RHP

RHP User

F63

Not Guilty

December 18 2011

I recently received a phone call from a very irate lady. I had been speaking online and via text message to her husband. I didn't know he was married as his profile stated single. l apologised and said l can only take people at their word that they are single. She made me feel quite desperate and l found myself justifying why l am on a dating site. I have since thought of hundreds of things l should have said. l did feel for her but l know l wouldn't hurt anyone on purpose. Has anyone else had to deal with this?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    She's yelling at the wrong person isn't she !!!!! and probably how the lying sack of shit gets away with it too, she never yells at him. You couldn't have known, don't take the insults to heart xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I got abusive messages both through here and emails from a girlfriend of a guy I've been talking with. I just blocked the guy and moved on. If the guy is lying about being in a relationship he isn't worth it. As the girls often say...... NEXT!!!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I'm a guy and I still don't understand what makes some people (I suspect more men than women) lie about this. It's bad enough to go behind a partner's back but also, just from a purely practical standpoint, there are plenty of who would probably still cheat with them if they'd just been honest about it in the first place.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    yea been there too..we had a guy who we were all set to play with...until his girlfriend rang me at 1am, angry and abusive...seems she'd read the guys emails and did some investigating.... we copped flak for weeks, a half dozen abusive and threatening emails ( hells angels we coming for us lol), and random phone calls...... all because her guy was a lowlife sleaze. just made us more paranoid about who we play with.....we changed phone number as a result.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    She's just venting at the person she can do it to without reprocussions. I do think there are signs to be found though if you ask enough questions and pay attention. I have had to "dispatch" a woman before who thought she was in love with my husband and no i wasn't very nice, although i know for sure (being on the other side of the planet) that he didn't fuck her. I'm very protective of my family. you fuck with my childrens security and i will hunt you down. That being said, if you didn't know you didn't know and as you said you would never knowingly hurt someone( which is to your credit) then there's nothing you can do, some whores just don't care. Don't take it personally, you made a genuine error........she's just protecting her family. You probably aren't the first and won't be the last she has to go after. hmmm...I'm in a fiesty mood today!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    A few years ago I had an FB who I had met out in the real world. We were booty calls on and off for maybe 6 months and he had made it quite clear that he was single.About 2 months after the last time I saw him a woman called me to ask me if I knew him and had had sex with him. I said yes. She told me he was her boyfriend and I said I would never see him again. She got rude and I hung up.Then... a few weeks later a DIFFERENT woman called me to ask me if I knew him and had had sex with him. I said yes. She also told me he was her boyfriend. I asked how long and she said two years, so I told her about his other long term girlfriend. She started crying and it ended up being a very long conversation with me consoling her.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Irresponsibility, that is an awful story gawd what on earth do those types get out of all the hurting?

  • uneventful

    uneventful

    13 years ago

    to have a play / throw away phone number .. that way .. if or when you get phone calls from irate wives or g/f who are venting at the wrong person ... you simply notify those you wish to keep contact of the change of numbers when you pick up a new sim card ..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    for me personally, to as much as I possibly can, ensure I'm not in a situation where anyone else will get hurt.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Happened to me too, this guy was working away from home. Even gave me a fake name when his wife phoned me she was going off. I kept telling here I didnt know who she was talking about because I didnt. She then asked about another name and I said yes I did know that person, apparently he had been all over the country meeting different woman. I was lucky I had met him for coffee and a meal and hadnt gone any further. I do wonder what happened.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    My wife & I have had bi-guys meet us for coffee that are supposed to be single, but few very well placed question in the conversation sometimes works, whiles chatting just slip a question in: how does your wife feel about sex with others... They answer without thinking... then just say I thought you weren’t married, 9 time out of 10 they will say you miss heard them... Its bullshit and they know it... Onlyme666 you have not done anything wrong it’s the cheating arse hole that is wrong........ We had a guy’s wife come to our home and have a go at me, saying that my wife was a slut and she was fucking her hubby.. but this back fired on her as I tool her that her so called hubby was fucking me not my wife as he clamed... she lives in QLD now don’t know where he got to and don’t care ether....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    these are just other reasons we dont play with attached guys. the shit they can bring with them just isnt worth the energy.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    l had been feeling quite pathetic. l usually tend to read most people fairly well. This man gave me no reason to be suspicious. I could text him anytime 7 days a week. Thankfully l didn't meet with him. l do request no married or attached men on my profile. Thanks again x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Just remember there are plenty around here who have single on their profile and don't give a damn about your request for non married/attached guys. They just care about getting their end in.