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Onlline Nutter.
September 21 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
There are definitely some strange people out there in cyberspace......and in real life too. Hard to tell, he may have an illness or he may just be a dickhead. Either way, you need to be comfortable and safe.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe he was sane before he met you... And your beauty pushed him over the edge... ? I'm not sure if I could leave the next morning either... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
How old was this perp? Sounds like you bit a chunk from someone that was not quite ripe. But you had fun and the phone can be ignored.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You got an individual with a mind that's not geared up like you. The little voice in our heads (what little voice...Yeah that little voice) is, for him, running full on movies in colour about possibilities that must be entertained or addressed so they can bring the situation into full observation. You starring main situational actress - if you like. The frustration you're observing is the torment of a mind unable to hide it's thought processes which run rampant whether he likes it or not. Critical thinking consumes the imagination with scenarios of fear and angst and cannot dis-associate. In person the association is distracted enough to cope, albeit intensely with ammunition when he leaves from things said or inferred to be fully investigated for hidden meaning....Until this identity can be unfrozen and a new thought belief system be offered in it's place... to be rejected for more exciting patterns of familiar chaos....A mind can be a terrible thing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is why taking someone back to your own place after only one meeting can be a dangerous decision .......- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It might be a way for him to not meet again. Start a convo and turn it strange/nasty so you and others tell him to P,off and not call or message. Ppl are different behind the phone. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think labeling yourself as a Cougar can create problems . I also think that when you are dealing with some young men , you may find that they have issues with how they treat Women . Perhaps you'd be better off trying a Guy who is 42 ;) Kalifornia69 , your Pics are Hot ! GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
What exactly did he say that you found threatening? And I agree with Kaleidoscope. Someone can take a while to show their true colours.
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RHP User
11 years ago
To be honest...unless someone is a trained psychiatrist/phschologisit, putting a diagnosis on someone is bad juju.Just because he sent you a text saying "do you think i am Crazy" does not mean he is.Have you ever thought about talking to this guy as to what triggered his behavior?Maybe he had a great time too and to hear those words "when i am free again" is a little harsh.Maybe he saw it has a rejection????Maybe he was overwhelmed by the night as well how great it was as well?He may just be feeling hurt.FOXYAs for going back to your place, that's you choice. If you didn't feel comfortable you would've of taken him back.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You are always going to come across one. OP just be very very careful as they are out there and he know knows where you live! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meeting at your place the first night was your first mistake. It's really hard for a woman though, there's always a big risk there and it's a shock to find out they're a bit off after a great night. That sucks :( Be safe x- Posted from rhpmobile
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chevtrek
11 years ago
I met a drunk and a druggy plus some who are not clean so I made like a duck and flucked off
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inspirit
11 years ago
though some times my words are misinterpreted. Sounds like he may off been coming down off sumtink - maybe?
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RHP User
11 years ago
About going back to my place or someone else's. I never really thought about it except in a vague, intellectual sense. I guess I just relied on my gut instinct to tell me when. Maybe I should be giving it some more thought.For me when I read of your experience though, it doesn't so much matter why he has become this way, just that the fact he got angry and threatening so quickly that throws up the "warning Will Robinson" sign in big neon lights. I would definitely be bumping up my situational awareness and keeping my phone on me just in case. Hope for the best but plan for the worst would be a good motto to adopt for a while.And tickled you are right....a mind can be a terrible thing when it turns against itself. Terrible and tragic at times.
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP, we sympathise with your situation, and we're not having a go at you, but want to point something out. Please don't throw a "mental illness" tag into this situation, there's nothing at all in your story that suggests that. People throw the label around far too liberally, especially when referring to people who act aggressively or meanly. Then people who do have a mental illness get tarred with that description, and the myths get perpetuated.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority' Maybe he was sane before he met you... And your beauty pushed him over the edge... ? I'm not sure if I could leave the next morning either... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it... Benign Attachment Syndrome or perhaps Hot Chick Rejection Syndrome.OP I'd assume you will get more of this and take the advice not to give away your private address until at least a few meets have passed under the bridge. You have perhaps underestimated your "Lynx Effect"
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RHP User
11 years ago
As i said , the whole time i was with him he was perfect / beautiful no signs of anything to suggest he was crazy or any different to other people, i was even feeling really safe with him he showed me he really care and very protected of me when we were out partying from other people, yes he was young only 28 yo and yes i am not saying i am trained psycologist and just labelled him Crazy , Infact i said," no you are fine " , when he asked me , " Do you think i am Crazy ? all just becoz i said , i will see him when i can, and he just flipped...and started to say things that i cant say it on here , and some of the things he said make you think oh hang on i think he mite have mentall illness ( i have a dear friend who had Bipolar) so i wasnt just losely saying that , for example the only thing i saw him bit different before we met was if he sent a txt and i replied , i right away will get another 5 txts from him , but i never thought much about it other than ok this young man really keen on me, look i have met lots of young guys and even if they are angry with you for whateva reasons , they wont be saying what he said , only someone who are not well be saying what he said ,example " you better watch out for your doors and windows "... and i am like what ?!...this is crazy , the way he reacted to my answered ( when i can ) was over the top and the way he responded he reminded me every bit of my Close friend who lives with Bipolar , hysterical...i guess what i am trying to say is you never know who you goin to meet on here , i mean if he was showing me he had some kind of mental illness when i met him in the beginning of it , i will definitely excused my self and be gone , but everything was after he was back to his place all these weird txts start to arrived, and yes i did invite him/them to my place coz i will never go back to anyone's place but mine it will always be like that coz i know whats in my house and i dont know whats in theirs , and also when they come to meet me actually they dont come inside my home it is always out side first and we will go downtown rite away for our dinner-drinks and fun Clubbing out and after learnning a bit more about them and have the confidence that they are ok to take home ,then i will do that...so i am always careful for sure , its just that i felt he managed to sneaked in and i found out later as that was never happened ever before , i guess being on here we are taking a chance and you just never know ...anyway Happy sunday for all.xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
RHP This place has been nothing but good so far for me, RHP land has given me so much pleasure by meeting great boyz never experience anything bad except for this particular Boy...just to clarify , thanks.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The cost of a hotel room is worth the money spent when you consider the worry, stress and potential harm to you that may come from your decision to take this man back to your place after one meeting. Even though you felt you "screened well" it's impossible to know someone after one meeting. It's like playing Russian roulette. Sometimes you will be lucky but there is always the potential that you won't! Why let your life be disturbed or possibly turned upside down all for the cost of a hotel room? No one is going to look after your safety as well as you will! Play safe ladies!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your actions are not "careful" as you put it. You are being careless with your safety. So shoot me for saying it!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's going to be OK.I'm sure a lot of us on here have done some careless things at one time or other and put ourselves in a situation.Safety is a big issue on internet dating sites - I'm sure you are a very wise woman and know that already.I think being a woman is a lot riskier, than being a man on here??And sometimes when we are caught up in the moment and we can't see.Sometimes we gotta take a risk meeting people, like buying a lottery ticket as someone said to me once.I know as it has happened to me.We live and learn.FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
The comment about "watching windows and doors" that is a threat. You should treat it very seriously. If you have any further contact with him, tell him to cease all contact or you will notify the police. If he contacts you after that, notify the police and notify rhp admin. In the meantime as noted above by justforfun, "increase your situational awareness" ... Look around before you leave the house, don't linger outside your car or home, etc. Be a doobee, doobee's stay safe. As for future dates, I'd suggest meeting at the cafe rather than at your front door, that way, if you meet someone that you're not sure of, you can leave and they don't know your home address. If you trust them after the meet, then make the call to take them home, as I understand the security that you feel there. But consider this... If something does go wrong at home, then home will no longer be your sanctuary will it. Having said all thus, I'm sure this turkey will disappear, but please stay safe... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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madotara69
11 years ago
Maybe this will be viewed as wrong, though when I have ever been in a situation where some kind of threat has been suggested, I will endure to settle the matter face to face. (non aggressive)Generally with my experiences, people who bark, only bark. If their mind is playing tricks on them, then usually the paranoia is triggered from a bunch of parts with previous conversations, feelings expressed, strings. In a public place maybe have a conversation, to get to the bottom of things, let him have control of the conversation and calm his thoughts with pleasant returns to his fears. Tidy up the NSA with him and allow him to exit as the gentleman you say he can be.I like to sleep at night.Mado
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RHP User
11 years ago
once again, wise words from MadoTara. LOL Are you owls?? :) Foxy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
This man needs to be heard and listened you as Madotara suggested. There is always reasons/triggers behind peoples behaviour, people nay not be aware of. A bit of empathy and compassion maybe just what he needs. Others may not agree, but I think he does. FOXY- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'kalifornia69' " Do you think i am Crazy ? all just becoz i said , i will see him when i can, and he just flipped...and started to say things that i cant say it on here , and some of the things he said make you think oh hang on i think he mite have mentall illness ( i have a dear friend who had Bipolar) so i wasnt just losely saying that , for example the only thing i saw him bit different before we met was if he sent a txt and i replied , i right away will get another 5 txts from him , but i never thought much about it other than ok this young man really keen on me, look i have met lots of young guys and even if they are angry with you for whateva reasons , they wont be saying what he said , only someone who are not well be saying what he said ,example " you better watch out for your doors and windows "... and i am like what ?!...this is crazy , the way he reacted to my answered ( when i can ) was over the top and the way he responded he reminded me every bit of my Close friend who lives with Bipolar , hysterical...i guess what i am trying to say is you never know who you goin to meet on here , i mean if he was showing me he had some kind of mental illness when i met him in the beginning of it , i will definitely excused my self and be gone , but everything was after he was back to his place all these weird txts start to arrived, and yes i did invite him/them to my place coz i will never go back to anyone's place but mine it will always be like that coz i know whats in my house and i dont know whats in theirs , and also when they come to meet me actually they dont come inside my home it is always out side first and we will go downtown rite away for our dinner-drinks and fun Clubbing out and after learnning a bit more about them and have the confidence that they are ok to take home ,then i will do that...so i am always careful for sure , its just that i felt he managed to sneaked in and i found out later as that was never happened ever before , i guess being on here we are taking a chance and you just never know ...anyway Happy sunday for all.xx You may be right ... but you could also be wrong. It reminds me of blaming everything on ADHD when a kid struggles these days.Sounds like you've come across someone who is not adjusted to the whole casual thing and is behaving like a petulant child and a bully as the realization sank in that he was but one of many seeking your attention.This business of a jilted casual lover knowing where you live and sending explicit threats about "checking your doors and windows" should be taken seriously ... 99 out of 100 are bluffs but 1 in 100 are NOT. Be careful.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY' once again, wise words from MadoTara. LOL Are you owls?? :) Foxy - Posted from rhpmobile Love birds. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY' Love birds. FoxyAWWWWWWWWWWWWWW YEEEEEEEEEEEEEES I should've guessed!LOL K-i-s-s-i-n-g love birds.FOXY xxxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY' To be honest...unless someone is a trained psychiatrist/phschologisit, putting a diagnosis on someone is bad juju.Just because he sent you a text saying "do you think i am Crazy" does not mean he is.Exactly. I am so tired of people who usually have no knowledge or understanding of mental ilness (MI) whatsoever - other than the crap they read in the mainstream media - branding behaviour they consider to be'strange' in others as being due to a mental illness and throwing around diagnoses. It's stigmatising, not to mention very offensive to people with MI. I'm wondering if you even know what bipolar disorder is, and highly doubting that you do considering that the little you have described of his behaviour isn't very reflective of bipolar symptoms. People with bipolar are very rarely a threat to others and are much more likely to be victims of violence themselves, and this is true of the majority of people with mental illness, regardless of the diagnosis. But because the media insists on biased reporting, people now equate 'dangerous' with mental illness and think that every person with MI is running around stalking strangers and waiting to chop them up with an axe.This guy may have a mental illness, but he also might just be a dickhead. Point is, you have no idea of the reason for his behaviour and it's extremely inappropriate for you to be not only making your own assumptions about possible psychiatric problems, but also posting them on a public forum which everyone - including the guy himself - can read. There are many people who would be more than willing to make some not very nice assumptions about and put some labels on you for being on RHP and meeting relative strangers for sex, and I'm sure you wouldn't want them doing that, let alone in a public place (note I am not one of those people, I am just giving an example of how judging people without evidence is inappropriate). So exercising a bit of common sense and discretion before doing the same thing to others is advisable.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I received a abusive message from someone ( I don't even know who they are ) yesterday , complaining about something they said I had posted' regarding hating gays or bi ? WTF. ? Never have I said anything that even resembles that. Not only that ' after about 4messages I find out the particular post he refered to was posted about 12months ago..? I honestly had no idea what he was on about and gave back exactly what anyone would do when abused like that.. Cut a long story short, I contacted RHP to get onto this before it manifested... I was advised to block which I did.. This is the first time I ever had to block anyone... Talk about weird ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanking you for the Advise, but i dont particular like goin to a Hotel to meet young guys i just dont like that all and it is not about the money either no issues there it is just that i like waking up in my own place and entertain people in my own surrounding i guess we are all go by our own gut feelings maybe it is not necessary always rite, but thats my preference ..then again if someone really wanna hurt you regardless where you are , if he wanted to physicaly hurt me even in a hotel room i am still goin to get hurt no doubt , but i do understand your point totally.
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goldcoastcple69
11 years ago
"past midnite we decided to go home to my place". Really bad idea meeting up for a nsa at your house without really knowing the bloke .. I heard of some real horror stories. Some people are just really sick in the head ,but really good at looking nice and sounding sweet . But signs of jealousy and control are definite signs of trouble. Personally , I think its better to meet at a bar then a hotel or club . The first time we let a couple into our house , was the last time we ever let ANYONE into our house ! The guy was abit of a creep and wouldn't stop txting my wife. It got to a point were fuck off and leave us along didn't even work .. Never again ! lol Just think ,now that guy knows where you live .
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for your post , the thing is that being 35 yo i can tell the diffrence between a Dickhead and someone maybe little bit disturbed , since you hadnt read the txts he sent me therefore you cant say he wasnt either , i have met many young men and dealed with them , and since they are my preference as partners in bed so i am well prepared to take the childish behaviours sometimes and at time will be thrown at me, sure occasionally someone will get mad if they dont get their way with me bit tantrums here and there is ok i understand , and i am ok with that infact , i can tell the difference when this is just a boy sulking and a boy actually behaving rather odd bombarded me with madness txts and i am shocked with the contains of his txts no sane boyz will be saying what he had said , just becouse i said " i will see you when i can " and thats why i came to conclusion he was not all together upstairs , again i cant say on here what he had said it was Mad rants so not acceptable, so ridicilous just becouse i said something he didnt like to hear , i mean most sane young men will be saying ,ok no probs. and will just leave it at that, but this one definitely something else.
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madotara69
11 years ago
I am not making excuses for this bloke. Nor do I assume he has any mental illness issues, other than self esteem. Though I would much prefer to downplay a problem, rather than allowing it to grow into an escalating chance that it was not a bluff. I believe that is being very careful. If there is a growing problem, don't you think it is better to know it?
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goldcoastcple69
11 years ago
I think the previous post was wrong about bi polar . My step brother is bi polar and has had a lot of issues with violent behavior. I know his being charged twice , one charge was aggravated assault , later he was charged again with malicious wounding. Both times his bi polar was his defense and was taken into consideration by the judge. He had a psychiatrist who also said his violent behavior was attributed to his bi polar condition. Not sure how much it helped it but from what my family told me , bi polar can be attributed to violent behavior . And its the reason he has to take mood stabilizers, that are normally prescribed for violent behavior. Not saying all bi polar are violent ,but its untrue to say theyre rare . Depends on the type of bi polar as well , theres a few types .
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RHP User
11 years ago
THANKING YOU ALL FOR THE RESPONDS , I TRULY APPRECIATED IT, HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY AND GREAT WEEKEND FOR ALL .XX
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RHP User
11 years ago
I disagree with that. She owes him nothing. She spent the night with him.. And she hasn't rejected him but he has threatened her anyway. Why would a single woman go meet a guy who acts in this way?? Its hardly safe and you are only going to encourage further problems by seeing him. It's different for a man... You guys view your own safety differently. Superfoxy, I am interested. Is the advice you would give to your daughter? Go see him?
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RHP User
11 years ago
No one knows what his issues are, he could be harmless and probably is, but there could be a dark side... Keep away. Maybe he genuinely thought that he meant more to you... ? And was merely disappointed, but way out of line ! I would think that no further interaction is good interaction. Watch your personal security for the next few weeks and move on with your life... And hope he moves on with his... Passion can be a frightening thing sometimes. Hp xo 💌 Because you are worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
the poor fellow is simply cuntstruck !You may simply have turned his world upside down, and he is struggling with the reality of a lifelong dream slipping from his fingers.But like everyone here it is just a hypothesis.I hope kali girl you have learned from the experience.There was a woman on here not so long ago who was totally part of the scene, a regular, had everybody on side. Then it all began to unravel and the whole house of cards came down. I think it surprised a lot of people and maybe even frightened some. Highly intelligent can be the scariest of all.Take care.
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RHP User
11 years ago
... Try a 42 year old ;) GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Leaving the diagnoses about whether a mental illness is involved, whether he is just an asshole or whether he had a bit of mental disorder on the day. Threats like those made need to be given some credence. While it is unlikely it will turn into something very very sinister, you would be wise to exercise a little caution. Bump up your situational awareness.....by that I mean make a very conscious effort to look at what's happening around you......while driving, while walking, while getting coffee, all the time for a while. Look around when getting out of your car, especially at home. Don't rely on things like security buildings to replace awareness. If you feel you need it, arrange the occasional "check in" with a friend or friends. Lock your doors and windows, all the basics.although a person with a mental illness may at times be violent, it's definitely not a given. Violence is far more prevalent amongst those without a mental illness.For a while at least be careful. It very likely won't amount to too many problems, perhaps a few text messages or emails giving you a spray, so don't panic, just be prudent.I am not meaning any of this to come across as condescending or arrogant, so I hope all you forumites take it in the "trying to help" vein I post it in. If you need to talk a bit, drop me a line.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Earlier this year was chatting with a guy from here. Ended up giving him my mobile number. (I know bad move)Randomly he would message and on one particular occasion I was on my way home from a overnight stay in city when he contacted me. As I was passing through his area he suggested we meet. So we arranged a very public venue to meet having informed he I only had 15 minutes to spare as I needed to be home by a particular time.During the meet we chatted but it was obvious I felt no chemistry and then I headed home. Quite a few days later received a message from him to which I replied "I appreciate the time you took to meet with me but I'm not interested in taking things further and wished him good luck with his search". No reply.A few weeks later the random texts started "fuk me" "suk my cock" etc. I ignored the texts then he started to randomly call. I politely asked him to please remove me from his contacts via text. Then when he continued to call I again asked him to remove me from his contacts and received yet another blast of potty mouth.A couple of weeks later he started again. This time I told him if he continued I would go to the police and hung up. Shortly after I received another text "you f'ing bitch watch your back". Two days later he rang again I told him that was it was the final time I would ask to be deleted his response was "why what have I done".Touch wood! haven't heard from him since.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That takes us back to the use of "bat phones" ...the special phone that you only use when you need help... I don't use one... But lots do... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Last year I had a series of very threatening and abusive messages, phone calls, and txt from one very unhinged women. A guy close to me had contacted me for a play meet, we exchanged some messages, then phone numbers. A text or two but in the end we never met and i thought nothing of it. Oh well. Then a month later I get a message on RHP from his profile.OMG there was a barely readable rant detailing what should happen to my kind (BI/Gay/Poofter.. etc), How I was going to be tortured and killed. How filth like me should be eradicated. I mean really sick stuff. I reply in my good humor with the kindest and caring mind. (irony is such fun). Back again comes a even worse reply. How people could even write such hate.Then I get a txt message from an unknown number. It was the guy and he said his girlfriend had his phone and computer, that she is a bit nuts and I may get some messages from her. LOL hell yes and she is a nut.Well the messages kept coming from her for about a week. I did not care she did not know where I lived or who I was. The messages stopped and I let it slide. Then a month or so later I get a message from his profile saying do I want to meet. The message was a little odd, and I reply with. Sorry mate you girlfriend is a nut case and I dont want to have anything to do with you. Bang again a set of death threats and hate message. Rants of pure evil.Well I had had enough, so hit the block button.Then several weeks latter I get a call early one morning. Its a women voice. I don't recognize the number, but the voice is vaguely familiar. She says she is really horny and wants to meet. I ask "Do you know oh this is." "Yes your blindman." she replies.I have forgotten some women in the past (shame on me) but I always give my real name whenever I contact anyone so was rather wary. I played her game, random horny woman desperate for a fuck not a bad way to start the day. She insisted that she come to my place. Not a chance I live in a shared flat and do not host. By this stage she is starting to sound a little unhinged. I say "I will organize something and txt you in a bit. Goodbye."I puzzled over it, but never replied.Then it stepped up a notch two weeks later. Out of the blue abusive txts and death threats, then calls that were the same rants and bitter evil. "How she was going to cut off my balls...electrocute and torture.. You will never know when... I know some bikies... the cops hate your kind... I know where you live..." screamed at me down the phone. What fun.You know in the end I was never ever worried in any way. She did not know where I lived or what I looked like. I did let my close friends from RHP know. She tried one more time via a new profile on RHP to get to met me. But her distinctive writing style and spelling mistakes gave her away. I replied sorry not interested. Two more rants and nothing.Thus the very strange thing is that, me and my friends think we actually know her. That I have actually fucked her two times during the time of abuse. We are not 100% sure but the voice is very distinctive. I will not give away where and how but I know this girl moved interstate at the same time all the abuse stopped. And have to say she was a great fuck each time. mmmm The nutters are the best.. LOVE em ...... Just don't let them know who you are or where you live. And yes they do not always have nutcase written on their foreheads.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' I am not making excuses for this bloke. Nor do I assume he has any mental illness issues, other than self esteem. Though I would much prefer to downplay a problem, rather than allowing it to grow into an escalating chance that it was not a bluff. I believe that is being very careful. If there is a growing problem, don't you think it is better to know it? The excuse making question was meant for the OP - sorry if it was confusing ? I was nodding my head as I read your earlier advice because I would do the same ... however there is no Mado in the OP's scenario ... just Tara by herself ? It is a difficult situation that is for sure.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I take exception to your labeling of this person as Bi polar. You need to Google Bipolar and see it is different to your story. This guy was obsessed. I have encountered a couple of fellas like that and one that to this day still hangs around and flirts occasionally. Despite requesting for him not to. The best thing to do is to ignore them and do not respond. It is scary if you continue to engage them in conversation the more you feed their obsession. Stay safe.
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RHP User
11 years ago
hun its the internet wake up
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RHP User
11 years ago
I met a guy years ago on this site... We hooked up for what was understood to be a casual one nighter... We ended up enjoying ourselves so much we did it again a couple of times.. With (what I thought) the same understanding that it was casual hook up... and then I got a call on the mobile a week after the last time we hooked up and he was telling me he had to "break up with me" I was stunned for a second and then said "uuhhh ok but we aren't dating".. and almost like he hadn't even heard my comment he said "we have to break up and this is why".. and puts his 8 year old DAUGHTER on the phone to talk to me... I just hung up... I remember thinking what the hell??? Ive met some great guys and girls on this site but I have met a couple of "could have done without THAT" guys and girls to... But that guy... wins the award for strangest encounter Ive had from this site...
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shucksta
11 years ago
The RHP validations can assist with the Nutter Verification Process.They'll only be positive reports however (requiring approval by the subject potential nutter).If there is at least some positive feedback from genuine/legitimate fellow RHP'ers, then one can consider that to be useful information.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The first one I met on here was unfortunate. He seemed pleasnt. Went to have sex and he wasn't my style. It hurt so much when I asked him to stop he said relax you know you have to take it. Finally over he looked at me and said I'd describe you as interesting at best. I could use you for a little while. He left I got a text saying w ith mor e lube he could have done it tight. Got all these texts how he wAnted to fuck all my holes. Hate that so much. I asked him to stop I had someone. He asked if it was that bad I disengaged. I kept getting random texts how he was bored Lol. Weirdly stuff. Asked him to stop again kept going. Threatened him with reporting he thought that was awsum. There are weird people here. But I met a nice one after- Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
The OP is not a child, she is a 35 year old woman, who had this man in her home, in her bed.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thank you.... EXACTLY! That's why I didn't answer. :) FOXY- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Okay, so she should go see a one night stand she never wants to see again. And say what?
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RHP User
11 years ago
A long term partner who she knows intellectually and intimately. He was a one night fuck who has gone flakey... His flakeyness is proof enough that she should not put herself at further risk by seeing him again. If I were a couple, maybe, maybe we would sit him down and let him down gently. Only because of the perceived safety in numbers, but to tell a single woman to go and meet up with that guy who has threatened and scared her... I'm wondering who is crazy around here... ? Hp xo 💌 Because safe sex isn't just a rubber thing...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry dude, clearly you are not mature enough for adult situations so I think you should probably wait a few more years before being with anyone else. And look, the sex was good and worth repeating at some point but it wasn't the best sex... Hence the I will see you when I have time response. Unfortunately your immature response has scared me and worries me and what should have been a fun interlude has turned into a horror and I would never trust you in my home or bed again, in fact I never want to see you again. Maybe you should consider getting help for those anger management issues, because one day you will threaten the wrong person and you will be the one hurt. Quite frankly, threatening women with violence is completely uncool and I have saved all your responses, your number and have told a number of trusted friends so if anything ever happens to me, the police will come knocking on your door first. Good luck though. It was nice fucking with you. *eye roll* Can not see why that can not be done by phone.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Completely agree. If Mado and Superfoxy are so cavalier with their safety. Well that is their call and good luck to them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Those comments about this kid being cunt struck or getting carried away. Look I understand what you mean but at the end of the day there is never a good reason or acceptable excuse for threatening someone.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not going to respond any more to you on this topic. Please stop being condescending to wards madotara and myself because we have different views...makes you appear bitchy/nasty, to be quite honest. I am not here to please you nor get your approval on sensitive issues. Thank you. :) FOXY - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
if anything ever happens to me, the police will come knocking on your door first. Good luck though. It was nice fucking with you. *eye roll*Good luck!Sorry meeka, that is the safe approach.The OP did not notify the police, she chose to ask us our thoughts. So she has chosen to take up the matter herself, I was only paying respect to her being able to asses the threat as being one or not.In a public place, where she is safe enough to walk away knowing what needs to be done.I will say it once more, he was in her house.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I still don't understand. Why would you bother??
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's why I would not in her situation invite any further contact, period. If he initiates contact >>> police ASAP. He's probably harmless... But, would you send Tara to meet him on her own ? Of course you wouldn't, because you love her and would not put her in that POTENTIALLY dangerous situation. It's just playing the odds, 99% of the time theres no problem... But how will you feel if her number comes up ? Hp xo 💌 Safety- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am a bitch. Surprised you are only working that out.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MissLissa' Meeting at your place the first night was your first mistake. It's really hard for a woman though, there's always a big risk there and it's a shock to find out they're a bit off after a great night. That sucks :( Be safe x- Posted from rhpmobile There is nothing hard about it or for a woman. A little common sense and sticking to some rules always works.I would say a lot of people put themselves in the situation of trouble to be manipulated, and just unsafe settings.I think rule one should always me to chat- online, progress to txt and callrule 2 is ALWAYS meet in a public place of YOUR choosing.Dont expect anything after rule 2.....These are starters
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think I dodged someone similar OP.I don't normally do the constant texting,telephone calls I prefer to meet asap and make a decision based on RL encounters.I made an exception for this man as he was going away for two weeks.At first our interactions were fine but then he ignored my request for no cock pics,no chatting about what I like don't like etc...I find it boring .I thought about whether or not I still wanted to meet him and decided against it.Then the nastiness started ,fueled by alcohol I imagine...I was a bitch yada yada...then profuse apologies...my only response was ''I am just not interested''Eventually he gave up but it was a bit of a cautionary tale for me.There are no guarantees ever about people,but eventually they will tell you who they are.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'IndefatigableMe' Quoting 'madotara69' I am not making excuses for this bloke. Nor do I assume he has any mental illness issues, other than self esteem. Though I would much prefer to downplay a problem, rather than allowing it to grow into an escalating chance that it was not a bluff. I believe that is being very careful. If there is a growing problem, don't you think it is better to know it? The excuse making question was meant for the OP - sorry if it was confusing ? I was nodding my head as I read your earlier advice because I would do the same ... however there is no Mado in the OP's scenario ... just Tara by herself ? It is a difficult situation that is for sure. If Tara went by herself, I would be much more worried about his safety.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Those comments about this kid being cunt struck or getting carried away. Look I understand what you mean but at the end of the day there is never a good reason or acceptable excuse for threatening someone.I would never excuse violent or threatening behaviour, my comment was more about the amateur diagnostics.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I like your sentiment but how many women could you say the same about ? C'mon meeks... It's hug time... :) Hp xo 💌 Too much forum time, not enough lovin time...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I like fighting sometimes HP... But at the moment I am jet lagged and I need a good root. 😬
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RHP User
11 years ago
Phone sex you... One very frustrated hp sitting right here... Waay too muck teasen and precious little pleasn... Hp xo 💌 Because sexual frustration is bad for the heart...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Years ago met a guy slept with him was dissapointeed unfortanatly. I didnt know how to let him down easily so let hings keep going for a few weeks finally i couldnt do it anymore felt wrong, so i told him that we could be friends etc etc he cried not good scene at all. I think im in the clear then. Nope he shows up with a car trys to give it to me. I tell him no I wont take it would be wrong of me . Gifts and money keep arriving at my house. He refused to take them back so I left them with his housemate. Next he starts turning up at the night clubs i used to go out to. Very uncomfortable situation. So I moved house and changed my phone number. 3 months later he shows up at my sisters place drunk and crying. My brother in law throws him out. It was the last straw so some of my male friends went and had a chat to him. Never had any issues with him since. I learnt that you have to be direct and to the point from the get go otherwise things can esculate.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I had one once, that's why you have a burner. Crazy as a wild cat in a sack! Up and down, do you love me? do you hate me? and we went on one date!???I was genuinely worried for her and tried to ascertain if she has a support network of friends who could step in and help once I moved away... quickly which worked I think.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've met a couple of crazies in my time on this site. The first (when I first joined) sent me close on 150 text messages in one weekend. Yes, I've now learnt not to give out my mobile number. The second was a guy I had been seeing as a fwb for 12 months. Things were going really well until he changed his personality completely. He went from really nice to being quite verbally offensive. I broke everything off immediately but he continued to stalk me, even a dvo didn't seem to slow him down and he even physically hit me twice. Things have finally calmed down now but it's taken 9 months for him to accept things are over. There are some complete nutters out there and sometimes it takes a while for the weirdness to show. Please make sure you stay safe. My experience was not pleasant and I hope no one else needs to go through that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
INNERWEST123TEACH ME HOW TO EXPRESS MYSELF, COZ SEEMS LIKE YOU WAY WISER THAN ME, JESUS ?!....I MEAN REALLY ..ARE YOU SURE ?...I like to thank everyone once more for all for the comments ,i truly appreciated it ,yes i am 35 yo and definitely not an Idiot ,like some mite think ...why and how i choosed to meet this young man rite away was personal choice ,as i refused to do endless txts and fone calls as they are definitely not my thing , i lead a busy lifestyle and have better things to do, i am not a Teen with plenty of time to Burn ,i guess each individual on here are different and have their personal preference on how to go about it when it comes down to meet potential playmate/s , so this is how i approach things in life after all life is too short and what am i waiting for ??!!....and even if i had done background checked on him by endless fone calls and txts for the next 6 months , does it guaranteed he will be Normal /Sane young man ? and that i am sure about him , becouse they are plenty of men and women appeared to be totally Sane and normal before you meet them , and turn out to be the opposite after you have met them (Insane or whateva ) ...so please,please people as i said ," i had great time with him that nite " no doubted (and stand by it ) and only when i said , " when i can " he flipped , and everything changed ... the fact that he didnt like the answer he got from me , what can i say?...the way he reacted and turned into something else it is beyond my control , definitely !...how we do things usually we follow our gut feeling, dont we ?!...so i am no different to lot of you out there and i will still be like that in the future ,i still wont do the 6 months background checks ,oh my !...thats not gonna happen sorry to let you down guys ( for the ones who dissagree with me ) it is just not my style ...Am I risking my self taking chances ? of coz i do !...but then again everytime i walk out of my front door i am taking a chance/s coz you dont know who you are goin to be rubbed shoulders with or what is goin to happen to you ( my Brother and his girlfriend died together in a car accident when they were supposed to go to the beach, so there you go we are not in control of things what happen or goin to happen to you who knows, we can only try the best we know ) ...everyday we do taking chances/s the minute we walk out of the Door ,indeed ! and we do our best to be careful of coz everytime , we listen to our gut feeling and thats all i can say , trust me i am no fool , regardless what some mite thinks ...i did what i did and i still will do it the same way , coz in life there is no such a thing like Guaranteed , i still gonna do it the way i know how and do it the way i like to do it , there is no guaranteed in life and thats just about it ! live the life you love and love the life you live in...cheers guys !! xx
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I like fighting sometimes HP... But at the moment I am jet lagged and I need a good root. 😬 I would very much enjoy having a fight with you along the way, so sexy when feisty. Maybe when you are feeling a little better.Mado xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am concerned why you would not meet first somewhere safe before showing/telling him where you live? I thought that was the golden rule ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm normal or at least my 10 different personalities say so :p You can't screen people perfectly no matter what you do, as you said there was no indication of any "crazy" oozing out. I've had relationships go for months before I find out their nutters.
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Gfun69
11 years ago
This is mr Gfun, I read your profile and it says you want a friend with benefits. Which to me says you don't want to see the guy every day... I as a guy get that..But maybe you could have said..I had allot of fun with you maybe we can catch up soon and set up another fun night? If that is what you wanted?
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RHP User
11 years ago
He was in limerence... He instantly fell for you... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes, agreed.
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP you've definitely given something to think about...re screening process! I can afford yo deal with threatening aggressive bipolars p.........scary!
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fitgymguy
11 years ago
He seemed like the type of guy that once he had his wicked way with you ,thought you were his ..controlling ,nutter! he does sound a bit dodge .. definitely go for neutral ground in the future .. you also said a few guys have become angry ... that's not good ..bogan central ,,be careful .. this site is all about fun times ..if you want a real man id shout a hotel to have a night of passion with you darling ..that's a well tasty body you have there ;-)
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