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No picture, no reply? What happened to quid pro quo?
August 19 2011
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xFunlovingx
13 years ago
If a guy messages me and has face pics in his PG...then I do EXPECT access along with the first message! < If a guy can have a pic on MSN or his phone...then he can also have it on this site! I do not need to be giving out my MSN or number just so he can send it to me! < IF I am interested in meeting a guy and find that he is what I am looking for, then in my first message to him or in my first reply...he will get access to my face pic in my PG! < Simple! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
The problem is that not everyone who has no photo is a con. Some people have no photo because they're inundated with suitors otherwise. You really take pot luck around here mate. All you can do really is get out and about and meet people.. or say hello in the chat room to find out of they're genuine.Nice Boxers btw. HugsStalky
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RHP User
13 years ago
In our humble opinion people with no pictures at all are just not serious about meeting people. Some people tell us they dont want work colleagues, family or friends seeing them but a few body shots in public and a clear headshot or two in a locked PG isnt hard to do. Do loss any sleep over this issue indi76....there are far worse things to worry about.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I totally agree with stalky. It is not at all as easy as would think to meet people one on one, face pic or not. Even if they have one, who is to say that it is really them. Another way to meet people is to attend one of events such as a meet and greet night or a private party. Attending a party may be difficult, as for some reason, single men are treated like lepers and are not invited to many private parties. There are a few on in the next few weeks that are catering for single men, so put yourself on the guest list.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I agree- It is hypoctritical and I totally agree with Mr and Mrs 40...they aren't serious in our mind anyway! Mich x
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RHP User
13 years ago
Nothing wrong with your pic Indi! xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Never understood why anyone would show pussy/cock pics and then bury their heads. I don't demand a face shot because I don't mind what people look like but I think the thinking is "if I am going to fuck someone they had better be good looking". I agree that there should be a free exchange of face pics if you are going to do more than say hello.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I reckon the same if u don't want to be recognized just put a body shot on but put ur face pics in private and make it clear and recent . Is that too much to ask? I don't think so!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi Guys, We have seen and experienced both sides of this discussion. We do not post pics, because these images can be captured (event the ones in the Private Gallery) by anyone and show up in the most embarrassing of circumstances, with huge reputational risk to the people whose pics they are. We have also been deceived by others who have posted pics which are obviously very old when we have met the couple - so we place very little store in pics until we cam or meet people We both have very high public profiles and are involved with a couple of charities - so we will not take this reputational risk. We are happy to webcam with people and have done so on many occassions to verify that we are both real people, many people however are not prepared to use later model technology to verify whom they are talking to and we believe thes people are mainly picture collectors and will not play that game. We are real people and are also happy to travel to meet people which is a demonstration that we are genuine, so lets all move past the pic thing, use later technology (webcam) that way we are dealing with what people currently look like. We are also non judgemental but do not like to be deceived by old pics. That is our 2 cents worth - we are happy to webcam and to travel to meet people but the No Pics no reply is usually (we believe) from pic collectors - have a great day all - J & Pete
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RHP User
13 years ago
Stalemate when one side won't give Checkmate when both sides are open to sharing
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well, after reviewing all of your comments (which I'm extremely grateful for too), it suggests good arguments on both sides.I completely understand where AdventureAlways are coming from as I've very quickly learned on my brief time here that disingenuous members exist in vast quantities. Sighs. Exposing oneself to these members (fakes, frauds and scammers) is less than 'savi'. Perhaps, being a straight shooter and not really having too much to hide, up until now I had failed to put myself in their shoes. In saying that, I'll maintain the guideline (not so much a rule) to steer away from those profiles absent of any images and continue to consider those with them, much more seriously. Cloak and dagger may work for some... but not for me. I like to know that there is in fact an image of the person on their profile. Sure, they could be posting images captured from 'whereever' suggesting they are someone they're not... But not unlike Funloving and Justafunbloke, some image on their profile and a few recents in their Private Gallery, to be exchanged through messaging seems to be working for me right now. Those who demand images when they don't have any themselves, no matter what their motivations, suggests a dynamic that's probably not going to work for either of us... So getting back to what 40isfun commented, I won't lose too much sleep over it.I guess I'm still a punter here and this discussion helped a little. Appreciate the comments and feedback to all involved.Indi.
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RHP User
13 years ago
In my time here I've had a lot of requests to see pg's when it's clear the asking member (yes I do mean member as in dick lol) has not one, in their profile or pg's. Since childhood we've been taught that, I'll show you mine if you show me yours is a pretty cool time honoured tradition and heck it even works as a big kid. It's reasonable to assume that if they want a look, they need something to show right back, not hard is it?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi D_G_T We know what you mean, and as we have stated before we do not send out pics because these images can be captured and reproduced with very nasty consequences. We have never asked to see pics but prefer to meet people, if people are happy to open their PG that is fine, but we never ask. We have also bee deeived by pics that we sent, which were obviously quite old when you meet the people and also the pic was a number of clothes sizes smaller than the real person - it is this type of deception used by some that is the reason we take little notice of pics anyway I have just been through an incident where a video Skype call was captured, they photoshopped my head onto the body of a person who was masturbating and then this person tried to extort $1000 out of me by threatening to send this virally through You Tube and directly to my Facebook contacts. Not a very pleasant experience, I can assure you. This incident was last Tuesday night Have a great day all - J & Pete
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RHP User
13 years ago
Interested to know if you have actually met anyone AdventureAlways?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hello 40, Interesting comment, yes we have met a lot of people and made some fabulous friends from RHP, it is a great site and the majority of people are (like us) non judgemental. We also host regular events at our place with a number of people we have met on this site, why do you ask the question?
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RHP User
13 years ago
That's more than just a little frightening. Well you do what you need to make yourselves comfortable, and hey if it works it can't be all bad
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just interested to know if anyone would show up for a one-on-one meeting without having any idea what you guys look like. A party situation is totally different to a private meeting of course.. ......we would never meet anyone without some idea that there was going to be an attraction of some sort, just seems too risky if you are where nothing like what we are looking for. But thats just us......if it works for you good luck.
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RHP User
13 years ago
As said before, there are strong arguments for both sides. I believe people place too much emphasis on profiles and pics. Both can be false. People are too judgemental and fussy. I think the best way to go is to meet someone face to face in a public place and see where you go from there. You will soon know if you want to meet them privately.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi Indi...I've not put a pic up this time round is only due to my trade i get to meet many peeps ( im a cosmetologist and barber)also i have a son..who is a tech head..He knows about many sites..need i say anymore?..lolBut i keep a pick in private gallery.So in my case it's,you show me yours first.HEYMUMMA ps my dear friend girl tuesday..soooo please yr here
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xFunlovingx
13 years ago
Quoting '40_is_fun'Just interested to know if anyone would show up for a one-on-one meeting without having any idea what you guys look like. A party situation is totally different to a private meeting of course.. ......we would never meet anyone without some idea that there was going to be an attraction of some sort, just seems too risky if you are where nothing like what we are looking for. But thats just us......if it works for you good luck. When I first got the net I did meet a guy with no pics at all. He was from Brisbane and we had spoken on the phone many, many times! When he came down to spend a weekend with me, I was all excited when I went to pick him up at the airport and couldn't wait to have my way with him! He got off the terminal and recognised me (as he saw a pic of me), and when he approached me and told me who he was...I was SOOOOOOOOOOO disappointed...he looked nothing like I imagined! He was in the Air Force and as the base is only around a 20 minute drive from the airport, I took him straight there and never called him again and instantly blocked him when I got home! NEVER, EVER AGAIN will I meet a guy with no pic! < Now I go that one step further and refuse to meet a guy unless I speak to him on the phone AND see him on cam! No cam...no interest! It is amazing how many guys drop off when you say you won't meet without seeing them on cam first! I do this as twice now I have been fooled by guys who had pics up on their profile that wasn't even them at all!! Don't forget the guys that have really old pics up of themselves as well! I am here for sex and like to meet for sex and not meet in public to "make up my mind"! I like to meet and go for it! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi 40, MSN video is hard to capture - or I used to think so, but after what happened last week i am re evaluating that, and we always offer to chat to people on there so that we can all see who we are. We are prepared to travel to meet people which is a demonstration of our Bona Fides, but be aware there are a lot of pic collectors around. Besdies there is more to attraction than just looks, it can be personality, wit, jokes, sense of humour and much more that you can never glean from pics Have a great day all
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RHP User
13 years ago
I would reply to your pic :) pity about that Victoria living thing you got going on :P I dont mind no photos first up, but those blank genertic profiles get a delete before screening attraction is a must in this game in my opinion, I am looking for someone to knock my socks off
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RHP User
13 years ago
not that my opinion is worth a wet slap, as i'm a guest and don't get many hits anyway, but my modus operandi with pictures is no identifiable bits in the naughty shots, and nothing particularly risque in identifying pictures.. being of the not-particularly-straight persuasion, i tend not to put a face pic up front either...the ones that make me giggle have the faces obscured, but show off perfectly identifiable tattoos, etc...cheers,R..
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