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December 20 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
Frack_me you are not being sensitive at all and you have done the right thing by deleting those messages. There should be a zero tolerance policy for offensiveness. There is no reason for anyone tobe offensive to anyone on here, except if they are trying to scam you. I would let them have it with botg barrels.Unfortunately there are a lot of idiots on sites like this and the best thing to do is to ignore them. I would go one step further and ignore them. I wish we could name and shame them by making their comments public.
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RHP User
12 years ago
say ''thank you for the contact,but no I do not find you attractive,in fact I find you deeply stupid and extraordinarily puerile .'' wadda ya reckon?
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Wildgal4u
12 years ago
What happened to common decency and treating a lady with respect???? I think some of the guys on here to learn about good old fashioned manners...they go a long way boys! I like you have had some really crass, rude and downright offensive messages. The block button has come in handy on many occasions. I even took my profile off at one stage as I was sick of the unwanted disresectful attention. So no your not being too sensitive...give as good as you get love, they might just get it in the end!! MWAH Jemm
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RHP User
12 years ago
If someone takes offense to something, that thing becomes offensive. Honesty seems to be one of the most offensive things imaginable. People just hate it when I'm honest with them.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think some people do tend to be offensive. The problem with a written medium is that you lose all other non verbal communication aspects. So, a light hearted comment can and often does come across as being crass as opposed to funny.The other problem is that a lot of people have trouble expressing themselves in written form and tend to monosyllabic dialogue.We forget at times that you have to be a little more careful when writing a comment.
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RHP User
12 years ago
seems to me that people no longer have boundaries of behaviour in place...and that they feel 'anything goes' here in the world of 'internet dating'. we expect, no, actually we demand that people put a whole lot more effort and thought into what they write us, than we ever would if our first meet was a face to face. we find it very very easy to say 'thanks but no', and feel its entirely appropriate to make those who would see themselves as potentials...jump through as many hoops as we feel inclined to place in front of them.... here its actually safer and much more sensible to be as exclusive and particular as you desire...block the ones who offend, deny them the opportunity to bring you down to their level.
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RHP User
12 years ago
A number of people come here ...Some people watch to much porn and think that is the way people should be treated. Some people are just horny when they come to RHP and say things that are rude because they are thinking with the wrong head.Others are drunk/drugs and probably dont realise what they are saying or doing.Then you get some respectful people who understand that no ,means no, and can still be polite ,with a reply of "good luck in your search and life" Its a roll of the dice here ,sometimes you meet someone nice,sometimes you get a dud and sometimes you get a creep.I dont think you are being sensitive Frack_me ,you just know what you like and dis like.Good luck with your search Miss.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I do not tolerate racism or anyone that is not open minded. Although I love crudity, I know you would never pick it. Lolz The only time I have reported anyone is a young guy who recently asked me if I had ever tried a stud dog. I asked him what he meant... Well you can imagine my response in which he replied that he was joking. :-/
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RHP User
12 years ago
People tell me that Swearing isn't necessary,I'm Fucking Vulgar, Not Stupid ! I know it isn't Fucking necessary
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RHP User
12 years ago
it never ends , guys dont read the profile and think they are doing you a Favour , some messages are completely over the top , they get blocked , so the next time that look - they find its a no go , takes away their cheap thrills
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RHP User
12 years ago
Happy Whatever Does not Offend you and a Great new Whatever Does not OffendOK, next year i am using the computer, cause if i have to write that for every Pagan, Jewish, Islamic, Catholic, Hebrew Hindu, Bahia, Druze, Gnostic, Taoist,Polytheist, I will end up with RSI
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RHP User
12 years ago
I (Mr Showstopper) am very hard to offend. When it comes down to it as far as I'm concerned words don't mean a thing! And if you want to take it further than words then make sure you know what you're doing to back it up :PThat said though, I know harsh words can get to Mrs Showstopper. While I do my best to help her shrug it off, its not always as easy at it sounds, and that's when my emotions get involved. Hurt the ones I love, you're in my bad books :PI personally don't understand offending someone else. Don't get me wrong, I'm not some angel who's never said a bad word, but as for how I try to live my life, if someone else annoys me, tries to offend me, anything negative really, then hey, whatever. I'll walk away and I'm better off without them. Swearing doesn't get to me (I'm a born and bred aussie lad after all).And as for what people write? There's really no point reading too much into it when in most situations you can't comprehend any emotion, inflection, or meaning into the words without hearing a tone or seeing body language. Writing and conveying meaning through symbols and words is only something very, very new to us as humans in the scheme of things, and its something that we seem to take for granted, and hence forget that the way we think it isn't always the way that someone else is going to read it. I have plenty of times ended up offending someone unintentionally due to writing something sarcastically, or in a playful manner, without realising they can't hear my tone, or see the cheeky smile on my face.When it comes down to it, if you don't like what you read, delete it and move on. The person who sent it (in most cases) would have, why let it get to you?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't care if you call me a name because if you start name-calling I no longer have respect for you. If I don't have respect for you then how can I respect what you say? If you become offensive towards me it merely shows me your true colours and gives me an incentive to respond in kind.I find intolerance of others and their opinions more offensive than bad language.
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RHP User
12 years ago
... blooming block 'em, easy :-) Don't sweat the small stuff. KK xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' seems to me that people no longer have boundaries of behaviour in place... I take great offense to that!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'mikeandshel' seems to me that people no longer have boundaries of behaviour in place... I take great offense to that! lol...well they dont! people behave very differently here, because they enjoy a level of anonymity they dont have when meeting/talking /whatever in a 'face to face' encounter....and can say things that would otherwise earn them a punch in the nose.....lol.
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RHP User
12 years ago
and that was on a post a while back and it was a woman. Mainly because she made assumptions. That were wrong, but the how was she to know anyway. I have not had any messages so far I find offensive. Just silly ones that I write back and say, honey that really is not going to work so try a little less cock talk. People do think its a porn site and women are Linda Lovelace, lets face it the message is sex come get me. So guys get their wires all crossed at times. So I do my settle petal and lets just have a nice chat, online and off-line. off-line only one male has ever assumed he will have sex with me, every time I am the one that says Ok honey do you desire me and shall we make a start? or I just say Sorry honey there is no chemistry so lets leave it at that. Like I said only the one guy took offence to that, but then I had teased him a bit with texting before and that was my own fault. I gave him the wrong message. People take offence to all kinds of things its just human nature.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Delete and move on. Just as in real life, not everyone is going to interact with you in the way you want. Rather than focussing on them and being offended, forget them and put your energies into those who interact with you in the way you like :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
... damn I do actually agree with Mike. With this medium it is very easy to be offensive, all it takes is a couple of keystrokes with the knowledge that you are physically safe from any form of retribution. And the form of being offensive can vary between ages and genders. Males of the species tend to be very upfront, they say what their little brain is thinking and worry about the consequences later. They often hide behind the excuse that 'RHP is a sex site so you must just be after sex' crap. Most of those using that strategy don't last here, they eventually realise that they have burnt every bridge, and pissed of every woman around their area. Some of the female of the species here though think they can be as abusive, as offensive and as cruel as they want because they know that some spineless male will back them up simply because they have boobs and pussy. Or worse, they think they can hide the intent of the offence by condescendingly signing off with some polite saluation, think that makes everything okay. The main thing to remember is no one knows what someone else will consider offensive, that mythical boundary is often very hard to see. The best rule, if you have to think "should I really say that" then you probably shouldn't.
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RHP User
12 years ago
At the end of the day, this isn't your average 'dating site' and for some people, it removes the filter of 'common decency' lol. Don't be offended though, delete and move on! I wouldn't even bother replying- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am over it!!! I was emailed today by a 26yr old male..."Go Fuck a Pineapple" .. LOL I thought about it, now that would be pushing my personal bounderies!! Did not respond or reply back instead wrote a rather nice Validation "WARNING" for other Females before blocking.... :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
12 years ago
Frank_me, you are beautiful in your own skin and nobody should kill it for you! Don't worry about those ignorant human beings and don't let any negative comments get to you! Those who made nasty comments about your appearance or about you were indeed low in their self-esteem and self-confidence, and they had to do something pathetically to make themselves feel good again lol You have no time for that, just delete the messages and move on :-)A little story to share:I refused to meet up with a male member from here tonight, because I couldn't find a budget hotel room, so I cancelled the meeting, but he could not take NO as an answer and kept pushing me to go and meet him for sex. He even suggested sex in the car somewhere dark and quiet. Of course I wouldn't be stupid, so I informed him that I didn't like him being so pushy and I didn't want to continue the communication. Of course he couldn't take it again and went on fire to the point where he had to post a nasty post about me somewhere on RHP forum lol I didn't see the forum myself, but he told me he had pasted all of my pics in my profiles and the ones I sent to him via phone in the forum for other male members to see who I am lol I found this member's act was so low, childish, nasty and offensive, but I didn't react in the same way as he did. Instead, I contacted the Support Team to act on my behalf :-)I think any wise people would not lightly believe in what they read/see on here about other members, so don't worry about what others say about you, just laugh at them and move on :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Why get all het up and emotional by these ignorant small minded people, lucky for you they have shown their true colours straight up so you can tick them off your bucket list. Why waste your time and energy on them, don't bother explaining why, just say "Thanks but no thanks" (end of story, delete all other messages by them if they persist). Eventually they will get it(or not) and realise this approach is not working for them, and they will eventually have to reassess their approach, but that is not your problem it is theirs. There are far more worthwhile guys on here, just check out the ones on the forum here that thinks along the same lines as you
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel'lol...well they dont! people behave very differently here, because they enjoy a level of anonymity they dont have when meeting/talking /whatever in a 'face to face' encounter....and can say things that would otherwise earn them a punch in the nose.....lol. What comments have you read that you feel warrant this violence?
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RHP User
12 years ago
When someone offends you, i always find it quite rewarding to crush them in to tiny little pieces and feed whats left if there emotional state to ravaging sea gulls..... this works a treat!!!............."You are the most unattractive person I have met in my entire life. You are physically repulsive, intellectually retarded, morally reprehensible, vulgar, insensitive, selfish, stupid, You have no taste, a lousy sense of humor, and you smell...... You are not even interesting enough to make me sick!!!....... I assure you that they will not contact you again.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Wow go fuck a pineapple what inspired that???? I dont recall anyone sending me vulgar messages, I get very nice ones actually. I once told a guy who sent me Hi that I was amazed that was all he would write in an introduction so he wrote back either chat or fuck off.....I laughed so hard and though what a tosser!!!!!!I do think though that if given the opportunity to introduce yourself to someone Hi is just such a waste.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting '14all2c' When someone offends you, i always find it quite rewarding to crush them in to tiny little pieces and feed whats left if there emotional state to ravaging sea gulls..... this works a treat!!!............."You are the most unattractive person I have met in my entire life. You are physically repulsive, intellectually retarded, morally reprehensible, vulgar, insensitive, selfish, stupid, You have no taste, a lousy sense of humor, and you smell...... You are not even interesting enough to make me sick!!!....... I assure you that they will not contact you again..... Why hold back, tell 'em what you really think !
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RHP User
12 years ago
... never make 14all2c cross. Wondering if he's really a big softie. ;-) KK xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've been described as a big teddy bear. Soft and cuddly but a bear none the less.... Piss me off and I'll rip you to shreds lol
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