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Oral to women............as requested

June 03 2007

Ok there was a request in the post on how to swallow cock for women to say what they like form oral as so many of us aren’t satisfied so here’s my offering. Well this comes from the point of view as both a giver and reciever..........every woman is different so above all else listen to what she says! if she says she wants attention in particular spot, do not continue elsewhere because that usually works because she knows what feels best for her not you so set aside your physiological aversion to taking directions and do what she says :) If you get a woman hot and bothered before you start, you will halve your efffort as she will already be well on her way so don’t neglect the build up. The whole area is sensitive and feels fantastic when stimulated but don;t get too distracted by this................it may feel nice but its not going to bring a woman to orgasm I have noticed two trends which are problems as they just don’t work 1. paying attention to the vagina entrance in avoidance of the clit................this area is great but its not going to make a woman cum she needs her clit licked and sucked aswell, and not just the occaisional flick, it needs serioud attention especially as she’s approaching orgasm thats when you need to stay focused and take her over the top. 2. Thinking that the more intense the pressure the better..............the clit is delicate if the bite it and rub it with dry fingers it will hurt and a sore clit will not lead to orgasm or feel to good afterwards either. You hurt a woman there and she won’t be inviting you back again fingers during oral...............each to their own, do what you feel you can manage and also what she likes, some women love it and need that extra stimulation others aren’t that into it basically try it, listen for response, and feel for how her body responds too. ok thats enough for now...............just learn to love the wonder of the pussy it is a beautiful thing and should be enjoyed frequently so people feel free to add tips, contradict mine, ask questions do whatever just don;t say we don’t give directions Gem x

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18 years ago

Well a favourite of mine.....main thing is just enjoy it and want to do it Some form of tongue and jaw exersise can help, you can be there for a while I have only just discovered this area...I must come back more often lol

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18 years ago

Thanks Gem x I for one appreciate your taking the time to offer your advice, and given your experience as both a given and a receiver it is particularly relevant. Your right, the pussy is indeed a beautiful and wonderful thing and the way an orgasm moves through a woman in a manner somewhat akin to a seismic shockwave is something I find fascinating, especially if I have played a part in achieving that orgasm. Who wouldnt want to enjoy that frequently. Now ladies who would like to be pleasured until you are feeling warm and fuzzy? Toyota

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18 years ago

wow yes i agree on both points, 1 & 2 great description ,totally agree, i try tell mine ’whoa, be gentle’, wishn his hand was mine, plus gotta love the vibrator too if he aint doin it right ....hehehhe but i lovn it just lovn it in anyway, gee i cud add alot to your forum, very enlightening....Have a great week :) Cheers Miss T

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18 years ago

i like to ask for directions, up down left right, cmon the human body didnt come with instructions how about a bit of help down here

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17 years ago

WOW awesome description. Im sure that if the guys that read and follow those guidelines their partners will be enjoying their time together even more. I apparently give great head...why....coz i love to do it and i pay attention to my partner so will pick up on what works for them and what doesnt. I think the golden rule is to do it coz you want to not coz you hope the favour will be returned. Sex is sex at the end of the day and oral is oral so just do what feels best and dont be to proud or embarassed to ask for guidence :)

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17 years ago

Until I started waxing I did not realise how sensitive the vaginal lips are. In terms of a turn on, some sucking and licking of the lower part of the vaginal lips definitely has the rest of me responding. A word of warning about the naked vagina, make sure your face is smooth. A 5 o’clock shadow feels like sandpaper against the mound of venus and your woman will go away feeling rubbed raw so if you’ve had a shave the night before and want to play again in the morning, that is definitely the time to make the lower lips and the opening of the vagina your focus as opposed to the upper lips. Or at least ensure you are between her legs and can aim your tongue directly into the areas you want to access so your stubble isn’t rubbing against her naked mound. And yes I agree with others, enjoy what you are doing, watch her face and body movements for cues as to whether she is being pleasured and don’t be afraid to ask her if you think you are not getting it quite right. Cheers Wild

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17 years ago

How to... give proper (therefore GREAT) cunnilingus. Cunnil-wha? Cunnilingus, silly! Oral sex, eating pussy, munching carpet, etc.; cunnilingus is the act of using the mouth to stimulate the female genitals. This can include sucking or licking the outer and inner areas of the vagina, and most often involves direct stimulation of the clitoris. Some women find cunnilingus to be the most satisfying sexual act. Indeed, a great number of women report that oral sex is the only way they can achieve orgasm. The mouth can create a uniquely intense range of sensations which many find unrivaled. So, I just take my tongue and start licking her clit, right? Sure, you could do that, but that’s like being satisfied with the appetizer and skipping the main course. To give really great oral sex, you need to learn about the whole vaginal area, including the clitoris. Though the clit is the central pleasure mechanism on a woman, the entire area is fertile ground for your tongue, fingers, and toys. Tell me more about this clitoris thing! The clitoris is an organ unique in the whole of the female human body - it is devoted solely to sexual pleasure. As variable and exciting as women themselves, each clitoris is different: some small and hidden, some large and prominent. All, however, are capable of providing ecstasy. How do I know what she wants? You will never know what your partner wants or finds satisfying unless you talk to them. If it is your first time with a particular partner, communication may seem uncomfortable. Don’t worry. Do you really think that your new partner will be annoyed or upset if you ask her what she wants? A vast majority of women will be quite pleased. Do not be discouraged if you partner offers you advice; be overjoyed because you are learning what they find pleasurable which will make you a better lover as a result. A sense of humor is another great way to ease any tension which may exist between new lovers. A light-hearted approach to your sexual encounter will make it more enjoyable for both of you. What are the best ways to give her oral pleasure? The clitoris is central to female sexual arousal, as it contains most of the sexually charged tissues in the body. The logical first step for many lovers, therefore, is to directly stimulate the clitoris right off the bat. The catch is many women will not be very responsive to this jump-for-the-clitoris approach. Take things slow at first, kissing and licking her stomach and thighs, then the area around her clitoris. Build her arousal level slowly, gradually increasing pressure and speed with your mouth. Once you know she’s aroused (i.e. if she’s told you or motioned so) you can then move to the clitoris. Many women enjoy a massage of the mons. The mons in the mound of skin which is found on top the pubic bone above the vaginal opening. Take one or both of your hands and carefully move the mons and surrounding area much the same way you would massage someone’s shoulders. Be careful not to press too hard or make too wide a circular movement. As you manually stimulate the mons, you can move your mouth to the vulva. When soothing her vulva with your tongue, you may wish to concentrate solely on the clitoris after some stimulation of the labia or you may wish to lick the surrounding areas. Some women need constant clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm so ask your partner what she would have you do. Clitoral stimulation can be exciting but don’t be too eager. The way that you use your tongue is important. Provide different textures by altering the natural flex of your tongue. When your tongue hangs limp and flat, it provides a soft caress. When your tongue is flexed and rigid it provides more direct and firm stimulation. Try some of each and determine which your partner prefers. Some women will want rapid motions of continuous licking while others prefer long, slow caresses. Lubricants are usually thought of in terms of penetration only, but they can add excitement during cunnilingus as well. Try a nice water-based lubricant. Lubricants come in a wide variety of flavors and help protect the sensitive tissues of the vagina during stimulation. When a woman becomes sexually aroused her vagina balloons and her uterus rises. Women often enjoy the feeling of penetration during oral sex. This penetration can be well lubricated fingers or a dildo. While there is a wide selection of dildos on the market, some men may feel uncomfortable using a dildo that resembles a penis. A great solution to this problem are the glass dildos. The elegant design of these glass products allows them to double as inconspicuous art that can be kept on the shelf as opposed to hidden in a drawer. Gently follow the natural curvature of the vagina for smooth entry. If you find that it’s a little difficult to coordinate everything you should try the Ohh Gee. You’ve got to see this one to believe it. It’s a chin-mounted dildo. What will they think of next? Are there better positions for great cunnilingus? Of course! Just consider the range of possible positions for cunnilingus. Each position will be uniquely satisfying, so it is best for you and your partner to experiment and determine which one(s) you prefer. Most couples begin with the woman sitting in a chair or on the bed. This gives full access to the genitals and support to the back so that the woman is relaxed and her hands are free to stimulate herself. The partner performing oral sex can lie or sit facing the woman, free to use his or her hands for stimulation with the fingers. Another popular position is for the woman to squat on all fours over her lover’s face as she or he is lying down. Some people prefer this position because it allows a woman to move her pelvis to accentuate the stimulation. This position also allows a couple to mutually stimulate one another (the so-called ‘69’) when it is performed each partner at opposite ends. If you are a more meticulous giver of oral sex, you may not like this position because it is difficult to place your tongue right where you want it. Couples who wish to engage in playful dominance-submissive role playing might like to try standing while the other partner performs oral sex on his or her knees.

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17 years ago

personally.... i like having my clit licked, nibbled, sucked and bitten...gently of course....sorta like draging teeth across it , not a chomp. lol. love having my pussy lips licked and sucked too. oh...and try this one too....blow ’raspberries’ on her clit....yay!!! the ultimate clit tickler. this is good if u know yr partner well. otherwise u may feel like a bit of a clown. altho sex should be about having fun. i also enjoy a couple of fingers inserted during oral. 2 will do the trick...and have them curved upwards...as if u were gonna tickle her tummy from the inside. even move the fingers around (while still giving oral of course) sorta like yr tapping. remember to keep thrusting fingers in and out. (oh god...im asking the men to multitask!! lol) and i dont know about other girls....but my clit isnt an on/off switch. to get me horny....dont just play with my clit!!! im talking about using fingers here. or if u r...use lube. another thing i enjoy..is stopping during ’sex’ sex to have oral sex. then continuing with the penis/vagina sex. bit of variety. oh...and i also like to have my clit ’cock slapped’. u know..sort of whack it with yr penis. or even tapped with fingers...as if u were slapping it. not in a vicious way tho. thats about it. if i think of more i will add. remember...all girls are different. go with what she wants and what shes comfortable with. altho its nice to try somethng new. have fun. good luck. hope this helps. XX KL

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17 years ago

Can I contact you when I need some help with my sex life? LOL Seriously awesome post, very informative. Cheers Wild

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17 years ago

Lil & Kiss, I hope there are plenty checking this out and taking notes. With your collective advice there has to be more smiles on the planet!!! My quick add here is to think ahead (mmm oops on the pun) - encourage your partner to tell you what they like, before you have your tongue tipping the clit. I find the more ’communication’ the greater the enjoyment, get them pointing out the ’better’ stuff during the teasing and massage - things just seem to slide on from there... Strawberry or chocolate???

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17 years ago

Hi girls, having recently read both versions on giving head. What a heap of crap!!!!! Not the versions, but non recognition of the fact that we are all different. And doing it this way, that way. upside down inside out means nothing. If the person giving you such isnt attractive to you, you are less likely to cum! We can all sleep around, have great sex.....with no feelings. but why do we enjoy it? well we dont, we meet someone " fuck like rabbits" and see you tomorrow. I agree that we should all be able to do this and ctually move on.

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