RHP

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One man's meat is another man's poison

February 23 2013

We had an experience once with a couple who were really pretty boring, in all kinds of ways. Now they get about and every now and then we see they've hooked up with someone we know. The latest couple being a couple we were quite interested in getting to know better. They've shot them to the top of their friends list and I can't help but lose interest a little. I just can't help it. Would something like that influence how you felt about a playmate?

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  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    12 years ago

    I make my own evaluations and dont rely on the recommendations of others.I like what I like, and talk about what I talk about.... different people respond to that in different ways.DG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    the second couple? Why make a judgement just because they have someone on their list.Just because you found those people snoring boring,doesn't mean others will feel the same. My friends often have friends that I have nothing in common with,I don't even question that,humans are multi faceted,not one dimensional,sometimes we click sometimes we don't. It is only when we actually meet people that we know if the clicking is gonna happen.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Been thinking maybe the boring couple were having a bad night when we met them. They were nice enough but that was it.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    friends list? this isnt facebook...and we dont read friends lists, as we understand that many merely 'collect' friends for the 'prestige', but may have never met any of them........

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    friends list? this isnt facebook...and we dont read friends lists, as we understand that many merely 'collect' friends for the 'prestige', but may have never met any of them........

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    It depends on which couple shot the other to the top of their list. Is it the 'boring' couple to the top of the 'newcomers' list or visa versa?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    A man confessed to me he almost didn't meet with me, as he questioned my lack of judgement for having been with another person, whom he did not see eye to eye with. I thought that was silly, but it certainly taught me a thing or two.

  • LemonDance

    LemonDance

    12 years ago

    and confess to being put off meeting guys because of who's on their friends list. I do realise that lots of people just add to their list without thinking, or meeting them, so I do usually ask if they've met the people on their list or not.I also read all details on their profile and look at their pictures... these things, combined with their "friends" influences my decision to meet or not to meet!Lem x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Once went to a wedding of an extended family member who, while nice enough, I thought to be very dull. Turned out almost everyone at the wedding was awesome - fun, interesting, easy going. But on here... I read validations as extra, but not authoritative, details, and look at friends list as another micro detail in the big picture... why would someone accept a "she bangs like a funny door" validation? Why would a couple seeking couples only have singles on their friends list? But at worst (or best), those things add to my radar sensitivity, rather than make/break things...- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    The guy from BoringCouple actually makes me internally shudder a little, and not in a good way.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Perhaps the second couple had some similar interests with the "boring" couple that you did not share when you met Mr & Mrs Boring. It's funny how chemistry works with different couples, there have been people that friends of ours have played with, when we met in person, we thought: what the hell were our friends thinking?? Just different people stimulate each other in different ways. I don't think anyone should judge the non-boring couple for playing with the "boring" couple, they just saw something different in each other compared to what you saw.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I know where you're coming from... Not so much from the friend list but sometimes when you know of a person's previous love life it can be off putting. It says something about how discerning or not they might be (or you perceive them to be). On the other hand, I wouldnt like to be judged on the bogans in my closet, so allow a lapse here and there for others.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    If a guy sent me a message saying don't meet with so-and-so, she's a head-fuck, would I take notice. Hell no. I'd meet her and make my own judgement. I don't allow another person's poor taste to dictate what I do in my life.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Generally no, HOWEVER...there is one particular "couple" and if they have verified anyone or anyone has verified them, I/we steer clear. Its judgmental but if you associate with those two, we dont want to know you quite frankly.   Other than that, I do check the friends list, if they have a friends list that looks like a trophy board, I pass thanks.   Msfun