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Newbie looking for help/advice
January 26 2017
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madotara69
8 years ago
You've decided to have a dabble in the RedHotPie, posted a topic introducing your self and tossing out what may be a challenge for you,.....easy fix Start wearing a quality fake moustache at work and you'll be sweet-as in here ;) But you must have something dirty on your mind for the experience, fess up ? Mado Mado Tara xx
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Seachange
8 years ago
Your profile is fine and succinct, bit of tweaking. maybe a body shot without your face is helpful for your audience. Maybe expand what you really want here like new sexual experiences, single men, couples, married /attached men, etc. You will have an onslaught of messages from people who won't even read your profile and are totally out of your search criteria. However for those who read your profile, and sends you a decent message, there are points of conversation. Wrt to privacy, I'm in the same boat, working for ultraconservative industries. Keep facial pics in your pg. Feel free to check out mine. Just remember, take it easy if you get overwhelmed with contact. Have a couple of template replies for rejection. Wrt to flirts up to you to reply. I remember when I was a newbie zygote I got 100s per day. Remember some are just on a fishing expedition looking for a bite and don't know you from a bar of soap. 😀 Like in real life there are good n bad people here, except they are horner. so be cautious. have your bs radar on full to weed out the gems. Keep posting and reading up on the forum. this place is full of knowledge n willing to share our sexual journey. Ask questions regardless. Keep an open mind. Best wishes.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Definitely agree with lilyorchid. Spend some time with taking current pic's of yourself that show enough that your comfortable with yet keeping your privacy intact. Reflect within your profile what your search criteria is. Take your time and be very selective with whom you contact and meet . Lady's on the pie have bucket loads to choose from, clearly more men on this site to women.. So be picky. You will need a thick skin within the forum as some people will judge you before they know you. Reply to those messages that are worthy. Welcome to the pie, Hope it provides everything that your seeking.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thank you both for the advice. BS radar is fully engaged. In that way it's like an online dating site, but it's probably there the similarities stop. I work in finance (Public Practice tax accounting) and would be mortified if a client or one of their staff members said they found me on RHP! Although the look on my bosses face might be worth it! I'm figuring so far that I'll fail forwards, and learn what works for me through trial and error and also learning from the mistakes of those before me. The forums are fantastic. The contact is overwhelming. In the risk of sounding arrogant, it's almost like "please form an orderly que, gentlemen". I'm not 100% sure what I'm looking for, and even if what I think I'm looking for is what I want (how clear is that- not). So perhaps my best explanation is that I'm open to new experiences, so long as it's with SINGLE MEN only. I'm currently on the bus to work. I wish there was a way of screening out the profiles with dicks as their main image lol- I'm sure the little old lady behind me just about had a heart attack at the last profile I viewed 😂 bless. Thanks again ladies. Will grab a moustache and maybe a wig or something over the weekend. Spicey Xxx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Being a woman, you're likely to get a lot of profile traffic... You'll receive plenty of interest depending on what you want. As a man, I've found, there's little interest in single men on this group in Perth. It's very much a woman's market - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Because it's a women's market most just sit on their bums and see what the tide brings in, and shortly after start whining about the dross. My advice is go on the offensive, find what you like and make your own luck. Of course that means paying for membership. But you gets what you pays for, yes ?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Platinum! Well done ! Now get your money's worth ! Good Luck.
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
from being on this group it means they are on it too. So don't worry they are probably in the same boat. I have my face photos in a private album and share them if I like someone, after we have had a chat and I establish that we are not neighbours LOL I mainly only respond to messages because I can't keep track of flirts. Good luck and have fun.
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Spoken like a guest. Membership has its rewards. In life tou generally get back what you put in. Good luck OP. You're gonna be fine
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RHP User
8 years ago
Welcome :) Agree with Lily & Annie - huge variety of people on here, go with your gut. You will be fine, enjoy the ride! X
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RHP User
8 years ago
I spent 6 months as a paid member. Sent many first messages, received very few replies. Other than an occasional flirt, I've not had any women show an interest so I didn't renew membership. Yes being a paid member allowed me into chat rooms and I was able to send messages, but for the responses I got, I found I had better luck on POF - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Welcome. As single women here, we are seriously outnumbered by men and the attention can be overwhelming at times. Take a break if you need one. It can be so much fun here. As said before by others, keep the bullshit meter on and you should be fine. Put up a little more about why you are here and what you may like to experience. It develops over time so update when you are ready. My profile is quite detailed. Sometimes people read it, sometimes not. It's up to them. I've tried various tactics with flirts. I found sending a message back to say why I wasn't interested seemed to give them some kind of hope and I would get a message in return. If they are a guest, I think they use a flirt as a fishing line for a message from a paid up member so they can start a conversation. Now, if they are outside my preferences, they get a flirt back 'thanks but no thanks'. Or I ignore them. If they pique my interest I will consider chatting then see where it goes from there. If a paid member sends me a flirt, I'm not interested. If they can't send me a message then why would I be flattered enough to reply? If I'm intrigued by a profile, I will send a message. It's the polite thing to do and shows that I am interested in knowing more. Like you I am in a very male oriented conservative industry. Keep your face pics hidden in a PG. I don't want anyone to see my face unless I'm comfortable - no matter what EarthQueen says. My reputation is hard fought and won. A client sees it and bang - it's gone. Above all have fun and be safe. KH
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RHP User
8 years ago
Also as a Premium plus member for over a year the lack of replies or cold responces from sending out quality messages doesn't warrent me to waste my money.I find it amusing that the majority of women on this site are also guest's, They expect men to pay and chase them. After awhile even if your a paid up member we get tierd of the bs of chasing. Truly believe you have more chance of winning lotto then here. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Gah! You've got that right, KillerHeels. I've turned new messages off. I haven't had a chance to look through the influx from the last few days, and I'd open the app and see all the unread messages and just close it again lol. Sat down last night and weeded the definite "no's out, replied to one or too, then fell into an exhausted slumber. I'm going to change my profile. Elaborating on what I am looking for is good advice, although I know some won't take the time to read it, regardless. Thanks all for the support. Xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
When you alter your profile as a joke and a test get them to write a sentence with the word's Camel toe in it to see who reads it, Or somthing like it. Another way of weeding out a few who look at shinny pic's. lol seen that on a profile and thought it was hilarious. 😂
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RHP User
8 years ago
Take your time and remember to breathe... this should be fun (says the crazy woman who responded to every message for the first 7 months 🙄). You will find, over time, that it's easier to refine what you are looking for, and even what you aren't... makes updating your profile easier. But yes, even then some people do not read your profile (not just men, but women and couples too) and will contact you despite being outside your preferences. That being said, some of my closest friendships have evolved from messages sent by those outside my parameters 😍 Cheekyass, I understand what you are saying, but there are plenty of women who are members as well, would actually love to know the numbers on that... does it appear that more men pay for membership simply because there are so many more women than men on here, or are the numbers of paying members pretty even for each category? I'm not sure it's fair to say that women expect men to chase them... apart from the generalisation, surely you can understand why some women choose not to pay for membership, considering they are inundated with messages either way? I'm sure if men outnumbered women, by a significant amount, less men would feel inclined to pay for membership 😉 IMO, there are no easy fixes, or shortcuts... just knowing who you are, what you want, and being prepared to wait for it. While you're waiting, there's plenty of fun to be had and friends to be made, if you choose to enjoy the ride :) Also absolutely agree with taking a break when you need one! I pay for membership because I enjoy being in control of my own experiences... I like to be able to message friends, or other forumites who seem like they need a virtual hug and, very occasionally, someone who catches my eye 😍 I know plenty of people on Pie who have had fabulous experiences and met wonderful people, myself included... perhaps I should start buying lotto tickets? 😊
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
I agree with most of what has already been said. I just wanted to add that your current pic may make you easily identifiable......eyes are very easy to recognise.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have thought about my strip of eyes. Maybe my boobs will be better 😂. Totally agree Betty, controlling my experience was the reason I became a paying member. I think it's obvious who reads profiles by what their first message is.... for eg: "luv ur profile. Ur my type. Txt me *insert number". Yep, clearly didn't read it! I'm quite excited tbh about how this new adventure will unfold for me. Xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Or the butt will generally do it 😂😂 Good for you! Adventures are fabulous :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
They haven't got a clue!!! Go buy some mixed size condoms, a 20litre container of lube and just get your slut on lol Worked for me at least :p
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't think it is fair to judge a profile on that criteria. I feel its fair enough to test the waters before you decide to take the plunge.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thanks Betty for the advice, definitely spot on with your remarks. ☺ Mrs Jonesy is correct about your eye's . If you want humour mixed with some trash then just listen to Stiry. He's rough as guts but always a good laugh. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
haha Stirry, I could go for broke, but I probably won't, for now anyway ;)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sorry for the studder 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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MadhattersCat
8 years ago
Quoting 'SpicedVanilla' Thank you both for the advice. BS radar is fully engaged. In that way it's like an online dating site, but it's probably there the similarities stop. I am a real hit and run character when it comes to any online contact. A combination of OCD and ADD means I get bored very easily.This site however is the one that continually drags me back and has me staying longer.I would respect your profile first as being honest and accurate. When you respect your profile others will too. Then you can expect respect in return. This took me a while to get.Having said that, this place is a little different, however, it still has a lot of confident horny men so inundation is a females lot. Just part of the game. There are times that I am guilty of this sin - that is the males lot.Hang around and enjoy yourself.
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'seekingtime' I don't think it is fair to judge a profile on that criteria. I feel its fair enough to test the waters before you decide to take the plunge. My comment wasn't directed to anyone but male guests. The site works for female and trans guests just fine. But for male guests l feel that they need to be a member to experience the site in its full potential before passing comment at least. Surely the ability to message people they may be interested in, is worth the price of a cup of coffee per week (12 month)?
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