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Only cum from clitoral stimulation
May 20 2015
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Im going to offer some general comments, based around my experience as a non-clitoris owner (Ive time-share a few )..... to avoid the sneers from the usual suspects with the usual comments lol You know how to climax from clitoral stimulation... so, youve "trained" that response and its straightforward for the result you seek. Try leaving it alone for a while, and focusing on vaginal stimulation and the pleasure sensation..... and letting your mind run free without focussing on climax as a goal. Experiences have also shown me that you would be more likely to have vaginal climaxes after clitoral ones when you are more fully engorged and "pre-sensitized", focusing on mid-depth g spot and deep spot stimulation for prolonged periods, until youve created the mental-vaginal connection resulting in climax. Often this is more easily achieved by a partner who knows how to stimulate you correctly, and do so for longer than you probably would do to yourself. Once that connection is made, future vaginal climax should be more common. DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
It is a gspot orgasm. Best position is doggy, you riding him , and him standing legs on his chest, pillow raising hips so that all thrusting concentrates on G spot. When riding dont go up and down, rather back and forward so that your g spot is tapped. Using your partner get him to put ring and middle finger into well lubricated and turned on lover. Hook finger so that finger wrap so that fingers inserted are internally about the same level as clit. Rather than use an in out motion. Use an up down motion with the a tapping motion to the front wall of you internal. He must tap with about the pressure of opening the lever of a door and what doesn't hurt you. Repeat this till orgasm, multiples are possible after, over time your muscle reflex will occur and you will begin to cum from vaginal sex, but dont forget your clit. They are two distinct orgasms, and you can achieve blended and variations, and. Squirting!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
but isn't there SOME clitoral stimulation even with penetration?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
your response in the new to squirting thread.... Are you saying that your partner is essentially only interested in having you orgasm from the sex he gives and not from toys?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thanks you fun couple Yes sir stir my man wants me to come just from sex no toys - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Aureesa_87'my man wants me to come just from sex no toys I think your man is the one who needs some training...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Women fake orgasms...why would any woman put up with that selfish crap OP ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Aueressa I hope you are not letting your man make you feel bad or pressure you. Everyone is different and there is a huge proportion of women that can't come unless they have clit stimulation. I just read that up to 80% of women can have difficulty from orgasming from vaginal intercourse alone. As far as I am concerned he has to have skills to not just say something and have it magically happen.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Aureesa_87' Thanks you fun couple Yes sir stir my man wants me to come just from sex no toys - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
In search of the G...every vagina is different DG,stop making women feel like it's their fault because they can't "mentally connect"...sometimes the G spot jut not easily accessible ...not about mind training at all .but biology .
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RHP User
10 years ago
OP best way to learn is to use google. useful keywords "female anatomy" "Sex education" "Female sexuality" "Female sensuality". There is no end of videos, not porn but well made educational and instructive, and much to read an learn from. What you see read and hear you can then try out your self. As I said before you may not be able to have a penetrative orgasm. That does not mean there is anything wrong, it is very common many women are like that. Its just the way you are built. Keep exploring. If it continues to concern you it will not hurt to see a gyno just to make sure everything is in good order and in the right place. It may also pay to see a psychologist, specifically one that specializes in female sexuality. Ask your GP and they can make a referral for you. I have a sneaking suspicion that your motivation for wanting this is not completely your own. Personally if I where you and he made me feel bad about not coming I would straight out just say "because your dick is to small". And really It could be that simple, you dont know till you try someone that is a better fit, do you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
if your man wants you to come without using toys, surely the ball's in his court? He sounds like a bit of a dickhead, but he might just be very sexually insecure.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Seriously, miss Freya?I think... you just wanted to criticise when you same my profile, before you even read what I wrote.And THAT is precisely why I kept it "general" If you can show me where I said the OP "can't mentally connect"..... ... or if I suggested or stated there was any "fault" involved...... ...then.... I'll happily agree with you. Until then...Sheeesh.... DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
Some g-spots are depressed and no matter how much tapping, rubbing or fucking it cannot be reached or sensitized enough to create any form of pleasure or orgasm. So OP to answer your question, depending on your physiology, clitoral stimulation may be the only orgasm you are able to have. It isn't that you haven't trained yourself but your body may be saying it can't happen. You may need clitoral stimulation/orgasm first so that when your vaginal tissue is engorged you have maximized your chance of g-spot stimulation and vaginal orgasm. IMO if your "man" chooses not to listen to you or care about your needs then maybe he should forgo his needs and urges for a while and see how he feels to have his wants fall on deaf ears. An ex of mine used to tell me that I should be able to orgasm vaginally and that it was my problem. He wasn't going to give me oral because he didn't like to. Turned out he had tried it as a much younger man but his then partner had hygiene issues which had put him off ever trying again. After I made it clear that if I didn't cum then he wasn't going to either he reluctantly decided to give it a go again. He became very good at it almost to the point of addiction. Needless to say our sex life became very good after that for BOTH of us. Good luck LG
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Twisted_Mister
10 years ago
Perhaps your bloke might have some training to do. This is not your problem. It's his, and if he's insecure enough to say 'I want you to cum without toys and just with my magnificence' then you're being put under a whole pile of undeserved pressure. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mr_MrsAraps
10 years ago
My understanding is a that there is high proportion of women who climax predominantly from clit stim and not vag stim alone (not to mention stimulating the brain as well). If your man is making you feel guilty as that is the way you and MOST women need to get off then he is the one who needs to change his outlook. As for toys once again I think that if that's what helps you get off then you use all the things you have or need at your disposal to get off and not let anyone make you feel guilty about it. A lot of women need really concentrated stim that only something like a hitachi can provide. Cheers, W. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
clit is always the winner .
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RHP User
10 years ago
Your 'man' needs to learn how to connect better with you. For example learn how to use his magic cock. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I can't recall reading anywhere that the partner has said "no toys ever!" I read it as, he would LIKE to be able to give her an orgasm sometime without toy assistance. Perhaps I read it wrong? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I can't recall reading anywhere that the partner has said "no toys ever!" I read it as, he would LIKE to be able to give her an orgasm sometime without toy assistance. Perhaps I read it wrong? - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Again.... as a non-owner, I can only go from the comments of those who do drive a clitoris..... which is "perhaps" what you're inferring???? But more often than not, women have told me that they prefer the penetration/vaginal orgasm.... not simply because of the sensation of it, but because of the overall connectivity and intimacy with their lover of climaxing while being penetrated by them. But hey..... lets hear more from the non-stick shift drivers
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RHP User
10 years ago
"Thanks Thanks you fun couple Yes sir stir my man wants me to come just from sex no toys" Moral high round shit I know.... But...why doesn't your profile reflect said partner?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
not high round grrrr @ iPhone - Posted from rhpmobile
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hornypair0079
10 years ago
My mrs will squirt/gush/cum like at least 20 time in one hr and she learnt from a toy a Hi Taichi magic wand. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
You are right. It's when the original poster gives such little info and he way she has worded makes you kinda think a certain way. But of course it may not be that way at all and her man is just wanting to experiment with different types of orgasms in a fun collaborative way. Again, it isn't always easy so hopefully the man is cool with whatever the OP wants and needs in the bedroom.
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RHP User
10 years ago
you be the judge:- Quoting Aureesa_87... "Help me? I would love to be able to do it!! Any tips? I don't orgasm from just sex I need clitoral stimulation. Any tips? And is there a way to orgasm just from sex? My partner is not a fan of using toys and is disheartened when I don't come just from sex. Any tips? - Posted from rhpmobile" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Who is responsible for cleaning up the mess?? What do you regular squirters do to protect the mattress?? I am imagining an increasing number of dank moldy beds around Australia. Some women I know are not what you might call "Good home keepers" and if they became squirters, I shudder at the thought. There can be a lot of it and i have been left to clean up at the club a couple of times. Muttering grumpily under my breath "bloody squirting fad is getting out of control!" And if a woman were to do it in MY bed I would not at all be happy. I dont care how great it feels, if you are a squirter I would want to know before I let you in my bed.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Wrong thread... Sorry.
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RHP User
10 years ago
The stat that gets thrown around alot is that 70% of women require clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. The fun chaps at Abco, have a theory, the g spot in most women have atrophied because they have never been appropriately stimulated because"you just didn't know about it", so to build the g spot up appropriate stimulation can help to increase blood flow to this area, and the resulting orgasms and squirting orgasm. This information came out in the 1980,s, from the book by Beverly Whipple, "g spot" and other interesting developments. Another interesting development is the g shot a newish cosmetic procedure which lifts the area and helps g spot or vaginal orgasm. Dr Susan Block, very cool personality a squirting teacher, has said that squirting has exploded in bedrooms across the world. 3 years ago I would be with all of you saying that hands free sex is for the lucky few ladies, rock the toys and I still very much love the fun that toys add to a session. Training your g spot will require a good vibrating wand a g spot attachment. Every woman has the physiology for g spot orgasm and squirting and multiples. Have a. Look at Abco "Bring sex back to life" it may just change your sex life. Have Fun😊😊😊
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RHP User
10 years ago
We'd rather achieve orgasm ourselves over using toys also, But yes we do see how it is written, suggests that toys are a no go. Perhaps the OP could enlighten us? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Fuck sake the lady asked a question, about orgasms from sexual penetration ! Now its a thread about how fucked her man is and he needs help ! You deserve better ! No body knows the man or ladies situation so dont assume you do , just answer the ladies fucking question. Miss just fuck as much as you can as long as you can and where ever you can till you burst your bubble, then it should be a breeze 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes Aureesa_87 clearly says that her man doesn't want her to come with sex toys Quoting 'Aureesa_87' Thanks you fun couple Yes sir stir my man wants me to come just from sex no toys - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am the female half of the excitedcouple2 and I actually want to thank Aureesa for this topic as I also have only ever had an orgasm from clitoral stimulation (and not for the lack of my partner trying). Sometimes I think it may be possible to hit the g spot, I feel like I have come close in sex and by using toys, but never actually crossed the line. I think I just need more experience p.s. I've never squirted either...hmmm...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I can come from clitoral stimulation too.... When I rub mine on hers....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Op you say you want to be trained? and you say you got a boyf who can't give that orgasm by penetration? So wouldn't the logical process would be to actually use toys to train your body to achieve orgasm via penetration? If you don't want to go through that process, the next step would be to just have heaps and heaps of sex with your boyf whilst he is on viagra in various positions. Failing that if that doesn't work......it's time to ditch the boyf!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Op you say you want to be trained? and you say you got a boyf who can't give that orgasm by penetration? So wouldn't the logical process would be to actually use toys to train your body to achieve orgasm via penetration? If you don't want to go through that process, the next step would be to just have heaps and heaps of sex with your boyf whilst he is on viagra in various positions. Failing that if that doesn't work......it's time to ditch the boyf!
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RHP User
10 years ago
...then it's time to shout yourself a holiday to Congo without the boyf!
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RHP User
10 years ago
You can then come back on the forums and tell us all about how you met your "ketut".
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Julialooking
10 years ago
No! I don't think so!! Im 39 & need at least both! Toys can help.You need to be comfortable enough with someone to tell them what u do & don't like & let the man do some work 4 a change!!!
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erotictouch4u
10 years ago
Just get your lover to learn how to give you oral stimulation.That way, he give you the orgasms through your clit, no toys and both of you should be happy. ET xox
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RHP User
10 years ago
There is another technique called as above its more about locking each other in missionary and you and he grinding your clit against his pubic mound. Do a search there should be a description of this technique.
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Newday10
10 years ago
Your mans selfish he should be happy to do what he needs to get you off not tell you how you cum , that my thoughts of that .
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RHP User
10 years ago
im not sure but would like to help, we would need to practice alot of things first
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RHP User
10 years ago
This is why I like to have the woman have their first orgasm via oral. With oral I like the fact I get to concentrate solely on her pleasure and not wonder if she is not enjoying it as much as me. And manners and etiquette state a lady always cums first ( bad pun intended)
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Quoting 'telake' This is why I like to have the woman have their first orgasm via oral. With oral I like the fact I get to concentrate solely on her pleasure and not wonder if she is not enjoying it as much as me. And manners and etiquette state a lady always cums first ( bad pun intended) That to me, reads a little like.... you're gonna lick her, regardless of her enjoyment what your doing.... ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
It means you be a lover who is attentive to her needs and make sure she get her rocks off as well. Nothing worse than a selfish person no matter what you are doing.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
... it just didn't read that way...... and you'll note I gave you benefit of the doubt.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'funcouple1216' The stat that gets thrown around alot is that 70% of women require clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. The fun chaps at Abco, have a theory, the g spot in most women have atrophied because they have never been appropriately stimulated because"you just didn't know about it", so to build the g spot up appropriate stimulation can help to increase blood flow to this area, and the resulting orgasms and squirting orgasm. This information came out in the 1980,s, from the book by Beverly Whipple, "g spot" and other interesting developments. Another interesting development is the g shot a newish cosmetic procedure which lifts the area and helps g spot or vaginal orgasm. Dr Susan Block, very cool personality a squirting teacher, has said that squirting has exploded in bedrooms across the world. 3 years ago I would be with all of you saying that hands free sex is for the lucky few ladies, rock the toys and I still very much love the fun that toys add to a session. Training your g spot will require a good vibrating wand a g spot attachment. Every woman has the physiology for g spot orgasm and squirting and multiples. Have a. Look at Abco "Bring sex back to life" it may just change your sex life. Have Fun😊😊😊 I don't suppose you'd know what the stats were for women capable of achieving the same results without any kind of physical stimulation and/or penetration whatsoever?
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RHP User
10 years ago
To submit to your partner's desires is not necessarily a reflection on either person's degree of selfishness, it may be just what floats yours and their boat. I get turned on by being told what to do and have on occasion have been brought to orgasm purely because of my partner's dominance and without clitoral or vaginal stimulation. For me, submitting to my partner is a beautiful feeling and far removed from any negative connotations. If the OP is in such a relationship, then I would suggest she try soft self hypnosis for letting go of her own will and let her mind do the rest.
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RHP User
9 years ago
i was like you till i hit my early 30'...neither with others or with my husband could i cum through intercourse alone..been together for 18 years, but only in the last 6 or so have things changed...good think is once you have done it once or twice, your body seems to remember it, and it just never stops after that i watched a documentary once on the female genitalia...and apparently the visible part of your clit is only the tip of the iceberg...it extends all the way into your vagina in a circular shape....same group of nerves as that little button... for me the way it works, is i don't let him touch my clit at all till much later into the play, as getting my clit stimulated is such an intense feeling, that it desensitizes me to the vaginal stimuli....i love him licking the entrance of my vagina...tongue fucking it, etc...it really wakes up my senses down there, and primes me up for penetration...the angle seem to matter a lot too in hitting my spot just right... don't quite remember when it started, but one day it just happened...and i came like crazy..again and again pretty much with every stroke...ever since it has been heaven for me i would say, get him to stay away from your clit for a while completely...focus on warming you up properly..and don't worry about it or concentrate on it too much either...it's the journey you get to experience that matters the most...the destination is just the bonus... just my two cents:)
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RHP User
9 years ago
I use to have the same problem. I couldn't cum unless I had a vibrating bullet on my clit. My husband use to hate it, made him feel inadequate because he was unable to please me. My husband and I broke up beginning of this year and I have been going to a lot of swingers parties where I have played with a lot of girls and watched how they do it and what they like.....for me I wasn't being properly stimulated...it's not just about physical stimulation but mental stimulation too. So if haven't played with girls before or gone to swingers then I suggest u talk to ur husband. You don't have to swap partners at a swingers event, I've seen heaps of couples that don't play with others or the girl is just here to play with other girls. My G spot seems to be alittle higher up which is why most guys weren't able to find it till now. Also try bringing ur legs up when ur being fingered and bare down with your pelvic muscles so he can reach higher up. Until this year I had never been able to cum naturally and now can. I hope what I have learnt helps u xxxx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Xkiwibred, sorry dont have the stats for no touching orgasms. But there are some talented ladies that can and some have volunteered for studies when getting an MRI so that researchers can see what's going on in the brain whilst having an O. 4% of women can have the squirting, multiple orgasmic response, with expanded orgasm. Sadly 4% haven't had a happy ending yet😞😞😞 Miss Badkitten, i agree with you, the right mental stimulation, the right physical stimulation, and some exercise towards orgasm and learning what rocks for you and orgasms do multiply😊😊
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RHP User
9 years ago
From my experiences with my tantric massage most women need clitorical stimulation to orgasm , and some with the G.spot stimulation but only e few and sometime both , All women are very different and sometimes just enjoy the pleasure of foreplay and don't orgasm, it should be no pressure and just enjoy the experiences
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RHP User
9 years ago
The G spot is easy to find and if you can get a guy (I Have one who is available to teach ay ladies) who can rub the G spot with his fingers whilst licking and sucking your clit, You end up with stronger and multiple orgasms.To find the Gspot is easy place your finger on the roof of your mouth and it appears a bit rough then keep sliding upwards and you will feel a soft section of flesh. There lies the GSPOT if you relate the same theory to the Vagina.My Male friend knows this and I also have practiced it on ladies with some success. He is a qualified masseur so he knows more and has better hands than I do.If any of you ladies want to try him drop me a line.
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RHP User
9 years ago
My man would love to meet you Gayely and show you what could be achieved by being on the button with the tongue and gspot at the same time can do. Mroptimist would without doubt have your tummy at least a foot off the bed for quite a while. I also agree self hypnosis can be great I do this to get to sleep at nights To submit to your partner's desires is not necessarily a reflection on either person's degree of selfishness, it may be just what floats yours and their boat. I get turned on by being told what to do and have on occasion have been brought to orgasm purely because of my partner's dominance and without clitoral or vaginal stimulation. For me, submitting to my partner is a beautiful feeling and far removed from any negative connotations. If the OP is in such a relationship, then I would suggest she try soft self hypnosis for letting go of her own will and let her mind do the rest.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have only ever reached orgasm from clit stimulation ...I never understood how girls can cum from penetration alone ?? How does that work?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Experimental88, this is how I've learnt to do it. Come on top. Place ur hands above his shoulders palm down.use a stabbing motion in a way that his shaft is rubbing along up top ( in the G spot area ). Using ur lower abdominal muscles, really thrust ur self downwards in a banana shape. You don't need to get height when ur coming up, it's sort of like grinding but really use ur lower abdominal muscles as it will help bring ur G spot down. Or so I imagine it would. Also, I know other girls rub their clit along the mans pubic area, for this u will need lube an him clean shaven.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Just read an article about a movie called "Science, Sex, and The Ladies" that claim that vaginal orgasms don't exist, and have never been recorded, only ever self reported. Which I find amazing and fascinating. Had a quick look at some journal articles and found there is nothing conclusive out there. OMG Just one eg: "A Comprehensive Review of the Clitoris and Its Role in Female Sexual Function" Sexual Medicine Reviews, Article first published online: 14 JUL 2015 "The intricate neurovasculature and multiplanar design of the clitoris contribute to its role in female sexual pleasure. Debate still remains over the exclusive role of the clitoris in orgasmic functioning. The clitoris is possibly the most critical organ for female sexual health." So tell your partner that if scientists and sexual health experts are debating the ability to orgasm vaginally, then it might just be ok that you can't.
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CumOnRound
9 years ago
I have always required clitoral stimulation for orgasm. However, I have over the years found positions (and some seriously great, deep fingering work by my husband) which means I require less and less sometimes and often it's just for the tipping point! Hubby has always loved to help out and loves it even more watching when I help myself out so it is part of the play for us. Sometimes instead of using hands I take his cock out, sit above him and rub my clit with his head till we are both about to cum and then put him in me and...... for all! Phew... hot flush. Sorry... Long story short, you will find ways to need less direct clit stimulation, just start to explore a bit more and have fun. Make it all part of the play.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I can tell by your profile that you are way too good for this man of yours. Give him the flick and I'll teach you myself. xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Do it doggy style and play with your clit.Big Bang Theory!!!
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