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Open Relationships
April 02 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Communication. Talk. Talk til the bloody cows come home. Haha! Talk about rules/guidelines. Talk about jealousy, insecurities. Talk about why you want to persue this lifestyle. And then....talk some more. You'll soon know if it will work or not. Mrs B - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm ok with my man having a little bit of fun. In a strange way it turns me on when we are relaxing back in bed and he tells me about what went on. As long as its just fun then its not hurting anyone. I also enjoy having a friend over.i prefer it with my man but he leaves for awhile to the lounge room for a hole but only so the guy can relax more if he is having alittle trouble down there with nerves ect.lol But I rather him there. But I am ok with him having a bit of fun.men are men and they like a bit of extra fun. We are both on the same page and believe you can't just have one sex partner for ever. You are welcome to join us or have a turn with my man if you like.hehehe Very real though x.
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RHP User
12 years ago
This has always intrigued me. I don't think I could ever settle down with just one guy again... would have to be open relationship, but not sure if I could control my jealousy either. I guess if both partners are doing it there is a balance of jealousy? Or something like that lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Look it's simple and yet complicated, boiling down every aspect till your basically left with one answer, you need be honest with yourself and your partner needs to be the one, how ever it works, u have to give your trust and and it should feel right. It took over 30 yrs for my partner and I to find each other, never give up, from expreriance just take your time, gain your expreriance realy take what you want and b yourself, open relationships are fun, u can do what you want, you can arrange anything
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's not rocket science. if it keeps popping up in your mind' its for real. Some act on it ' others just keep on thinking about it. I find the couples who act on it , come to the conclusion only after much soul searching and realising there was much more to life than just themselves. The moment they come to their conclusion together , is the moment the excitement begins.. How do I know ? well as most couples prefer to start off safely, they usually look to add a male for the female first, reason being, if she enjoys the experience then their on their way. If not, they need more time to come to terms with the reality. I always consider myself the guest, and allow them to call the shots unless they want it otherwise. The female usually wants her man to be present as their security blanket.. which is fine by me, as I said, I am the guest and respect the emotional side of what bought them here in the first place. If they are relaxed , so am I. If I ever seen one or the other was not.. I would politely leave.... Just my experience... Jay
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RHP User
12 years ago
Open relationships work when the two people involved are secure in that relationship firstly. Secondly they communicate with each other their needs, feelings etc....lastly they respect each other. They respect each others boundaries, insecurities etc.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Amarella' This has always intrigued me. I don't think I could ever settle down with just one guy again... would have to be open relationship, but not sure if I could control my jealousy either. I guess if both partners are doing it there is a balance of jealousy? Or something like that lol People feel jealous when they start feeling uncertain, left out, or when they are fearful of loosing the other person or they are not confident of their position in the other persons life. Therefore open communication, talking about it ALL the time and making sure that you put most of your energies into your primary relationship first would be key I think. You put each other first and each other's needs above all others. I haven't been in an open relationship though, this is more from what I have heard and read myself on the subject. Meeka
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think you nailed it this time...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree with Mrs Bom. Communication is the key to open relationships I think. Trouble is, not all of us are great at communicating when it comes to our deepest insecurities. Fear of judgement, not being enough, not being loved or fear of the unknown to name a few. I takes an enormous amount of trust not only in your partner but in yourself to make it work. This is why a successful open relationship can be so rewarding and fulfilling. Both parties or how ever many involved ;) have complete faith and trust in the strength, integrity, love and excitment of the relationship and their partner/partners. The whole point is to make THAT relationship stronger. It's not for everyone but neither is Vegemite ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I prefer isnack 2.0- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
..I have been with my partner (wife) for 18 years (Northerntantra). We are in an open relationship but the majority of our time together was spent in a standard Monogamous relationship. You need a strong foundation in order to be able to safely open up the boundaries to other people. You need transparency at all times and no secrets or fuzzy boundaries. Being open is quite liberating. It emancipated you from the constraints of convention. It lifts a great deal of expectation and weight from each individual.....but it is quite humbling when you realise that you can't offer your partner everything and that others can. You have to reconstruct your ego!! Jealousy is inevitable but you quickly learn to recognise that it is a learned behaviour. It can be unlearned.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Set the rules beforehand . To make it work you need a good relationship to start, and both parties genuinely wanting to do it. The desk breaker for any relationship is the break down of communication. Always be open and honest and hide nothing. Set your rules. Each person is likely to have a rule they think is important that the other sees as frivolous, but if one person wants that rule , it is a rule . - Posted from rhpmobile
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chevtrek
11 years ago
They can be great fun but jealousy can be a problem as you might of read in a forum but on the up side for that couple she finally tried and loved anal sex. The best answer I can give here is if you have a solid relationship with trust then try it however if things are not working out just quit. If the relationship has jealousy or insecurity even small just don't go there.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks to Meeka :) May I highly recommend a fantastic book that maybe of interest to you called "The Ethical Slut" authors; Haston/Hardy. FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was open to it..however at this stage of my life, I have other priorities. Who knows what the future holds. :) FOXY
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Splicey
11 years ago
Jealousy is an evil, yet natural feeling. It's not that you stop feeling jealous it's that you become accepting of the emotion and don't let it control your reactions to certain things.You can't let the inner thoughts control you. Communicate communicate communicate. Don't assume a reaction or action was due to XYZ, ask and find out the real reason. It calms the soul to not have to wonder.Not all relationships are even though. Each partner usually has the scales tipped in their favour over an issue and usually that happens when it comes to sex. Don't dismiss something because the idea is one you don't like, if there is a chance you could accept it, why not try? With that said, don't do something that doesn't sit right - for someone else. You have to live with yourself and your inner thoughts, no one else.And trust. Trust that they love you as much as you love them :)Mrs
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