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Oh those young 'uns

December 23 2013

I've recently joined a facebook page which is basically devoted to topics about sex and sexuality. All of the members are female, the majority aged from 18 to about 25 or 26. What has really struck me about these women, is how much more knowledgable and experienced they are when it comes to sex compared to myself and my female friends when we were in our late teens and early 20s. Many of these girls are actively involved in group sex, light and some heavy BDSM, swinging, have huge toy and sex aid collections, have anal sex, regularly watch porn either alone or with their partners, and in general are much more experimental and savvy with things that I'm just beginning to learn about in my mid 30s. Of course there are some factors causing bias here - the fact that it is a page for sex talk means it will generally attract those who are interested and active when it comes to sex, being a big one. And the fact that I was in a long term relationship from the age of 16 to 25 did curb some sexual exploration, but many of the women on this page are in relationships and are doing things my boyfriend and I didn't even know existed when we were the same age. Of course one thing that gets the finger pointed at it a lot when it comes to the differences in the younger generations is the internet, and rightly so. These days information about any subject is just a google search away, and obviously porn is much easier and cheaper to access. When I was in my late teens buying DVDs from adult shops was about the only option, and they weren't cheap particularly for students. Then it graduated to being able to order them online a bit cheaper, and now...well, you can watch all manner of kink for free. But I don't think this can be the only thing that has made the difference. I'm really interested in other's opinions on this. For those around my age and older, do you see the same differences in the younger generations? If so why do you think that is, and if not why not? For those in their late teens / 20s, are your friends of the same age all generally quite knowledgable and open about sex? Has the internet played a major role in your knowledge and sexual activities? If not what has?

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twowithnolimits

11 years ago

true today's youth are much more knowledgeable generally speaking although sometimes in a superficial way (as with all things net based lol) but that is not to say they agree with everything they discover anymore than other generations did.. however i am considerably older than you and was swinging with my gf by 18 so i think perhaps perspective is coloured by personal experience too

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RHP User

11 years ago

Personal experience is perhaps the biggest factor in people's perspectives, and I did mean to mention in my OP that I know kink in all its various forms has been around for a long, long time. I guess what I'm wondering, is the experimentation and tendency to go beyond vanilla now more widespread and more 'normalised' for the younger generations?

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Mischeviouslad

11 years ago

What's the page name..... time to make some new "friends" lol - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

It's really only in the last 15 years that I have started learning about other forms of sex other than straight intercourse. My deceased husband, was a very adequate lover. We really were well matched and had a very active sex life until he became too ill. After he died and I resurrected my sex life, I started learning so much more. I now love to have much more varied sex than I did then. Yes, I learn a lot from porn videos, the net and the people on here. Having other lovers has taught me heaps also. I also know what I don't like and am very particular about how far I will go. In answer to your question OP, yes the younger generation do want more than vanilla sex, and seem to know an awful lot about what they are doing.

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RHP User

11 years ago

Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' What's the page name..... time to make some new "friends" lol - Posted from rhpmobile Actually I used the wrong word, it's not a page it's a group, a private one that you need to be accepted to. And DG, unless you're female and a serious Black Milk fan, you ain't getting in

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RHP User

11 years ago

Our daughter is a mad black milk fan, she had a great night at the xmas party in Sydney and now wants to take up pole dancing......go figure. She has definitely been more experimental in her sex life than we were at the same age. The information and regard for other sexual experiences just was not available 30 years ago....especially in the bush. We think it's great that we can communicate so openly with our kids in this area and wish them all the best in their adventures as it seems to be more acceptable with the wealth of info on the net.

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RHP User

11 years ago

I think a lot to do with it are the parents of the mentioned generation.I have a 17 yo daughter who has become sexually active with her long term boyfriend. I like to think we have a very open mother daughter relationship and have found she is comfortable discussing most things with me . She even actually approached me to ask about anal sex! With all the forms of technology out there offering endless access and information to sex related things, as a parent its impossible to shield them from it so you have to become more open and accepting .As each generation comes along it will probably be more noticeable almost like a ripple effect..

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RHP User

11 years ago

When my son and his girlfriend were 19 they were worried that she might be pregnant. I was happy that my son felt that he could approach me. I told him that she should also discuss it with her mother and he said that "she doesn't have that kind of relationship with her mother". She was adamant that she was going to the clinic that day to have it sorted out, I asked if they had actually done a urine pregnancy test and the answer was "O, no, I guess we should do one. " Turned out she wasn't pregnant, but it was scary that so called "educated" teenagers could find themselves in that position. My apologies LD for being a bit off-topic. Just wanted to point out that some of them don't know enough.

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RHP User

11 years ago

jelly2352 - your daughter must have great taste . And pole dancing is awesome, fantastic for strength and flexibility!! I want to give it a go sometime. The parent aspect is interesting and is no doubt another positive influence for many younger people today. My mother is quite conservative when it comes to sex and although we have a good relationship I would *never* talk to her about it, even now. A few months ago she asked me if I was a prostitute, seemingly based on a) the fact that I - stupidly I now see - had guys stay the night a couple times, and b) having learned my lesson about that, I was occasionally having sleepovers with the latest FB. How she came up with the idea that I was a hooker based on that I have no fucking idea. At the time I was so upset and offended, but now I just think it's funny. But obviously, she would not be the best person to talk to about bi threesomes, anal sex, or sex toys . I think it's great that those of you who are parents can openly talk with your kids about those things.

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