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Oral inequality
November 10 2011
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RHP User
13 years ago
Personally, I believe that giving oral to your female partner, is almost the most personal act you can share with her! To be there, at, and in her pussy, licking, sucking and gently nibbling her clit, and fingering her pussy, and or licking and tongue fucking, grasping her arse cheeks, giving soe anal pleasure at the same time, and bringing her to orgasm, and being right there, watching, smelling, tasting, and feeling her, looking up, over her mound, into her eyes, OMFG Yes:)
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RHP User
13 years ago
This should be interesting Miss Sarah.
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Just_Auzzie
13 years ago
Well i get alot of enjoyment out of going down on a woman, but i guess it also comes back to the fact, is she enjoying it. For me i love to do it, if the woman is enjoying me doing it, nothing worse then getting no reaction. As for getting oral in return, its quite fun to be doing it at the same time as in 69 or whatever, but i find the woman usually looses concentration midway through lol, not that its a bad thing at all, just means i am doing things right. I would be happy going down and not getting anything in return, and its a good thing if something that favor is returned. I think give n take is great thing and not always at the exact same time.
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RHP User
13 years ago
don't know about the whole "go down for hours" statement though. Sounds like a load of s**t to me. maybe over the course of a couple of sittings..... but an hour or more???.... They're just trying to talk themselves up. I accept that my technique might not be the best, and I'm more than happy to practice, but I'd be confident I could achieve the "big O" in less time than that. Maybe even more than once. By then its time to be on the recieving end.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I can only speak for myself and have not experienced many women that are not into giving men blow jobs, swallow dont swallow doesnt really matter it's quite a personal act so the mere fact we both engage each other says plenty about how comfortable and attracted we are. It isnt a must do for me and i will readily engage in it if asked but also respect a lady that doesnt think it's her thing. Arent we all allowed to be a little selfish in the bedroom?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I must know how to pick a girl because all but 1 girl I've been with since I was a teenager enjoyed & got off on sucking cock. Even the one who didn't like it much would indulge me on occasion which was very much appreciated. I was very surprised when a now ex gf and I ware getting bit drunk with some good friends many years ago and the subject of sucking cock came up and the other 2 girls in the group stated that they found it disgusting and would never do it. My gf and I exchanged cheeky looks and sniggeredAs for guys going down on girls, most guys I've spoken to about it generally brag that they do it but who knows when it comes to the crunch. Personally I love it and pity any couple who don't enjoy each other this way. Don't they know what they are missing out on
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RHP User
13 years ago
I agree with aussie40m on the comments that it is personal to her... trust me, I've had my share of ladies that say no! but after regularity visits and just in the moment I just make a run for it down there (Yeah! I actually really enjoy it) and they get all tense in the legs and try to choke you... LOL! but being gentle is the way to go and win over and they begin to really enjoy it.as for a return??? Well No Thanks if you are shit at it, or dont like it which would mean that you will sux at it and might hurt someone.. So no worries there
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RHP User
13 years ago
I personally love to satisfy a man with oral sex - it is great to hear them moan and groan and appreciate what you are doing to them! I can't imagine any male NOT liking to be sucked. As for receiving oral in return - bring it on!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am a big believer in if you recieve you should also give, so if you make me cum with your mouth, hands, tongue, I will reciprocate. I like to give as much pleasure as I receive it is a real turn on. I too love to make men skwirm , and curl their toes, it really does turn me on and I love it when they beg for mercy!!! Remember girls cum is good for your complexion!!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Giving oral to a female turns me on even more than receiving a blow job, and in my experiences, I haven't found a better way to give a woman pleasure than giving her oral. If there was then I would probably focus on that first and once she was satisfied, I'd then look for my kicks through going down on her. If I got as much satisfaction out of getting a head job then I'd probably be more selfish. I guess I'm just lucky that my pleasure is generally a woman's pleasure too! :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
None of the men have come forward to say "No I dont like giving oral sex and no I wont go down on a woman...at all. " ROFLMAO
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RHP User
13 years ago
I guess I'll just have to come out and say it. Its not thatt I don't enjoy the activity, on the contrary I do have a tongue like a lizard, I can breathe through my ears but the fact remains that its a question of performance and equity. On the off chance a woman can give me a decent blowjob then I'm more than happy to return the favour, however most blowjobs I've had, have... sucked. If you'll pardon the pun. Otherwise I'm just diving headirst into some rather hairy business, and there's no telling for sure thatt I'll get a good return on my initial investment. I'm not going to try and convince anyone that my oral skills are superior to anyone elses, on the contrary, I'll let my work speak for itself, should I find them worthy. In regards to the original question, for me it comes down to visual asthetic and taste. Its a bit like shellfish, either you have a reaction to or you don't. Nuff said.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I agree with Aussie40M.Although my main enjoyment comes from knowing that whoever I'm going down on enjoys it. That's the turn on for me!!!I still love the taste, feel, warmth.....I could go on but most of the guys here know what I mean.As for a guy not wanting to go down on a woman, what can I say. It does not compute to me unless there hygiene freaks of some sort.How could a guy not love the taste of that sweet nectar????
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RHP User
13 years ago
We have came across one guy that said he didnt do oral, that made our decision easy....next! And also experianced it, too often when playing. Now we reckon .....no oral or sex for those guys....butt the big question "Would we carry thru with that threat in real life?" We confirm most guys will talk about it. Plus we honestly think they are protecting themselves from a safe sex point of view......
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RHP User
13 years ago
A guy who doesn't enjoy licking pussy ? That is absurd.Eating pussy for hours - definitely ! I get SO turned on eating pussy and tasting the unique flavour of each of my lady friends. It is such an intense sexual experience customising my cunnilingus technique to my partners. I get pleasure out of giving pleasure to women. Most of the time, that same mentality is NOT shared with women but, having said that, I have met girls who just LOVE sucking cock, and swallowing. It's all up to the individual lady as to whether or not she enjoys it. To me, it sometimes doesn't make sense when a girl doesnt want to give (or receive for that matter) oral sex. We are having fun in the bedroom to share eachothers body, for sexual pleasure. Should we (as men or women) be disappointed that our partners dont give or receive oral sex ? I don't think so. There should be no expectations in the bedroom as they lead to disappointment. If it happens, cool, if it doesn't happen, let your partner know why and maybe there is an alternate thing that you or your partner can do to 'make it up'...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I totally enjoy going down and giving oral; and making (if possible), seeing, sensing, hearing a woman orgasm. It is such a strong turn on for myself and much more than just a part of foreplay. On the other hand i would never ask to receive oral (on me), because: > I fear gagging > I do not want to use up one cum thru that > I fear loss of control > I am despite immaculate hygiene I am uncircumsized (a factor) > I fear shooting down the woman throat (Seems disrespectful) > I think its over-rated So I never ask. And prefer not to allow unless it gives real pleasure for my bedtime partner. Quality and equality rules :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yep, I'm a definate fan of going down on the wife, I really get a kick out of giving her pleasure. Unfortunately she's not a fan of going down on me But life goes on and I get by. She enjoys it which makes me enjoy doing it.
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WinstonHawke
13 years ago
Well I am probably one of the rare breed of men who loves to give oral, but receiving does very little for me. I can count on one hand the number of times I've had an orgasm from a girl going down on me. Simply too gentle, not enough stimulation. So if a girl goes down on me, whilst it feels nice, I will fairly soon move to another activity.As for going down on a girl, I definitely love doing it. No way can I do it for an hour, but I certainly make the effort to stay down there for as long as my tongue will hold out. And hopefully that results in one or more orgasms for the girl - hey, that's why we do it and love it, right?
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RHP User
13 years ago
I read a short story once about a girl who loved oral sex. Her friend suggested when she went out with a new guy to order pizza and see if he had anchovies on his pizza. If he did he would go down on her if he didnt order anchovies, move on to the next one. When I was younger it seemed to work, I have now discovered that older men are far more keen on oral than younger men, no offence meant.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I love giving oral as much as I love getting it! I give better than my partner gives it to me which is frustrating though!! Even giving anal oral.. I think it's great!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's not inequality MissSarah... it's just that us men will do anything to get into a girls pants.. Scientists have poked around in the gene pool and one of the earliest they discovered was the 'nothing is not worth doing if it might get you laid' gene in men. So those men who 'hate' oral sex aren't going to say it... just like the men who hate putting out the rubbish don't say it (well they do, but they talk to the rubbish bag on the way to the bin). . Of course like all men in this thread, my genes compel me to mention my excellent tongue, oral and aural breathing skills. I love going down on a lady... and like in the 'what is good head thread'... if a man enjoys it - he's going to be good at it. So over to you MissSarah... of all the men (hehe - that sounds kinda bad!) that have slowly kissed their way along your body, over your tummy, down to your thighs and then back up to your pussy.... what was the ratio of good v bad? I think that will give us a better snapshot of how many men are going down because they 'have to' vs those that go down because they LOVE having hips pressing up into their face.. xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
have got mates that wont do it, but then again I have also gone out with a few women who dont like the thought of it being done to them, but then they also wont suck cock either usually end up as one date girls lol.
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RHP User
13 years ago
oh great and matyre responses people....again...some like oral, some dont...its like ...ohh....anal? dp? fisting? 3somes? we all have individual preferences.......i know gay guys who baulk at anal play...of any kind.....get over it will you? some make it sound like some business arrangement...ooh i wont suck him if he wont lick me....ffs i love oral....but with people who i am attracted to...and that includes their 'bits'......i will not put my mouth anywhere thats not 100% appealing.......
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N4November
13 years ago
I'm getting so much AMAZING oral sex!!! Seriously guys & girls - just get down there and enjoy it! The first time a close FWB and I played - we did oral on each other for 4 hours straight.... ok, a record - but I will happily 'diddle' and suck cock for an hour or 2 easy. I just love giving pleasure. Everyone is different and its fun finding out heh? ;) Its common that guys won't cum from receiving head. But heh, there are a few that do! But who cares? As long as they are enjoying themselves, where's the stopwatch??! But I like things to be reciprocated lol Lastly, you cannot imagine how many of my girlfriends men WILL NOT go down on them!!!! It really effects them - how they perceive how their partner views them sexually, how they feel about themselves, etc, etc. It would be game over I reckon if I was on the NON receiving end. I'm just glad that I have no hangups regarding oral sex and I usually say so before I play - just incase they feel they might need goggles for eye protection when they're down there....
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RHP User
13 years ago
I like this topic Sarah. I don't really understand the "I won't do that!" from either men or women. I guess my love of giving oral almost borders on obsession at times, I love to immerse myself in the scent, texture and taste of a woman and love the way her body reacts. As far as being on the receiving end, to be honest I am not too fussed. The one thing I really don't enjoy much is someone who seems to be forcing themselves. I rarely cum from oral but if my partner is enjoying giving and they ahve some enthusiasm, its a great feeling. I have had a few friends, both male and female who have said they don't like to give oral and the strange thing about that is that if I ever asked them why, almost all of them would decline to answer. Oral sex is one of life's joys, all five senses come into it, touch, taste, sight, the aural :) and scent. I respect the choices of those who decide not to partake, but I don't really understand it. Cheers
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RHP User
13 years ago
I had a girl friend who was reading the World Acording to Garp, which I had read before her. She asked me to tell her what happens in the car scene, before she had read up to that part. "Oh, they just ordered pizza". What else could I say?
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mgh47
13 years ago
as a bloke who likes to give oral to my lady for hours if allowed, better with food at times, I have encountered times when a lady tells me she does not give oral without a condom on me, but she loves to cum and gush when I lick all her holes. I don't want a vaginal condom, or gladwrap, but it should work both ways. I eat bareback pussy and ass, and she eats bareback cock, sounds fair to me
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captainkaos
13 years ago
There is nothing better than the taste and smell of a pussy. To also know that i am getting my partner off only excites me more. I slept with one woman years ago. She said that she didn't like to recieve but i convinced her to try it and she did enjoy it.....strangely enough, she sucked at giving as well. Needless to say, we are only friends now. lol.
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EvergreenTerrace
13 years ago
Seriously, who could be brothered to have someone go down on then for an hour or more?Either you don't know what you are doing, or there better be something good on TV for the other person to be watching whilst you are down there for that longDont get me wrong i love to go down town, but all of my male friends are the same, and it seems like its almost acceptable that women don't like going down on men, which whist its not a deal breaker, i think it can be a little selfish.Men (and this is a generalisation, maybe i should say the male friends i have) tend to be more interested in pleasing their woman in the bedroom, i think there is more pressure on men these days to perform
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RHP User
13 years ago
Let me just say i let my tongue do the talking !
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RHP User
13 years ago
I always want to give oral to a girl but I have not yet done one.I am eager to go down on girls because I want them to enjoy sex too.
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RHP User
13 years ago
yeah yeah....guys say they love eating pussy...but most would much rather lay back and get a blow job!hahahhahahhahaha!I dont mind a nice sesh of cunnilingus...so take your time....be firm but gentle...and dont obsess about making me cum...coz the ride is every bit as enjoyable as the destination.ps. I'll be able to relax and enjoy it more if Ive had a shower first...then I wont be stressing about if im whiffy or not...lol.BJ
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RHP User
13 years ago
Going down on a lady is a must do for me! I do it because I love to do it, not just because I have to. Have even been known to go down on a cock filled pussy or a cum filled pussy and even help another guy as we both go down on pussy! The only thing I ask is that the lady is 'fresh' as in showered and clean, after that its all in!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I just love oral. It's kind of like a form of worship (giver performing selflessly for the receiver). Although I get off on it big time. It's not just about getting down there and slurping, it's getting to know a girls anatomy and which areas (they might be small areas) that respond to different amounts of pressure/ speed etc. Having said all that, it's not just guys that can be lousy at oral. A lot of girls thinks it's just pumping away with their mouth and tongue. I have only met one girl/woman who' was really amazing at going down on me and she was spectacular, kept me on the verge of coming for a very long time before finally letting me come.
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RHP User
13 years ago
It can be a cultural taboo .. I do know of many RASTAFARIANS whom believe it is not it RASTAFARI INTEREST to give nor recieve ORAL SEXUAL STIMULATION :)I really enjoy both to recieve and give .. BUT ... it takes TRUST - BOND - CLOSNESS - FRIENDSHIP for me to relax and allow someone to tongue play my CHACHA or to blow on a guys HOOHA ;)When I was 18 it was suck suck .. and then I started to realise a few years down the line it is very very personal and so now i only peform this act on LONG TERM PARTNERS.
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RHP User
13 years ago
If a girl says no blowjob, then we have to say "that's fine". But I can count on no hands how many orgasms I've had from oral. If a guy says no to oral the response is "Sorry, we gave the job to a more appropriate candidate". Since, in regards to sex men are seen as the pleaders, if they don't do it then they loose out. I used to think I liked neat hair over no hair... until I found out I had asthma attacks from breathing in hair. But if I tell anyone that I can't go down unless it's shaven the response is "How dare you not enjoy it" or "they shouldn't have to shave, that's their choice". Well for one not all girls DO taste good, just as not all guys taste good. Second I never said I didn't enjoy it... and why should I be forced to explain myself when girls aren't expected to. It is a very sexist attitude. At least, like men, women also also often lie about how much they enjoy it. Of course many are honest on both sides, seeing your benefactor enjoying themselves is a big turn on, but the majority are lying to some extent.
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RHP User
13 years ago
my partner has never made me cum from oral but that doesn't stop me from returning the favour.its called fore play and to be honest if its another thing that can make her cum and enhance the pleasure why wouldn't you do it
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wannabyummymummy
13 years ago
Firstly i don't think it is all that acceptable to guys if a girl wont suck cock i mean they accept a 'no' because let's face it they have to but if a guy is really keen on receiving it is doubtful he is going to call her again and like wise for the ladies if she is keen on receiving it and he isn't keen on doing it then they most likely are not going to catch up again as they are obviously just not compatible.There really is no joy or pleasure in having a guy go down on you who just plain doesn't want to be there just like there is no point in a girl giving head if it is just not her thing it is about mutual pleasure and to be any good at it you have to enjoy what you do.I have an old school friend who is totally repulsed by the idea of both giving AND receiving oral and while i really can't understand where she is coming from we all have our likes and dislikes as others have pointed it out is no different to those who like or don't like anal, threesomes or the multitude of other sexual choices out there.I don't think it is a double standard it is purely a case of finding the right match for you sexually.
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RHP User
13 years ago
i used to date girls, so i've done my fair share of pussy licking... and i'll quite honestly admit an hour is really pushing it... if you're doing it properly, regardless of how long it takes her to cum, your jaw will get sore at some point. and then your neck, when you switch to moving your head rather than your tongue, if that makes any sense... i'd quite happily do it for as long as i physically can, but if the next day i'm gonna have a jaw-over similar to taking drugs and chewing gum all night, i will switch to other activities... (if, however, you have somehow mastered the art of oral without getting a sore jaw, or sore cheeks for guys, please let me know your secret :-p)on the tit-for-tat discussion... i find it interesting that ppl think 'if i do x, then i'm owed z'. i don't view it in a 'should' sense... sex is not work (unless you're a hooker). sex is about pleasure, and if one person is satisfied, does it really matter whether there was oral or not? you shouldn't be doing things you don't want to in bed, and don't have sex with starfish. if someone doesn't satisfy you during sex, it's your choice whether you ask them to do something, and see if they will, or walk away...
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Letsgetloud
13 years ago
allow me to explain...Let us call a person's ability to perform good oral sex = XLet us call a person's enthusiasm to perform good oral sex = YLet us call a person's propensity for having oral sex performed upon themselves = ALet us call a person's ability adapt to the recipient's oral sex likes/dislikes = BLet us call a massive mind-blowing orgasm = :)Therefore... X + Y + A + B = :)However, while Factors X, Y and A are important, Factor B is the most difficult to capture, especially if the provider rates themselves highly in Factors X & Y. Importantly, if you have high Factor A then you are more likely to increase Factor B through open and honest communication. This is a phenomenon I call Oral B.Please credit any further use of the above formula to:Dr Letsgetloud PhD (Mouth Organ)Lecherer in Coital StudiesErogenous University
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hotsexbicple
13 years ago
i believe it should be equal and given and recieved by each partner, i know of a friend of mine wher she refuses to give her husband to be a headjob, but yet fully recieves oral from him at least once to twice a week with nothing in return. she thoroughly enjoys recieving and often ask for it, but hey how about returning the favour?????
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RHP User
13 years ago
Im selective about it for sure... I do enjoy it generally but things have to be right on a few levels for me to LOVE it... when Im with someone that triggers that reaction then yes... they will wonder if I can actually breathe through my ears as u put it. For me its much more to do with the physique of the person Im with and how their body moves than many other factors... if they are sensual, in reasonable shape, smell good (in general terms... I find smell is important for me... clean natural smells being my favorite) then these things are adding to my experience and I'll probably end up wanting to be between your thighs :D LS
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Nick_Wilde' however most blowjobs I've had, have... sucked. If you'll pardon the pun. I kinda think this is up to the receiver... if you dont like what youre getting then speak up or encourage it in a direction that improves things... there is something incredibly hot about teaching your girl how to please u like this and usually the pleasure is mutual in my experience... it can be a fun role play... ok I think I gave a bit too much away... LS
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RHP User
13 years ago
Equality is good... and its sustainable. I guess like men some women taste better than others. I love giving oral but will admit there's big difference between giving to waxed vs unwaxed. I give oral regardless whether or not I'm on the receiving and I rarely ask. But there's a catch... if I don't receive oral, I start to feel like I'm being taken advantage of. If this prolongs for any length of time, I start refuse and its all down hill from there...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I love it, giving and receiving. I'm afraid if my partner wouldn't have a bar of it (so to speak) they wouldn't be around for too long! Imagine being stuck in a relationship like that. Pass!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am always being asked if I swallow. Once in the back seat of a car I was in my green satin dress and the man ejaculated over it. Getting the tell tale stains out proved troublesome, so I do think swallowing has its advantages.
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RHP User
13 years ago
... the vast majority of males actually get off upon satisfying their partners, as we know we will almost certainly reach an orgasm !
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RHP User
13 years ago
Nothing gets me off more than seeing my partner, Cassie, in the heights of pleasure.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have always found guys who love to go down on me and also thankfully, they are happy for me to reciprocate (which I LOVE doing) but i can tell you there's nothing quite so disappointing as having a hubby with a gorgeous cock who can take or leave a blow job ......it's a tragedy....sigh.... Swallow for special boys only, no randoms..........I'm not a feckin jizz bin.............unless i'm feeling particularly "cum sluttish"..........that's reserved for special situations and VERY, VERY special men.
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