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Non enthusiasm
April 10 2016
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
It's not all about you. Not being there, dunno if you give out as much praise as you expect. But in my experience, you get back what you give. I praise and i get praise. You do a good job, you usually know it anyway. Its the things that dont need to be said sometimes. But if you need vocal appreciation to make you think you did a good job? Maybe im being harsh, maybe its the way i read your post. Apology if it is. Just my view as i read it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm with you op, it's all about us, I expect to be worshipped seriously, I do
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RHP User
9 years ago
We always thought that as a straight couple, who invited a guy into our mix, it was all about me too. I hope your hubby is leading the way in the appreciation stakes, I know mine did. I'll never forget the time the other man sharing me expressed that I tasted like springwater. Delish! There's a few other memories, lol. And yes, the sort we want to hear to get our ah, creative juices flowing. hehe, Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
the way you want them to. Some ppl say its better to say nothing if nothing nice to say....maybe its that? - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
After all, the spare guy is just an instrument or toy.......
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RHP User
9 years ago
I can't say we ever had a guy say he felt like an instrument or toy (not one who didn't want to anyway, hehehe) and judging by the requests for repeat performances, they were happy enough too... Besides, I made sure they get some vocal appreciation and otherwise for their troubles. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'd try to get some sense of the person/people you're thinking about meeting and try to get some idea of their sense of enthusiasm before meeting. It could be a lot of guys are not all that verbal? Lol, that's an impression I've often received from posts in the forums. Another impression is that some guys are just jerks. Again, I am only assuming you are talking about guys, I could be way out of line. Peachy, hope I'm being of some help. :-)
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Thats my point. If its a threesome, foursome or moresome, team effort. Well done everyone hopefully.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't know enough from the small write up to base anything on really. I can only make guesses. But I'm certain the lady is not getting what she wants out of the experience in the way of vocal appreciation. There are so many potentialities about what is meant by vocal appreciation for eg. I'm guessing it's about guys by the phrasing. And guys aren't always that vocal, specially with those follow up calls, right. Hence what I hope is useful advice to the OP (original poster). It's the problem solver in me. Peachy ;-)
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RHP User
9 years ago
it not all about you do you please him to make him feel wanted
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RHP User
9 years ago
Some men are just rude and they are after a root 'n boot. I have been in group play at clubs where men have just got up and walked away after they have blown their load. So rude. Otherwise, I would say some men would be unsure how your partner might handle a lot of compliments from another man, so to be safe they don't say anything at all. So maybe Annie is right and you have to start the process to let them know comments and loud groans and moans of appreciation are... Appreciated! Lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
Maybe you're just looking in the wrong place. 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm not part of a couple so my circumstance is different, however, if they're not enthusiastic, aren't gaggin for me and wanting to 'jump my bones', I'm not interested. Not everyone needs that full on communicated interest or validation in a way, but I do. It turns me on and builds sexual tension, but I'm also vocal about my desire for them, so it goes both ways, before, during and after if appropriate
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks for your comment, constructive and otherwise.... I realises my rant did give little to go on, thanks Peachy for adding assuming and guessing, yes my hubby is leading the way, indeed 😝 I also expect that in a meet with intention to play, one would put their best foot forward, perhaps refrain from a big night out the night before? Up there with the showing of appreciation, I thought these things would be common courtesy...?? I thought I did have a good enough feel for the person, we had been chatting for a couple of weeks, our schedules preventing an earlier get together... I felt we all had expressed our wants and needs in our chats and got the sticky impression on the night, I had met his.... IMO it's a privilidge to be invited to enjoy and worship another persons body, that's just how we roll :)
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
My take. A single guy brought into a couple's intimacy is facing a fair amount of stress. Performance anxiety. A close knit couples togetherness. Social anxiety one out. And hes expected to worship/ vocally ramp up the Mrs. If anyone needs a bit of help is him. But sometimes the couples maje it all about themselves. I'm just supporting the single male (rare l know). But everyone needs to validate each other to make the meet a success. Its not all about the woman but of course she needs support too.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I like the way you've put it there Annie. As a possibility, I hope it's something the OP takes on board if that is the case. Because I do know what you mean. Cheers, Peachy :-)
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RHP User
9 years ago
I hope I did not offend, lol. I was more thinking about encouraging the other guy to express himself. :-D And yeah, we had a visit with a guy like that once. He'd chosen to spend the day training and was worn out for what had been planned as an overnighter. We thought we'd done okay with the getting to know each other process including meeting for a drink before going ahead and making this date too. Better luck next time. Peachy :-)
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RHP User
9 years ago
I appreciate the honesty of the forum, thanks for your follow up comments Peach, Annie and I touch.... I'm with I touch on this one, it's sexual, it passion, it's supposed to be hot raunchy and fun.... And yep if you're not gagging for it.... Rackoffski!!
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RHP User
9 years ago
I find that behaviour appalling,... Thanks and I do agree, having reflected on it, again I thought I was crystal clear in my wants, I can understand a mans nervousness and perhaps a little unsure of how to act, but IMO if unsure discuss it first up to set boundaries, and make everyone feel comfortable.... It's a raunchy invasion of space, if you're putting your dick in my mouth, you can have your hands on me telling me, how hot my mouth feels , ooooohhh aaaaahhhh, well I think my point is across haha
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RHP User
9 years ago
Everyone has their own expectations on how they want their erotic fun to play out which rarely ever does, in saying that when u invite someone (single, couple, whatever combo) the one ingredient that should be there in abundance is enthusiasm. It's probably best known as passion, eager to please, just a basic liking to give n recieve pleasure. For me our raunchy fun is not intimacy, that's saved for when we're alone where we can gaze onto each others eyes n whisper our deep love for each other ;-) for me it's more a real time role play, an erotic sticky drama, a moment when all involved are more animated, basically either bring ur game face or u risk sitting on the bench :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
That not everyone is are like pornstars.....except tennis players.....they seem to orgasm every time they hit the ball lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Your post was about one guy. I took it as a broad comment about guys. Agree. There a few, inconsiderate ones about. Better luck next time.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hahaha always wondered why the tennis players did so much oohing and aghing 😀 eye on the prize like me maybe?
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PurePeony
9 years ago
Quoting 'raunchyduo2' Thanks for your comment, constructive and otherwise.... I realises my rant did give little to go on, thanks Peachy for adding assuming and guessing, yes my hubby is leading the way, indeed 😝 I also expect that in a meet with intention to play, one would put their best foot forward, perhaps refrain from a big night out the night before? Up there with the showing of appreciation, I thought these things would be common courtesy...?? I thought I did have a good enough feel for the person, we had been chatting for a couple of weeks, our schedules preventing an earlier get together... I felt we all had expressed our wants and needs in our chats and got the sticky impression on the night, I had met his.... IMO it's a privilidge to be invited to enjoy and worship another persons body, that's just how we roll :) ... that sentence I've highlighted - being considerate for others and giving them your best because you are respectful of their time. Sadly, decorum and etiquette like that is rare these days. Hell, sometimes we even get people turning up to work evidently hung over. *rolls eyes. That's getting rarer in today's economic climate where joblessness prevails and people are desperately holding on to their jobs if they have one. I totally agree with you and I get your drift. Agreeing to play does not mean an open invitation to be used and then discarded and tossed aside. That might not have been the intention of the other person, but by not expressing appreciation, it certainly feels that way, eh? It's strange but I have come to learn that people here aren't good at showing their appreciation verbally, generally speaking. I've found Americans, South Africans, Filipinos and Brazilians very appreciative people to work with but with big city Aussies, the Greek Aussies, Italian Aussies and Aussies fresh out of the rural areas do tend to be more expressive people. Not sure why but it is an observation I've made. It's a mix of culture, upbringing and personality, I suppose. If you encounter one who's verbally appreciative, he's a keeper. Otherwise, if it bothers you a lot, you could always move on, leave them on the cold-shelf and slam the door shut behind them. Figuratively speaking, of course. ;)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes, the difference between ho him yawn 😴 and taking you to a better place is passion, no doubt. Sadly, some just aren't good at that. The ones that are, are worth waiting for 😃
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RHP User
9 years ago
lol ho hum I meant, not ho him 👍
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RHP User
9 years ago
forgot to say that passion isn't whether it's hard and fast or slow, it's not about that, it's about the person and how they come together with you in that moment. It can be a gentle touch on the arm, fingers running down the arm, a warm/tight hug, combined with things they say, things that set your heart racing and build sexual tension. In the moment, I like when they give me time to breathe them in, when they do the same, when you KNOW they want to be there. The communicating in the lead up is very important for me also, it's usually a sign of how the meet itself is going to go. If they can set your juices running verbally, good chance they'll do it physically, not always, but most times for me
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