M52
Not on here to meet the one !!!
March 17 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not all of us are on here to have numerous partners. Some of us in fact are just looking for one buddy to please us on a regular basis but without the strings of commitment. Speaking for myself. I was tied up in a monogamous relationship for 20 yrs, now I realise that I want freedom to do as I please.... I am happy to have that one on one relationship but with NSA. Now I am starting to repeat myself.... I suppose if I met someone n fell in love things would be different but I am not aiming for that. My ex would tell you I am on self destruct. Maybe he is right..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Didn't you know by now, ocean?!! Women reserve the right to change their minds, often, and with no notice ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You can meet someone you really connect with anywhere. I agree, why not here on RHP?! I've met some wonderful people here, mostly men because I'm more drawn to men as friends than I am to women. And I once met someone very special here - completely unexpectedly. Do you also think it's equally short-sighted when men (frequently!) tell me I shouldn't be on this site unless I want to fuck?
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RHP User
11 years ago
A woman said she wouldn't settle for an RHP gent? WTF? I'm not here to find a new husband, but you never know what may happen. I've met some amazing people from here, one in particular who I have a very close friendship with, and if the sex stopped I wouldn't mind, as long as we remained friends. I think maybe they aren't articulating it well or you're reading too much into it. I'm guessing a lot of us are out of long monogamous relationships and just want some light fun without all the baggage full on relationships come with, but if we met Mr Right I can't imagine you'd pass because you found him on RHP. You can't judge if you are on RHP yourself!!! That there is double standards.
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RHP User
11 years ago
BigOcean it's because RHP men are all sluts.... Not marriage material I assume. And by the way the men say the same thing about RHP women.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'bigocean72'alot of women have stressed they are not on here to meet there perfect match ?? No problem may i ask why not ? How do you know you will not meet them ? And what if you did meet your perfect match on rhp ? I'm here to have a lot of fun with sexy people and am not looking for anything serious. But should I meet the perfect man for me, I won't say no. When I first joined I was newly single and not open to the idea of a relationship. That has slowly been changing over time. We'll see.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
They all think we're free hook-ups....mind you I've been meeting some lovely men offsite lately where sex may be on their brains but it isn't foremost in their repertoire....haha
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am here because I am married, well I came for other reasons and ended up staying and feel like an old bit of furniture.I have known a few that hooked up, but it never lasted as each had a suspicion that the other would be back on RHP and still looking for more. its also very awkward at times, when people say how did you guys meet. I even get it now with girlfriends. I have to tell women that we met at an art thing or what ever, and not to talk about RHP in anyway shape or form. Perceptions mean a great deal to people, and that's why people have profiles on the so called normal sites. for some weird reason they think marriage material is on the other site and fuck material is on this site, and yet they are the same people. the irony is that women and men will play the date game over thereand the root game over here and the two hardly every match up A lot of people especially the men drift back to RHPthe other thing is that I once had sex with a guy, and he decided to go steady with a woman of RHPhe introduced me to her and I could see right from the get go the green eyed monster in hereven though I had stopped sleeping with him It did not last as she could no trust him and he in turn got sick of it, he ended up going offline and meting a woman who he worked with. If I was single, no and I would be very surprised if the boys of here took the girls of RHP home to meet mother unless it was her mother and he wanted to do them both.
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I first joined rhp I'd say I wasn't sure what I was signing up for. Over time I realised it wasn't for me, except for the forums I don't think I'd find my life partner on here Reasons: I like to experiment sexually but only with one person and no others and I would want that from him too If I met a guy on here, chances are he would not be into monogamy and I would always be thinking he is back on here again (my issue) I agree with all that lady T has said - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is it really that jaded out there? God I count my blessings everyday. I've had nothing but positive experiences. From hanging out with lovers lovers, introducing same lover to friends & neighbours, nothing but adults acting like adults. I best kiss the ground and give thanks, I'm lucking it up in life. I have no negative impact at all. Really? If you were single you wouldn't entertain an RHP gent as a serious love interest? For why? Now you know I love & adore you, think you are funny as fuck, but you are serious about this and I am genuinely surprised. Am I that fucking naïve? (Or perhaps really fucking lucky). Aren't most peoples RHP experiences awesome?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Miss leanne6825 weapon of mass destruction ! Please if your your gunna blow can i be there ??? aren't selfies a fuck , !!!:-)) Mischeviouslad Thanks for the reminder im starting to think they are all wrong about you and your actually a very nice man :-))! Lilmiss fussy Your not that fussy after all , short sighted ?? The only thing i can see from here is lilmiss hot !! Miss kay Yes its true i could not believe it myself double standards damn straight !!! Do you think we could be friends ? And then it would be ok for the sex to start ??? Meeka100 Your a hard woman with a yoga hard ass :-)) mm mmm :-)) Meander Hmmm jury is still out but i love a woman who speaks her mind and takes it up the ass :-)) I N D A G I N E My repertoire consists of wind instruments , with the odd string thrown in to compliment my boe !!! You can be my vocals anyday :-)) My Lady T Such insight and to finish off perfectly !! Bahahahahaha! Who knows ? Mum knows ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
11 years ago
Place to me to meet someone that you are sexually compatible with. I guess I am one that says I am not looking for the love of my life but I don't rule anything out. I think if it happens it happens naturally. I certainly wouldn't rule the men of rhp out just because it's rhp. I do hate the men, and I have come across a few, that say they are just looking for a good time slut on here until they find their "one" and they are very clear that they are two different women. I think that's sad. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would love to naturally meet you oneday and i think i will :-)) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Read my profile bigocean, you know me lol. Is my perfect match on here ? Who knows...... while I'm open to that idea, I'm not chasing it. We all have pasts, it's what defines us and we are who we are. I do not care where he's been (within reason) just where it goes. Open, honest and hot as hell works for me. Xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why stop at "the ONE".....when you can have the two three ,four or more.....this is the culture of RHP....however the law of averages would suggest that of course people will find a partner here....at least for awhile xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would say a large proportion of men would not consider women on RHP as relationship material, and by that I mean committed serious relationships not just friendships with benefits. I have formed this opinion based on what I have read on this forum over the last 4 years and from talking to people. Obviously it is a generalisation and is not going to apply to everybody. I know a few couples who have met via RHP for instances and are now living together. But from both sides of the fence I think a lot of people assume that people on RHP are into kink, and group sex, and are quite promiscuous so they would never be happy to settle down with just one, that they would never be fulfilled by one person. At the end of the day I think lots of people do want to settle down with just one person and be exclusive. All the above would go out window of course, if you met someone that just wowed you to the moon and back.
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RHP User
11 years ago
when my profile stated that I was looking for some fun. My inbox was full all the time but unfortunately the online dating gig is not my thing so the whole thing did my head in. So I cleverly put that I would consider having a relationship if the RIGHT PERSON came along in order to reduce all those messages. It worked....... I almost got no messages at all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Even with my tits and arse on display!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I for one have been on my own for a ong time now ... I feel more ready for a relationship that can grow now, then I have in the past ... it would be nice if i can find the right person. I am open to meeting that person here or in the physical world. I'm not unhappy if I don't find 'the one' ... and I'm also not sure that if i got into ma closer bond with a man that it's what I would want. But hell I'm williong to give it a go if there's a warm hearted, generous in spirit, smart, sexy (to me), big bear of a man I can hold onto and support and make happy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MissKay' Is it really that jaded out there? God I count my blessings everyday. I've had nothing but positive experiences. From hanging out with lovers lovers, introducing same lover to friends & neighbours, nothing but adults acting like adults. I best kiss the ground and give thanks, I'm lucking it up in life. I have no negative impact at all. Really? If you were single you wouldn't entertain an RHP gent as a serious love interest? For why? Now you know I love & adore you, think you are funny as fuck, but you are serious about this and I am genuinely surprised. Am I that fucking naïve? (Or perhaps really fucking lucky). Aren't most peoples RHP experiences awesome? so don't get me wrong there, but looking for a bed partner and looking for a relationship are poles apart. I have been sitting on the side lines, watching my single girlfriends on here going through a lot of stuff. I guess I am unfair, I am sure there are lovely guys on here, but I am not sure the lovely guys want to take most of their time here, further than the sheets. but like I said, I am married so my experiences are much different than the single woman. I have lots of female friends from RHP, and a few male friends but I also have some very old friends who are way to judgemental for me to bring my RHP life to their attention and my husband would be furious to tell the truth. He turns a blind eye to this but he would be pissed off if it impacted on his life in a public way. yes, I guess I am a total judgemental snob in lots of ways. LadyT from her high horse
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Even with my tits and arse on display! you are a very wise woman. Even with the great tits and arse
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am a very opinionated person, not sure about the wise bit though. I certainly can thank a few posters on here who have helped me form those opinions that were only half baked ideas in my vanilla head pre RHP.
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sweetgem
11 years ago
I don't know about others, but I don't think I would ever find my Mr Right on RHP based on the RHP experiences that I have had in the past year! All those men whom I met since I signed up were only after casual hookups. Some even judged me for being on the site as the first thing they asked me was, how many men have I met and slept with! When I refused to tell, they kept pushing for the answer! I felt like telling them to look in the mirror themselves! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
where are you?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I met a man from a dating site. We moved in together and it lasted approximately 9 months. A few months later, maybe less, I met a much younger man on here. We had a thing going for 9 years. I never wanted anything else apart for a FWB relationship, which I got. We both had a wonderful time and had deep affection for each other. I would love to find another relationship like that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think some men might have that same thought too. But for me I know that I dont want another 15yrs of boring sex. Hope I can find a great guy on here who I can connect mentally and physically. One that wants to experiment and enjoy what sex can be as well as have enough trust in each other to push boundaries. Dont get me wrong the normal realtionship is good but I want and need more . nshi
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Lifes_great
11 years ago
Quoting 'LadyTuscan' so don't get me wrong there, but looking for a bed partner and looking for a relationship are poles apart. I have been sitting on the side lines, watching my single girlfriends on here going through a lot of stuff. I guess I am unfair, I am sure there are lovely guys on here, but I am not sure the lovely guys want to take most of their time here, further than the sheets. but like I said, I am married so my experiences are much different than the single woman. I have lots of female friends from RHP, and a few male friends but I also have some very old friends who are way to judgemental for me to bring my RHP life to their attention and my husband would be furious to tell the truth. He turns a blind eye to this but he would be pissed off if it impacted on his life in a public way. yes, I guess I am a total judgemental snob in lots of ways. LadyT from her high horse Giddy Up!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Lifes_great' Quoting 'LadyTuscan' so don't get me wrong there, but looking for a bed partner and looking for a relationship are poles apart. I have been sitting on the side lines, watching my single girlfriends on here going through a lot of stuff. I guess I am unfair, I am sure there are lovely guys on here, but I am not sure the lovely guys want to take most of their time here, further than the sheets. but like I said, I am married so my experiences are much different than the single woman. I have lots of female friends from RHP, and a few male friends but I also have some very old friends who are way to judgemental for me to bring my RHP life to their attention and my husband would be furious to tell the truth. He turns a blind eye to this but he would be pissed off if it impacted on his life in a public way. yes, I guess I am a total judgemental snob in lots of ways. LadyT from her high horse Giddy Up!! Lady T the old grey mare , on an old grey mare
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ocean when I read ur message I assumed that you were a woman. And Meeka we are not all sluts we are just honest with ourselves and our partners. Most relationships end due to people being unsatisfied but most importantly not being able to be honest with what they want. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
No thanks...I love perfect imperfections! Just a GOOD man will do me just fine thank you! There's plenty on this Earth, I know I have met them. However they are not for me, for someone else, most definitely YES! I believe there is someone/somebody for each and every one of us.. They just haven't found each other. Paths cross for a reason. Like I always say "It's a lottery ticket", win some, lose some! Foxy
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Violetincredible
11 years ago
I absolutely adore lots of people that I have met here.. And I wouldn't hook up with anyone not from this scene/rhp because it is too difficult and I'm not into converting other people and I have no intention of changing. So ... I'm not sure where that leaves me on this topic.... Xxviolet
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Violetincredible
11 years ago
It's been a long couple of days xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
@Lady T - I understand for some that 'how you met' is awkward but it's 2014, isn't everyone meeting online? Just lie & say eHarmony to the general public (not pertinent to your situation - just using your example). And in my experience most of the contact I have (ie. messages from gents) be it FL, RHP, POF, add anymore, it's still the same keyboard warrior and the messages are the same. I don't find it a Date Game Vs. a Root Game at all, the calibre of the keyboard warrior is obvious wherever it comes from. Same as in real life. And you'll get green eyed monsters there too, you can't help others insecurities be it here or elsewhere. @Shazza - Why couldn't someone you meet in here want to be happy to experiment with you monogamously? You'd find it easier to find a monogamous kinkster in here than it would be to find a kinkster on eHarmony? @Macha - Brilliantly said, the shame is not everyone is as honest as us :-( @Meeka - The 'assuming' shits me to tears, not everyone is on here as swingers/kinksters/etc. We all have such different wants, needs & desires. Maybe it's my bad that I would 'assume' adults could have adult conversations. And WTF? Even with your tits & arse on display? You lie like cheap carpet!!!!! (badly) @Wet Guy - Sorry for taking over, and, um, did I just get lucky?
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RHP User
11 years ago
MissKay,., are you accusing me of being cheap? Or lying? Don't appreciate either by the way.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' MissKay,., are you accusing me of being cheap? Or lying? Don't appreciate either by the way. Did you get the joke? (Please say you did) Lying that you got less interest even with your sexy arse & tits on display. Unbelievable. It was meant to be a compliment, sorry, English literal humour failure. I wasn't being mean, quite the opposite. Backpedalling quickly. Sincere apologies.
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I joined here, I was very open to seeing what I might find or experience. So every man who asked me out, I said yes to. No I don't kiss and tell and no there was no interest on either my part or his on many many occassions. I had more dates last year than I think I've had in my entire dating life. I met some wonderful men, a couple were special, a couple I would like very much to have had as friends because I enjoyed their company so much even without any chemistry, some I hope to never clap eyes on again and a few are the date horror stories that my girlfriends and I laugh our heads off about. But...I'm glad I said yes to every man because it helped me to learn what I might want from a partner and it opened me to opportunity and gave my much needed single woman confidence a boost. Now though, I don't say yes unless I really want to meet them. I learnt though that whilst I do not expect to find "the one" here, possibly I could, but realisticly I doubt it, seriously doubt it, but you just never know, because the confidence you gain from dating here does help you to see opportunity elsewhere. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
MissKay..... oh okay I got the wrong end of the stick there. No dramas! I clearly need a root and some time to chill the fuck out.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I feel awful now. I was trying to be nice, really I was. I'm so sorry if I made you feel bad, it was my opposite intention. I was being complimentary. So sorry you read it the wrong way. I feel like crap.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MissKay' I feel awful now. I was trying to be nice, really I was. I'm so sorry if I made you feel bad, it was my opposite intention. I was being complimentary. So sorry you read it the wrong way. I feel like crap. nah I figured you probably didn't mean it in a bad way.... but I wasn't sure so I thought I would ask. Don't worry about it, I am not. It's all good.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seriously!!! I don't give it another thought! xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well that'll learn me not to do English literal humour in type, doesn't work. xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Now I feel bad, for making you feel bad. I think we need a group rub.
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passion8_l
11 years ago
You're just as likely to meet your perfect match here as anywhere else, everyone has a past, whether or not it's an rhp past is irrelevant.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I met my love on RHP!! My single profile became a couples!! We were both single, we emailed and texted a few times and arranged to meet up. Within 2 minutes of meeting him I knew I was going to fall hard!! I've unexpectedly met the man that even surpasses my dreams and we are looking forward to an awesome and kinky life together. One of the best things is the honesty and openness around our sex life that we both haven't been able to find before. We literally share every little kinky fetish and fantasy and this complete transparency is so so liberating. So many relationships never find that level of communication due to fear of the others reaction or judgement of them. Keep an open mind and listen to your intuition... for me (she) I was having fun as a single female on here, have met some awesome friends however I think casual sex tends to become meaningless which in turn reduces it into a mere function. I was feeling empowered but empty?? Anyhow, I am so thankful for RHP or I wouldn't of met the man I could so easily and gratefully spend the rest of my life with. Blaaargh!! What a gush!!
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madotara69
11 years ago
Now I feel part of things he he. It happens all too often, that water off a ducks back, because it always seems to end up the opposite to intentions, just words in black and white, thank goodness for the meet and greets. Thank goodness for the diversity than everything the same. Numbing same old same digital text, but we are just people talking about sex. Fiery let it get! it's just sexy Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Now I feel bad, for making you feel bad. I think we need a group rub. Lay off Mado, this is a special moment between us.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I haven't upset you too have I?
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madotara69
11 years ago
But just for the record, that was spoken from the depths, right down deep from the groin
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RHP User
11 years ago
One man a non-RHP member and the second man a RHP member. Both left my heart torn and bleeding at their feet. It matters little what dating arena you search in, if you do find 'the one', its the mind and heart of the man that matters most.None have the right to judge the decisions you make regarding where you choose to search for 'the one'. I'm definitely not searching anywhere to meet 'the one'. Neither the real world or the world of RHP. Just here, because on-line suits my lifestyle, seeking a lover on a regular basis with no desire for attachment or obligations.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am here to chat and meet new interesting people . Could be for sex or just catch up. Met some great friends but I wouldn't rule out more with someone from here. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
comments, again more women than men wrote back, its sad for me to see that people cant be open about sex. As much as we try to liberate our self, sex still has to be this tabu thing. Do we still have this shit in our heads, when sex is involved? Like on here, then people are not "good" For me it makes no difference, where I would meet a man on RHP on another dating site or just through sheer coincidence...I would speak the truth tell him about RHP and my life path....I have nothing to be a shamed of....shit people,do we still feel guilty or negative to be sexual beings. A man who believes I am second class because I am on here or open with my sexuality wouldn't be right for me in the first place, so I have not lost anything. In a way it saddens me, to read what people say. The right man for me needs to know where I came from and needs to know who I am, and without knowing my life he could never understand why I am what I am right now. I am open to what comes into my life, without judging or making any promises or asking another to be what he cant be.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Miss Kay Why couldn't someone you meet in here want to be happy to experiment with you monogamously? You'd find it easier to find a monogamous kinkster in here than it would be to find a kinkster on eHarmony? Litonya For me it makes no difference, where I would meet a man on RHP on another dating site or just through sheer coincidence...I would speak the truth tell him about RHP and my life path....I have nothing to be a shamed of....shit people,do we still feel guilty or negative to be sexual beings. A man who believes I am second class because I am on here or open with my sexuality wouldn't be right for me in the first place, so I have not lost anything. Love your thoughts and I agree totally.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My life expedience is. You can plan as much as you want.....:) it never goes like you planed it. Life is a rollercoaster and I am 100% on it. Like it or don't like it. And on the way I always come to crossroads or even fall out of the van and tumble down. I found the less I plan the more I enjoy the more wondrous beautiful things which walk onto my path. However as with everything......I can colour it in all the colours of the rainbow or I can colour it in grey and black. There will be one day a great beautiful male again for me or there will not, either way I enjoy ......everything.........:) until I have to leave this paradise on earth.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' comments, again more women than men wrote back, its sad for me to see that people cant be open about sex. As much as we try to liberate our self, sex still has to be this tabu thing. Do we still have this shit in our heads, when sex is involved? Like on here, then people are not "good" For me it makes no difference, where I would meet a man on RHP on another dating site or just through sheer coincidence...I would speak the truth tell him about RHP and my life path....I have nothing to be a shamed of....shit people,do we still feel guilty or negative to be sexual beings. A man who believes I am second class because I am on here or open with my sexuality wouldn't be right for me in the first place, so I have not lost anything. In a way it saddens me, to read what people say. The right man for me needs to know where I came from and needs to know who I am, and without knowing my life he could never understand why I am what I am right now. I am open to what comes into my life, without judging or making any promises or asking another to be what he cant be. If I was single it would be stupid of me not to look at guys on RHP for a relationship. I guess I am caught up here in my married life, and lost track of the fact that its just as bad for me to be judgemental of men being root rats without feelings, as it is for me to think RHP women are sluts I love this place, it twists my head back to the right way of thinking about sex I am a product of my age and my environment. Some days I think my shit don't stink well it does, but just like crushed rose petals
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RHP User
11 years ago
like men that think RHP women are sluts goes looking for the missing N
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RHP User
11 years ago
on another site to try and find a relationship and was only offered sex by guys who were liars and not genuine. Pissing in my pocket just to get in my pants with 'yes I want a relationship', 'would love to get to know you', blah blah blah. I figured I would join here because I do have a high sex drive but I didn't want the bullshit. Everyone would tell me that to find the right one I had to keep my legs shut, that isn't going to happen. I figure I am in the prime of my sexual life and I want to enjoy it. I won't get this time to enjoy again so I am not going to waste my life away waiting for someone. I have been single 7 years, I would truly love one person to add to my life and I welcome whatever comes along. And to be honest, I have met more gentlemen on this 'sex site' that I have on many 'dating sites'.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not sure what I'm looking for anymore. I just hope I recognise it when I see it. Methinks it's almost time to take a break from this game. I don't want to play anymore!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'lasttango' I met my love on RHP!! My single profile became a couples!! We were both single, we emailed and texted a few times and arranged to meet up. Within 2 minutes of meeting him I knew I was going to fall hard!! I've unexpectedly met the man that even surpasses my dreams and we are looking forward to an awesome and kinky life together. One of the best things is the honesty and openness around our sex life that we both haven't been able to find before. We literally share every little kinky fetish and fantasy and this complete transparency is so so liberating. So many relationships never find that level of communication due to fear of the others reaction or judgement of them. Keep an open mind and listen to your intuition... for me (she) I was having fun as a single female on here, have met some awesome friends however I think casual sex tends to become meaningless which in turn reduces it into a mere function. I was feeling empowered but empty?? Anyhow, I am so thankful for RHP or I wouldn't of met the man I could so easily and gratefully spend the rest of my life with. Blaaargh!! What a gush!! and makes us all go awwww I looked at his picture, I think I could spend the rest of my life with that, chained to my bed ohh bugga, ok ok its consensual sex on RHP...sheeezegoes and unties the eye candy from the bed
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RHP User
11 years ago
about meeting their perfect match on here. Most people probably come here for one thing. But just because someone isn't actively seeking "the one", that doesn't mean they'll turn them away if they happen to come along.
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passion8_l
11 years ago
you're thoughts Litonya, always enjoy your posts and as usual you did not disappoint.....agree entirely
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Bideas
11 years ago
Having read the thoughts of you all a few points come to mind, whilst a number of people have touched on these here and there I can't help but wonder the real motivations. Is it fear, a sense of knowing what one wants, a safety net, false advertising, or a case of snobbery? It is fairly common for one to fear a new relationship, especially when confronted with the potential kinks rhp members are more likely to admit to so openly. However surely the fear should add to the thrill? If it is just a sense of knowing what one wants, or more accurately that one does not want a relationship for whatever reason, that is to be respected and can lead to a very enjoyable friendship of which vast benefits can potentially entail. This being said, is it not a little closed minded to enter into any friendship or relationship with a predefined plan of how this 'square' is going to fit into a 'triangle'? A safety net borders on the original fear, however with a pre emptive defence constructed. By having this listed from the start it can prevent one being hurt by not having to wear ones heart on their sleeve. However surely this is the place where people are less inclined to promise the world, in terms of a relationship, merely to get sexual? False advertising is one reason I would think rates highly in the list of possibilities, the projected lack of being 'needy' therefor making oneself more appealing due to being here for a good time rather than a long time. Whilst this may well net more potential playmates, surely it is unkind to deny the truth in finding that which you seek, potentially offsetting a perfect match? Then there is snobbery. The notion that falling for someone who is a member of rhp, who openly admits to dark desires, could not possibly be a worthy partner due to their perversions resulting in them being a lesser human being in terms of social standings. This would say to me that indulging in ones desires, living ones fantasies, should only be realised short term prior to a life of loneliness or a partnership of vanilla proportions. Is subduing desires for the sake of social upstanding really necessary? These are not the only cases, some have outlined their willingness to find an appropriate match even if not actively seeking one, other sexy couples here have admitted to having found a perfect match. These are the people that I think are the most honest with themselves. Personally I am not against finding the love of my life on here, my only problem is that I'm greedy(well, most prominent problem ;)) I want 'the one' aswell as 'the two' so that I have the best of both worlds, aswell as a vast array of imaginative and heavily perverted lovers to accompany myself and other playmates on sordid adventures until the end of time. Apologies for the long winded response.
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Weekendhussler79
11 years ago
Too true.... Narrow minded people.. Its old, lame...
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'Bideas' Having read the thoughts of you all a few points come to mind, whilst a number of people have touched on these here and there I can't help but wonder the real motivations. Is it fear, a sense of knowing what one wants, a safety net, false advertising, or a case of snobbery? It is fairly common for one to fear a new relationship, especially when confronted with the potential kinks rhp members are more likely to admit to so openly. However surely the fear should add to the thrill? If it is just a sense of knowing what one wants, or more accurately that one does not want a relationship for whatever reason, that is to be respected and can lead to a very enjoyable friendship of which vast benefits can potentially entail. This being said, is it not a little closed minded to enter into any friendship or relationship with a predefined plan of how this 'square' is going to fit into a 'triangle'? A safety net borders on the original fear, however with a pre emptive defence constructed. By having this listed from the start it can prevent one being hurt by not having to wear ones heart on their sleeve. However surely this is the place where people are less inclined to promise the world, in terms of a relationship, merely to get sexual? False advertising is one reason I would think rates highly in the list of possibilities, the projected lack of being 'needy' therefor making oneself more appealing due to being here for a good time rather than a long time. Whilst this may well net more potential playmates, surely it is unkind to deny the truth in finding that which you seek, potentially offsetting a perfect match? Then there is snobbery. The notion that falling for someone who is a member of rhp, who openly admits to dark desires, could not possibly be a worthy partner due to their perversions resulting in them being a lesser human being in terms of social standings. This would say to me that indulging in ones desires, living ones fantasies, should only be realised short term prior to a life of loneliness or a partnership of vanilla proportions. Is subduing desires for the sake of social upstanding really necessary? These are not the only cases, some have outlined their willingness to find an appropriate match even if not actively seeking one, other sexy couples here have admitted to having found a perfect match. These are the people that I think are the most honest with themselves. Personally I am not against finding the love of my life on here, my only problem is that I'm greedy(well, most prominent problem ;)) I want 'the one' aswell as 'the two' so that I have the best of both worlds, aswell as a vast array of imaginative and heavily perverted lovers to accompany myself and other playmates on sordid adventures until the end of time. Apologies for the long winded response. There is another term used for that particular type who pretend they are better than most, yet try to have those they think are better than them, believe they are as good. Yuppies Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am open to the idea of a relationship starting here. Why not? Having ended a marriage because of differences in sex drive, a lack of communication and a lot of hurt feelings because of that friction. Why not look for a partner on here based on sexual compatibility? I'm hoping that I don't fall too easily for the first woman that really rings my bell but at the end of the day relationships start when we least expect it all we can do is not be judgemental and open to the idea! For me I don't want to go into another relationships to find that the sex is average, lacking imagination and my partner not prepared to discuss it!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' I have met more gentlemen on this 'sex site' that I have on many 'dating sites'. And I couldn't agree more ralf74. I've had the exact same experience, there are some amazing RHP gents out there, be they friends or lovers. I've turned my back on traditional dating sites, and I've tried a few, the calibre of RHP men is far greater.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Does it matter where u met "the one"? And does it really matter what anyone else thinks ? Cos at the end of the day ( if you are one of the lucky ones to meet someone and have a relationship) it's only the two of you that matter !! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have to agree, that I am a snob and judgemental I say to some women friends, if you meet a guy pissed in the pub , you will no doubt end it as he will always remain pissed in the pub. sometimes it does matter where you meet a person. It can bite you on the arse when you don't expect it too. Like a guy meets a woman off RHP and he introduces her to his mates and guess what she has fucked a couple of his mates. Yes in small towns like where I live it can happen. It can go pear shaped from there, or it could turn out to be a very interesting afternoon with the mates. any woman alive knows what its like to be hung drawn and quartet in the community over your sexuality. not all of us are single women with no kids or family that our life can impact on. so it means I am a snob for guarding my other life, then so be it. I also never ever dated any man of any site while I was singlereason I had two daughters at home now my other female friends would take the piss out of me, and they would bring home guys to their home while their kids were there. It did not end well with both these women and the impact on their kids was horrific. So we can all live the free and easy life, if we choose but not me. I am not that person that has to show people every part of me and say look at me and yes I met my boyfriend on a sex site so there, suck it up you bunch of prudes. I am a coward. its hard enough to juggle my female friends from here, regarding that and if I told any of my male friends that hey my girlfriends are on RHP I can only guess how that would end up. I am not going to make my female friends be judged by the non RHP folk. Nor am I going to expose myself letting men I bed come into my other life. we all survive in our own way , If I wear the label snob then so be it. You all have to know, that sexual predators are alive and well and on the net. So women that are more sexually active and invite more men into their lives increase that risk. Yes it can happen in real life, but this is a great tool to cut out a lot of time. To get to the vulnerable.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hey Lady T, I'm a well spoken snobby bitch from the better side of the tracks. Northern Sydney darlink! I can name drop till the cows come home. I cringe when people can't manage basic grammatics. My faeces also smells rose like. My fave joke - Q. What's the difference between a north shore woman & a bowl of spaghetti? A. Spaghetti moves when you eat it. BOOM TISH! Are you a coward? Or are you just full of self preservation due to your personal situation? I currently live in Bumfuck Central, small towns get wires crossed, but as long as I keep my nose clean, any problems are not my own. And sure I've been judged, but I've held my head high and said 'that's your problem'. I lie to none, and have no shame. Sure I've been judged, but I consider that their problem, not mine. Sure, I'm stronger than most, I can say look at me this is just 'one' of my lovers off a sex site. Suck it up prudes! The hardest thing is I have young kids. I get feedback from a small group that the adults talk inappropriately around their kids, which will impact on my kids, but I see it as a way to teach my kids BIG lessons. I wont be a vestal virgin due to their inappropriateness. My ex leading the charge. You can make my life sound as tawdry as you like, I will ensure my kids see differently. It's all in the language. Like I wont let them call each other 'gay'. The poor bastards have to discuss truth to the nth degree, until the cows come home.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well I have met one. Now I am waiting to meet the other one. 😎
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RHP User
11 years ago
No one comes near me when I have my kids. If my kids are at home, I am alone. Just wanted to make that perfectly clear. Quoting Lady T - "now my other female friends would take the piss out of me, and they would bring home guys to their home while their kids were there. It did not end well with both these women and the impact on their kids was horrific." Not on my watch, ever. Ain't happening. Sergeant Schultz all the way.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Where we met. If it's someone from rhp, the primary reason why most people are here is sex (I'm not saying this is a sex site, no. But just that sex is the primary reason, whether to get more sex, to talk more openly about it or to learn or impart etc but the main factor on this site is sex) Well, for me if I'm looking for the one and I am to meet said one, I don't want sex to be the primary factor. And as lady T pointed out in small towns you'll likely find that your chosen partner would have shagged a few of your friends, worse off family members and you'd know. Unlike meeting from somewhere else, other things become the main factor and you won't know who they shagged unless you ask or talk about it. Closed minded/narrow minded etc I'm cool with that, we can't all be the same I know of people that met on here and they are happy, good for them but yeah, not for me - Posted from rhpmobile
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JessicaRabbit
11 years ago
As I don't believe that there is such a thing. But I HAVE met a match on here that I even moved across the other side of the country for. I certainly wasn't looking for a relationship at the time (and not a damn inconvenient one across the country) but you can't help your feelings. Men on RedHotPie are just like men you'd meet anywhere else - only difference is they're usually more open-minded sexually and honest about it. This can only be a good thing in terms of looking for a partner, from my perspective, as monogamy and sexual-restrictions do NOT work for me. Jess xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
when 'the one' will turn up, be it on rhp or elsewhere. Why not on rhp, we are all here for our own reasons and if you happen to be so lucky to meet here, thats a good thing. Maybe exploring together. Enjoy the moment and the journey for however long it lasts. Nothing for me lasts forever, so enjoy it now.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I think single people are looking to the "one and only MR/MRS PERFECT, love of their life" blah blah blah... Is he/she, just a fantasy, a fairy-tale to live happily ever after? I don't think so. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sometimes age is a factor in these decisions. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
[How to tell when you've found the right person] They are brave enough to tell you they miss you without needing to hear it back right away, honest enough to tell you the most difficult truth instead of their best lie, loyal enough to have your back when they aren't totally sure you're right, secure enough in themselves to admit when the are wrong (and that you're right), and accepting enough to know you aren't perfect... just a perfect fit for them. I think we can find the right person anywhere, as long as it's a perfect fit. ;) Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
[How to tell when you've found the right person] They are brave enough to tell you they miss you without needing to hear it back right away, honest enough to tell you the most difficult truth instead of their best lie, loyal enough to have your back when they aren't totally sure you're right, secure enough in themselves to admit when the are wrong (and that you're right), and accepting enough to know you aren't perfect... just a perfect fit for them. I think we can find the right person anywhere, as long as it's a perfect fit. ;) Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think Rhp is a great site... So yes why not meet 'the one' through here...I personally I do not think of this site being a 'sex site'. In my opinion it is an adult social outlet where there is potential to meet others for as little or as much fun as you want... I have had a ball and honestly I think Rhp is one of the few sites that isn't sleazy. RSvp and Pof now they are full of sleazy men in my opinion who as other have mentioned talk relationship but all they want is a fuck...I have tried a few dating sit's but I have only met guys off Rhp as they are genuine.. Of course there are dicks on rhp but there are dicks at the pub.too... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's simple isn't it??? It's all about them...... Until she's on the brink, and he stops finishes himself off, kisses her forehead and says "thanks love....same time next week??" And then leaves ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting leanne6825 "Not all of us are on here to have numerous partners. Some of us in fact are just looking for one buddy to please us on a regular basis" Just blows me away this statement..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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