promise of ''yes''. My response back was ... ''Just remember that if they can't spell it properly or use it out of context, there is less than no chance that they will be able to do it!''. Of course there were a few paragraphs more but I'm too much of a gentleman to reveal trade secrets either male or female regardless...and of course then came some amazing long conversations on the phone. Voice disclose far more than text ever possibly could and you get to hear both the laughter and the excitement. Long story short... yes, we did. Out come, still the very best of friends. It just doesn't get any better than that really. It's all about what you make of it and what you are expecting. ...best, CM

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    8 years ago

    Apart from the usual "Hi, how are you, Wassup, Sexy pictures I'm free today" I occasionally get caught by surprise..... Got a message header today from a guy saying" I like your profile here's my resume if you're interested." Now you can imagine my excitement at the thought that this bloke had created something wonderful, witty, interesting to read and smile about yeah? There was nothing but access to his PG. All cock shots.....(sigh) talk about disappointment!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I get "hi" so I reply "hi" usually followed by "how are you?" To which I reply "good" And that is usually the end of it. I guess small things amuse small minds. 😂

  • 666_In_Disguise

    666_In_Disguise

    8 years ago

    As it happens, I read the profiles, sometimes more than once to try getting a feel for what that particular women wants in a man. And I compose my message accordingly. Sometimes short, sometimes longer, but always with her profile in mind. Rude is just not my style no matter how many "dirty" thoughts I had looking at her photos. Mind you, not sure how many of of these women are real or not, but that is beside the point here. It is bit disspointing not getting a reply always (I know other topics have already canvas this isue so let's not go there), but In choose to treat that as their loss, not mine.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    For me it is putting some effort into my messages and not getting any reply at all. I do understand the inundation of messages to women. And that is fine by me (learned that my first time here) but generally all I've written to have whined about poor messages and lack of thought. I really did expect those who were sick of shite messages to at least reply as I write a pretty decent message. I really don't care if they were interested or not. Just please don't bother putting sick of crap messages when you can't say thanks to someone who bothers. The lovely messages I have received have all been a sincere thanks and an appreciation of my time and the gentleman I am Don't get me wrong I totally understand and I am not making a bitch session out of it but you did ask for what pisses me off. Cheers you two fine hot wives

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Anything more than that should be after one is invited to. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    ...against the softness of a woman's flesh. No I have stopped being distracted by your pix... can I write a response... um... what was the topic... um... Oh... frustrations of messages... I have none... If a person or person does not respond... there is your answer... there is no answer! NEXT! I have only had a couple of rude responses... I have never taken offense and certainly never responded... they have always been from people who cannot write or read... so I would not have been interested anyway. I am sure the ladies suffer many... and should I have ever been rude or offensive... I appologise here and now! ...and yes I loved the photos. MF I blow several kisses out there into the RHP void in the hope that a lady will catch one and savour it.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Quoting 'Sailbadthesinner' I get "hi" so I reply "hi" usually followed by "how are you?" To which I reply "good" And that is usually the end of it. I guess small things amuse small minds. 😂 If I feel like chatting I'll reply to these kind of messages but always in the same style as the initial message (within certain limits of spelling and punctuation mind you). Mirroring people is a great way to see what's really there, or not there...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Well I've tempted fate and ego, I've sent a message through. No point dying wondering 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    A message such as yours would bring a smile to my face for a number of reasons ... Your private gallery is aesthetically pleasing, add to that your ability to string together coherent and cohesive ideas, along with grammatically correct and well structured paragraphs ... this teacher is well impressed ;) Your message contains humour and some hope for a meet and you didn't even ask to see our PG ... kudos to you :) I shall put in a very good word for you with the other Hotwife ;) Alas, if only all messages were like that. As I sit and ruminate a response to the last message, 'Wanna hook up?' Should I let that profile know I have a propensity for BDSM and was it an anal hook he was enquiring about? Mary xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Not too shabby for selfies, as the delectable Ms D and I waited for the photographer, who took professional sexy shots. Watch this space :) Mary xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Love B&Ws and yours look fabulous 😉 Like you, Mary, I get frustrated when, after the first couple of messages they ask me to open my PGS. What's more frustrating is that they have none or a couple of blurry shots. That line always turns me and my pussy right off because I know they're just pic collectors and aren't really serious 😔 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Your new photos are beautiful....beautiful ladies - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    Your new photos are beautiful....beautiful ladies - Posted from rhpmobile

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    8 years ago

    From someone who read my profile, and put every letter of my profile name into a poem to reflect that they had read my profile. I thought that was very creative and did in fact catch my attention. YES, we did end up meeting. 2yrs later they are still very very creative. Ms Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    You're praise brought a smile to my face. I love to read, but the writing side has never been something to come naturally, so tickled pink 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I usually do not write on the forums, but your message made me smile. It was really refreshing to read a message that showed character, and spunk. Thankyou😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    8 years ago

    I can change photos to my heart's content and only have the flirts and ratings from 'Hot or What?' get more active as a response. So, I'm glad that's not a problem. I'm sorry I really can't offer any solid examples of messages I've received in the last few months for better or worse because apparently men do read my profile and don't message me. But that in itself is awesome of course. I have had the same thing as Sailbad in the past and admit I've done the same thing on a boring day. I can't believe that conversation didn't go any where... I can't talk though, considering I'm not the best conversationalist at the best of times. Peachy