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Nil response to messages
May 09 2014
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gccouple1709
11 years ago
Yeah, it does happen a lot. It WOULD be nice if everyone had the courtesy to at least reply with a "thanks but no thanks". Unfortunate really.
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RHP User
11 years ago
at one stage I replied to every msg n flirt. it was like a full time job. I gradually just answered the ones over 40 and then got so I only answered ones that appealed to me. I suppose I got a little over it. I guess it is a little rude of me but I am trying to sometimes be polite to ppl who are really crass. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
We can write one or a few up and use them at the click of a button.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
:D
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RHP User
11 years ago
Templates are a good way to reply quickly. That's an excellent suggestion, Peachy. That's understandable, Leanne. Single do appear to get a lot more attention here. Upon Re reading the post, we feel we should also qualify "grumpy". We think"miffed" would be more appropriate. xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
To the wonderful world of rhp,where to some ignorance is a virtue to others its its an embarassment im sure you will find your way and distinguish between the two - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
they aren't interested. Why is a 'thanks but no thanks' so important to you? Its the same thing - you know where you stand either way. I would say just move on, dont let your emotions or ego get involved. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I find it "interesting" that people have the time to read messages, view profiles but not respond. I understand that women may be inundated with flirts and messages. But how long does it take? A "NO" is 100 times better than silence IMO What goes around, comes around. Simple Disclaimer : I am far from perfect !! lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
It seems to be all part of the new age swinging scene. If somebody doesn't like your profile, it's their way of answering you. It's way too hard for them to be polite and reply to your message, even though it doesn't cost them one. Just shows what type of person they really are!
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RHP User
11 years ago
as I said on another forum post, we do not reply to messages from people that have obviously not read our profile, people without pics and (with me being a bit anal), won't answer to people who say r instead of are, and use ewes ...ie "how r use", and rarely do we answer to messages from people 5000 kms away.. Cheers Durty
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RHP User
11 years ago
Let's be honest, we all know how this site works. Pick out some hot profiles you like, message them, see how many replies you get. To expect a reply from everyone you message is unrealistic. Some women are getting huge amounts of mail and it would take several hours a day to reply. They may not be acting rude, they just don't have time to sift through all the crap and write a reply. Some people take all this too seriously.
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I actually used a quick reply the other day for the first time. Then I was called a time waster, I thought using a quick reply was better than no reply, but apparently not.....damned if do, damned if you don't....
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was told by men twice recently that I shouldn't have replied if I wasn't interest, because (according to them) I was just confusing people. They're wrong, I'd say about 90% of the time men will send a message back thanking me for my response and wishing me all the best. OP, I've written five template replies. Which one I send depends on the original message I receive, but they're all nice.I just have to click two buttons and voila. Being polite is free.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Interested*
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' I was told by men twice recently that I shouldn't have replied if I wasn't interest, because (according to them) I was just confusing people. They're wrong, I'd say about 90% of the time men will send a message back thanking me for my response and wishing me all the best. OP, I've written five template replies. Which one I send depends on the original message I receive, but they're all nice.I just have to click two buttons and voila. Being polite is free. Two clicks tells me your a nice chick. Simple
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RHP User
11 years ago
I note that it's mainly single guys that are barracking for no response... I accept that when a message from a profile that is waaaay different to what is asked of in your own profile, it can be a bit frustrating, but a simple "thank you, but we're looking for something different." is appreciated. We've certainly done this before. As we said in our original post- The main exception to our thinking here is single women. We know that you get inundated with flirts/messages/everything so we are extra grateful when we receive a response there AND super extra grateful when we get a positive one. At any rate - thanks for the feedback and happy days. G and C xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'CountryCpl4' I note that it's mainly single guys that are barracking for no response... I accept that when a message from a profile that is waaaay different to what is asked of in your own profile, it can be a bit frustrating, but a simple "thank you, but we're looking for something different." is appreciated. We've certainly done this before. As we said in our original post- The main exception to our thinking here is single women. We know that you get inundated with flirts/messages/everything so we are extra grateful when we receive a response there AND super extra grateful when we get a positive one. At any rate - thanks for the feedback and happy days. G and C xx Maybe the guilty parties do not want to own up to there behavior?? Maybe?
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I was single I tried, but sometimes it is hard too, I found that it is good to send another message and few months later and ask them to say interested or not and we will never bother you again, it does work most of the time:) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
why reply if the flirt or message is from someone that does not fit the criteria that is in our profile ??? we get a lot of messages from mainly single guys that dont fit what we want and obviously just shoot a message off after looking at pics without reading the profile .So NO we will not reply if they are outside of our criteria.
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RHP User
11 years ago
From the perspective of a sender, I always work on the premise that the reply will be no so I am pleasantly surprised when I get a positive reply. I have received some very nice rejection messages, including some with constructive criticisms I have taken on board. I still appreciate the effort people make (even using a template) to be polite in responding. On a slight variation on the OP, I get some people checking my profile on a regular basis (like almost clock work each week). I send them a message noting their interest and wondering if they want to meet. I get no response but they continue to check me out regularly. I don't understand why they are so interested in checking my profile but won't take the next step of returning my message. Does anyone know what is going here?
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LifeUnscripted
10 years ago
Honestly we try and reply to everyone who writes to us. But we also get a lot of single guys who write messages, when we clearly indicate that is not what we are looking for. No problem with that, they can definitely write, and who knows, you might be the one in a million profile that makes us stop, lol. But we aren't going to reply to every message when there are so many, and they are clearly not what we are looking for.
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RHP User
10 years ago
We've missed the occasional message and sincerely try to answer all that we receive but sometimes it's not intentional to not reply whether we are interested or not. We both work crazy hours and although it's not an excuse it is, alas, our reasons. When we do realise this oversight and respond we've often got a hostile response. Damned if you do damned if you don't:)xoxo
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