Newbies seeking advise from the experienced

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  Dallas1975

  7 years ago

  I'd suggest not wasting too much of your valuable time chatting online and try to meet in person just for casual drinks first. Then you'll get to see if their photos are accurate and they are who they say they are! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  lindos

  7 years ago

  Hi Guys, As far as I can see your profile has no issues, you clearly state what you are looking for. But unfortunately you will have to wade through plenty of replies from guys whom don't fit your profile but see it as an opportunity to get their dicks wet. If you are like me then the thought of enjoying your wife's juices off another man, or guiding his cock into her, is very appealing and I hope you find what your looking for. I have wanted to find that for years now but very very hard to find a suitable respectful guy that we can both be comfortable with. So at this stage we have stopped looking for that specifically. And atm I am enjoying her finding guys she's attracted to and telling me about the encounter when she gets home. I love the smell of sex on her after she's been with another man. Good luck with your search. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  CB_n_Hawtgirl

  7 years ago

  Thanks for the feedback. That seems to be the case with us. We've taken our time to try to be clear about what we're looking for in our profile...I can't blame guys for trying to, as you say, get their dicks wet with my wife specially when I know how hot she is. 😉 Her playing alone isn't on the cards, one of the reasons we're not a Hotwife couple even though some of our role play heads in that directing sometimes it's not what we're looking for...i can see how hot that would be tho and glad you're enjoying it. We're here long term tho so we can't be impatient about finding the needle in the haystack and I guess we'll just keep working our way through the prospects for now. Thanks again for the reply. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  mango69er

  7 years ago

  Not your fault. Just keep at it. Alot but not all by any means are all talk. We had one just the other night. Very keen to message and send dick pics. Witch we never asked fore . For three weeks. When it came to the date. A no show. Hang in there. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  AnnieWhichway

  7 years ago

  Photo of the male is essential in the public gallery. That's my only quick observation

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  CB_n_Hawtgirl

  7 years ago

  Same thing lots of chat and wanting to meet...we set a date and get ourselves ready and it's just silence from the other end. We can see that he's read the message on Kik. :( Thanks for the encouragement. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  CB_n_Hawtgirl

  7 years ago

  Thanks AnnieWW. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  AnnieWhichway

  7 years ago

  No shows and radio silence happens to everyone. Over time your bullshit detection becomes fine tuned. You will find those that talk themselves up and tend to send a lot of dic pics won't be meeting. Also a date arranged a fair way into the future will have them over thinking it. From a 40% "rate of shows. I running at about 90% atm.

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  CB_n_Hawtgirl

  7 years ago

  We pretty much decided the night before to meet...got the "I'll message you guys in the morning"...afternoon came before we messaged back asking what happened and then nothing's I guess our bullshit detector was wrong with this guy...and to be fair we are looking for someone/something quite specific and I'm sure that means that we're not for everyone but being a very open, straight up kind of couple it's hard to get used to people that can't just say, thanks but no-thanks. I think the Long-game strategy says we should be more patient but with the small window of opportunity that we have, when we have it, it's easy to get disheartened when it closes without success. :) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  twowithnolimits

  7 years ago

  @CB_n think you nailed it when you said "we are..quite specific", i might go as far as to say, very specific. Your profile is riddled with limits, expectations, specifics of what play will occur, even a demand that the man "recognise that he is in charge"...a very unequal arrangement. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being specific about what you are seeking, but concurrently you need to realise that in so doing you are reducing the player pool and possibly driving off the very "kind" of male you are hoping for. If you are dead set on things being all your way then by all means do so, but be prepared to wait longer and have more "failures' than if you were a little more open and equal in your dealing with others... Good luck in your search an d Happy New Year! P&n

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  CB_n_Hawtgirl

  7 years ago

  Point taken. It is part of the deal as far as my better half is concerned...her comfort in the situation requires that I am the one in control. This may well alter with some experiences under our belt and if/when the situation isn't so new to us. Bloody rookies. lol We did try to counter that by saying that we were interested in all involved having a good time but I do concede you have a very valid point. Thanks so much for your input, it's great to have feedback from experienced contributors. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  love me or hate me, I'll give my opinion or at least ask some valid questions. Firstly, I agree your 'requirements' are quite rigid, entirely your choice but maybe loosen up a little bit. Now the potential red flags for people. Your profile is not verified, you need to contact the site to do that, couples profiles in particular need to be verified to show the profile is in fact a couple and not in fact a single posing as a couple. You're a guest, that has limitations, no judgement, I will be again soon, but you would be better joining if finances allow. The male being in control, and stating he does the communicating etc., coupled with the fact he can't be seen, well let's face it, is that being honest and upfront as you say you are? I digress there. Sorry but it's a time wasting exercise for interested parties having to get hold of vision of both of you. The question also remains, at what point are you sending pictures of the Mr plus the two of you together as a couple? I assume by kik since you only have 1 picture in a pg? These are I believe valid questions that anyone looking at your profile would be asking themselves. I need to trust a profile right from the get go. Lack of vision is a no thanks or no reply for me personally. Not showing yourself indicates one of two things, or both, lacking confidence and/or well I won't go on, I think you would get the picture. Loathe couples profiles that pimp the wife out. It is effectively assumung that all men aren't fussy, that they don't have personal taste and standards. Single men get a lathering on here, yet couples are responded to respectfully, no matter how lean their profile is or how demanding they are

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  The_Antichrist

  7 years ago

  One way to tell the difference between a genuine profile and a bullshit one is the humour that’s IN the wordings.... Definitely no need for verification in my view... Your profile is clear, funny, and without the seemingly normal “I want this” shitful attitude of some profiles that I’ve read... Lol “Not looking for a bull, I’ve got that one sewn up” hahahahaha you’ve got the bull or the stag sewn up hanging from your wall?? Lol Good luck in your search by the way..... 👍👍 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  CB_n_Hawtgirl

  7 years ago

  Firstly, there is neither love nor hate for your post and input...asking for feedback on an adult forum and then being offended by the responses received lacks some maturity no matter the somewhat abrasive undertones. The strict requirements I have touched on in a previous reply and as nerves lessen we most probably will loosen up as you suggest. Similarly verification requires exposure which we're obviously not yet comfortable with but thanks for the suggestion. Guests because we're testing the waters and, as stated in our profile, this is not only new but not a priority in our lives...we tried going to a couple of clubs and didn't really find a fit so thought we'd try here. My being the scribe and being in control is what I have been asked to do by the only person who's trust truly concerns me but we'll take your point on board. We share pics and information on Kik when we feel comfortable to do so with people we have developed some trust with...i guess if they can't show some patience and understanding they're not the needle we're looking for in this haystack. Your questions, even through the accusations among them, are valid and we appreciate your feedback. Thanks for the input. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  CB_n_Hawtgirl

  7 years ago

  Thanks Anti...yes, the stag is mounted in the hunting lodge. We only go there when I'm not pimping out my wife tho. :) Really appreciate the light hearted post...thank you. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I'll address or respond to a few things I don't get your logic on. Firstly verification. You said "Similarly verification requires exposure which we're obviously not yet comfortable with but thanks for the suggestion". Exposure how? The site ask you to take a picture (together/both of you in the same picture) with something written on a piece of paper, that picture is kept private by them, it will never be shown by them. So why are you worried about exposure? Your faces don't need to be shown on other public pictures, your body shots won't be recognised, people blur out unique tatts sometimes, but you don't need to show your faces. The two major issues you have IMO are the male doing ALL the communicating, being the scribe, and always being in control, and sorry for this but wanting cock thrown into the mix, this still sounds like a man to me, not a couple. So you expect people to communicate with God knows who (we are all avatars here until proven otherwise or until identity is properly verified) moving off the site to another platform, all the while talking to the man only, and this goes on until such time as YOU are comfortable? What about them? You sound very controlling and I'm sorry but what exactly do you have to offer aside from your wife? And what will you do to make them trust you? I think you must know this is not great. This small extract is the most worrying and would have me running for the hills, along with the lack of vision + not verified. ".....you can appreciate set limits, you're good at listening and knowing he is in charge,..." it sounds controlling and no man controls me. I have no interest in driving my point home. Happy to have my say and leave you to ponder 👍 But you did say you have very few contacts that lead to meeting, it's clear you need to change your approach, so all the sugar coated crap above isn't going to help is it? You can be defensive, and insist on continuing the way you are, or make some changes and be proactive in getting it working. Up to you

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  here are blunt yes but I have no tolerance for deception within couples profiles or any other profiles for that matter

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  there are a lot of men who fantasise about this sort of thing and start couples profiles without the knowledge of their wives. If you are genuine and new to it as you say, you can take baby steps towards the things I suggested, but would certainly suggest you rethink the male scribe/control stuff, and definitely suggest adding a lot more pictures. If you really want to meet people, sell yourself

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  CB_n_Hawtgirl

  7 years ago

  I_touch, thanks again for the input. You made your point quite clearly. Thanks for the advice - Posted from rhpmobile

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  AnnieWhichway

  7 years ago

  A bit been said about the control statement. I think everyone accepts the male partner will be looking after his partner in all aspects and ensuring she is comfortable at all times. It doesn't need to be stated so could easily be deleted from the profile which may lighten it up. You are in physical control even though your wife will be mentally, emotionally in control via you.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Reading your profile a little long winded. The Humour was good. As mentioned putting too many limits can really be of detriment to your play options. Being a bit more open minded I have personally found Some really great guys who I would not normally look twice at. I got into this with a never leave any stone unturned attitude and it has worked. I am polite (even if not interested) and reply to every flirt and every message clearly stating if I am interested or not. Get verified it makes a big difference and just add a photo of yourself on the profile. If I was interested in meeting a couple I would like to see a body pic at least of him and one of you together to know it is a real profile. My ex husband was always in Control of the Picking of the playmate so to speak and used to arrange and screen mostly without my knowledge. I hated it and didn't have a lot of say in any of it. So please make sure you involve your wife in all aspects including the screening and some of the chatting. Maybe you already do. But resentment believe me can destroy trust when both parties aren't fully involved in the decision making. Good luck in your search for that ever elusive needle. I hope you end up finding more than one!!MB

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  CB_n_Hawtgirl

  7 years ago

  Thanks AnnieWW. Yes you're right, despite the text coming from me she is definitely in control of things. And it probably is a given that I would be the protector but clarity on our profile and in our play is essential for her...though perhaps it can be softened somewhat with some trimming and/or better wording. We can work on that along with some more pics...something for me to look forward to. :) Putting the time aside and making it more of a priority might help also...this thread has exposed the reality that we are probably hoping to stumble across the needle in the haystack rather than searching for it...maybe this gets back to I_touch's advice about selling ourselves more. Thanks again for the input. - Posted from rhpmobile

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