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Ok to ask for Anal?
January 05 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think that this subject has become more of the norm now. A lot of women enjoy anal sex in preference to vanilla, so I believe that it has become more socially acceptable. If you think that your partner would like to try it, why not ask? You would definately get a yes from me.
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sedrik100
12 years ago
Couples should not be afraid to ask for anything from their partner. Most guys I know love anal with their woman but I don't know any women that do it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hmmm... good answer ozfirey
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blkcapricornday
12 years ago
The best thing in the bedroom about having a trusting partner is opening up and trying things out! Anyway, most guys are all for anal sex, as its a bit dirty and kinky - and a girl with a bit of kink is an insanely sexy thing ;)xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I say be yourself and ask for anything and everything which will make you happy :) If you get a no, so be it. If you get a no, how in the hell can you ask me that bla bla bla, then move on to someone who would actually make you happy. Might actually be an easy question for you to ask which will weed out the people you don't want to spend your time on lol. Don't let the fear of what others might think stop you :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
Never brave enough to ask my partner - just too straight. But if a woman asked me then would love to try for first time! Not sure what that say a about me.
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talltonednhny
12 years ago
Oh Sexydancermelb, Get ready to be over run with offers.. ;)
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DevilUNo22
12 years ago
Anal is just another sexual method - some enjoy - some dont - because of the pain some women feel and its stigma I think its best to be a woman"s perogative to suggest - and take it from there
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RHP User
12 years ago
What happens if your been with your partner for over 20 yrs and have hinted to him you would like to be more experiemental but no luck?? This is what happens with marital sex, you cant be open Some men or women are too consumed in their careers to have a life, love and happiness... Hence why we look elsewhere for an discreet adventure...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are we talking both partners giving and receiving? Because it's only fair. (:
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes it's all right to ask for a bit of bum love! Nothing wrong with that at all. :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
/wave Meeka and SexyDancer
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'talltonednhny' Oh Sexydancermelb, Get ready to be over run with offers.. ;) Hmmm.. none as yet :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have I been asked. We were in a comitted relationship and she said she 'd always wanted to try it. It became a regular part of our sex lives but I can do with out it. I would only do it again if asked. So the answer to the post is yes Sexydancer, it is ok to ask and I think you'll find most guys will be more than happy to oblige. Your message box is probably already full of men happy to help. Just remember my username
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Playful2looking
12 years ago
Hmm love that term very naughty. If you want anal from your lover then you should ask or suggest. of course what you do between you and your lover is entirley up to you.. i would do anything for my lover as long as it didn't wreck our realtionship as the love between us is the most important thing. Meaning if my partner was unhappy about such things then I guess I would suggest we try something that they want to try. then maybe revisit the anal thing at a later date.
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DevilUNo22
12 years ago
20 years - now thats a hell of a lot of hinting
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Mr_MrsAraps
12 years ago
Why not be honest with your partner as to what you want? Whats the worse thing that can happen?? not a lot reallyFrom a guys perspective I am sure most guys would be happy for you to say what you want
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RHP User
12 years ago
of course it is....its how it should be.... the woman should be the one to ask for or offer it....rather than be hassled and pressured for it by the male, as is often the cse.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes its been a long time in hinting... Whats wrong with these men?? Dont they want too spice up their sex lives or just cant be bothered??
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RHP User
12 years ago
...and your partner understands both your passion and knows what he's doing, why wouldn't you? It's not for everyone of course but then again, I put chili power on my watermelon....spice is the variety of life.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If anything I'd recommend it. There's a fairly decent chance that your guy wants to explore it or try it out, but is holding back because he thinks you wouldn't be up for it.Guys generally don't get subtle hints either. Honestly probably the best thing to do is straight up ask him 'how would you feel about trying anal'. MelbMarried38, perhaps I'd recommend giving this some consideration too - I don't know your relationship but it may be that the partner just needs to be told it in plain black and white.
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RHP User
12 years ago
As an addendum to my first- in general I can't stress being open about what you like and want to do.My ex was very closed off about sex and could never tell me the kind of things she liked or wanted me to do for her, even when I straight-up asked 'what gets you off'. It's quite frustrating for guys who genuinely want to please their partner and don't want to do the old 'grab legs, thrust till you shoot' routine.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I find anal to be something I need to be in the mood for, and generally so horny I need anal to feel satisfied. I dont do anal just for the hell of it, and I dont do it with just anyone either. And this is a case where size matters, if a guy is quite thick, I am way less likely to even consider anal LOL Need a few drinks before going there! LOL Sometimes when 'hinting' for something outside the norm, a partner doesnt catch on, with something like anal you gotta be more exact. Try in the middle of some great sex, whispering dirty talk into their ear and in that dirty talk, whisper "oh god, I so want you to fuck my slutty arse, I want to be your dirty slut" and see his reaction, your gunna get some reaction, and then go from there. The mind is an excellent playground, so test the waters there, even if it just opens discussion and you can be clear you DO want to try. I admit that I am a little shy when saying I want anal with some fwb's, so I find that is a good way to tackle the subject during sex. Not had any deny the request and by saying it in a naughty way, they get the hint and usually work their way there slowly, not a sudden into anal, they respond to the 'slutty' part and enjoy that with anal being the last slutty thing. As everyone else has said, you gotta be open with your partner, but being open and talking about limits over a coffee and what you wanna try, is different to actually asking for it during sex. Good luck, remember - Ask and you shal receive ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Sexydancermelb' Quoting 'talltonednhny' Oh Sexydancermelb, Get ready to be over run with offers.. ;) Hmmm.. none as yet :-)
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talltonednhny
12 years ago
Give it time, I'm sure they are on there way.. ;-) And that may not be a bad thing if that's what your after
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think you get a feel whether your partner would be interested, if you can't tease and see how they react then you could always just ask:)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Sexydancermelb' Quoting 'talltonednhny' Oh Sexydancermelb, Get ready to be over run with offers.. ;) Hmmm.. none as yet :-) I have never done anal, so I would be keen to know what it's like! I've just never known a girl who liked it, or if they did like it they never suggested, so I didn't feel it was my place to ask!If you are keen sexydancer!?! :-P
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RHP User
12 years ago
Openness and transparency is always the best policy - even within simple/casual sexual encounters...Anal sex is fun but I also have to be in the mood so be prepared, at times, to hear, 'I'd love to but not right now'....When Mr Hyde shows his face then I would be whispering in your ear - encouraging and enticing - to ellicit that very response..When Dr Jekyll is present I am more inclined to head south and keep the sex vanilla....;-)
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GunnaBHot
12 years ago
Our guests are made aware prior to a meeting thats its on the table!
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RHP User
12 years ago
It reminded me of the topic I was going to ask as a male.....is it alright for me to ask a lady if I can take her shopping all day with no expense spared....have a think of your answer to my question, as a woman, and I am guessing you will get the same response from males to the question you ask.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sexydancer, few things are more exciting (naughty?) than a girl asking for anal...or more surprising when she guides you there without comment or question.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Lollypop you're spot on with the dirty talk intro..
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you don't ask, you don't get! Then again, I've never had to ask ...
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RHP User
12 years ago
My answer would be an absolute no. I can't be bought. :-(((((
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oooh would you fuck my ass while I am spread out on the table. Mmmm yummy! Will there be other guests watching. ;-) Actually that sounds hot! Another thing to add to my fucket list.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ask away I'd say. It (being completely open) should be encouraged. I think it would be hot if you asked for it.xxxxx- Posted from rhpmobile
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
I have not heard of the term 'bum love' before, but sounds better then anal We all have different needs n wants! If you are comfortable with your partner you should be able to talk to them about anything n everything
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RHP User
12 years ago
Money matters zero x
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inspirit
12 years ago
though openess and honesty is not apparently
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RHP User
12 years ago
Why inspirit?
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RHP User
12 years ago
This is more normal than it has been ever before, i asked my partner to give me some and he was open for it but what male is not these day, he never complains about it but he never forces me to do it, so if you are both into it why the hell not. Give me more bum love Jodi xxxx
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inspirit
12 years ago
personally I think many people can not be as open and as honest as they would like to be as they think they will be ridiculed or should I say will be ridiculed and judged.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just another thing, as my kids said to me Up the Bum No Babies
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RHP User
12 years ago
A lady gets ;)Yes! more than OK for her to ask... even if she is being dominated..
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malfun
12 years ago
"What happens if your been with your partner for over 20 yrs and have hinted to him you would like to be more experiemental but no luck?? This is what happens with marital sex, you cant be open Some men or women are too consumed in their careers to have a life, love and happiness... Hence why we look elsewhere for an discreet adventure..." melb souple well i cant see how you havent done it as i know many time during sex you get the slip when going for it and sometime slip in the wrong hole. so why cant you just slip it in while sitting on top and then let it know that you enjoy it. it just might be the way to get it happening. I believe that is everyones right in a relationship to ask for what you might like to do. talk about it together as part of your conversations before hand, it allows for the thought to sink in. People just communicate .
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RHP User
12 years ago
As they say my dear, if you don't ask you don't receive. This theory can be used a lot in day to day life as well and communication is the key... Cuddle, ask questions, listen and offer suggestions... Might give a bit of inspiration for round 2,3, 4........ etc etc :PMay i offer a little suggestion;If you and your fella are enjoying some me time one day/night. Why don't you give him a smile, and maybe play with yourself a bit in front of him switching from your pussy to your lil butt (watch him as you do this to try and gauge if he enjoys what he see's etc) and take it from there.. If it freaks him out you should be able to tell from his facial expressions etc.. :)Good luck, and pleasant memories ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' My answer would be an absolute no. I can't be bought. :-((((( I would beg to differ...we can all be bought its only ever the price that's the real question. Would you have sex with someone for $50,000,000 a yacht, a villa and your own private airplane.....of course you would....we can all be bought...its just the price that varies.
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RHP User
12 years ago
My first girlfriend once said you only need to try it to like it! Since then i am yet to find a woman who wouldnt try anal or one that didnt have a great time when she did. Also just because you ask for it once doesnt mean he will want it all the time or that you have to do it ever again. If your man truely loves you he will not just take it slow and be gentle so that your first time is pleasureable, but will be understanding if you find that you dont like it and dont want to do it again. All good relationships are buillt on trust and understanding. If you cant trust him to ask for what you want then he will never understand your needs
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you're nervous or anxious about broaching the topic with your partner due to fear of his/her/their response being negative, as has been said, dirty talk during sex is one way. Or you can introduce ass play during sex yourself to indicate that it's something you enjoy and would like to explore with your partner. Enjoy ;)- Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
12 years ago
May i suggest this.Hold his hand the first time, even though it will be almost imposable, take it easy with him the first time. He may very well become overwhelmed with anxiety and fear for your well being when you start screaming. It possibly will be the foremost important task in his world, and fearing that he is hurting you could make it all a little awkward. After that two minutes is past, he will be right then go for it for ever and after.And be responsible, come back to earth and focus just for a second now and then, to care you are not hurting him. You girls can be maniacs at times. And for gods sake, when you start cumming Tell him early so he has a chance to get a good strong hold on you Mado
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Sexydancermelb' Quoting 'talltonednhny' Oh Sexydancermelb, Get ready to be over run with offers.. ;) Hmmm.. none as yet :-) Lol it will happen soon enough lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
If ud like a way to suggest it have a look at this wont let me cut paste do a search on DUC TAPE ANAL CREAMPIE personally thought it was hot, doing it real life was hotter
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mensbits
12 years ago
What is wrong with being open and honest about your sexual desires and fantasies with the one person that you love and trust absolutely. If the hint doesn't work maybe its because you don't really know your lover?,...be honest, if you can't relate and talk about your sexually then you perhaps need to sit down and just talk and really get to know each other :-)Oh for the record I don't mind anal,and if my partner wants to try I would oblige ;-) but take it slo! LOL....
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RHP User
12 years ago
I like it! I have lots of guys ask for it... But few know how to go about doing it... It should manipulated gently then done slowly, essentially like vagunal sex. If done properly it is rather enjoyable :) I say communication is the key to any successful relationship, regardless if its definition 'fb' or 'boyfriend/partner' - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
In my experience half of the women i have been with in the last 3 or 4 years have wanted anal i think what ruines it for us all is guys that have no idea what they are doing and just slam it in like it is a vagina. Before a guy even thinks about doing it to a woman he should try his own ass out for size and see how it feels before he ruins it for the next guy that comes along .Often when i am refused anal it turns out this way some guy tried before and it hurt too much thats because he didnt take his time . A guy that has had something in his ass knows how to put something in anothers ass. I know alot of the guys will say "thats so gay". I say ur missing out guys a hot woman with a dildo or a strap on give it to me anyday
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sexydancermelb, Honey if you want it go and get it, I loved it when some of my ex's asked to flip them and spread the bum love.... Pity in different states could happily help you out with some bum love ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
In the heat of the moment , if you ask a guy to stick it in your Arse , I can't imagine why a guy would say no . I usually test a woman I've just met when I go down on her . Lots of finger & tongue action ... Pussy & Arse . She'll soon let you know if Arse is off-limits .- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
You don't ask you don't get- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Politemale' Quoting 'Meeka100' My answer would be an absolute no. I can't be bought. :-((((( I would beg to differ...we can all be bought its only ever the price that's the real question. Would you have sex with someone for $50,000,000 a yacht, a villa and your own private airplane.....of course you would....we can all be bought...its just the price that varies. Yes, but I wouldn't respect you for it. What knob end would give that sort of money away. Sorry but men that say those things must be desperate. I also object to the way you worded your first response. Like all women would love that, because they don't. Refer to the princess thread.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' May i suggest this.Hold his hand the first time, even though it will be almost imposable, take it easy with him the first time. He may very well become overwhelmed with anxiety and fear for your well being when you start screaming. It possibly will be the foremost important task in his world, and fearing that he is hurting you could make it all a little awkward. After that two minutes is past, he will be right then go for it for ever and after.Mado What the? Are you joking? Wonder what sex is like at your house.
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'madotara69' May i suggest this.Hold his hand the first time, even though it will be almost imposable, take it easy with him the first time. He may very well become overwhelmed with anxiety and fear for your well being when you start screaming. It possibly will be the foremost important task in his world, and fearing that he is hurting you could make it all a little awkward. After that two minutes is past, he will be right then go for it for ever and after.Mado What the? Are you joking? Wonder what sex is like at your house. I may have gotten a little lost in the moment and dramatized things just a bit, I should have said whispering out loud. Mado xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
anal? screaming? have you guys heard of 'lube'?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I discovered it over a year ago with a person I was extremely comfortable with and now love it.. so maybe I'm not the norm but prefer it
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sexydancer, you can ask me. I'll do whatever you want me to do to you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
We love doing anal. If any girl wants to come join. More than happy for us to accommodate :-D- Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' anal? screaming? have you guys heard of 'lube'? she whispered out loudI am never gonna live this one down. I feel discombobulated and shocked and confused
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've had two girlfriends who both prefered anal over vaginal sex. The 1st one begged me for it after giving her a good rimming and the 2nd said she did'nt care if I put it in her bum. As someone who enjoys getting rimmed, I can understand how it makes you horny for a bit of backdoor action, so may I suggest you ask your partner to give you a little oral playtime back there. You'll be so relaxed and horny for it that it won't be an issue regarding any pain.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you don't ask, you don't get an answer. I was with a gal many years ago who popped the question in a nice way one night, she pulled out a tube of KY gel and said, "I enjoy anal, I'd like you to do me tonight" oh what a night, and relationship. I absolutely love having anal sex with a gal, the feeling is so desirable.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I wouldnt even ask! Just subtly guide it in that direction,you will soon know from their reaction if its a no go zone.........if its no go then pull out your vibe and use that......by this time he is buried deep where he wants to be so I dont think hes gonna stop because you have a vibe in your arse!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Essentially, it's another whole. Society used to be all like "woah, too much information!" Now it seems anyone into sex just cant get enough. First time I ever performed anal, i was sold for life! I'm offering my services lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
it doesnt seem that long ago that boys used to ask if they could kiss you ........
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RHP User
12 years ago
So true.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Bum lovin', had me a blast Bum lovin', happened so fast Met a girl crazy for me Met a boy hung like a donkey Summer days drifting away To, uh oh, those bum fucks (Uh Well-a, well-a, well-a, uh!) (Tell me more, tell me more) (Did you get very far?) (Tell me more, tell me more) (Like does he have a car?) He got friendly holding my hand Well, she got friendly going down on my gland He was sweet, a true bum fiend Well, she was good, you know what I mean Summer heat, boy and girl meet But, uh oh, those bum fucks (Tell me more, tell me more) (How much dough did he spend?) (Tell me more, tell me more) (Could she get me a friend?) It turned colder; that's where it ends So I told her we'd still be friends (with benefits) Then we made our true love vow Wonder what she's doin' now? Bum dreams dripping with cum But, oh, that BUM LOVE!!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Gimme Head baby Gimme head like you did just last night, ah ah ah You got me steamin at a hundred degrees Each time I see you i grow weak at the knees You sink me under, bring me undone With words you said, words you said but best of all, all those you gimme head You gimme head You gimme head You gimme head You gimme scratch marks down the length of my back You gimme teeth marks in the side my neck You whisper sweet things, gimme beatings You wreck my bed (wreck my bed) but best of all, I love, you gimme head You gimme head You gimme head You gimme head So Ah say you'll never leave me And promise me you'll stay 'Cos now that I'm in heaven don't slip away ow ! I like it You got me steamin' at a hundred degrees (one hundred) Each time I see you i grow weak at the knees You whisper sweet things, gimme beatings You wreck my bed (wreck my bed) but best of all, I love, you gimme head You gimme head You gimme head You gimme head You gimme head You gimme head You gimme head You gimme head Suck it - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well I'm single and after 15 years of alright sex within marriage. I can say that I do ask for anal. I love the feeling of total relaxation that it gives me afterwards. Oh and love the feeling while I'm getting it too, just as long as it s been a long sex session and feeling totally comfortable with partner. You don't ask you don't getsilk
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RHP User
12 years ago
My partner doesn't have to ask... sometimes I beg for it ;) HEHE
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RHP User
12 years ago
If my partner wishes to indulge her preferences, then who am I to deny her, a particluar woman said she cums more intensley from anal,and of course, for a male perspective, it is quite flattering to be given the opportunity to be invited to carry out this very imtimate act.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hey there SexyOn, Anf if I ask for the favour to be reciprocated?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I reckon its perfectly fine to ask for what you want in the bedroom. If you never ask you never know, and many men won't propose the idea for fear of being a male chauvinist trying to keep up with modern pornos.....If woman asked for it, it would take half the stigma out of it!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I said no to my husband for a few years, finally gave in and tried it and love it! Now its just part of our normal its good to change things up a bit! You should be able to ask your partner if he says hes not it to it fine respect that but you dont know unless you ask!
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VillainNVixen
12 years ago
MelbMarried38. I dont blame you for being dissapointed. If your woman wants it have a go. You might just get something you want in return.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I love it...but my fiance, I guess not. Bit disappointing for me LOL
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RHP User
12 years ago
well you haven't met me, I love it, it gives a woman the absolute best orgasms, just sayin
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RHP User
12 years ago
Who gives a fig !You don't ask you don't get !Mind you I wait for a few meets before I ask
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'MelbMarried38' What happens if your been with your partner for over 20 yrs and have hinted to him you would like to be more experiemental but no luck?? This is what happens with marital sex, you cant be open Some men or women are too consumed in their careers to have a life, love and happiness... Hence why we look elsewhere for an discreet adventure...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is it ok for a girl to ask for Anal sex from their partner? Absolutely!!! Everyone should be free to ask for whatever they want... just don't be upset if the response is negative... each to his or her own. Note, if you are a woman and the man asks and you aren't sure, offer to do it to him first... that'll ensure he knows what you are letting him do to you and may make him a little more gentle ;) Is this socially acceptable? Hmmm... anal in a social setting... not sure about that one
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RHP User
12 years ago
I ask my man for it all the time. If you like it nothing wrong with wanting it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you don't ask you usually won't receive. I don't mind asking (and honestly if you Are not into it then where is the pleasure for me to want to do it) and don't mind being asked. The biggest turn on for anal with me, is giving a pleasurable experience to a woman. If she doesn't like it, well we don't do it, because where is the fun in doing something she doesn't like. Personally I love doing it with a woman, so if she likes I am more than happy. But it isn't a deal breaker for me.
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