New young couple who would like advice/pointers from experienced redhotpie members on "breaking into the swingers scene"

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  justfforfun

  12 years ago

  Wel youl get three times the males than any thing else. A lot of ppl are put of with new couples. Just message ppl and be straight up with them an turn up when you will. Ya need a hand well help ;)- Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  There are quite a few existing forum topics that have been posted by other couples asking this same question so firstly I'd suggest having a read of some of those and the responses given. Not being able to find genuine, single females in particular is a source of frustration for many couples. The fact is that there are many more couples looking for single women than there are women looking for couples (hence these women being known as 'unicorns'), and so the women can be quite picky. One thing I would suggest that you do ASAP is put some photos on your profile, as many single women and couples won't even look at your profile if you don't have photos. If you don't want face pics in public view then put them in one of your private galleries and just give access to those you select. Also, it's important that you have photos of both of you, not just the female. I know it bugs me when I'm looking at a couple's profile and they only have photos of the woman, as I need to be attracted to both to be interested and most other single women and couples feel the same. Another thing you will need to do is develop a screening process that can minimise the number of 'fakes' and 'time wasters' you have to deal with. In reality, a lot of this just comes down to common sense and realising that if something seems suspicious, then it probably is. An example of one thing you can do is to talk to potential playmates on the phone before meeting, and not just rely on messages or texts. Other couples will no doubt have other advice they can give you.Good luck and I hope you can find what you're looking for on here

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  You will never get any interest from a single woman without photos on your profile. Pictures of both of you. There has been quite a few topics recently on this very subject. You should find them fairly easily, they have some very good advice on them so worth a read. :)

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  The biggest hurdle to over come is the demons of jealousy. All the talk, agreements, trust and love can suddenly fall over when you see your love fuck. Most of the time I love to see her/him enjoy others, but sometimes, ouch. It is a hard one to fight and even the very experienced couples can fall into that trap. You need to know how to deal with that issue if it does come up.As for finding.. Go to swingers clubs or parties. Great way to find like minded people. To find the right people on sites like this takes time and effort. Sometimes it just happens but most of the time it needs work commitment and timing. Keep options open and but best way to get that fun is be proactive, go out, meet people. Be sexy.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Firstly, welcome to RHP and welcome to the forum pit! Watch out for the pit too, it has high walls and is hard to climb back out of. You can get stuck in here.I have to agree with everyone else so far, get some pics up pronto! I'd also put some info in the "sexual interests" box as well, that's another way people can judge whether to contact you or not. In terms of screening methods, we personally have found that offering to meet pretty early in the piece weeds out the time-wasters. The way we do it is generally, initial contact, then swap private galleries, then offer to meet for the pre-fun drinks or dinner. So far it's been the best way of ensuring that people are actually serious or not. If they agree to meet, great, but sometimes you never hear from them again and time-wasting bullet dodged there.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  If you only want to sit on a web site and think about it get a photo up If you want to meet people try going to a swingers club. They are a great place to meet like minded people. Allways a fun cheap night out where you'll get a laugh.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  We are fairly new to the scene also and attended our first party a couple of weeks ago which was fun and as mentioned a cheap night out too. I would say it's the best way to meet new people although they are a little bit daunting it's not as bad as you think ;-)

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  mikesplace01

  12 years ago

  The best advice we could give is to at least have the courtesy to answer messages....even if they aren't what you are looking for ....treat people with the respect you would like to receive.....

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I Completely agree i always try to reply to any msg's we receive if you can be bothered writing them why shouldn't i reply not having much luck with any single woman replying but have met alot of lovely couplesQuoting 'mikesplace01' The best advice we could give is to at least have the courtesy to answer messages....even if they aren't what you are looking for ....treat people with the respect you would like to receive.....

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'Lovers2Learn3' I Completely agree i always try to reply to any msg's we receive if you can be bothered writing them why shouldn't i reply not having much luck with any single woman replying but have met alot of lovely couplesQuoting 'mikesplace01' The best advice we could give is to at least have the courtesy to answer messages....even if they aren't what you are looking for ....treat people with the respect you would like to receive..... Guessing you are new here. Would wonder if after several years here you will be bothered to reply. It is easy for people to see if a message or flirt has been read so why bother with a reply. I can tell you that after 5 plus years here i cant be bothered replying, and personally i hate making a polite response when in reality I want to write "No chance in hell I would rather pour acid on my balls." There is no respect in lies.Best of luck finding that woman Lovers2Learn3

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  chevtrek

  11 years ago

  It takes some time to get things going plus some girls just come on as they are curious. Have a good profile with plenty of pics you will get what you want in time also go to the clubs.

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