M32
Only ever had one sex partner?
April 22 2014
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Asking the obvious, but important question. Luke.... have you had this discussion with the long time girlfriend? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
needs to be shared
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RHP User
11 years ago
Dishonest people are kind of frowned upon here. Just letting you know - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
could give you advice based on my experience of being in a serious 9 year long relationship from the time both of us were 16 (we were both each others firsts), how I cheated once when I was 19, how I nearly cheated again a few years later and that's when I realised it wasn't fair to me or him to keep something going just for the sake of security and companionship, but I doubt that's what you want to hear. However, I will comment on the fact that your profile says you are single, when clearly you aren't. You can fool around all you want, nobody can stop you from doing that, but at least be decent enough to be upfront about your situation so that you don't drag unsuspecting people into a possible shitstorm. I've so far managed to avoid the situation, but I would be highly pissed off if a guy I slept with claimed to be single and I found out later that he wasn't.
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RHP User
11 years ago
And wanting to be a cheater already? What DG said. Talk to your girlfriend. To answer your question: I was with my first serious boyfriend from ages 18 to 24. I was bored too, but we talked about it. Or so I thought. He cheated on me three times before I saw the light and dumped his arse.Don't be that guy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meander through the Forums..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your profile description says you are 19. Have you been here for 2 years already and just not updated your profile? No doubt you have already have some "on the side fun" in that time, so I am unsure of the reason for this forum thread. You are definitely not alone in the situation you are in. I'm sure there are plenty of "cheaters" on here. Good luck to you, but the shit will hit the fan eventually. Hope you are prepared!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well Said
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RHP User
11 years ago
Luke, mate. on one hand I can understand your feelings but its already been said u got to have a sit down with your girlfriend about the situation quick smart before it blows up in your face. If you are bored then that's only natural but if at the same time you still love your girlfriend then it can turn into a volatile situation. Don't be thinking with your dick and heading off digging holes u may not be able to climb out of. Sit her down, tell her how you feel in a mature manner and see what the two of you can come up with she might even feel the same on some level I don't know. She might be open to swinging or something so could head to a group meeting somewhere and both of you can gain some extra experience. but you got to talk man. that's the key
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MsElle72' Your profile description says you are 19. Have you been here for 2 years already and just not updated your profile? And 15 friends.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Don't be that guy. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
feel the need to judge so blatantly? The OP was wondering if there was anyone else in his boat....Its as though there is this unwritten rule that you are a 'bad / evil person' if you cheat. Its sex to the OP, he isn't planning on killing his neighbors puppy. I would understand if you have a higher moral such as a religious belief, but seriously who gives a shit whether he fucks one girl or ten? His partner is probably fucking around as well, sucking guys off at night clubs. I have seen it both sides - just the male is usually more vocal, as in this instance.
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OPNmarriagecpl
11 years ago
Your only 21 years old, listed as single but in actuality; your in a long term relationship and think the grass is going to be greener in someone else's paddock??? My husband and I have been together since were 16 years old and have only ever been with each other. Were only new here and are yet to play but if it never happens then we really couldn't care less....... Our marriage and the bond we share is way more important. Maybe you need to think about the big picture and count your lucky stars that you have managed to find your person in life........ Many don't ever get that opportunity. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
bi_for_couples,remind me not to take my puppies for a walk anywhere near you:-) :-) :-) :-) xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' needs to be shared I will fight you! Or maybe we can have a spit roast?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with Bi_for_Cpls, young people are feral. They are pashing anything that moves at that age. Lukey boy,,,,,,,, ask your Mrs maybe she would want to have a threesome or would be into swinging, or maybe is bored of you too. You never know. But sounds to me like it is time to consider getting single and having some fun. That is what your 20's is about after all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
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RHP User
11 years ago
You have 15 rhp friends, sexy at that. Your not a slow mover by any means. And at 21 you have a lot to learn. Life, love, loyalty, consequences and karma. Talk to your partner. Really talk to her..... be honest, be open. Your hormones are raging kiddo. Be careful.....
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' feel the need to judge so blatantly? The OP was wondering if there was anyone else in his boat....Its as though there is this unwritten rule that you are a 'bad / evil person' if you cheat. Its sex to the OP, he isn't planning on killing his neighbors puppy. I would understand if you have a higher moral such as a religious belief, but seriously who gives a shit whether he fucks one girl or ten? His partner is probably fucking around as well, sucking guys off at night clubs. I have seen it both sides - just the male is usually more vocal, as in this instance. Once again the OP has been caught in a lie, here in RHP, he is lying to his missus, for all we know she could be home with a bub, being a mum.Not saying that is the case, but why should we believe this bloke. We could not bare the thought of being part to something like that. Not for the OP but to the thoughts of the lady cheated on. If the missus is bored with the OP, then maybe he aint that good at fucking anyway. Maybe she just needs a good fuck, to get her into the mood? Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' His partner is probably fucking around as well, sucking guys off at night clubs. Disappointing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Do you really think that its only guys doing shit like this? I know so many females of a couple who regularly pash and blow guys at night clubs.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Curiousplay1980'Maybe you need to think about the big picture and count your lucky stars that you have managed to find your person in life........ Many don't ever get that opportunity. - Posted from rhpmobile how many people meet 'their person' at the age of 17? Obviously it happened for you but it's not common. I got into a relationship at 16 and it probably should have lasted 2 or 3 years, tops, instead of the 9 that it did until I eventually admitted to myself that I was staying for the wrong reasons, and I wasn't being fair to him. If the OP is already looking outside the relationship at 21 that to me does not indicate good things to come. I personally agree with Meeka that he either finds out whether his partner is interested in swinging etc. and if they can work something out that way, or he goes it alone and merrily and openly shags as many people as he wants to. If he chooses to do neither and go outside the relationship without his partner's knowledge, then my two strong suggestions would revolve 1) around making sure he does it as safely as possible so that he doesn't take home any unexpected 'presents' to his partner, and 2) to be upfront with potential sex partners about his relationship status.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' feel the need to judge so blatantly? The OP was wondering if there was anyone else in his boat....Its as though there is this unwritten rule that you are a 'bad / evil person' if you cheat. Its sex to the OP, he isn't planning on killing his neighbors puppy. I would understand if you have a higher moral such as a religious belief, but seriously who gives a shit whether he fucks one girl or ten? His partner is probably fucking around as well, sucking guys off at night clubs. I have seen it both sides - just the male is usually more vocal, as in this instance. Once again the OP has been caught in a lie, here in RHP, he is lying to his missus, for all we know she could be home with a bub, being a mum.Not saying that is the case, but why should we believe this bloke. We could not bare the thought of being part to something like that. Not for the OP but to the thoughts of the lady cheated on. If the missus is bored with the OP, then maybe he aint that good at fucking anyway. Maybe she just needs a good fuck, to get her into the mood? Mado Tara xx But is it our place to judge?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' feel the need to judge so blatantly? The OP was wondering if there was anyone else in his boat....Its as though there is this unwritten rule that you are a 'bad / evil person' if you cheat. Its sex to the OP, he isn't planning on killing his neighbors puppy. I would understand if you have a higher moral such as a religious belief, but seriously who gives a shit whether he fucks one girl or ten? His partner is probably fucking around as well, sucking guys off at night clubs. I have seen it both sides - just the male is usually more vocal, as in this instance. He posted on an open forum, he's going to get a range of stories and opinions. Some of us have been similar situations and he can take on board the info - or not - as he sees fit. Not everyone is just going to give him a pat on the back, compliment his cock, and tell him to go for it. As for making assumptions like that about his partner when we don't know a thing about her...not cool.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' feel the need to judge so blatantly? The OP was wondering if there was anyone else in his boat....Its as though there is this unwritten rule that you are a 'bad / evil person' if you cheat. Its sex to the OP, he isn't planning on killing his neighbors puppy. I would understand if you have a higher moral such as a religious belief, but seriously who gives a shit whether he fucks one girl or ten? His partner is probably fucking around as well, sucking guys off at night clubs. I have seen it both sides - just the male is usually more vocal, as in this instance. He posted on an open forum, he's going to get a range of stories and opinions. Some of us have been similar situations and he can take on board the info - or not - as he sees fit. Not everyone is just going to give him a pat on the back, compliment his cock, and tell him to go for it. As for making assumptions like that about his partner when we don't know a thing about her...not cool. Is now judging me and taking me out of context. I was playing devils advocate and used the word *probably* Too many harsh people on here - I guess that's why the forums have the same regulars. People get sick of getting smashed. I asked is it our place to judge......simple, and now the town jury turns on me - gee thanks guys :)
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madotara69
11 years ago
Luke, this may just work out for you, we have been thinking of playing with a lady, would you like to tell her she can play with us, while you are looking at expanding your experiences elsewhere? You can send us a message and we shall give our number for you to give her. But just her, as we have our guy to play with. Otherwise we will only play with couples or single guys and gals. But in your case you would know your girl is playing with us, so that aint cheating.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' Luke, this may just work out for you, we have been thinking of playing with a lady, would you like to tell her she can play with us, while you are looking at expanding your experiences elsewhere? You can send us a message and we shall give our number for you to give her. But just her, as we have our guy to play with. Otherwise we will only play with couples or single guys and gals. But in your case you would know your girl is playing with us, so that aint cheating. I like your lateral thinking
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Have you ever thought that maybe your girlfriend is a little bit bored too, geez you're only 21 and already thinking about cheating....what going to happen 10 years down the track, choose wisely young fella........💋
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
And for gods sake, practice safe sex always, or are you happy to give your unsuspecting girlfriend something that you might pick up from playing the field......
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RHP User
11 years ago
You are too young to be tied down, live a little. It is great that you have bought a house and have shown some responsibility but that responsibility will continue to grow if you decide to get married, have kids and do all that normal stuff into your 20's with the same person. If you are feeling this now then I think you need to be honest with yourself and your partner before things get complicated. Before you start to involve anything more than a mortgage. Sell the house, go your own way, sow your wild oats then settle down.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' needs to be shared I will fight you! Or maybe we can have a spit roast?
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Awaiting reply or rebuttal from OP. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is this real life? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
also the 21 argument is pretty stupid. Cheating isn't something someone does more of, as they get older. And to answer your question. No. No-one here has only had sex with one person. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's normal for you to fantasise about other women, your 21!!!. Just think before fantasy becomes reality. Not just about your needs, but your partners as well, if this is behind her back then you know how destructive that is going to be to her, it will take years for her to get over something that will last so short in comparison....... If you can't talk about your needs and wants with a girl you've been with so long, then who can you talk to..... Apart from RHPrs.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
how many other people out there have only ever had one sex partner?! Yes there is...However I can't give you an exact number however there are some cultures that marry quite young and stay with that person all their lives. As for being on RHP, I would assume there has been and they are here looking for that something else. I think it's time to get out there and have a bit of on the side fun! Anyone else in ny boat? Well if you have a girlfriend, stats would be low Amigo, as not many would not want to jump in the boat with you as it's not going to really going to "float their boat" or "the little boy in the boat". However if you feel it's the right thing to do for YOU, go for it, but keep in mind how would your girlfriend feels if she didn't not know? Will she be feeling left out? Will she be filling the same? YOU gotta talk to her, you know, communicate, open and honestly. YOU are allowed fantasies, however auctioning them is a little different. The first person you have sex with will always be special and remembered, either good or bad. You are 21 Lukey, you have many many life experiences ahead...it's only just the beginning. :) Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
You are onl twenty-one,with your own house and in a settled relationship,your mates are out doing what most young men do,it's not surprising that you would be asking yourself not just this question but others. I doubt that this is just about sex OP,I think you need to decide if this is the lifestyle you want at twenty-one xx Q
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' YOU are allowed fantasies, however auctioning them is a little different. Here we have a lovely 21yo, ladies n gentlemen... where shall we start the bidding.... hahaha Foxy... I luvs ya typos
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I'll start the first bid... OP @ 21 you can AUCTION as many fantasies as YOU want. Lets hope by the time you are 80+ you have ACTIONED, many many of them... :) I've had more "roasting" fantasies, than mum's hot roast dinners, cooked for me. Foxy
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
A lovely lady flirted with me last night with talk of roasts..... but she meant my cooking lol
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
With the first girl i was with... Things were really serious and we didn't get married but it was heading that way. I was starting to think like you so i bit the bullet and got out. She was hurt for a while, but we are still friendly now. I've had little more experience since, but as far as I'm concerned cheating is not the way. Unless you've made arrangements with your partner I think its better for both of you to end it if you cant stand it. that seems cold, but in the long run a bloke who's always thinking about being with someone else is not a dedicated partner. I couldn't do that to any woman.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' Do you really think that its only guys doing shit like this? I know so many females of a couple who regularly pash and blow guys at night clubs. Of course I don't think only guys do it, but you are making assumptions about someone you know nothing about, solely based on your own experiences.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' Do you really think that its only guys doing shit like this? I know so many females of a couple who regularly pash and blow guys at night clubs. Of course I don't think only guys do it, but you are making assumptions about someone you know nothing about, solely based on your own experiences. My stand is - why are we judging this dude? For all we know (which we don't) she may be doing her own thing....that's it full stop nothing more to read into it. The word PROBABLY alerts the reader that its a probability not an assumption.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' needs to be shared I stand by my first post
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RHP User
11 years ago
Too many are quick to place a label on a person who strays sexually from his or her relationship as a "cheater". However, I don't think that it is really that simple. It's time for our culture to wake up and realize that monogamy is not natural for many, or *probably* even most.....they shouldn't be judged by those who do not understand nor are willing to understand.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' Do you really think that its only guys doing shit like this? I know so many females of a couple who regularly pash and blow guys at night clubs. Of course I don't think only guys do it, but you are making assumptions about someone you know nothing about, solely based on your own experiences. "The OP told us about he was doing so we judged him on that, but said nothing about the girlfriend. To assume she must be just as bad was out of line I thought." You can share your opinion as much as everyone else can share theirs, but if you dish it out you have to be able to take it as well. Only fair.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' Do you really think that its only guys doing shit like this? I know so many females of a couple who regularly pash and blow guys at night clubs. Of course I don't think only guys do it, but you are making assumptions about someone you know nothing about, solely based on your own experiences. "The OP told us about he was doing so we judged him on that, but said nothing about the girlfriend. To assume she must be just as bad was out of line I thought." You can share your opinion as much as everyone else can share theirs, but if you dish it out you have to be able to take it as well. Only fair. Is why this is called the sand pit, we love too fight and we love too fuck, we love to hate, we love too love But for those who may find they have been in amongst the battle of the sexes in their absence, innocent until proven guilty. And Fuck the "MAN" he he, not mankind ............./\./\ Mado /``\ (black ears and matching cape) ........|...\.^./...| ......./....|.B|....\ ...../...../......\.....\
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' Do you really think that its only guys doing shit like this? I know so many females of a couple who regularly pash and blow guys at night clubs. Of course I don't think only guys do it, but you are making assumptions about someone you know nothing about, solely based on your own experiences. "The OP told us about he was doing so we judged him on that, but said nothing about the girlfriend. To assume she must be just as bad was out of line I thought." You can share your opinion as much as everyone else can share theirs, but if you dish it out you have to be able to take it as well. Only fair. Again for those who refuse to allow me to explain - I did not assume anything. I don't believe in 'cheating' and I don't believe in judging someone on the basis of a one sided story. I presented an alternative view that the girl may or probably plays as well. It was not an assumption it was a provocative argument to help others to see that there may be another side to the story. I don't care if you don't like my view, but to attack me is bazaar.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Real men let the lady cook ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' Do you really think that its only guys doing shit like this? I know so many females of a couple who regularly pash and blow guys at night clubs. Of course I don't think only guys do it, but you are making assumptions about someone you know nothing about, solely based on your own experiences. "The OP told us about he was doing so we judged him on that, but said nothing about the girlfriend. To assume she must be just as bad was out of line I thought." You can share your opinion as much as everyone else can share theirs, but if you dish it out you have to be able to take it as well. Only fair. Again for those who refuse to allow me to explain - I did not assume anything. I don't believe in 'cheating' and I don't believe in judging someone on the basis of a one sided story. I presented an alternative view that the girl may or probably plays as well. It was not an assumption it was a provocative argument to help others to see that there may be another side to the story. I don't care if you don't like my view, but to attack me is bazaar. I think we'll just have to agree to disagree. What his partner does or doesn't do isn't the point of this thread anyway, at least not at this point in time when the OP hasn't given us any info about her. And you're certainly not being 'attacked'. An opinion you expressed is being disagreed with, there is a big difference.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'bi_for_cpls'His partner is probably fucking around as well, sucking guys off at night clubs. Quoting 'bi_for_cpls'Again for those who refuse to allow me to explain - I did not assume anything. Oh, c'mon now!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Luke's 21 years old and only ever had sex with one person. He's trying to connect with anybody else in that same situation. Maybe even people who have only had 2 or 3 sex partners. There probably isn't many people on RHP in that situation, but I haven't taken a survey so don't really know. He didn't ask for critique or opinions about what he's contemplating, which he's getting in spades. He didn't say he was actually going to cheat on his girlfriend, not in this thread anyway. Maybe he's just trying to work out what to do about his situation by getting some comments from people in his situation, or a similar situation. Maybe his girlfriend is the best person to get comments from, I mean you'd expect she knows him reasonably well, and might have some understanding of his or perhaps a similar situation.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Dryphuz' With the first girl i was with... Things were really serious and we didn't get married but it was heading that way. I was starting to think like you so i bit the bullet and got out. She was hurt for a while, but we are still friendly now. I've had little more experience since, but as far as I'm concerned cheating is not the way. Unless you've made arrangements with your partner I think its better for both of you to end it if you cant stand it. that seems cold, but in the long run a bloke who's always thinking about being with someone else is not a dedicated partner. I couldn't do that to any woman. Good post, just as well you took the right path for you :)
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' Too many are quick to place a label on a person who strays sexually from his or her relationship as a "cheater". However, I don't think that it is really that simple. It's time for our culture to wake up and realize that monogamy is not natural for many, or *probably* even most.....they shouldn't be judged by those who do not understand nor are willing to understand. You do realise, that when people get married... they're engaging in a contract of fidelity, implied and stated... if they both decide to "play", then that is the basis for their own negotiated amendment to the contract...so to speak. Oh, and you are passing your own judgement on others by assuming they don't understand, or don't want to. Just saying. Isn't language wonderful
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madotara69
11 years ago
is not for singles
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
A couple that plays together, stay together........😜 there just might be something in that.....
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madotara69
11 years ago
And I have that sexy fucking gorgeous intelligent bombshell of a wife All too myself.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seriously? This must be a sign. I've been fantasising about a roast for days. I feel like a turkey . Apparently you don't cook a turkey in a cold oven.You need to warm the oven slowly, let the temperature rise progressively, don't rush, take your time, and the turkey stays moist and juicy. Sorry Op, I got a bit distracted there. 21 is very young to be thinking about settling down with your 1st serious girlfriend, IMO. But a bit of advice, as I know other people have given you. Talk to her, tell her how you feel. She might want to explore with you, she might not. I don't know you and I don't know her, but what I do know is that she deserves better than having her heart broken by finding out that you have cheated on her. You might have made your decision to do this, surely she deserves the right to decide if she still wants to be with you if and when you do?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lukey Sit her down and talk to her, find out how she feels about the relationship. Ask her what her sexual needs are, let her know what yours are, and if it turns out that you are on different tracks heading in opposite direction. It would be better to part on good terms than bad ones later down the track. Believe me there is a world of hurt there and not something you get over easily. There's probably a few member here that would agree. just my opinion formed from what I have experienced
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'bi_for_cpls' I presented an alternative view that the girl may or probably plays as well. It was not an assumption it was a provocative argument to help others to see that there may be another side to the story. I don't care if you don't like my view, but to attack me is bazaar. haha, I couldn't stop laughing. these typos on here make my day...I have made a few of my own too. I suppose we can auction (from Foxxy's post) the OP at the Bazaar (from Bi's post) Anyway, Bi, I got your point; not that I agree with your line of thought, but more like I see what you mean. OP, you're only young, maybe talk to your lady and see if you can go it together and if not then ah well. I'd say get out there and have some fun, but just make sure you've sorted things out with your partner first. As for sexual partners...well, I've had more than 1
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ok, initial shock over at the want/ curiosity of yourself Luke. You have clearly been on here for some time, you have friends on here, no doubt your friends off rhp have no desire to discuss the nature of your want to sow some wild oats. From a ladies point of view, no I can't say I get where your coming from. At your age I had had multiple partners and led quite the radical life, seeing who I wanted when I wanted. I was footloose and fancy free. The fact you have settled so young and are committed is an admirable trait, but maby a premature one. I again reinforce my original statement though, talk to her. If she's so special to you, think about what you stand to loose if you hurt her for a roll in the hay with another that will generally not have emotional ties to you.
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