RHP

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Oh to be a virgin again...

February 01 2013

I would do it sooo differently.   In a perfect world I would have had my current partner do the deed I would have been 18, which would have made him 21 at the time (but with his current lovemaking skills), in a classy cabin in the rainforest Northern Qld (with spa). For the entire weekend to experiment and revel in the moment.   Not at 16, in my parents bed, wondering was it in yet? then realising oh ouch yep it's in... what the hell is the fuss all about? Then freaking out for 2 weeks that I could be pregnant... Thank god I wasn't!!! Not the best experience...   Would you do it over? If so, who, when, where, how?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I just think virginity is highly overated,and quoting Joan Collins quoting Nietzsche...What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.... Who would I choose?A man who knew about a woman's body.

  • playful4u

    playful4u

    12 years ago

    I (Mr) started at 19. My GF at the time was very hot and was great for me at that time in my life. She was 16/17 and we used her parents bed.   I do wonder what it would have been like having sex with my wife at that age. Our sex just gets better though and I have no regrets.   Answer: Current partner on a tropical island, warm weather, her 18 me 21, and every which way you can think of :)   Thank you for the topic Saskia :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Hotel room, yep would do it all again just to be 18......- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Oh my first time.. Gees if I had a do over I wouldn't change it other than the repercussions. was with a girl I worked with after Xmas do and we decided to walk home at 2am, drunk and faced with a 5km walk and both horny as hell we ended up having sex three times. Once in an empty lot not far from the party, on a pile of woodchips... Wtf were we thinking, second time on the lawn in someone's front yard! Then the last time over some treated pine logs in a park. Lets just say afterwards I found out what getting your red wings means...

  • uneventful

    uneventful

    12 years ago

    I would not change a thing on what was my first time ... the opertunity and company were perfect ... what i would change would be the nightout and the drunk driver 12 months later that didnt see my sweet guy on the road on his motorbike ..... time again .. I would have had him stay in or ,or, or. ...any thing to have changed the outcome of that night ... Would definately have changed some of the events/opertunities and guys in the following ten years..... yes- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I am so sorry to hear you lost your first love. It's understandable to want to turn the clock back for a different outcome. I hope you eventually found happiness. Bless. x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    But it was great. It was with my later husband and I was 20lolo he was as nervous as I was and it didn't hurt. We got maried a year later and we learned from each other.Yep I was a virgin and had no other men until his death 14 years ago. LOlnow this sounds so boring in today's time but it wasn't When I think back it was great to learn and enjoy a person on such a intimate level.Would I do it again yes.....sex with someone you fall in love I find is so much more nicer. lo, I am sooo old fashion. am I?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I was 15, he was 14. He wasn't a virgin. It was puppy love and sweet and sincere and lovely and special and I'm still grateful we shared that. Physically not memorable at all, but emotionally lovely.   I was 36 before I discovered mind-blowing sex and incredible love-making. It's not losing my virginity that I'd change, it's a whole bunch of the experiences in between :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    It has given me great memories. We were both virgins having no clue about it all and we learnt together over the next few years....it was wonderful!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Couldn't have been better. A cold day on my then boyfriend's house boat. The Doors and red wine. Very, very nice.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I wouldn't change the who or when - with my first boyfriend when he was 17 and I was nearly 17, we'd been going out for nearly 6 months at the time. I would change the location though (backseat of his parents' car), perhaps to a nice hotel...basically just somewhere comfortable and private. Since it was the first time for both of us the sex was obviously not great and it was a bit painful for me, but we practiced a lot and it very quickly became much better. We ended up staying together for 9 years, although it shouldn't really have lasted that long and I wasn't 'in love' with him anymore for the last couple of years. If anything I would rather change some of my poor decisions after that in regards to most of the people I slept with during the rest of my 20s....there were some factors that contributed to those poor decisions though, and I guess when I look back it did help me to learn some lessons and made me a lot wiser about certain things, albeit the hard way. Who doesn't make mistakes and do foolish things when they're young though?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    My poor, poor 17 year old boyfriend, how I tortured him as I wouldn't have sex with him... Have always regretted that... (WTF was I thinking lol)I waited until I was 25 when I married my ex husband...So, yes I would give in to my "desires"

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    The fact that he had a broken leg :-/- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I wouldn't change any of the physical elements... my room at my parents house, quietly but sweetly and enjoyably. She was more experienced than me, and I just followed.I might change the emotional aftermath - I was 14, she was 16, and I became smitten and perhaps shouldn't have. But that's youth, right? If she hadn't stomped on my heart, somebody would have :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    First time I had vaginal sex was with my first real boyfriend and first love, early 20's (I know, very late but I compensated!), in my bedroom, done slowly and passionately. I wouldn't have done it any other way.