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Ongoing FWB... Does that equal single or attached?
October 30 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
FWB to me is your just good mates that share pink bits. I am attached, and my regular lover is attached also. For a married person its just meet, and do the wild thing but its on going till either one of us says, thanks for that and see ya around. I would not be on RHP if I was single. Cant see the point as sooner or later I would want more, and as I have heard from the lips of many a man, they would not want to find an ongoing woman from here. yes judgmental but you have to realise that men come on here to primary hut for pussy. Not to find the girl to take home to mother. On the odd occasion, something more comes of it, and that is fantastic but it is as rare as rocking horse shit. Every single person on here, has a different view of what FWB means to them. It just depends on their current circumstance. My tip to guys, just do not bullshit at all. Just be up front when you zip your pants and say thanks, hope you enjoyed it as much as I did. No need to crap on about yeah baby, cant wait to see you again, sure lets go out sometime blahh blahh blahh blahh. Cause frankly scarlet, I do not give a dam. But a single women might, she will think your going to come back again, and mean while your off to the next little pussy to make it purrrrr. FWB are for busy that just want to get there end away. The only benefit for me is that you have a cock and are not afraid to use it. Well I lie, you have to also be able to kiss and go down and hold a conversation while your down there. Mulit skilled is my kind of guy.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Simple really, it means exactly that "the Friends" with Benefit, is ongoing. How I see it, FWB does have an expiry date. No it does not mean "single or attached". To me it means all parties are open to see other people, unless discussed and agreed upon to take to next level of relationship (the big "C" or to be "Exclusive") or it ends. I think sometimes the name "FWB", used to label that relationship that fills the void till someone or something better comes along for long term commitment. I think, thee "FWB" label/name what ever one calls it, is open to interruption, as many see it different depending on core values and morals, upbringing etc etc. Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
To me a fuck buddy is just that. Someone who comes over for a fuck and then leaves. A FWB is a friend who I go out with, or stay in with, who I sometimes fuck and who might even stay the night, if it suits both of us.
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Missb4u
10 years ago
Totally agree with foxxxy and L4Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think L4Q hasn't even answered the question & I think Foxxy seems to feel that only traditional relationships are the way to go. I think there is room for variations. For instance why does being attached mean you are fully committed and exclusive? So OP when should someone put attached? When they are exclusive? When they are in love? What about if you are in love but still see other people and you don't live together. When should you put single... When you are emotionally available and free to see lots of people yet that may not mean that you are not emotionally attached to someone though does it? So many variables! Let's jut say "It's complicated" ⊂(◉‿◉)つ
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Missb4u
10 years ago
as foxxxy said...its open to interpretation and I didnt get from foxxxy' post that she was only talking about traditional relationships... I guess that's about how you interpret it to isn't it. my actual answer to the question asked is I don't think it depends on the label you give it, it is about what you have discussed and are both comfortable with. Some people have exclusive fwb, I still don't think that on its own means attached.
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RHP User
10 years ago
in my opinion can be exclusive or not. I think if you have discussed being exclusive you should remain so. For me being in an exclusive FWB situation is ideal. I hate condoms and I would like to be able to confidently screw someone else without the use of them knowing that they aren't screwing the eastern sea board and increasing my chances of catching something. Nothing to do with emotions, just practicality.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I guess that would warrant someone saying they were attached because they are unavailable.
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RHP User
10 years ago
MissB I assume saying that an FWB has to go the next level - as in commitment and exclusive - or it ends sounds to me like there isn't much leeway to accommodate all the different ways people can be happy in all sorts of different types of arrangements/relationships.
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madotara69
10 years ago
How would you consider that very same question If you play up with a couple as an ongoing FWB? Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
To me a FWB = Single. When you start forming an emotional attachment and start spending more time together if mutually agreed, to me that would = Attached. This could mean exclusivity, if this is what both of you want.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Being attached mean a primary relationship.. it can be exclusive or open.....it requires both people to be on the same wave length .Mado are you talking about polyamory and polyandry?....xx Freya
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Way2go70
10 years ago
I agree with Foxy and L4Q. It really is how you and that person considers the 'relationship'. And it is a relationship by definition, with boundaries, expectations, feelings, emotions, desire, demands, and some for of commitment. I too fell into the void of what are we with my last serious partner after we had officially parted we continued to hang out, spend time in, go out on the town, would sleep at each other's houses (often stay for days), be sexually intimate occasionally, be emotionally intimate often, and would lay naked and cuddle each other every night when we were together. In between the time when we weren't spending time she would see other men, even had a short relationship, and did I. No problems most of the time, but not all the time!! The lines were often blurred depending on what cycle of the emotional circle either of us were in. We did love each other immensely, at times in love with each other, and loved being together and hanging out. We both knew that we could never be committed again like we were and that was ok. Neither of us wanted to be committed elsewhere either. So what were we? Hell knows, other than happy with where we were at and what we were doing. How other people viewed our 'relationship' neither of us could have cared about including both out families who just never understood the bond and connection we shared. And that is all that mattered. It has ended now because neither of us could fully 'accept' the other being with someone else but we couldn't really commit to each other either. Just got really fucked up and strained. Love this thread. So many different takes and all down to interpretation and personal perception.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'looking4quality' To me a fuck buddy is just that. Someone who comes over for a fuck and then leaves. A FWB is a friend who I go out with, or stay in with, who I sometimes fuck and who might even stay the night, if it suits both of us. exactly.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Always makes sense of a something that seems complicated... I lurvve common sense and realism.. Not peeing in your pocket btw.. just saying...
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RHP User
10 years ago
As far as Im concerned. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
In Tas for a few days. Really cool seeing so many thoughtful replies, I'll read them all when I get home tonight. g - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thank you all for your thoughtful replies. As most of you have said, the terms and their interpretations can definitely vary, and there's nothing wrong with that, you can be attached and not exclusive, or FWB's and exclusive; what matters is those involved are clear on where they stand. When meeting or introducing yourself to new people, that is where the clarifications may be required, and I guess that's what prompted me to start the thread. "So OP when should someone put attached?" I was asking the question, I don't have the answer! But I think you did: "Let's jut say "It's complicated" ⊂(◉‿◉)つ" :-) Personally, I'm not a great fan of the term "attached"... I can be in a committed friendship/relationship, which may or may not be intimate, but I don't want to be attached to someone, it sounds like I'm tethered to someone and I like my independence too much! ;-) I like the term "single", yet I know that some will interpret that as meaning wants to shag everything in sight, without any interest in forming any sort of friendships or relationships. Oh wait, I'm a guy, so the former is probably true ;-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' How would you consider that very same question If you play up with a couple as an ongoing FWB? Mado Mado Tara xx Mado - I'm still trying to get my head around it... does it need new terms, or should it be considered the same? Actually, I think it's the same, kind of... An individual with an ongoing relationship with a couple can still consider themselves single or attached, and again it's up to all involved to be happy with the level of commitment and exclusiveness, if that's what is desired.
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