M48
No luck
November 26 2015
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RHP User
9 years ago
Theres a meet and greet lunch on Saturday 12th December. ..... its up on the events page. We usually get around 20 turning up, so heres one way of meeting new people, who in turn, will introduce you to more people ....Hope you can join us
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think your profile is brief but fine, you look great from the 1 picture on there....however I had to laugh at your comment "No fruitcakes, weirdos, bogans or nut jobs please". I'm not sure, but girls may be worried you may label them (one of those names) if they don't meet your expectations. But to me, it shows good humour lol Maybe a few more pics and a bit more in your profile, particularly what you are looking for. Just my thoughts....good luck Jono :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
9 years ago
I say of the following for myself only, not speaking on behalf of anyone else........your profile seems ok up until the last line where you say "no fruitcakes, weirdos, bogan or nuts job please"! I very much dislike people name calling others, even if it is only a statement of expression! And to list those "names" in your profile, it is a turn off for me. Also, I would still turn down your message anyway, even if you didn't have the names calling statement because, I like only 1-on-1 sex and to see that you don't have that option ticked, I would assume that you are not into 1-on-1 sex. However, I would still reply with a "thanks, but no thanks" message. Ignoring messages is not an acceptable behaviour to me as I see it as a disrespect! Hence, I always reply back to say yes or no, except for the customed flirt message that says: "I just want to say that I loved your profile". With that specific flirt message, I don't give any response because it is unknown if the sender would appreciate a message from me or not. Therefore, in order to respect boundaries, I just leave it as it is 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I never met anyone off this site until my first meet & greet, which was a few months after joining. So that is your best bet. It is much easier to make connections in person. Eventually the connections you do make will lead to others, etc etc. Buy a year's membership if you haven't, it's better value. Stay the course, consider any advice you get, you'll be fine :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Geez we've been on here almost a year and a half and haven't met anyone through messaging. By that rationale our hearts should have upped and left our bodies long ago :( Get out and about. Meet people. If you rely on messages to meet people you're not gonna have much fun here. I haven't looked at your profile but if you're a single man looking for single women or even couples the odds are greatly stacked against you before you even start. Make some introductions in person, make a good impression and take it from there I'd suggest.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Can't really fault it. Maybe describe more of the people you seek. More description in there and you can do away with the fruit cake line. Maybe a nice diccy pic. Ladies love that...............just joking
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
I agree with the comments above about perhaps providing a little more info. If you weren't so far away from me, your last line would count me out, as 3 out of 4 of those descriptors apply to me (I'll leave you to figure out which one!) apart from that, I canst offer much help. Good luck though! :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
http://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/The-Ten-Commandments-for-writing-a-male-profile-48927 Especially this bit: "Do feel free to say what you’re not looking for, but stay positive." My tips: get rid of any negativity and then go to the Meet and Greet Koko mentioned.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I really like your profile pic!
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RHP User
9 years ago
This is for the advice guys ang gals x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
but you not so I cannot
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Crackatini
9 years ago
Be patient - Like Koko said go to the meet and greets- and other social activities. Contribute to the forums and even the chat room. If nothing else you will meet new people and create new friends. Messaging random female profiles borders on a waste of time in my opinion. I'm sure even posting in the forums has already sparked interest. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
If you never send a first message like this one i just got, you'll be ahead of the pack lol it went something like this, but i'm not quoting - Love a sexy cougar to eat me up right now. Pity you can't see my 18+ pg but have a look anyways. Can i see yours - omg my response and i will quote this "let me get this straight, you want me to eat you up and see my pg? Hmm no thanks" . His reply was haha great story bro. Wtf sorry still laughing about this one, had to share. Important to know what not to do as well as what to do haha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Is looking more attractive at this point, i just said hey babe as i walked past, i could see it checking me out - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Also offered his cock for mmf threesome, yep offered his cock lol my oven is looking good for that, thanks anyway - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'PatchworkGirl' I agree with the comments above about perhaps providing a little more info. If you weren't so far away from me, your last line would count me out, as 3 out of 4 of those descriptors apply to me (I'll leave you to figure out which one!) apart from that, I canst offer much help. Good luck though! :-) - Posted from rhpmobile I'm definitely curious...scrolling back to re-read the options! Scratch Bogan..? You don't strike me as such. I suggest nothing else...
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RHP User
9 years ago
I would reply to your message. I agree it comes down to respect in regards to replying. Common courtesy is s dying skill nowadays. Mmmm wonder if my inbox will have a message ?
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RHP User
9 years ago
why me too ? I think My profile is fine too but no one message me ..maybe somebody hates me ? -Missgorgeoustee
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lovman8
9 years ago
I'm find myself wishing I was a bathroom furniture item!!
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Well.... clearly Im not your target market..... and I have no idea what the part of the world you live in is like from a social stand point........ but from what I've seen.... there are some changes to be made here. Ditch the profile pic. Guys standing in their kitchen/bathroom/bedroom/gym*... posing in their undies.... dime a dozen in here and it doesn't send a good message. (yes, I've seen some guys complaining in here, and they're the desperately narcissistic try hard type to take a pic in their undies in a public frikken gym, for fucks sake). And you know, your one public photo has a toilet in the background, right?!Seriously!?! Your written profile is brief, and has a whiney undertone as if you expect the website to support you. You don't say much about yourself, but at least you don't offer up the usual sexual resume of biriong cliches most guys like to use to sell themselves. So I suggest you sit back, have a think about who you are, what you want... and put that to paper.Also, take a look t the "competition"... so to speak..... see what they're doing wrong... and don't do that. Good luck!
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Bazingal
9 years ago
Sadly I can't make it though. Good luck xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
You seem well travelled. Your photo seems to pop up far and wide around the world!!
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Supernova
9 years ago
Women will always find something 'wrong' with your profile, if they are not physically attracted to you, simple as that. But they - and guys too - don't want to submit, or admit, to superficiality. So, they will try and *find* a reason in your profile as to why you may not be getting responses, and they'll come up with all kinds of *ideas*. None of them will work. If you're visually appealing in the pics department, women will read your profile and blurb in a totally different light. Just get feedback on your photos, don't worry about the written word so much. My responses got heaps better when swapping and changing my photos, but changing what I write/wrote makes almost no difference!!! You'll be alright, it's just a numbers game, keep being yourself!!!
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
You seem well travelled. Your photo seems to pop up far and wide around the world!!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Meander likes the OP's profile pic, Mischieviouslad does not. I wonder which opinion Jono will go with? :-P
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RHP User
9 years ago
I know, right? What's with all these fake women posting suddenly?
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RHP User
9 years ago
except I won't make any analysis on the pic... My initial response didn't seem to work so I'll try to remember it as best I can.... Your profile lacks personality....you're writing a profile that projects WHO you are....allow the reader to read it through your words; not have the mental painting painted for them.... You have the right idea about what you're after and that's awesome; just re-write it using your personality.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You're making the fridge jealous
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RHP User
9 years ago
I agree with DG on this one. *sigh* Your profile in general is quite bland....there's nothing in particular wrong with it (at least not now that you've taken that awful fruitcake line out), but there's nothing that really makes it stand out either. You're competing with a lot of men on here, if you don't put in a bit of effort you end up blending in with all the rest. The undies selfie in the bathroom pic does look like hundreds of others on this site, making it black and white doesn't make it any more interesting to me. But obviously some women like it and in the end it's up to you what you think best represents you. I would at least crop out the toilet, but then again women do think more about things like that than guys generally do.
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
That's the one I picked as not being really me too - although someone who caught me at home on a lazy Sunday afternoon may disagree! ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
I thought about the toilet. Its my female side i guess.....
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Nowukas
9 years ago
Hey mate, I was in the same boat as you to begin with. Always polite, put effort into first messages etc but very little responses. You have to remember to that the volume of letters that the lovely ladies on here receive on here is massive so it is very easy to overlook a decent message when it is in with 300 other messages asking "Hey, wanna fuck!". I have found as Koko mentioned, going to the meet and greets is a great way to meet new people, who inturn introduce you to more people. You will find that there is a pretty big close knit group of friends on here that spans the country and once you are lucky enough to begin making friends with them you will find that your experience on here is so much more enjoyable, as I have found mine to be. There is alot of amazing people on here that are well worth the time and effort to meet, but in saying that there is also unfortunately alot of the undesirables as well, but don't give up, stick it out and you will have some amazing times. At the end of the day if I find myself getting frustrated, I just think Nowukas!!!!!!! Have a good one mate!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Haha the fridge has seen some stuff, faces the kitchen bench lol I catch it blushing sometimes - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Op Why did you remove your main profile pic, huge mistake. Fuck the people who have toilet hangups, I'm starting to look at my toilet in a different way, blushing, guests need to see you. I know guests are considered scum of the earth here but we're not, we're just poor lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You're a sick man, that's why we understand each other right? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm overwhelmed by the responses. Wow. I didnt realise it was a competition ha lol. Anyway I've taken advice changed the bogan blah. I'll change my pic also. End of the day it's prob easier to go to a meet. I'd rather do that as I'm face to face sort of guy anyway. Ps Meander message me any time and if you're in Perth wow xx Bye for now J x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Fuck the people who have toilet hangups, Fuck you right back.
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RHP User
9 years ago
On previous topics about pics many women have suggested that men pay more attention to the background and surroundings... toilets, dirty clothes, dirty mirrors etc. Many women notice these things and they contribute to an overall impression of someone, right or wrong, online you only have certain information to go on at least initially. I also said that in the end it was a suggestion, so I REALLY do not appreciate being told to get fucked by someone over it. If you want to have it off with your toilet that's fine and I couldn't give a rat's arse, but don't abuse other people who have simply contributed to the topic in a polite way.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I didn't mind the toilet in the OP's pic, as I liked his pose, the black and white and even the floor. It was different from most bathroom selfies I think in that respect. I agree that women notice backgrounds more, and toilet seats that are up, towels on the floor, a dirty mirror or crap everywhere turns me off too. The best: women's toiletries on "single" guys' sinks. (A close second: bathroom selfies where you can tell a guy couldn't be bothered to take his pants off and just pulled them down). Good luck, OP!
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RHP User
9 years ago
that notices bathroom cleanliness, articles and the like.... I think it says a lot about how compatible I am with someone....then again I'm a clean freak lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
How to take interesting toilet selfies, check out sexyozzies.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
No need to take your piccy down. I think we all thought it very good. Comments about the toilet is just us saying how to fine tune the small details and perhaps increase your experience here. You can take on board all, some or nonen of the advice. But whatever the advice, the picture you had up is better than the grey ghost.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Know the feeling OP. I have to say.. This time around on rhp it's been bad. Was here a few years ago and my god, it was on for young and.. Wait a minute. I was younger then so.. Maybe there's a connection 😬 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Come along to the Meet and Greet? Not too far from yourself? xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
I do think you need to be conscious of your surroundings when taking photos.. Bathroom is not ideal.. Any feedback on my profile is welcome x - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
9 years ago
Quoting 'Nowukas' Hey mate, I was in the same boat as you to begin with. Always polite, put effort into first messages etc but very little responses. You have to remember to that the volume of letters that the lovely ladies on here receive on here is massive so it is very easy to overlook a decent message when it is in with 300 other messages asking "Hey, wanna fuck!". I have found as Koko mentioned, going to the meet and greets is a great way to meet new people, who inturn introduce you to more people. You will find that there is a pretty big close knit group of friends on here that spans the country and once you are lucky enough to begin making friends with them you will find that your experience on here is so much more enjoyable, as I have found mine to be. There is alot of amazing people on here that are well worth the time and effort to meet, but in saying that there is also unfortunately alot of the undesirables as well, but don't give up, stick it out and you will have some amazing times. At the end of the day if I find myself getting frustrated, I just think Nowukas!!!!!!! Have a good one mate! Not having read all the comments above, I would suggest very strongly to go to meet and greets even if it is a social thing. Great thing about the meets is that you get to put a face to a name and that you actually meet and chat to the real person, no bullshiting. you are able to evaluate upon chatting if you have a connection, an attraction or lust. better that endless ping pong emails? Hey, if nobody takes your fancy, consider it a nice social night out, better than sitting at home all alone? Take Nowukas word... I have met him at the melb meet, altho he doesnt remember me much because he was hammered before 8:30 but at least I got to laugh at him and with him afterwards in the chat room. I am a single female and go to the meet on my own. it can be fun. people are friendly and it is not an orgy... So banish any fantasy of scenes from Caligula. Lol Good luck. Be patient, put in some hardwork (like all of us) and try to take some positives out of your experiences here. Have fun. xxx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Interesting thread ! I'm only new on here too and yes I thought I'd have more success. I've had a couple of reply messages but def no chance of meeting up with any of the fine females on this site. I'm certain my profile might not be as spot on as most here but I'd rather not over promise and under deliver. I'm a great guy, and a good looking guy who just needs a little more intimacy in his life. Would I be silly if I thought I was the only one ? I guess what I'm saying is there's plenty of competition on here it's only a matter of time before I strike it lucky.
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tylannister
9 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' How to take interesting toilet selfies, check out sexyozzies. I think the 'critique my dick pic' site is a must read for guys in this day and age.
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RHP User
9 years ago
There's nothing wrong with your profile Jono, but nothing much interesting about it either. To be honest, I think you'd have more response from the same profile on a site that was more 'dating' specific. That's not a criticidm, just a frank observation. Again, being honest - I get zero approaches from any other profiles, except for the occasional wink compliment from women outside my criteria - which I always answer politely. I find it's better to actively engage people by messaging ones you're actually attracted to, by makng forum posts (as you gave), by getting in the chat room and lurking for a while to see how conversations flow, by turning up to meet and greets if you're keen, and otherwise being pro-active. My profile these days acts mostly like a business card I can point people to who I've met through the networks of other activities I get up to in order to connect with people. All of that, plus - it's a long game, my friend. I've had a profile up for 3+ years, and met some fabulous people, but some of them haven't turned into 'encounters' until after a year or two of knowing them online. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I can't begin to count the number of times I've mentioned that site here. Best ever!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid' Take Nowukas word... I have met him at the melb meet, altho he doesnt remember me much because he was hammered before 8:30 but at least I got to laugh at him and with him afterwards in the chat room. I hope he's ok with you mentioning that?
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Oldie1954
9 years ago
It takes awhile to get things happening and when you are my age it is even harder. I have been here for quite a few years and have had mixed success which has led to some memorial fun times. So keep plugging away and don't be afraid to review your profile from time to time as you work out what is working and what is not. I totally agree with Sweetgem "Ignoring messages not an acceptable behaviour". People think nothing of reading and sending 100's of texts to each other daily but find it difficult to respond to a message. It only takes a minute and if it is only a Thanks but no Thanks at least the sender knows where they stand. So try some social decorum and respond.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Dont worry youll get used to it i consider myself a pretty good package but. I have found once time comes to exchange numbers or organise a meet. Bam dissapear wtf..i think the idea that i would meet up was enough to get some off. HmmI have been lucky enough to catch up with a few really good people though. - Posted from rhpmobile
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solrose
9 years ago
Trust when I say Miss wild81au that we can't wait............ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Coupleupforfun1' Any feedback on my profile is welcome x Missing pics of the Mr.
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Lighthorseman76
9 years ago
As others have said its not a sprint it's a marathon. You may not get a reply message from everyone ( i also think its rude not to message back with a no thanks) I certainly Haven't, but have also been a few positive replies back that have ended up either with good conversations or meet ups. I just take it as it comes and see where it takes me. good luck
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yep! Couples are more full of themselves than singles. They want the extra cock then BAMMM vanish. No luck is an understatement most weeks on here - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
9 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'lilyorchid' Take Nowukas word... I have met him at the melb meet, altho he doesnt remember me much because he was hammered before 8:30 but at least I got to laugh at him and with him afterwards in the chat room. I hope he's ok with you mentioning that? He is ok with it. It has become a running personal joke with Nowukas and a lot of the people (ie chatroom friends) in the chat room, i.e. he He is cool and funny. We always joke about it and make fun of the situation. No dramas there, so relax. Why? do you think there should be?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Enough drama at work today :-P
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Quoting 'hateundies' Yep! Couples are more full of themselves than singles. They want the extra cock then BAMMM vanish. No luck is an understatement most weeks on here I think I found the problem.
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Nowukas
9 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'lilyorchid' Take Nowukas word... I have met him at the melb meet, altho he doesnt remember me much because he was hammered before 8:30 but at least I got to laugh at him and with him afterwards in the chat room. I hope he's ok with you mentioning that? I am most certain that it is common knowledge by now anyway, so it doesn't phase me one bit lol. I am usually the first person to laugh at myself anyway, so if you can't beat em, join em hahahaha
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Hotstepper85' Women will always find something 'wrong' with your profile, if they are not physically attracted to you, simple as that. But they - and guys too - don't want to submit, or admit, to superficiality. So, they will try and *find* a reason in your profile as to why you may not be getting responses, and they'll come up with all kinds of *ideas*. None of them will work. If you're visually appealing in the pics department, women will read your profile and blurb in a totally different light. Just get feedback on your photos, don't worry about the written word so much. My responses got heaps better when swapping and changing my photos, but changing what I write/wrote makes almost no difference!!! You'll be alright, it's just a numbers game, keep being yourself!!! This is the most accurate response.
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's just not finding the right match straight away
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