RHP

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No satisfaction in the click 😊

January 17 2016

Something happened last night that has left me wondering and perplexed lol My phone rang at 10.45pm. Private number. I don't usually answer private numbers, but thinking it may be one of my kids needing me, I answered. It was my ex....its been 3 years lol it wasn't a nice parting. I've never seen or spoken to him since I threw him out. More the lawyers at 10 paces scenario! He was in a live in relationship within 2 weeks of us parting, and as far as I know still is. Now this has happened to me twice. With 2 of the 3 of my past long term partners. Wanting to rekindle the sex....years after the horse has bolted! The third is the father of my children, we've always had a great relationship, even after we parted ways. And in March we are sharing a villa in Thailand where our son is getting married lol (the kids think this is hilarious and I have to promise not to get pregnant lol) as if 🙄 haha I am at a complete loss as to why they would even make the call.....(seriously they have been wtf! Moments! Lol) my response was "what do you want?" , "are you kidding?" & "hell no!" And I wished that I had an old fashioned phone that you could slam back into the cradle lol (clicking end call just doesn't give me the same satisfaction haha) Have you ever made that call to an ex years after all contact stopped? And if so why, what's the reasoning behind it? Or have you ever received that call? Tell me I'm not alone lol

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Firstly, I see stay in contact with my ex for a little while after we stopped seeing each other (amicably), and saw her again once. This ended once she found herself someone new. However, I did recieve an sms from her about a year later, which was just a polite message wanting to know how I was. Mainly because she knew things had affected me. So nothing like a booty call!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Yes... the good old fashioned slamming the phone down works a treat. If you have a landline you can still probably do the equivalent. Especially with say... telemarketers and/or scammers? :)

  • lovebitten

    lovebitten

    9 years ago

    The first wasn't a call but rather a letter from my high school boyfriend. He had found out from a mate of his (who went to uni with me) that I was engaged. It was basically begging me not to marry the man I was with, that he wanted to marry me. I rang him and told him that wasn't possible and had a good discussion. Sadly my marriage was very unhappy and I often wonder 'what could have been.' Nearly every other boyfriend has done the same to me, sometimes months, sometimes YEARS down the track. One bloke cheated on me with a girl, got her pregnant twice, and now rings me telling me how miserable he is, and regrets leaving me. Not much I can do about it lol!! A few I have been open to but nothing ever eventuates. Generally there was a very real reason why things ended, and things are best left in the past. There is one ex I still dearly love would welcome back with open arms, but sadly I don't think that will ever happen. We were off and on for a few years and I've come to the conclusion love does not cancel out other circumstantial problems. Lovebitten xox - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    People change over time, due to where life leads them,bad memories fade making the good ones come to mind more often. Sometimes you look back and smile and think "yeah that wasnt such a bad time in my life" . So maybe your ex's remembered the good stuff. Or on the other hand, they are hoping for a booty call. Lol. Im back in contact with an ex, because I couldnt forget the good part. Could be the wrong move, but I feel good about it. So just rolling with it.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    All three of my exes found new partners in record time,one was before we broke up,the others a matter of weeks..Unforgettable me..Not 😝xxFreya

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I am sure there would have to be a phone app for the old fashioned click. Has not happened to me but I think willow hit the nail on the head with the change thing. Quite often amazes me when I've heard this. People thinking they have changed can somehow block the shit and pain they brought.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    My ex husband, about 18 months after we had separated, amidst applying for divorce (which he was well aware of) wanted to know when I was going to stop playing games and come back. I had never indicated or led him to believe that I was ever going to return and I had started seeing someone else when this call occurred. When I told him I was never returning he demanded to know where he stood in my life. Life was much more peaceful when I moved interstate.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    My ex used to phone me for relationship and sex advice when she was having problems with the new guy. My stock answer was, "you have no right to ask me that. We may still be friends but not if you try to involve me in your new relationships." She did a couple if more times and as a result, sadly, we are no longer friends. She called me a month ago after 2 years of no contact and wanted to get together, as tempting as the thought of great sex was, I said no and hung up. Moving on should be moving on

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I know how you feel, as would many here. You can only control what you can control. Thx for sharing .

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    a few weeks ago.. haven't been together for ten years! I said i wanted to leave things in the past - keep the memories the way they were :) I was curious but eh.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Well those sorts of messages from your past are nice ones 😊

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Oh that's bad! I caught mine up to his balls in my best friend in my house while I was home.....lol god knows what possessed him to call me after those shenanigans lol you have to wonder hey! 😊

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Yes people change 😊 This one will never change his spots though lol got to say I haven't missed him once lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    That would be a bonus! Haha

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I'm sure they remember you fondly and with more than a little regret 😘

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    A true trait of a narcissist is not caring about the pain they cause. It all heals with time, but does make us more cautious of who we trust and let into our lives going forward. I've got to say after the shock of hearing from him I just shook my head and laughed it off 😊 Life is too good to care to much 😊

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Sorry to hear you went through that. It can be very trying when someone just doesn't get it. Being at peace with it is very freeing xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I suppose you could look at it 2 ways, she either trusted you and your judgement but didn't realise she was crossing boundaries or she was rubbing salt in the wounds. I hope it was the 1st 😊

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    It blows the wind out of you when you realise who it is on the other end of the line! But after that initial shock it just left me bewildered and laughing in disbelief lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I wasn't the least bit curious about his life now lol but I do wonder why he thought it was ok to make the call 😊