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September 11 2022

My girl and I are new to this scene, incredibly open minded but we have never done this before. We live apart and play together, we don't get to see alot of each other but we adore each other's mindsets. We want to try new things, but we want to take it slowly. We don't want seedy, but we're interested in sharing ourselves in the right environment. We're not too sure where to start. We were thinking a club so we could just kick back and see what happens. Thanks in advance if anyone can give us tips.

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Gemini79

2 years ago

The clubs can be a good start There's never an expectation to play. It's sometimes nice to make conversation with people who have the lifestyle you are delving in to as there is no judgement. Even meeting a couple you are interested in can be good. Dinner, drinks, something easy with no expectations.

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Opalrose

2 years ago

Yep just go to a club or event. You don’t need to play. Just socialise. There is a meet and greet on at the court this Saturday that would be great for dipping your toes in.

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BlackWolf80

2 years ago

Wednesday is a good night as it’s newbies/ intro night. Socialise, ask all the questions you have. Good luck in your journey

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RHP User

2 years ago

Hi how's your exploring going any good feedback yet? 😉🔥😍

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Cumnplaywithus

2 years ago

Yeah we're a bit overwhelmed with the options. We're thinking getting a nice hotel, going to a club and taking it from there. We're laid back and open minded, we're looking forward to it even if it's just us playing together, dropping inhibitions and learning more about each other. Thanks x

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Jimdoingchev

2 years ago

Clubs are a great place to start, Also just making it clear the first meet with anyone you are interested in knows its just for drinks ore meal. There should be no pressure just good conversation and laughs

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KrisM

2 years ago

I may be stating the obvious when I say that people sit somewhere between innocent and sexually deviant. But this is remarkably important when finding a partner because we often use similar words when describing our need for affection and intimacy. An innocent lady means something specific when saying "I'm looking for a confident lover". But the context of that comment is unknown if we don't know that she's innocent. In a similar way, phrases like 'kink-friendly', 'polyamory', 'club scene', 'dom and sub relationship', and even (as you've said) 'we play together' carry a specific meaning that differs from person to person. We seem to believe other people know the details we've left unspoken. I think many of the people here are right to suggest that clubs are a good place to start. We know something of context due to the nature of this forum. So, we interpret 'we don't want seedy' to mean something beyond the limits the average person would uphold. Which makes this a long winded way of saying: be careful because some of the people at (kink-friendly) clubs may lean heavily into the 'very seedy' category. While you should anticipate people being friendly and polite, there are times where you'll encounter people at the upper limit of 'sexual deviant'. They'll hear something different when you say 'we're interested in sharing ourselves'. There are resorts and events available for swingers that may be more suitable for you. Each person attending is vetoed, and their behaviour is mediated by their desire to attend future events. If you 'play well with others', it's likely that you'll make meaningful connections and offers to *ahem* cum again.

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Down4sumFun38

2 years ago

Good luck with your experience and all the best I hope you are satisfied 😊

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