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Opening Message To Us From Single Guys!
January 30 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
Spam or complete indifference... Mmmm at least spam lets you know the email systems working ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
It is uncouth to publicly publish private messages sent to you.It is rude to humiliate them publicly.I receive messages like this too.One man explained to me most males receive practically no messages.I receive minimum of 5 messages a day at my empty profile.We have no right to complain.We are lucky. We have so much choice. We have no preeminence to publicly display private messages to humiliate men IMO.xx
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blkcapricornday
13 years ago
Quoting 'mylittlethrill' We are lucky. We have so much choice. Although I agree with 40 is fun, many thanks to mylittlethrill for sticking up for the little aussie battler! Its nice to have the benefit of the doubt for a change!Yes, class, tact and basic communication skills sadly do not seem to be common traits among young males, (as clearly referenced in this post!)As long as you don't become too jaded by the 99 rubbish messages, and miss that 1 good one ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'mylittlethrill'It is uncouth to publicly publish private messages sent to you.It is rude to humiliate them publicly.I receive messages like this too.One man explained to me most males receive practically no messages.I receive minimum of 5 messages a day at my empty profile.We have no right to complain.We are lucky. We have so much choice. We have no preeminence to publicly display private messages to humiliate men IMO.xxthe guys would receive messages back...if they took a little time and made the messages to us a little more interesting, and a whole lot less rude....40-is-fun didnt expose any names...so theres no 'humiliation', nor anything uncouth and rude... these guys need to step up and act like adults... not sex crazed teens...My wife is messaged as an individual (even tho we r a couple) and the messages are entirely innapropriate.... and downright rude.... we should be naming and shaming these guys.... not allowing them to speak/write to women/wives/partners in language thats abrupt, rude, or sounds like they feel the womans a slut because shes on a profile at an adult site........
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RHP User
13 years ago
I dont get it Are you un happy shocked or taking the piss.. But Fkn hwat pics babe wana have sum fun
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RHP User
13 years ago
Been laughin so hard ... Still trying to decipher what thawamma means.. HA!Guys..take some notes what should not be sent... We all love our fun as consenting adults, but don't talk down to people you message. Would you like? Think not..Love n peacesweetp xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well the interesting, informative well written extensive messages that I send don't get a reply either. So its pretty obvious that messages don't get replies, full stop.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Surely Peachy, that for them to have learned a skill elsewhere, they must also be bright enough to learn to spell their own names or write one or two sentences which don't need to deciphered by a kindergarten teacher...
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RHP User
13 years ago
It was never our intention to humiliate anyone, no usernames were published and not one message was from this website.....so the chances of the senders reading this is minimal. Uncouth....we serious doubt a light hearted poke at some pretty poor efforts is uncouth. We actually hope that some people read this and improve their approach to people, who knows it might help them out a little. Sorry if anyone has taken this too seriously.......Mrs P has nailed it too.......we dont use msn at all, we dont play message ping pong.....we just meet for a chat, no pressure, public meetings for a coffee.......
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have met some very influential, wealthy people and some not so wealthy people who have dyslexia and can not read and write. One self made multi-millionaire I know well actually left school at the age of 14 and can barely read and write. Does this mean that those who are not so literate or computer savvy should be condemned to a life of lonliness for something that is not thier fault?Stop judging others on the basis of a misformed first comment. You may be surprized at the diamonds in the rough you just could stumble across.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'mylittlethrill' It is uncouth to publicly publish private messages sent to you.It is rude to humiliate them publicly.I receive messages like this too.One man explained to me most males receive practically no messages.I receive minimum of 5 messages a day at my empty profile.We have no right to complain.We are lucky. We have so much choice. We have no preeminence to publicly display private messages to humiliate men IMO.xx The messages were disrespectful to start with so there is nothing uncouth in displaying them publicly as an example of what not to send. As they were sent to 40 is fun they are entitled to make use of whatever is sent to them as they wish. We have every right to complain if we feel someone isn't treating us with at least a modicum of common civility. The messages above show neither regard or deference to the recipient. The writers have shown themselves to be too lazy to read the profile and compose a suitable message. Perhaps the 40 is fun should reply in the same manner that the message was written.Let's keep free speech alive and refrain from telling others what they can and can't say.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Handmaiden' I have met some very influential, wealthy people and some not so wealthy people who have dyslexia and can not read and write. One self made multi-millionaire I know well actually left school at the age of 14 and can barely read and write. Does this mean that those who are not so literate or computer savvy should be condemned to a life of lonliness for something that is not thier fault?Stop judging others on the basis of a misformed first comment. You may be surprized at the diamonds in the rough you just could stumble across. I know of one gorgeous, highly intelligent young man that suffers from dyslexia. His solution was to find someone to type his messages for him and he also uses a spell check program designed for dyslexics. Spelling mistakes aren't the problem with the messages, it's the composition or lack of it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
we dont seek dyslexics (have one in the family already) or rude bastards either for that matter.... if they cant read or write, then isnt it a logical step that this sort of avenue for the meeting of others, might not suit... while we arent looking for alternates to the partner we already have...the ability to string four or five words together and form a complete sentence is a skill that too many seem to lack.... being able to read, write and speak the language of the land is desirable skill.... and certainly adds to someones attractiveness.... as couples...we have the choice to be as particular and selective as we wish.... and we certainly are, and have made no bones about that right from word one.... if a person, or persons, cant compose an intelligent introductory note to us.... there will never be any interest....and....if we spent every day sorting through the dross, looking for that diamond in the rough...we'd never get to an actual meet, let alone a playdate.... the diamond needs to come to us already cut and polished...or we'll ignore them and look at the shinier and more appealing on offer.............
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RHP User
13 years ago
as a teacher I'm used to trying to decipher illegible and unintelligible writing so that really doesn't bother me as long as the message is ok but am I seriously expected to feel flattered by an opening message of "wannafuck?" ......ummmmmm.........."No! I really don't....... not with you anyway."
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' the guys would receive messages back...if they took a little time and made the messages to us a little more interesting, and a whole lot less rude."MikeandShel, I have to disagree with you - at least for the women of my age group in WA. In general I find the comments of users in this forum does tend to be somewhat different to that of the general population of RHP. I know when I had a couples profile last year (normal FM couple) we would always politely decline the messages of any suitors that we found to not be a match for whatever reason, even if they were completely outside of our seeking criteria. But since I have joined as a single guy, even though I have followed the basic courtesy of a creating a detailed profile page, including numerous good facial photos when sending messages. Plus the content of these messages is only ever respectful and individual to the lady herself (no blanket messages). Then they rarely have the courtesy in return to reply or even acknowledge the message was sent.I feel it simply comes down to the fact they the ladies on here have a large and varied pool of men to choose from, and they don't respect anyone that doesn't meet their incomprehensible high standards. Although I must admit this is generalised at the women I am messaging (under 30yo WA women)Anyone care to disagree or agree?
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RHP User
13 years ago
...hell I'd be happy to donate to the Red Cross. | It is tax deductble, right?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Not joking 40-is-funIndividuals who sent the messages published would feel humiliated when viewing this thread.Writing a post about laughable bad decore in an anonymous house I visited for a hookup.You recognise it is your house 40-is-fun.You feel humiliated.Many female profiles desire spontaneity, men try to provide it.Most men are not Ernest Hemingway, most will not write a deep personal letter for a stranger on a swingers site.Men, entertain me!!!!!Just appreciate the good contacts you receive.Not satisfied, then search for and initiate messages to the style of men you want.Search 'Secret of Happiness is to be Thankful' on youtube, 4 minutes 14 seconds video.A number of messages came to me thanking for my post.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I dare any of you to take my phone for a day...forget typing messages that you can just delete....and ignore.Take the club phone for a day and see how many horny disrespectful guys you get calling you everyday...I just laugh and hang up.THere are even ones that i am sure are masturbating while asking me questions about the club...so disgusting.Hence dont call me on a blocked number you will be not be answered..THere was this one time when i rang and the guy asked me how much for one hour....I said in a sqeeky voice...hold on i will just get mum...he hung up real quick.So guys and gals dont take what people type too seriously, you simply dont have to answer and or delete and then block..HugsLeesa
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RHP User
13 years ago
We have never rejected anyone for bad spelling or grammar! We reply to every single message we receive, many have not bothered to actually read our profile and we may point that out. When there is a mutual attraction we meet for drink and a chat, we are not looking to meet William Shakespeare. We are very grateful to be getting messages at all......we would just like people to put a little more effort in for a first up introduction. And mylittlethrill.......wow, what can I say. We like our modern contemporary decor and would really not care if you or anyone for that matter thought the same.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm sitting in a chair in the sky!! Wooohhooo!HugsStalkyQuoting 'mylittlethrill' Not satisfied, then search for and initiate messages to the style of men you want.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think it serves as a good message to guys on how to format an opening message. Let's face it there's WAY more guys on sites like these so for them to stand out from the dozens of messages/flirts etc taking a few pointers and putting as much effort to a message as they do to spamming flirts would go a long way to their cause.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I agree with 40_is_fun here. Given the ratio of guys on sites like these, all the females and couples I've had the pleasure of talking to tell me how much attention they get.Take a few pointers from the post of what NOT to do. Put a little effort into your opening message and it will be much better received.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tenacioustimmy' Quoting 'mikeandshel' the guys would receive messages back...if they took a little time and made the messages to us a little more interesting, and a whole lot less rude." MikeandShel, I have to disagree with you - at least for the women of my age group in WA. In general I find the comments of users in this forum does tend to be somewhat different to that of the general population of RHP. I know when I had a couples profile last year (normal FM couple) we would always politely decline the messages of any suitors that we found to not be a match for whatever reason, even if they were completely outside of our seeking criteria. But since I have joined as a single guy, even though I have followed the basic courtesy of a creating a detailed profile page, including numerous good facial photos when sending messages. Plus the content of these messages is only ever respectful and individual to the lady herself (no blanket messages). Then they rarely have the courtesy in return to reply or even acknowledge the message was sent. I feel it simply comes down to the fact they the ladies on here have a large and varied pool of men to choose from, and they don't respect anyone that doesn't meet their incomprehensible high standards. Although I must admit this is generalised at the women I am messaging (under 30yo WA women) Anyone care to disagree or agree?its true...these guys would receive a response from us...even if it were in the negative.....if they took the time to write something interesting and even intelligent....as it stands, we either ignore or delete them.... and this, my friend, is fact....and we have no doubt that the same applies for many other couples, and women here....
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RHP User
13 years ago
As a side note I've had some guy message me in outrage at this thread on the basis that I'm on 40_is_fun's friend list which compelled me to post.Not sure what the deal is, but it further enforces the original sentiment. I don't want to be contacted by people not in my "looking for" category and it amazes me that people think they'll evoke a favuorable response just by sending an ill conceived message.PS: sorry for the double post above I thought my original message didn't send then realised the forum is screened before posts are approved.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am on 40_is_fun's side here. To me, the guys that sent those messages showed the couple ZERO courtesy. In fact I would bet that half those guys send the identically worded message to dozen's if not more women and couples every week. I am sure not one of those guys would walk up to a total stranger at the pub, specially a couple and ask the women those questions or frame those requests. So why is this type of correspondence with a total stranger tolerated here. Could it be that it worked once and that men think it will happen again. Or do the men think that every women on this site must be willing to fuck any guy that asks them - otherwise why are they here right????40_is_fun: a question, those messages, how many were from men who didn't even have a photo available on their profile? lolGuys have to accept the fact that not all their messages will result in a reply. It could be for a variety of reasons, she is busy, you don't meet what she is looking for, you haven't read her profile, she just thinks you are 'not her type'. No one here is compelled to reply, no amount of bitching, whining or crying is going to change that. All us men can do is make sure we contact someone that at least wants to be contacted by us (HINT: read the damn profile first) and make the message at least interesting so you stand out from the rest of the messages she received that day.Mooka
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RHP User
13 years ago
I wish all the guys would take your advice.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I don't think I've ever read such a bunch of drivel in my life!!! So much so that for a moment I thought f*ck the forums and all of the self-righteous, cliquey wankers on here.I consider myself reasonable, tolerant, kind, level-headed, smart enough and generally non-judgmental. But not today!Are some of you serious?? 40_is_fun has done what many before have done - listed some really ordinary messages sent to her profile by men who are making the first contact with the profile. They're ordinary messages, dumb even, and anyone with half a brain can see that. And they're typical ... as in common ... as in we've ALL seen them! And we've all talked about them on here before! And we've all criticised, whinged, judged, laughed, lamented! And we all know that a very small number of men who send messages like that from time to time might get lucky - it's a numbers game after all - but the vast majority get deleted and/or blocked. And we all wonder why men don't get it, and don't put in some more effort. And we all know that some men do get it, and do put in the effort, and still get ignored - and we know that among other things that's sometimes simply because women get flooded with messages and dealing with them all can be a fulltime job. And we know that given that, a personal message showing effort has a much greater chance of getting a response than messages like the ones the OP shared. Which I'm pretty sure was what the OP was getting at. And I'm pretty sure there was no intention to name and shame, humiliate, or criticise people who are dyslexic (more on that later). In fact, I'm pretty sure the whole thing was intended as a light hearted laugh. Derr.Take a moment to read 40_is_fun's post and there's barely a hint of judgment in it - just an amused and perhaps bemused curiosity about why men think sending messages like that could ever be successful for them.Dyslexia? Are you serious? Is that really relevant here? Other than one comment about a very odd word, what did the OP say about spelling and grammar? Nothing.I learn a LOT from these forums, which is why I keep coming back. But sometimes it's in spite of us all. And yes, yes, I am well aware I've fallen into the trap of grandstanding and opinionating, just as I'm complaining at others for doing the same.Still, my buttons are well and truly pushed today.(now let's see if this post gets past the moderators!)
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laidbackguy1978
13 years ago
Its interesting topic. I send messages which contain honesty, humilaty about myself and my desire to enjoy my life and making a ladie/s desires allowed to be fulfulled. I am someone with somewhat little experience and look to enrich my experience/s as well as provide new and exciting experiences for some lady/s.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well we are a little surprised at the one guy who messaged us with hate mail....and also at least one of our friends listed! When he realized he made a complete dick out of himself he then blocked us and now we can not reply. You can never assume anything about people here....you need to ask before jumping to conclusions like he did! Anyway...thanks to the people here that are a little more reasonable about the issue we have raised. As as we have said it may help the single guys to put a little more effort in to their introduction messages. Any single guys may message us anytime......you will get a reply and if you are what we are looking for we are more than happy to meet......give it a shot!
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RHP User
13 years ago
angelic... i read what you wrote.... and have to agree.... but in the spirit of the forums, must also add that forums are 'conversational'.... and as conversations do.....they meander all over the place.... shit happens...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi there, am gunna cum right out and say it, that is 1 great looking pussy. Looks so tasty, would love 2 give it a good licking. Unfortunate that there is no pic of the lucky cock that gets to slide up inside it though. Oh yeah, her tits are pretty sexy as well. Anyways I hope u don't mind me pulling my hard cock over her pics, they get me off every time and if your interested I'd love to meet and have some fun with you 2. Get back and let me know yeah...At least he put some effort in!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've never sent any message akin to those listedIve messaged couples and single females with polite initial messages and at times have shown my face pic which is in private galleryI get almost zero replies.Its common courtesy to reply, even with a no thanksWhy would guys bother trying when it makes no difference either wayI may as well have emailed "nice shoes wanna fuck" - at least i'd probably get a "you're a pig" reply, which is more than what I get now.
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RHP User
13 years ago
maybe you could put a pic up thats interesting...the one you have.....is really not very enticing... just a suggestion....
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RHP User
13 years ago
I found 40's post pretty factual. We were initially looking for just a male to join us. We constantly received similar messages to the examples given. Between many 'no shows' and the inane messages, rude messages, disrespectful messages (I would love to fuck your slut!) and the 'single' guys who were obviously far from single we gave up completely and changed our whole ideas on sexual fun and started seeking (and seeing) couples only, with similar desires to us. We have just found it so much simpler. Single guys out there can learn from this topic! It may work for some ladies and couples but I would think it would turn most off completely!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'ogrilp400' Well the interesting, informative well written extensive messages that I send don't get a reply either. So its pretty obvious that messages don't get replies, full stop. Women are a crazy species....but you are so right man....explain you story in plain english with good grammer and spelling and still not much chance of response....a one line sentence and still nothing....don't do too much messaging.....send im requests.....and everyone who thinks im requests are rude.....turn them off on your side or find another interfece to play on....they have settings that can be tweaked....use them.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just got one.........."I would love to fuck your wife" why is there no shocked emoticon ffs.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Oh, wait,.... that's not one we got. That's one I sent. Ah, shit. ...I wonder if I ever got a response. Better go have a look.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'mylittlethrill' It is uncouth to publicly publish private messages sent to you.It is rude to humiliate them publicly.I receive messages like this too.One man explained to me most males receive practically no messages.I receive minimum of 5 messages a day at my empty profile.We have no right to complain.We are lucky. We have so much choice. We have no preeminence to publicly display private messages to humiliate men IMO.xx Thank you very much... So can people stop complaining. Also it is hard for people like myself to actually try and communicate with people and having to fight through the crap one liners these guys dish up. But the private messages are private messages...
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abcplus1
13 years ago
....some spelling and punctuation can make. A first impression lasts whether it is written, spoken or viewed. But I must admit, I find it just as rude when you take the time to write something well constructed and the person does not have the courtesy to reply, and in our case that is females rather than males. A simple 'no thanks' is far better to receive than nothing at all. Narelle
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes, women do have an inordinate amount of choice on here. However, it does not negate the basic need to send a relatively courteous message when contacting someone. Everyone gets knocked back at some point or other, whether that be through a message that wasn't returned or a "no thank you". Men really should take note, put a little effort in. Yes, I see those above have not had replies either with nice messages - I know it's irritating but what did you expect? It would be a full-time job to reply to every message. Have a little understanding. I've never went a message that was anything less than civil and courteous. They don't need to be a page long but they do need to be more than a couple of words barely strung together. Not everything has to be perfect, it's the effort that counts. I'll draw the analogy of what would most prefer, a man who relies on a massive cock to do the work for him or the dude with an average cock who puts in plenty of effort to make sure his partner is satisfied? I had a look on my profile statistics. Apparently for messages, I get a 95% reply rate. Maybe my suggestions have a little credibility?
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abcplus1
13 years ago
That is our reply rate from females :(
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have only been on this site for a couple of weeks and most people who have messaged me have at least been polite ,but yesterday a man in his fifties asked me if I would like to sit on his very big appendage.My response was to say'Thank you but no....do you usually get women saying yes to this request?'......I did not receive a response. Perhaps the intention behind these sorts of messages is to just be rude and aggressive because they can. Next time I simply wont reply.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hahaha great thread. First thing, looks like these messages are pretty general really, considering what kind of site this is. If you don't like messages like this being sent maybe you should have a look at you profile 40 is fun. Not exactly looking like your'e after the common pleasantries after a quick glance of your pic's. I'm not saying there's anything wrong about it as we are all on a adult site here but most of the younger males honestly wouldn't even be reading the profile, and as far as the messages, things like 'u up for a chat ' ' hi, i like ur profile and would b intrestd in fun, hope to hear from u 'and ' luv that profile pic its fukn sxc xx ' seem like a pretty normal message to send someone really. Not everyone likes to disclose their name in a message that probably wont even get responded to anyway.!!Peace :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I've tried numerous ways of writing messages. From abrupt, to introductory, friendly etc, and have hardly received a reply, not even a 'no thanks.' Now you don't have to fall into the genius category to work out that girls get the majority of messages on here, so quit complaining, I'm sure that somewhere in there are genuine and interesting people, and that you ladies write back to them....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Have a look at the left of this message it's called a user name! It's to provide privacy and security whether the message sent from a member regardless of them being male, female or somewhere inbetween! Though after reading their profile you could politely ask for their name in your reply!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thanks James and abcplus1 , I've never looked too much at those stats before...my reply rate is 140% for messages and my flirt reply rate is 2,101% wt that's massive lol . . and Jeebus crikey Super, you are still sooooo bitter bitter at the girls and bitter at the pretty boys! You know it's not that they're prettier than you right? it has a hell of a lot to do with their attitude towards women. You make yourself ten times uglier each time you open your mouth and speak about some poor woman's saggy snatch that way, in fact your whole post just about made me sick then
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RHP User
13 years ago
OK, I can see where the OP is coming from. Some of them are pretty ridiculous... BUT the phrases that are getting thrown around a lot is "put a little effort in" and make your opening message "interesting"So what exactly constitutes "a little effort"? And how does one make their opening message interesting? There's a bit on here on what not to do, but not much help on what should you do.Obviously everyone is different, but maybe an example of a "good" message would help. There's no point telling people they're sh!t and not giving them a reference point of... let's say comparison.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sometimes I write a long opener, sometimes a short one, but really it doesn't make any difference to the reply rate. It depends on whether they like the photo in my Pg or not which is fair enough. Although there are far more males on the site there a still plenty of females, so it is a complete waste of effort crafting a wordy and unique nugget of gold to every woman. This is just a sex site, not Findmytruelove.com and it is just a numbers game. In fact I just usually use a flirt opener before I send a message, I don't really care if someone gets a hundred a day, if someone likes my profile they will reply. The number of times I've seen a "no flirts" thing in someones profile, sheesh, at least that's a ready made list of interest, instead of us poor blokes that have to go and sift through hundreds of profiles, flirt and message a load, get limited response, click with a couple on the phone, click with fewer in real life, and shag even less. So if you want someone to write a poem, join an English lit website.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' Thanks James and abcplus1 , I've never looked too much at those stats before...my reply rate is 140% for messages and my flirt reply rate is 2,101% wt that's massive lol . . and Jeebus crikey Super, you are still sooooo bitter bitter at the girls and bitter at the pretty boys! You know it's not that they're prettier than you right? it has a hell of a lot to do with their attitude towards women. You make yourself ten times uglier each time you open your mouth and speak about some poor woman's saggy snatch that way, in fact your whole post just about made me sick then and only because of you DGT. mwah. you always reply to my eloquent messages, that are both informative, slightly controversial but never banal. now bring your saggy snatch here COZ i want to wear it as a hat! heehee furthermore, regarding the topic at hand (sorry for digressing, blame DGT), its not the content of the messages that should offend, but the very fact that they are so generic. you reap what you sow sometimes. seriously, how do you respond to a profile that has that catchy catch phrase " i am horny, need attention now" or "i want to have fun" your shitting me arent you? you want to have fun? how dare you utter those words!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
maybe you should look at your profile and pics.. if these are the messages you recieve?? We dont get any even close to that...
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John_do39
13 years ago
There are no guarantees of getting a reply back whether you send a sentence, a paragraph or a perfectly worded essay. This could be due to the sheer volume of messages being received or lack of interest or care. However, I still believe messages should be a little more tasteful and appealing. Even as a single guy, I get those kind of messages and simply make me laugh. I can just imagine what messages single women and couples would be getting J
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RHP User
13 years ago
You're going to be wearing my frying pan as a hat you cheeky bugger
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RHP User
13 years ago
I totally agree with the few men experiencing the lack of replies as well. I could sit down write a brief message similar to :- Hi, I'm Chris 32 old, truck driver, but please don't hold that against me. I don't have a gf in every port - despite the stigma to the contrary. I also am learning to fly, love meeting new people, hearing their stories and sharing a couple of casual drinks over a dinner or similar. I'm not entirely that good at talking about myself too much in depth so I will leave it there for now and look forward to your reply. Chris This has had a very mixed response from the predominantly no response, to straight out blocking. My question is do you honestly blame a guy for cutting to the chase??? I've even now gone as far as giving up approaching women in general, as what's the point?? I don't see myself as being unreasonable or disrespectful. I like to think I'm funny at times, engaging and have a touch of intellect in there somewhere. To be treated like I'm applying for a job is nearly as arousing as slitting your wrists. That's just my opinion though.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hardtruckin, allow me:Firstly, re-write your about me, especially your second paragraph (I don't think many (any) prospective girls are joyed at reading you are willing to move town to live near them). In fact, the other paragraphs too, but number 2 just takes the cake I think.Secodly, get some new photos up, and take the others down..Your first photo is not too dissimilar from what I'd expect of a 2 year old when he's tying up his shoelaces.As for your second photo, well nobody gets excited about that photo-booth distorted alien look (reminder: you are 32, not 16), not to mention the double chin making a famous appearance. You're obviously not concerned about anonymity from anybody who stumbles upon this site, which makes it easier, so put photos of you up doing things you love. If you don't have some, get some - if you're willing to move town, then you're willing to pay a pro photographer to take half a dozen shots ranging from a headshot, to a shot of you leaning up against a plane or whatever else.You don't really write girls telling them your life story as above, do you? Just read their profile and write them something that doesn't involve 3 paragraphs of you. Now if they have a very empty profile, I'll also suggest not asking whether they are as empty as their profile.Best of luck.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hmmmm when ya put it that way....lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
Im loving this. I agree with everything. But i can't help laughing. Us girls do the same thing sometimes. Write with our sex drive rather then our brain.. I wonder if the males feel like we are treating them like man whores lol My only problem is when they don't read ur profile and message just coz ur pics may give them wood. Amz
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RHP User
13 years ago
So how do you introduce yourself without talking about yourself?? Seems pretty pointless writing a message that simply reads hi I'm Chris, how's the weather your way??
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RHP User
13 years ago
We could just not imagine sending a private, first up message with the hope of meeting and maybe having sex with someone WITHOUT putting both of our names to it.......it just seems like the right and polite thing to do. We don't care if they put fake names.....just something.And yes we will reply with something like.......Hi "insert names here".....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'ogrilp400'Well the interesting, informative well written extensive messages that I send don't get a reply either. So its pretty obvious that messages don't get replies, full stop. Probably the umpteenth time I have read of your lack of luck in the message dept. May I suggest a change of pic, or if you really think this one displays the message you want to get across alternate it with another here n there? I swear everytime I see your avatar I think it's a woman's butt Now don't get on the defensive here, because I'm all for shoving things in a man's arse, in fact I'm really for it but sadly I never like to see it in a g-string, and that is personal preference only. I prefer a bare arse or a sexy pair of jocks with a thumb hooked in them , something that represents a manly man to me. So as an example, if you sent me a message, no matter how profound or detailed....if I was not sexually turned on by your pictures, it would go absolutely no further than that. DOn't expect to catch fish in the same waterhole if you aren't willing to at least change your bait and if you aren't........then for chrissakes stop whining about it, you're a grown man.
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