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July 11 2014

After reading the personals thread and seeing a guy just looking for a woman who will 'suck him dry', made me recall a situation where I went to visit a guy with promises of great sex, massage, knowing how to please a woman etc, to me giving him a blow job, him going down on me for about a minute and then telling me to finish myself off! I then protested and told him he was full of shit and he said, I just want a woman who wants to suck my dick, I said, well good luck with that and change your profile then to what you want instead of luring women under false pretenses. I was soooo pissed off. I enjoy sucking cock and indulging in my partner but not if it is expected. As soon as it turns into an expectation rather than a pleasure, I find it a turn off if i feel I have to do it. I do it because I love to not because I feel obliged to. Men, are there many women who are willing to just show up for a blow job?Women, are you happy to just go and blow some random because that is what they want? Your thoughts please.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I have only known two girls who would suck cock and want nothing in return.However I never expect it to just happen. If she does great.But I like to return the favour.. yumm !

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Is that a rhetorical question?

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    10 years ago

    Have had many request it, the blow and go......only one has ever gotten it and that dynamic works for us. I think lots of guys want it as a fantasy but go about it the wrong way.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I'll see you at the meet and greet ;)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I would. To me it makes me feel powerful that with my mouth I have full control over him.

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    I think I know who you are referring to in the thread and I also wondered who would want just such a one-sided approach to a meet or a 'relationship' (read nsa relationship -fb or otherwise). Depends on what you are after.. I personally would not indulge the man on a blow and go type approach as I am after more of a FWB relationship, not a ONS. If I want to meet with someone, I want to have a more dynamic approach to the meet where I will also get as much from the meet as possible, equal satisfaction. not that you wont be satisfied in just giving a blow job if that is your thing but I know from experience and my girlfriends that I/we prefer something more than a blow and go.

  • Twisted_Mister

    Twisted_Mister

    10 years ago

    He's put blow and go in his profile as a preference, then fair enough I guess. BUT- if he's put an entirely different thing in there (massages, long walks by the beach etc), then I'm sorry but he's just a liar. Pure and simple. Sorry you had to go through that Ralf. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I'm sorry to read of your experience. One word for it horrible another word in answer to your question No When I'm with a lover I'm in it for the whole enchilada and I would hope he would be of the same mindset and if not then Ive screwed up with my screening/judging process or he has well and truly sucked me in. Pun intended And to be honest as LilyOrchid said, in all honesty I don't know of any woman that is completely just into that , not judging, just don't know of any. I guess in some ways, maybe a lot less complications on many levels - maybe ?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Jeeze what's the point in that !! An angelic curvy or not curvy ( just being pc ) body in front of you and that's all he wants, miss b if these guys look at this as a fantasy - they have lived very sheltered lives, ffs my fantasies are unprintable ☺ and there far more intriguing 😇 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • machoman78

    machoman78

    10 years ago

    Nothing worse than lazy lovers. It takes both people to make the experience mind blowing. One way traffic is the quickest way to leave a less than memorable impression

  • MsJonesy

    MsJonesy

    10 years ago

    I'm perfectly happy to accommodate a request from a FWB for a blow and go, but a random.....nope. Not a chance in hell :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Well.... I got a headache!!! :p - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Exciting if it's someone you know who will the favour later on. Or if you are out somewhere and just can't wait . Have had requests like , meet me in my car , hmmmm, a little respect goes a long way.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Are frequent forum posters classified as Randoms ?..... just asking

  • passion8_l

    passion8_l

    10 years ago

    No way in hell, absolutely not! Just thought I would make myself perfectly clear

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    If it was a golden dick and spurted skittles I would. Damn straight!

  • tamworthguy46

    tamworthguy46

    10 years ago

    Selfish Arrogant fuckers, I prefer Sex to blow jobs anyway ! ......... also I can only recall one time in my life when I received a blow job from a random, that was at a night club, I was there assisting the DJ, and he told me she gives them to every one...lol

  • DynamicCouple36

    DynamicCouple36

    10 years ago

    There are plenty of those selfish types around. Not interested . - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Violetincredible

    Violetincredible

    10 years ago

    A golden dick would break your teeth... I'd prefer a marshmallow one that squirted skittles hmmm or m&ms That would be awesome!! Xxviolet

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    There is a song by Shaggy where she sings "Boy, what have you done for me lately, I've been going down on you but you're not not going down on me". He replies with "Girl, that's just how rude boys play". That just about sums it up for me, so rude! Don't expect what you're not prepared to give, and I'll give as good as I receive :-p

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' If it was a golden dick and spurted skittles I would. Damn straight! I am not a sweet tooth

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I've a couple of lady's that just wanted to suck cock? And a couple of couples that he wanted to see his lady suck cock... For me I must admit it really left me feeling some what left out, sure it's always nice to get my cock sucked but I'd like to give the lady some as well... I think most guys would be happy to return the favour but sadly a select amount of guys simply send the wrong message for the rest of us males... Like your profile as well;) I guess it's like buying a car you just can't tell until you least take it for a run? Either you drive it well again or do a runner lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Funlover71' I'll see you at the meet and greet ;) I will be under table number 32 ;)

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Mpowered' Are frequent forum posters classified as Randoms ?..... just asking Yes they may still be random. I think the reference here is someone who is your FB or FWB as opposed to a ONS (random)? I believe that is what I consider is random, regardless of whether I have spoken to him before or in the forum. If I have not met him before, they are a random person, like a comet. They cum and go...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I'll go down on a woman before I'll let her go down on methere is nothing sweeter than a woman exited about being with you I'll stay down there until she pulls me up and I'm not just saying that and there is no way I'm cumming before her.

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    I believe one can only judge whether they are lazy lovers when you have met them personally and had spent some time with them in an intimate setting. It can be difficult to judge if you have only spoken to them via chat or emails or texting as that does not really cross the line into reality. Up til then, all is just a fantasy but yes I agree. I can think of some worst ones like people who are all talk and no action or people who insults their potential lovers or just players (which can be for the one-sided blow and go type people). It is all about them and I am not attracted to these people. Go well.

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    10 years ago

    Of course it dependson the man whether or not I give him one. Because I always get the Lioness' share. 😇

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    10 years ago

    Sharing's caring.....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    that he once had a chick who was happy to come and suck his cock and that is it. So I asked, so where is she now? He said, they weren't really compatible out of bed?? I know plenty of women enjoy sucking cock, me being one of them I just don't want it to be expected like it is my job to do it. I would gladly turn up unannounced and give a blowjob and leave again to someone who was worth it but if I am told to do it then it would be very unlikely.

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    10 years ago

    A gentleman always goes down first......the Guy you met, abd any like him wouldn't get beyong my bullshit radar.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Expect nothing and you won't be disappointed... unfortunately it sounds like you hit an overly selfish rotten apple. Sorry to hear that OP. "Men, are there many women who are willing to just show up for a blow job?" - I wouldn't know... would never ask nor expect a woman to do that and have never had the offer (that I know of). Whilst I quite enjoy a "booty call" there has to be a lot of give and take and it wouldn't feel right leaving without saying that special "thank you". SG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    A gentleman ALWAYS goes gown first? Sounds like an obligation to me.

  • Circe

    Circe

    10 years ago

    That the blow and go is popular in the gay community. Certainly lots of ads on craigslist are asking for or offering that.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Funlover I agree with you. All these rules suck.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    If a spunky man brought me a chocolate cake with cream and maybe some ice cream when I can't be bothered going out, I would gladly go down on him before shoving him back out the door. That is what I call the barter system.

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    10 years ago

    I totally agree with you meeka...and coffee, on a cold Sunday morning....always worthy of a reward ;)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    This wonderful number is the answer here.....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I mean barter.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    A blow job isn't sex is it?..according to Bill...and he didn't even pay the dry cleaning bill..:-) xQ

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Monica shouldn't have spilt.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    He sounds likie a bit of a woman~hater. Or has Penis-Envy...or just a Tosser.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    So how many guys would be happy to turn up give me cunnilingus and leave?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' A gentleman always goes down first......the Guy you met, abd any like him wouldn't get beyong my bullshit radar. a little cock hungry

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' If a spunky man brought me a chocolate cake with cream and maybe some ice cream when I can't be bothered going out, I would gladly go down on him before shoving him back out the door. That is what I call the barter system. I think I should start wearing my glasses, I thought I just read, shove him up the back door, lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Funlover71' A gentleman ALWAYS goes gown first? Sounds like an obligation to me. I am happy to pamper my partner without expecting in return and I think what comes around should go around, and not all in the same session. I have been told by a lot of women though to make sure the man goes down first so that is a sad reflection on guys if you have to demand a man pay his dues to get his reward. On the other hand, I have heard of plenty of women who 'don't put icky things in their mouth' . It just stinks that people can't go into sex wanting to please their partner rather than trying to get what they can out of it for themselves. I figure if everyone's aim is to please then everyone is happy.

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    10 years ago

    What happened to the good old 69er? Mado Tara xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I couldn't just ask for a blow and go type meet, I like more involvement now. When I was younger maybe but id like to take my time and and really enjoy the experience. This sort of reminded me of my first couple experience, id always wanted to try it, no bi involvement with the guy but I was hoping to enjoy it but he couldn't get it up and she got shitty and killed the mood, they later said she can blow me for my time but it put me off altogether. Ruined a fantasy of mine thats for sure. I do have a friend who meets guys regularly and a lot are just like the guy you describe, some even give her money and she gets offended which I completely understand. Some are just so desperate for for sex and only care about themselves, its a shame you don't know these things till its too late. Sex is such an amazing experience, yet so many people treat it with disrespect.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    It don't matter what you write, what you ask for, it mostly (98.6pc) falls on deaf ears, I could be pissed off because I am not the centre of attention I so love, warm sexy bods or four, touching. kissing. being your self in good company.....room all mattress and comfy, hmmmmm blow job was that what he wanted??? he probably asked for a blow job last month and got no takers, poor sod...im on the fenceM n M sound great too...ate half a packet today

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    But the question is about expectation, that's a complete turn off and I wouldn't do it on principal. But girls what do you do when a guy lies and takes the blow then asks you to go? 1. If you changed their mind whatever they do won't feel great (to me) 2. Do you ever feel intimidated or concerned for your safety if you Have a go? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • MissSarahCurious

    MissSarahCurious

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Violetincredible' A golden dick would break your teeth... I'd prefer a marshmallow one that squirted skittles hmmm or m&ms That would be awesome!! Xxviolet Gold is actually pretty soft :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    never felt any obligation to anyone else met here or places like this...and never put any feeling on anyone that they were obligated in any way to either of us.....the precondition of mutual attraction has to exist before we'll even consider meeting anyone privately for a little fun, its why we say 'yes' so rarely, we have to be sure

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Receiving is not that big a turn on for me. I'd much rather put the time into giving till my partner can take no more

  • yankmychain56

    yankmychain56

    10 years ago

    I would NOT feel complete until she has multiple orgasms, and has to push me away to make me STOP sucking that clit.love going down on a woman, and would not feel right if she didnt get off. I would have to keep trying until i 'got it right'.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'yankmychain56' I would NOT feel complete until she has multiple orgasms, and has to push me away to make me STOP sucking that clit.love going down on a woman, and would not feel right if she didnt get off. I would have to keep trying until i 'got it right'. I find that attitude to be almost as selfish as those who won't do it, or only put in a very minimal effort. Not all women want a guy down there forever, and not all women cum from oral no matter how good the guy is (or thinks he is). How about you let what you do and the amount of time you spend down there be guided by the woman's preferences, instead of focusing only on feeding your own ego.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    i get days where all i want to do is suck a cock and walk away, i do that to my FB often.

  • melb_mike

    melb_mike

    10 years ago

    hello Cinnamon I would love to give you cunnilingus as I enjoy giving oral and if that is all you want I would be happy to provide you my tongue for your enjoment, naturally I would enjoy it as well

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I would never ask someone to pleasure me and leave... I was just being 'devils advocate' there. It is a ridiculous notion in my eyes. Sex for me is not about JUST physical pleasure or relieving tension (I'm quite good at doing that all by myself thanks) If a guy came to me to just be sucked dry I would tell him to go and pay a professional. Talk about using women... Just plain appalling and incredibly shallow... Boring.. Etc.. I could go on. For me...good sex is deep, divine as well as dirty, lustful, animal.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I'm not a 'random' hook up girl anyway. If I was going to give a guy a blow job it's only in return for the sex I'm planning on getting afterwards. Sorry to sound as selfish as the guy here, but what's in it for me?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    how cum every time I write a post it gets taken down...is my spelling shit ?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    call me old fashioned but If it is vanilla I am eating I like it fully reciprocal as while i do love receiving any attentions, I soooo love giving them , Oral or any which way is desired

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Sometimes posts seem to disappear because the mods ate looking at them..confusing I know...this is whast hasppoens when you don't have instant posting....when you post initially only yuou can see your post until it is approved xQ

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    That some women have a mindset about BJs....I have heard a woman say"'Oh,and I didn't even give him a BJ".....Quite frankly I was a little shocked.....why would someone think like that?....Perhaps that has been her experience with men and amongst her women friends it was the norm...so if women made it clear that they won't do it,perhaps men will no longer expect it..XQ

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'hasbean' how cum every time I write a post it gets taken down...is my spelling shit ? They will delete comments if they are contentious or rude or inflammatory in some way. Usually if someone complains about something you have said. Have your posts disappeared? As Q mentioned if you don't have instant posting rights you can see your unapproved posts when you are logged in but when you log out you will not see them any more and maybe that is why you think they have disappeared. Its only when they have been approved that you will be able to see them without having to log back into RHP. Hope that kinda makes sense. Comments can take 3 - 24 hours to be approved I believe. Depends on how long you have been on RHP and often you post I think.

  • hardnslow

    hardnslow

    10 years ago

    I am sorry but I get more enjoyment from ensuring my FWB/ partner enjoys the encounter first. I would go to the Olympics to win a silver medal I want to cum second. In saying that if I was contacted by someone who just wanted to give me a blow job then ,who would I be to deny this poor individual their fantasy.For me sex is about enjoyment for all involved and preferable my partner first so ralf if you ever meet me you will be cumming before me and probably after me again and again lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    then I certainly don't want to please him. And I like a man who's a stayer too.