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No fat chicks...
March 23 2019
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Rlee552
6 years ago
Perhaps do not use the phrase ‘no fat chicks’. Imagine how someone reading that might feel. Does it come across as disrespectful, insulting and demeaning? I suspect if you said that to someone’s face they may react adversely so why put it in writing and expect a different reaction. Can you alternatively phrase your preference in a respectful polite way? Perhaps express what body shapes you adore (petite, svelte, athletic etc). Frankly though you are a male on this site. Unless your inbox is completely overflowing with demands for sex from people who do not fit your preference preventing you from focusing on all of those demands of women who do match your preference, why bother. You always have the ability to say no to people who do not interest you. You even have the ability to ignore them.
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MissRedFox
6 years ago
Well go on and put it on your profile It will help me in my desire to avoid superficial people XX
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
You could It’s your profile and you can say what you like. But personally I prefer to focus on what I do want, rather than what I don’t want. It wouldn’t offend me. That’s fairly hard to do. I’ve had men tell me I’m too thin, not busty/curvy enough. Who cares 🤷♀️ I can’t be everyone’s cup of tea.
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
There are even events that don't admit "fat" women, or men (definition varies). However, while anyone is free to have their preferences, you can choose to write in a tone that shows either more or less respect. "No indians", etc shows up a lot. "Preference for caucasian appearance" might be a better option, just as one example.
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ArtsyLusttty
6 years ago
Who says that he does not want to go to S&S ball full of fat chicks.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Everyone has penchants, ones that wet their knickers and the shrivelling opposite. I would ask you, what is fat to you? Define it in terms that are kind. Ask for what you like but don't be a self-entitled bratty moron. Above anything else. Be kind. Women are reminded several times a day how 'imperfect' they are. Mrs F
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RHP User
6 years ago
Is an indicator of how you think..it's a reflection of you.By saying "No fat chicks" it speaks volumes,and would probably be very off putting to those intelligent conversationalists that you say you seek. Q
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Mischeviouslad
6 years ago
Words..... can be selected You may say “no fat chicks”... .... when empathic people with at least basic EQ simply say “thank you, but no” when others who don’t fit your criteria contact you See the difference?!
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
I think I know where you are coming from OP. It is not really the profiles of real concern to me, they are just words. What is and where the line is drawn is looking at ourselves first and to stop putting ourselves and others down. We are accountable for own own choices and actions. In other words, love ourselves first, the rest will follow and attract. Everyone is unique, individual and like what they like. I really don't give too hoots what people have on their profiles (they can write whatever they like/dislike) or think of me. It is not until I have met them face to face, then I'll decide. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'MissRedFox' Well go on and put it on your profile It will help me in my desire to avoid superficial people XX Dude - there are profiles that clearly state No, Arabs, Asians, or Indias... Men have feelings too man!
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PassionFreaks
6 years ago
What have you got to loose 😃🙄
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RHP User
6 years ago
Firstly, if you read the original post - I said I don't care about that stuff. The title was purposely contentious to get people to read the finer points... which are. Should we just be blunt and be done with it. Basically, women can write anything on their profile, be height-ist or racist and it's ok. But the second a man says anything he is automatically considered the devil... The double standards are SHIT!
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RHP User
6 years ago
Ive seen profiles stating they are after people with gym bodies, one asking for " no oldies" and yes, people stating which race of people they dont want to attract. I wouldn't use certain words though..... people do get offended. Oh and the ones stating they dont want anything under 9 inches. Rules out 90% of the honest guys right away :)
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Seachange
6 years ago
Anyone can write anything in their profile to either entice people they are attracted to or repel people. The point of putting their personal preferences to play with caucasian males or females is totally acceptable. You should not take it personally. I'm Asian Aussie but I can't force myself onto someone who is not attracted to my race. Too many other fish in the ocean.😉 By stating ' no fat chicks' in your profile does more harm to your chances of meeting people as it just reflect someone who is crass, boganish and insensitive. Definitely low in EI. Personally, I'd stay away from someone like that. Be respectful, kind and be a person of integrity. Don't you think that is more attractive?
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DynamicCouple36
6 years ago
The real reason for your rant ? Is this really about “ fat chicks” or is your rant due to the fact that you have been turned down due to the colour of your skin ? You are coloured various and not Caucasian? Pulling the race card are you ? Coming from RSA you really should know better. Ja, nee!! Nothing about fat chicks on your profile though, unless you have deleted that ?
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DynamicCouple36
6 years ago
PS If one does not find black, Indian, coloured, Asian people sexually attractive, does that make one racist ? We all have different tastes do we not ? Are we entitled to have different tastes ? If we don’t find you attractive, does that make us racist ? Simply because you are a person of colour?
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The_Antichrist
6 years ago
If the statement is in alignment with your moral compass....and it’s not up to anyone else to tell you if it should be or not... But assuming it is, any person that is offended by it is merely not ever going to be compatible with you.... And to be honest, why would anyone care if some random stranger thinks you or anyone is shallow?? Fuck em, it’s your journey, not theirs....
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RHP User
6 years ago
In most cases, preferences are learned from a young age based on what people see and are used to. Such preferences are often difficult to change. Unfortunately, there is plenty of racial stereotyping in online dating (which starts when you set up your profile and select your race) and it would be ignorant to say there is no racism in online dating when it exists in society. Ofcourse it isn’t nice or respectful to express preferences in a rude/racist way. Those who do are people to steer clear of. We don’t tolerate people saying “no black men” or “no fat chicks” in real life, so we shouldn’t accept it online either. I think online dating sites should have a responsibility here. Personally, I accept that many men won’t be attracted to me because I’m a bigger woman (or a “fat chick”) and not Caucasian. Does it bother me? No. They’re just not for me and I’m not for them. No use wasting time trying to convince them otherwise. If they’re rude about it, that says more about them than it does about me.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
A great bumber sticker back in the 70s and 80s. Proudly displayed on the back of panel vans. Funny about the fat cunt driving the fucking thing.
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Rlee552
6 years ago
OP, you complained about double standards, and I accept you are deliberately using an inflammatory phrase to try and illustrate your point. I imagine you are suggesting what is good for the goose should be good for the gander. That all we need to be is honest. I don’t know and do not care if there are double standards. The only standard that matters is the standard we should aspire to be, not the lowest standard others use. Don’t use descriptions that you would not use to your Mum, sister and your daughter. If I criticised my Mum like that she would burst into tears, my sister would tear me a new one and my daughters would not respect me as a man.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Just say politely that if you don't have the potential for going home with severe pelvic bruising after slamming them for hours and hours and hours...you're not keen. May be worth adding that this is something very important to you if you're planning on only pounding and grinding from the backside until they scream in ecstasy you don't want to get whiplash from bouncing all over the place. Semantics, man...it's all about semenantics! That said, it is almost impossible to cop a good boobie fuck from a boney chick with itty bitty titties. ʗɱ
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RHP User
6 years ago
Your response is very sjw beta male. It's weird to me that people do not read the entire post, pick up one line and go bonkers. Alas, that is the internet for you. Not playing race card. Merely highlighting the double standards. For the third time - I don't care about weight or age, and certainly would never put something up like that on my profile. The point is - saying must be Gym bodies, over 6ft, must be +9", no oldies, no <insert race> is the exact same as saying "no fat chicks" People have the niches and preferences. Completely accept that. I reckon RHP should have automatically blocking based on these preferences so that a profile is not view-able to those that don't match. It would save a lot of time! And the beta makes a great point. We would never talk about or to our family like this - or friends for that matter, but here we are online free to do as we wish. Based on the comments however - do as you want on RHP and don't get offended. I can live with that huh. Was interesting to get some points of view on this. Cheers.Quoting 'Rlee552' OP, you complained about double standards, and I accept you are deliberately using an inflammatory phrase to try and illustrate your point. I imagine you are suggesting what is good for the goose should be good for the gander. That all we need to be is honest. I don’t know and do not care if there are double standards. The only standard that matters is the standard we should aspire to be, not the lowest standard others use. Don’t use descriptions that you would not use to your Mum, sister and your daughter. If I criticised my Mum like that she would burst into tears, my sister would tear me a new one and my daughters would not respect me as a man.
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
No issue whatsoever. Im a fat chick and not unrealistic. I know the majority of men won't look sideways and will be turned off but I make no bones about being who I am. Nor do I mince my words with what I am attracted to in a male. I state Caucasians only. So why shouldn't a member write "no fat chicks" if that's not what they're seeking. Some will take offence at the word and that's their issue at the end of the day. Your profile, your words. Simple.
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
You are probably right. I agree somewhat. Yes, I have seen "double standards" a lot over my time here in the forums, on profiles, at my workplace etc. There is double standards everywhere in our communities. It is applied in different ways to different people or groups. It comes down to core values and morals. What is your core values and morals is different from others. It is peoples attitudes and behaviours, likes and dislikes that make it unfair. It would do my head in if everyone all thought the same and liked the same. I have in my head what I want and don't want. But the reality is, getting everything I want, just wouldn't feel right. It would be too perfect. I do like perfect imperfections. Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Irrelevant. The OP has not stated (in this forum topic) anything about the S&S Ball or stated he will not go because of "fat chicks" nor has he shamed anyone or name called a person for being a "fat chick" in this forum. A private conversation posted for all to see in the forums is not cool. Ms Foxy
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Rlee552
6 years ago
OP you asked for a honest conversation and you asked where we would draw the line. I have been explained where I would draw the line. I can only speak for myself. I can control what I do. I have listed what I consider to be respectful behaviour and which recognises the dignity of others. Clearly, as part of that I do not use other people’s standards to define mine. I understand you also speak for yourself and need to do what is comfortable within your own moral compass. I also respect t yours and everyone else’s rights to do so. So if I came across as judging you and my language was a bit loose, that was not my intention and I can appreciate that being seen as an attack. I apologise for that. If this annoyed you though, can you see how language on the internet can easily offend people and perhaps they may misinterpret your comments as well, or what other people put in their profile. 1. I understand you are not saying you would use this term. That is why I referred to an inflammatory term to illustrate your point. Given you have said you would not use such a term, I assume you have good reasons for not doing which may similarly come down to respect. 2. Yes, the internet you are free to do what you want - within limits. And expect to see those limits tightened over time - such as enhanced vilification laws. 3. People use the argument all the time - saying x is exactly the same thing as saying y. Or all I am being is brutally honest. I do not think that is a good justification. I assume the phrase shy beta male was intended generously as a comment, and will accept it as such. Thank you.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'NaughtyCam' Your response is very sjw beta male. You forgot 'cuck' and 'soyboy'
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deepestpurple
6 years ago
Truly bizarre behavior. You don't like what you don't like just like everyone else which seems to be your point. Why are you then here asking strangers to tell you that's ok? Do you ask other people permission to consume oxygen as well? Get some esteem ffs. Why do you need to put anything? Are fat chicks clogging up your inbox to the point of making it unusable for you? I doubt it. Does it just offend you that they thought they might have a chance with your majesty? I suspect so. Just ignore those who don't interest you like every other normally maladjusted person on here. You could try and be compassionate and reply with a "thanks but no thanks" but judging by the tone of this post I highly doubt you have the empathy skills for that one.
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deepestpurple
6 years ago
I see now that you do not personally have a problem with fat chicks, only that you're offended on behalf of other men who might be and you presume that they would be judged differently to women who also specify their preferences. And you've intentionally used "contentious" (I would have used "insulting") language to get people to read the finer points. (Yes I often find insulting other people is a good way to get people to hear you out) Then you throw out the beta label and this is where it gets fun. You initially state that you think it should be ok for people to be explicit in what they don't like, in fact you suggest it would be preferable because it would "save time" (yerr right) but then you also remind us that "men have feelings too" like whining child with respect to women who have preferences for certain races. This is incongruent on your behalf. You also claim to totally fine with fat chicks yet the language you use, certain inside info leaked by Seductress and the illogicality of this OP strongly suggests that you aren't. This leads me to conclude that you simply don't have the social confidence to state what you truly think and you are here, must like my first assessment, to have other people tell you that it is ok. These are not the actions of a man with a strong self confidence who is control of his emotions.
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Swingingnudist
6 years ago
Yip put it in, at least people know you are being honest and upfront. I ran parties and weekends for swingers and put must be height and weight proportionate. Copped some abuse but got lots of positive replies and attendees loved the parties. Funny how society says we can't say anything about fat people but skinny people are fair game. Qld hospitals can restain a skinny bulimic,anorexia person to the bed, nurse watching 24hrs but can't do the same to obese people.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'Rlee552' I assume the phrase shy beta male was intended generously as a comment, and will accept it as such. Thank you. sjw = social justice warrior. Thrown around a lot on social media and other forums / media as an insult. For some reason, certain people think think that caring about social justice is a bad thing and a character flaw
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RHP User
6 years ago
No dingbats should apply! No. I don't think we should start being honest in our profiles. And, I don't know about others but, I'm weary of gender warfare and generalisations here on RHP. To all those people that want to include selection criteria on their prolfile, work away. It's your brand to do with as you will. I don't have to bother myself at all with you just as you don't have to with me. It's funny how out in society we have a very astute eye and ear for quickly discerning our attraction to other people. Without being rude or judgemental we can manoeuvre our way around people without having to explain why there is no attraction or chemistry. I don't know why there is a need here on RHP to be so obviously selective but, again, each to their own.
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Rlee552
6 years ago
@snapdragon Lol. You have been a source of learning for me today. I had to google soyboy, and then do a rapid countback to work out how many times I had sex before marrying my ex-wife. She wasn’t my first sexual encounter but probably was the first time I had truly spectacular sex (that I can remember). I will wear sjw with pride. I like that as a term.
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The_Antichrist
6 years ago
RHP does in fact have automatic blocking.... It’s user activated....
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RHP User
6 years ago
We all are attracted to our special preference. Polite way of saying things though. I’m not a thin woman size 14 which some class obese to some , I describe little extra in my profile . As a Bi woman I’m more attracted to a smaller framed lady, hypocritical I know . Be truthful, polite, respectful.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Xanthea here. I would be interested in parties that cater for different sizes. It would make us feel more comfortable. I have listened to many women say how hard it is for larger sizes and wished to crawl under the table. All sizes should be encouraged to be themselves. Plus sized parties and those that cater for the petite are both needed especially for the over 30s.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'flowing45' We all are attracted to our special preference. Polite way of saying things though. I’m not a thin woman size 14 which some class obese to some , I describe little extra in my profile . As a Bi woman I’m more attracted to a smaller framed lady, hypocritical I know . Be truthful, polite, respectful. Some actually class it as athletic. I would say average or curvy depending on breast size. I love an hourglass figure. I am more worried about making self-conscious women feel worse about themselves.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Yap, too many rejections, be clear so we dont waste others times fucking around.. 😂😂😂
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RHP User
6 years ago
Just found this on a profile "Not interested in Indians, Asians, blacks, anyone over 6’, or hairy chests." Love it!
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RHP User
6 years ago
Just found this on a profile "Not interested in Indians, Asians, blacks, anyone over 6’, or hairy chests." Love it!
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RHP User
6 years ago
No one over 6'? I understand the opposite?
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0z_boy
6 years ago
Whaddaya expect? Women are fussy creatures. Unlike most males, crikey I even saw one guy today with his age preferences set at 18-99!Wholly fuck how does that work! (woops, that was you) hahaha Ok nothing to see here folks, move along :D
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hahaha. And another one... "I dream of a tall fit (not necessarily muscly) Caucasian man who can be my cream to his cookie... " I love blantant racism on RHP.
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PassionFreaks
6 years ago
Who knew. Might be time to get that chip off your shoulder. Ms PF
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RHP User
6 years ago
Different cultural differences may scare some people off. E.g. some cultures consider women as men's property. I can see how some women would wish to avoid that. Not racist just self preserving.
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0z_boy
6 years ago
Get over it! I have seen plenty of women's profiles stating that they only want big black uncut cocks Did I get upset? No. Did I cry Racism? No! Did I consider booking in for a fake penile tan?Well I did momentarily but visions of a large uncut kingston carrott did not appeal :D
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platinumcherry
6 years ago
No Fat Chicks huh ..well you sir have just dug your own bloody grave and I must be the only white chick in here lol mehhh... Listen you know I don't like you or your profile all people from different races are beautiful in their own unique way accept people for who they are you don't like fat girls lol fat girls don't like twats..
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Who is your post directed at? Ms Foxy
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
Wtf platinumcherry???
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RHP User
6 years ago
Fat Chicks Rock 😘
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0z_boy
6 years ago
fat chicks rock, skinny chicks rock, old chicks rock, young chicks rock, dumb chicks rock, chicks just rock! :D
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RHP User
6 years ago
You could use a more pc term like for example people with exercise allergies need not apply?
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RHP User
6 years ago
Ooh I love that term - exercise allergies. I may steal it😀😈
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0z_boy
6 years ago
loose your minds 👉😵👈
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0z_boy
6 years ago
Quoting 'Playerunknown68' You could use a more pc term like for example people with exercise allergies need not apply? Chicks with exercise allergies rock as well.
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scooter1986
6 years ago
Fat chicks do more. Most not all Indian blokes can be quite abusive. Based on the fact a few girls have been with them and the indians have abused them in more ways than one.... Point in fact I don’t have any problem myself with bigger women obviously.... they can’t be too big coming from my own tastes but a girl with meat on her bones
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jess4623
6 years ago
Why not use the words, height weight appropriate or prefer slim to medium sized. The English language has so many different ways of saying the same thing and helps avoid conflict. Imagine that....
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twowithnolimits
6 years ago
yes the English language i shuge one o fthe words is fat, here i found it in the dictionary adjective1.(of a person or animal) having a large amount of excess flesh."the driver was a fat wheezing man"plump, stout, overweight, heavy, large, solid, chubby, portly, rotund, flabby, paunchy,pot-bellied, beer-bellied, dumpy, meaty, broad in the beam, of ample proportions,Falstaffian; Moresynonyms:
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Hottits
6 years ago
Hey. Well l am a bbw and its not real nice to say that by the way. . But l do got lots black or asia guy just want to say hi. But l am not rude to them. What about with bushie cock & balls that is just so gross.
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
Quoting 'scooter1986' Fat chicks do more. Most not all Indian blokes can be quite abusive. Based on the fact a few girls have been with them and the indians have abused them in more ways than one.... Point in fact I don’t have any problem myself with bigger women obviously.... they can’t be too big coming from my own tastes but a girl with meat on her bones WTF happening in this post ? Talk me through it? Fat chicks do more what??All I can say is the last line has a Hannibal Lecterish ring to it. Taste, meat....
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Hottits
6 years ago
Well l am a bbw woman and l like it the way l look. I dont like been call Fat woman . If you dont like larger woman dont sent flirt or chat with us on redhotpie.Yes l have few love handles all over my bbw. I wants chat with someone here today. He told me l was very fat. How do you think l feel about that. I was really hurt. So l blocked him. And he did not like bbw saw why chat to me.??
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doesitwork001
6 years ago
I wonder how many people actually read your whole post before commenting (on just the first line)? 😂
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AndLovingIt
6 years ago
The only time you should use "politically incorrect" language is when the context indicates that you don't mean to offend. "fat or skinny.....luv 'em all" Even that statement will offend some but im happy to push my luck. And as twowithnolimits said, words are there to be used😊
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RHP User
6 years ago
We all have our own preferences and if we aren’t that persons cup of tea, it’s unfortunate and sometimes sad. But nothing we can do. I class myself as fat, I don’t jarticularly like what I see in the mirror, but everyday I go to the gym and I try harder to improve myself. But for me. I want to enjoy what I see in the mirror. So if I saw that, I would avoid you. The amazing thing is though, I have had amazing, regular sexual encounters with incredibly hot men who definately seem to enjoy my good points, and are happy to ignore my flaws. They make me feel beautiful and motivate me to keep looking after myself. We just have to keep searching until we find someone who turns us on and who we want to get naked with. I find less is more. I can usually ascertain from the first few sentences of conversation whether I am going to be comfortable or want to get naked with someone. But if I read a profile that seems judgmental or angry, I will avoid getting to know that person.
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RHP User
6 years ago
If your fat, I’m adolescent.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Bbw women are the best and you look hot there lost my gain maybe lol
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OkeyDoke45
5 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' A great bumber sticker back in the 70s and 80s. Proudly displayed on the back of panel vans. Funny about the fat cunt driving the fucking thing. That really was the golden era of bumper stickers, and all the cars (utes usually) with ''come sit on my face'', ''pussy magnet'' stickers were almost invariably driven by men who, umm, need not ever worry about getting too much pussy.
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RHP User
5 years ago
A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. 2 girls, broken car, no one stopping.
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0z_boy
5 years ago
I got a dig bickYou that read wrong You read that wrong too. hahahahahaha👀
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