New to BDSM, HELP!!!!

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  Mr_MrsAraps

  10 years ago

  A great book for numpty's to read that I can totally recommend is "screw the roses and pass me the thorns". Starts from the absolute basics from communication, negotiation, hard/soft limits, safety, equipment, aftercare and the list goes on. I would also have a look at fetlife and see what sort of community you have near you. Usually there are like minded bdsm'ers who meet up for social gatherings "munches" where newbies like yourself and your partner can introduce yourself to more experienced people and start learning from there. Another thing I would suggest if you are both fairly new to this I would not start off trying to do too many things each session. Saying if you were wanted to try spanking first then do lots of reading on the internet on spanking and then taking that slowly with your partner and all the while communicating with your partner, how does that feel, is it too light or too heavy. So really trying to learn one skill at a time instead of juggle 10 skills at once during a session. And would follow the golden rules of being safe, sane and consensual. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Im going to try find that book to read :P I guess I can buy online

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Is a great resource. It's social media for fetishists and people into BDSM. Good for finding out what events are in your area and meeting likeminded people. Like everything on the net use caution when taking advice until you are sure the source is reliable. There are a lot of wannabes on fetlife (as everywhere) and there is no one right way of doing things so beware if people start talking in absolutes. Take in people's opinions and find what works for yourselves. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  chevtrek

  10 years ago

  Do some online reading and also go to fetlifemunches and ask questions.Go to a sex shop and start buying BDSM gear.

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