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Not many straight couples.
May 17 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
Couples who have a bi side are often more than willing to meet straight couples. (Hey if they werent rhp would not be half as exciting as it is) You will always discuss the rules before your play date, and it is always better to meet couples for a drink first just to see if you click. For us at least, its not always about the physical act as meeting people with similar sexual desires and limited inhibitions is all part and parcel of the lifestyle. Meeting some one you know in a swingers club shouldnt be a problem, after all they are there in a swingers club also..... We also found after drunken conversations with friends of many years that they also dabble in the scene. But again doesnt mean we are about to jump their bones.....It takes time, and being your first time sometimes it can put your prefered couple type off, so you may need to compromise and be alittle more open to guarantee a positive first experience. enjoy!
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Paradisepair
13 years ago
Try couples with experimental girls, I think you'll find they'll be waiting for you to make the moves, which of course, if you're down as straight they know means you won't be making any.
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Paradisepair
13 years ago
You won't get the bees without some honey. Why isn't there a photo of him, however abstract, in your public photos?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi Chocolate,Our first experience was at a club and you may (or may not) find that it gives you what you want - we have been a couple of times and never bumped into any we know from the non-swinging community. Our thoughts were that if we saw someone we knew, we would have someone to share our secret with without fear of judgement - after all, they would be there for the same reason as you.However, we found that the club scene isn't for us at all and to be honest, you're just as likely to find the same 'problem' there as you are in the RHP village. And in our experience, the RHP scene allows us to be more discerning about our choices in partners. But we know other people who prefer to rock up to a club and not have the 'hassle' of reading profiles, exchanging messages, arranging meets etc. Horses for courses and all that jazz but for us, putting in that effort has been entirely worth while.Keep in mind that profiles are not always what they seem. For example, I have bi-curious (I think) on our profile. And to me, it means just that. I'm open minded but my preference is for men and I'm happy to only have straight encounters. Many profiles are the same. Also, we've had exchanges where the lady has been fully bi but just as happy to keep it 'straight'. You don't know if you don't ask. Make sure you look and read profiles carefully; often you'll find that were very clear preferences exist, they are stated in the text and if not, they may be open to the question.I also think it depends on what you want to get out of your swinging - are you just looking for random one offs, or are you looking for something more like a couple you can play with more regularly and build some trust and friendship. Each kind of experience offers something different and there's nothing to say you can't have a little from column A and a little from column B.Good luck!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Unfortunatly when your a couple looking for other couples. Particularly two straight couples. You have 4 peoples preferences to satisfy. Often it has nothing to do with personality its just a particular preference (look) that each person seeks and they can be very different from person to person. So its shallow but many including our self will our self will decline taking things further based on this as a first step.For example we might send a message to a couple and the male might not be attracted to girls with smalerl breast's or Asian features. so as a couple they would decline. Just have to have thick skin and move onSome could happen if the girl wasn't interested in slim build and preferred a solid body or tats or dark hair. She would decline us as a couple because I wasn't her preference. Once again i don't take it personal.The girls can be super fussy and at first it may seem shallow. But when you think about what they are potentially saying yes then looks plays a huge part as there has to be that initial attraction. I know we have had some contact before and I cant remember Jane's reason for not taking things further was something very superficial as it usually is.Just keep looking you are a attractive couple and should have any trouble finding what your looking for . Tim
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QLDtwo4fun
13 years ago
Relax and hang in there, it may take time to find a couple where you are all happy to play, just be upfront about what you want before you meet. There are a few clubs in Brissy, try a few till you find one you like. They are all different, so don't be put off if the first one you try is not for you. Clubs don't guarantee you meet someone, and you aren't under any pressure to play. There is way less uninvited groping and being hasseled for sex at swingers clubs than other bars and clubs. If you do run into someone you know, what does it matter your all in a swingers club. What are they doing there anyway? We once ran into a woman we had seen the night before at a club while we were shopping with the kids, she just gave a smoldering smile as we passed on the escalators. Very sexy very discrete.
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RHP User
13 years ago
We have met some fantastic straight couples from this site :) It can be done , it just takes patience! I agree with Tim , pleasing 4 people tp the point of everyone being equally attracted is tough! My husband is the fussiest man alive! He is hard to please for meets as they can be not great ( people not who they say they are etc) but he will go to clubs !
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RHP User
13 years ago
if you wish to meet couples......for the both of you, why then are there only pictures of her, in your public gallery? fix that.....it will help. send the message that its both of you, or the focus will only ever be on the woman.... and hey, if you dont like clubs, dont go there..........
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thinking more,It really is a numbers game to and the odds start to really stack up when you consider all the points where things can come to a sudden stop. Given it only takes one cross in one persons list from any of the four people involved and things don't go anywhere no matter how the ticks are in the other boxes. For example the four people could be all keen after swapping pg's and saying yes yes yes yes to the PG swap then one readsinto the others profile and discovers that one person is a regular smoker ........the hand brake comes on and that's it's all over . It only takes one small thing! If you get past the messaging on RHP stage. This is only to gets you past stage one and onto stage two. Meeting in person. Then the game starts all over again with four people who's personalty's have to all gel. At one stage we actually turned off couples on our profile all together. As Jane was always so particular about her male playmates. What we did though to create a foursome was we found a single girl and Jane found a single guy and we invited them both around and all played together as a foursome (created your own couple I guess LOL)Given all that though. We have found some couples where things work out well but if your particular don't expect it to be easy and it could take contact with 100's of couples to find a match. It is worth it when you do though.Tim
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RHP User
13 years ago
Don't worry, you'll find plenty of couples to keep you busy. Your profile states what you want upfront & you're willing to supply pics to the right people - can't ask for more than that.For us the bi subject is one of the first topics that comes up when making contact, she makes it clear of what she wants to bi-curious/sexual girls. If people really want you, they'll play straight.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hey guys your comments have been very helpful to us,we have made some adjustments added more facial pics and changed our Bio's.The reason why both of us haven't got pics on the public vault is we are so easy to recognise when where both together, she's very dark and I'm Bald and White,I also have very distinctive tattoos that would be easy for someone to spot.We have young children that go to school so we need to protect them from any naughty things we do.where more than happy to trade pics with the right people.I suppose where not looking for a long relationship with anybody,just a few wild nights here and there to make us feel young again.We have been talking very openly about it lately,my Desire's her Desire's and where both quite comfortable with itWe feel ever since we joined we've been at it like rabbits everyday of the week,so already our relationship has improved.Have been looking at the inner circle parties on the net,look good plenty of different shapes and sizes and colours and so on,has anyone been?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Why do people assume that bi woman can't keep their hands out of other girls pants? lolThe question is there to be answered and there is no point in lying about it. It's all about boundaries, and as long as they are given up front there shouldn't be an issue. It's pretty obvious that if we met a straight couple then it would just be straight swapping to some degree - and we would both still have a great time! If the female of the straight couple changed her mind we would be most offended if they "changed the rules" without clearing it with us first!Just sayin.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi Chocolate I was reading your post, and out of any other post that I have read we seem to have a lot in common , My husband and I joined up a few months ago and we find it difficult to find straight couples ( which we are ) ,however my husband always wanted to see me kiss an other girl I was curious and actually very surprised how comfortable I found it . We actually go to the swingers club commonwealth st Surry Hills because I Find it to be a great inviorement and the fact you can sit back and check people out to see if you would be comfortable with them we have had some interesting nights enough to keep bringing us back. We actually have planned a date night for us next Friday night we usually go for dinner and a few drinks in Surry Hills then of to the club if you are up for a night out maybe we can meet we are a fun couple very young at heart and I'm fussy to I believe there has to be chemistry let us know........
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RHP User
13 years ago
well said :-) all of you guys, experiences will always differ, we have been to Couples club in SH and also met a few people on here and it can differ tremendously we aren't hard core and are reasonably new to this too ...lol So where the hell where you Guys when we could have done with the support hahaha probably there too at the same time lol ...maybe there should be an international distress signal for newbies....that's it I'll run that by parliament tomorrow..hehe ......nexxxxxxxxxxxxt ???
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RogueGeek
13 years ago
Seriously! Just because we're bi DOES NOT mean we want to fuck everybody! Bi does not equal easy, or pushy, or greedy, or wishy-washy ... I could go on and on about this - I think it is a new pet peeve of mine.MS Quoting 'SoulsinSync' Why do people assume that bi woman can't keep their hands out of other girls pants? lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
Can we let you know in reality what will happen.You will probably date / play with Bi Couples, they can be nice people too!Don't write them off, but they may well write you two off because a lot of bi couples will only play if there is same sex play....more options and exciting they reckon! Some of them are really only looking for girl / girl play and hubby is insecure about his wife with other guys and they find it difficult to find the single lady so couples are their 2nd choice! But over half the time, you will think our profile says we both are straight they have read it fairly simple?NO!You will find in the bedroom the other lady will comments like " I would love to touch but know I cant!" my ladies instant reaction to drop out of the mood.orShe will find the other ladies hands or lips on her breasts, and she will gently push away, happens again push away again....mood is destroyed ...happens again jump out of bed play is over, get dressed and go home.orThey will go to extreme and be on the edge of the bed, and my lady will say "Move over here so you are comfortable we can touch you know with 4 in a bed, but I am straight"Somewhere some Bi couples have got the idea there has to be an invisible wall on a bed when playing conventionally with the opposite sex / swapping partners.Never had a problem with unwanted guy / guy sexual contact! Finally some will think in time they can convert you! All the above we have experienced at different times.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sorry, couldn't help but laugh :D recently played "professional listener" for a gay male friend who was bitching that his male (straight) friends refused to hug him on account of potential (and I quote) "can't keep yer hands to yerself eh". Anyone would think that guys shouldn't hug their female friends. Ever. Or gays hug those of the same gender. Ever. Incase of accidental fucking :P lololololololololol
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RogueGeek
13 years ago
How does that happen?"Oops! I slipped and my tounge landed between your legs" MS Quoting 'Vagabonde' Sorry, couldn't help but laugh :D recently played "professional listener" for a gay male friend who was bitching that his male (straight) friends refused to hug him on account of potential (and I quote) "can't keep yer hands to yerself eh". Anyone would think that guys shouldn't hug their female friends. Ever. Or gays hug those of the same gender. Ever. Incase of accidental fucking :P lololololololololol
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RHP User
13 years ago
I would shake your gay friends hand, my wife would hug him, the standard way swingers greet each other, we might even take him to bed and take advantage of him.But now, you, can explain to him guys don't hug and kiss ea other in public.Our examples was when everyone was naked behind closed doors, four in the bed 2 males 2 females and fucking was on the agenda and did happen....no doubt about that! ......only problem is was for some it was only with the opposite sex.Forgot to mention on previous post, some bi couples the girl has No interest in other guys, so it may not be her husband is intimidated by other guy. Then of course there are the couples where the guy is Bi and has no interest in other girls or his wife cant handle him with another girl....lots of reasons, too complicated....we reckon just play and take the ups and downs.
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RHP User
13 years ago
We are a straight cuouple and do not have any prejudice against bi or gay people however since joining this life style we are yet to find a straight couple as well we have met and had dinner with some of the couples that have shown an interest in us but ........and there is a but ,we have found that most not all bi couples only want the female half of the couple and there are no rules for them. We have experienced this first hand and it is becoming very frustrating for us and it makes the male half feel like he is just the delivery boy as most of the conversation is aimed at the woman & most of the attenion pointed that way and its like they are like little kids in a candy shop .We have also been with bi couples who respect us and dont cross the line but in all the bi woman only wants to play with the female half of the couple . We are looking for equality and acceptance of our rare sexuality.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'MS_and_Geek' Seriously! Just because we're bi DOES NOT mean we want to fuck everybody! Bi does not equal easy, or pushy, or greedy, or wishy-washy ... I could go on and on about this - I think it is a new pet peeve of mine.MS Quoting 'SoulsinSync' Why do people assume that bi woman can't keep their hands out of other girls pants? lol dont worry....the same assumptions made of bi guys..... its not the case at all...............
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'freedom0077' We are a straight cuouple and do not have any prejudice against bi or gay people however since joining this life style we are yet to find a straight couple as well we have met and had dinner with some of the couples that have shown an interest in us but ........and there is a but ,we have found that most not all bi couples only want the female half of the couple and there are no rules for them. We have experienced this first hand and it is becoming very frustrating for us and it makes the male half feel like he is just the delivery boy as most of the conversation is aimed at the woman & most of the attenion pointed that way and its like they are like little kids in a candy shop .We have also been with bi couples who respect us and dont cross the line but in all the bi woman only wants to play with the female half of the couple . We are looking for equality and acceptance of our rare sexuality.Well said, Thats exactly what we have found as well.Welcome to the boring club that finds the opposite sex so much fun they don't look further.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Add us to that list too nomad.....we are constantly hit on by bi partners if we play with bi couples , even if the rules were stated up front. They either wanting to turn us on to bisexuality ( we have tried it , didnt like it moved on, not for us) or to slyly touching us during play.....We love meeting and playing with straight couples, as there is no akward moments when the mood is killed by unwanted bi play.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'freedom0077'We are a straight cuouple and do not have any prejudice against bi or gay people however since joining this life style we are yet to find a straight couple as well we have met and had dinner with some of the couples that have shown an interest in us but ........and there is a but ,we have found that most not all bi couples only want the female half of the couple and there are no rules for them. We have experienced this first hand and it is becoming very frustrating for us and it makes the male half feel like he is just the delivery boy as most of the conversation is aimed at the woman & most of the attenion pointed that way and its like they are like little kids in a candy shop .We have also been with bi couples who respect us and dont cross the line but in all the bi woman only wants to play with the female half of the couple . We are looking for equality and acceptance of our rare sexuality.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Krissy, We think its playing with the same sex in a sexual way = Bi play.Yes your example we do consider bi, helping a cock in......its a sexual part of our body.In a couple / couple swapping partners situation, we would not accept you helping to guide to guide your husbands cock into my wives pussy.You are meant to have swapped partners and my wives husband is playing with you....or is the night a failure because you have more interest in my wife and your husband rather than a true partner swap for sex with the couples partner of opposite sex? When we play with another couple, its same room same bed and typically one m/f will finish before the other, they will normally just watch, no touching, swap back to their own partners and back again, or go out on the balcony naked for a wine or coffee. Then round 2!Its always the intent to play with the opposite sex swapping partners back and forth.....The Boring Club!Straight Daisey chains are good too!
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