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Orgasm envy?
May 20 2018
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RHP User
7 years ago
I would say, dont sweat the jealousy, lifes too short,, be glad hubby had fun and lets hope your turn to be spoiled is next.. and dream of the days you go with a couple that fit you both just right, and they feel the same about you.. that would be a great time to ask if they have friends that would like to join hehe.. I am sure there are so many couples with similar experiences..annndddd... i am sure there are NO ladies out there that appreciate a guy banging away with unskilled fingers or hands..
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OkeyDoke45
7 years ago
Were the other girls genuinely getting off, or were they just emulating what they see on Pornhub? Sexual behavior, or rather peoples perceptions of what constitutes normal sexual behavior, has become a topic of discussion here and elsewhere in recent times. Are people just mimicking any of the 6,432,875 clips on porn sites that depict ''finger blasting'', they think that this is what it should be? Or are the porn sites just reflecting how people actually behave? Chicken or the egg scenario?
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MrsCharlieTango
7 years ago
One of the girls literally squirted a puddle pretty much off the bat. And then followed it up with another at least 3 or 4 during the evening... 😢 she was noisy the whole time though. So maybe both? - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
7 years ago
Some woman can orgasm quickly and maybe the fact they are in a club is a big turn on so they are already half way there so to speak. But from numerous conversations and reading lots it seems evident the vast majority of women don’t cum at the drop of a hat and are more like you. Also squirting isn’t evidence of orgasm so quite possibly they may be faking it. Who knows? I also think porn has a role to play about men and women’s perception of what they should be doing and maybe more so when there’s an audience. Also I’m the same re. wish I could be more like that. Am less orgasmic now than when I had a regular partner and it shits me to be honest. But I’ve learned the more I think/worry about it the worse it gets. Probably similar to erection problems/premature ejaculation in guys. I’m prone to anxiety if I’m not 100% comfortable so I can see why it’s happens and I’m slower to engage now Quality is the thing right? Also I’m kind of over wham/bam porno sex as well. It seems to be a thing. Has it’s place but sometimes just want a connected, slow, slinky lover. I’m hearing you OP. Just be yourself and do things the way you want. 👍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I agree with okeydoke45 I'm a tad sceptical but they may of been building their anticipation and excitement for days who knows. Run your own race and find some people that fit your style. - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
Having learnt it from what they have seen in porn movies. - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
7 years ago
Mrs CT, personally I've spent a lot more time having mfm threesomes with Tara and all types of guys who have joined us, each experience unique, the sex is always different and never the same, none for comparison, if you were with us it would be something you have never experienced and never will again, it's a one time moment every time and I get you with saying you like to build up (if you even get there). Still you could find yourself getting fucked pounded and your pussy fingered violently? your arse slapped and nipples squeezed on the edge of limitations as to how aroused you become in the moment and that can go way beyond anything you have experienced as to now. Wait till you hit your naughty forties and still finding out things the naughty little horny devil inside you likes to do and have done daringly. Never violent, it clashes with the leather :) I'd be more inclined to see it as Tara a little spoiled as to selfish, although she does go off with the fairies when working up to orgasm, looses control of her legs mostly, she can't hear either and she has no idea how vocal her orgasms are at the time. But I'm an angel Mado Mado Tara xx
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HotNightsGC
7 years ago
You’re definitely not the only one that doesn’t climax fast. There’s lots of us out there. Some women are fortunate enough to be able to finish in a big way quickly or squirt etc. Then there are some that just simply play the porn card and put on a fake show. You’re being true to yourself which is awesome. Don’t feel badly at all. There’s nothing wrong with a slow build up. It’s bloody fireworks when it finally cums 😉. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
7 years ago
Some comments here seem a bit odd and very perspective biased If it is to be assumed that the people playing gave their consent by remaining present..... clearly.... they were enjoying whatever was happening sufficiently to keep doing it. Real, fake, Pornhub inspired or not..... they chose that participation. If it’s not your style, just go elsewhere to do whatever style suits you - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Honestly, there is no standard or normal when it comes to sex. Everyone is different. Eg Mr 300’s ex went through s short period of having multiple orgasms, but preferred single orgasms because she said they felt better. She was happy to go 5 mins, have her single orgasm and be done, while Mr 300 wanted to keep going. Mrs 300’s ex would only go for two mins, but she wanted to go much longer. We are now ecstatic being with each other as we both like to go for a long time, and have multiple orgasms so we are now aligned in what we like and need. If our exes new partners prefer being quicker and having single orgasm, they are going to be much happier too than they were with us. I don’t think the two ladies we’re faking it, but who cares if they were. As long as you are happy with how it works for you. And as mentioned earlier, you can likely expect even more fun when you get to your naughty forties. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Porno type sex doesn't do much for me. Need a connection.And yes women are similar to men. Some cum quickly, some take ages, some dont cum at all.Dont base your expected result on others. You are an individual and also doesn't mean you can't enjoy a club in your own way.Every club seems to have a screamer
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MsJonesy
7 years ago
Doesn't necessarily mean the female orgasmed, they can happen independently. Only an individual knows if they happen together. Everything has its place and people like different things. Don't feel pressured to do things you are not comfortable with. Try not to judge your sexuality and level of enjoyment against the experiences (and dare I say performances) of others. Find the people who rock your sock off and don't worry about the others who are after a porn reenactment if thats not what you want. It wasnt a waste of time.... you now know those people don't suit you. 😊
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MrsCharlieTango
7 years ago
I guess the off putting part for me was that it was a private party with only us and 2 other couples. It’s not like we had much choice but to witness it (other than leaving but we were staying the night there). I ended up not playing as I was so turned off by it but let Mr CT play. But even he said he was having trouble “staying in the game” as it was even offputting for him. I think because I’ve only orgasmed a couple of times in my whole life, seeing girls, real or not, do more than that in one night was what made me feel like I’m not a real woman. Hope to find some more sensual couples to play with in the future for everyone’s enjoyment. And maybe I can have orgasm number 4 in the near future 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
7 years ago
You would be surprised how many women are like you, so try not to place pressure on yourself. And there is many women who rarely orgasm in play situations. They still have a great time, are aroused and enjoying themselves but that doesn't always translate to orgasms. We can be our worst enemy 😕
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Bazingal
7 years ago
I lose my groove when others are incredibly loud, screaming etc. Good on them for enjoying themselves, this is not a criticism of them, it's just a little off putting for me. I too can not orgasm or squirt (very separate experiences for me) at the drop of a hat. It takes time and effort. Would I rather climax faster? Sometimes. But I also enjoy touching and being touched, savouring the experience. Everyone's different.Earth Queen summed it up "Just be yourself and do things the way you want. 👍"Good luck :)
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technologic
7 years ago
I'm one of those women who take a while to warm up. I actually prefer a long build up because I think the whole experience is much richer for that. But what makes me jealous is more the feeling/perception (and I could be biased) that men would prefer women who come really quickly and dramatically because it seems like more 'bang for their buck' and less work for them? - Posted from rhpmobile
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MrsCharlieTango
7 years ago
Maybe the constant banchee screams are what is perceived to be what men want. Men want to feel like they are hitting the right spot all the time rather than the truth that sometimes the aim is off and needs adjusting. I’m going to spend some time with Mr to see if we can work on relaxing my unrealistic expectations of how women should feel pleasure. And to finding more likeminded couples who want to play at a slower pace than jack hammer 😘 thanks all - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Never thought I'd find a Mrs CT lol ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Women very a huge amount in their sensitivity. Some I wondered if they are feeling anything at all, like they could be going through a shopping list for tomorrow. Others have easily gone through multiple orgasms quite quickly, while I think ok I'm not really doing anything particularly special here... but I'm happy to be the cause :) Of course these differences are often seen in a party situation where I don't have much say, in private I would always want a longer session or multiple sessions over a day/night/morning etc. - Posted from rhpmobile
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curiousnhorny05
7 years ago
I’ve found it hard to let go and orgasm as much as I normally do. At home it’s not an issue. I find too my head is constantly unsure if I’m doin ok and this distracts me. With me there’s orgasming which I think are more minis and then there is the big O which means I’m pretty done when it gets there. I’m also not into the porn style sex it’s way too intense. If any partner can get me lost and incoherent they’re welcome to please however they want they’ve earn it 😍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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curiousnhorny05
7 years ago
Maybe said girls don’t have a good pelvic floor hence squirting more hehe never know! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
You need to get over that real quick if you’re serious about swinging! I’m not a real woman stuff I mean. Some women come quickly and are continually squirting everywhere. I’m not one of them either but I’m happy to go with the flow, although I’m not a real fan of the huge screamers generally, it depends on how “genuine” it seems. Sometimes in larger groups it does create a bit of a laugh and can be an ice breaker.
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FredAndGinger2
7 years ago
Some people seem to like the exhibitionism side. We're much more discreet and private/intimate in our encounters - Posted from rhpmobile
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justlook2500
7 years ago
Some people orgasm quickly others take a while. Some squirt easily and others don't at all. Some orgasm and squirt is one in the same thing and for others they are 2 different events. Some are like buddhist monks with the greatest of silence and zen when cumming and others are yelling the house down. Everyone is different. That is the main thing to remember. Don't feel pressured to be something you are not … if not feeling always best to take a step back reconnect to what works for you and take it from there. Tho I have noticed something that is a bit disheartening in this thread with quite a few comments along the line of they must be faking or they just putting on a show. Were you there, did you ask them ? No … then how do you know they were faking or putting on a show. Just because you are not like that doesn't mean others are not. What I have found in last few years as people are getting more and more in touch and comfortable with their sexuality is they are getting more comfortable with vocalising their joys and pleasure during sex. I have seen this increase more so in women then men in recent years. So another thing to factor in is that it might be a case we as a society are not normally used to seeing women being so outward with their pleasure and being as vocal and expressive as men have been in the past.
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Hottie1
7 years ago
Who enjoys herself at parties, I’m loud enough, I’m multi-orgasmic and often squirt. I’m that woman that some have said is faking it or that I’m emulating what I see in porn ... no, I’m simply enjoying myself!!! To presume that its selfish sex is really unfair ... I’m an attentive and very giving playmate, my pleasure isn’t the only thing that drives me. I do ‘prepare myself’ for such parties, the dress up, sexy chats to ensure I’m in the right frame of mind because even I can have times where I don’t orgasm, for whatever reason, but I go in relaxed and open minded about playing ... I don’t play at every party either, if there isn’t a connection with anyone, I don’t play. At a party like that you’re there for sex, a fuck ... slow love making does not have a place in parties like that, IMO. I hate being finger banged ... but I love a good, long pounding.... but I’m responsible for my pleasure, and as I’ve said, I prepare myself physically and mentally. I don’t judge the woman who doesn’t make a sound with any form of stimulation, yet I’ve often found myself explaining or justifying myself to people. Sexual expression is individual and what worries me is that we haven’t really moved on where women are free to express themselves sexually without judgement and stigma. I’m an exhibitionist, I like being watched, that’s one of my kinks .... and there’s nothing wrong with that. I dont’put on a show’ but I allow myself to be immersed in an experience whenever I’m playing publicly. With that real and authentic immersion, I’m loud, messy and have a heap of fun. For some who watch it’s sexy, others really don’t like the squirting but I’m as considerate as I can be ... anything more than that or bowing down to ‘expectations’ and I’m compromising myself and my ability to have fun. I understand the frustration of the elusive orgasm for so many women. There was a long time after my hysterectomy where I couldn’t orgasm ... I get it! Even now, menopause, daily stress, etc can impact my ability to orgasm but if I go into a party or play situation worrying that I’m going to be judged, I won’t orgasm. I’m already going in worrying about my body shape, my scars, working on controlling the squirting, making sure I don’t make too much noise .... you see dear ladies, even the woman who seems confident, often isn’t. Why are we judging each other all the time? Mary xx
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MrsCharlieTango
7 years ago
I always thought I was a noisy one before we started playing recently. And even the first time we were with a couple where she was so quiet I felt very loud. But I realised I’m loud once I’m orgasmic or if I’m in pain. Not the entire time. But maybe every thrust was orgasmic for her. Maybe she was so turned on that from the get go it was intense climax. If so lucky her because I’ve never had the opportunity to experience that pleasure. As far as the selfish sex goes - I was let referring to her noises I was referring to how she didn’t share around the 2 guys. As there were 3 girls and 2 guys not once did she let me and the other girl have a go. It was all who is fucking me, great now you two fight it out for the other guy... and I kept finding myself guyless despite asking several times if I could play with my husband I either got “I’m not done with him” or yeah fine but then she stole the other guy. I spent 3 hours at a party and I had 30seconds of sex. That’s why I felt she was being selfish. I get your there for Sex. But in a group environment isn’t the idea that everyone enjoys themselves. I was there for sex too but I got none. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Freaky_Fun
7 years ago
I'm loud. I fuck loud. I sneeze loud. I laugh loud. I am loud. I didn't realise l must have been faking it or attention seeking and now need to make sure I'm not offending anyone while l enjoy myself. Fuck me 🙄.
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boobsandbusted
7 years ago
it’s unbelievable. how quick some women are and require next to no attention to make them orgasmic or just having a great time ,and others like mrs b take lots of time and effort. but that’s what makes swinging great ,everyone is different, ,each to their own , but must add yes we have been at partys where there was the howler ,and it can be very distracting for mrs b that needs to focus for herself , sometimes it’s quite funny where you just have to quietly laugh on the inside ,ok ok i’ve been known to just burst out laughing,lol, and think wow she having fun. and even if she isn’t she wants everyone including the neibough’s to think she is ,so good on her but then again. it can be a huge turn on ,just depends on the situation ,and our own mood and the zone we are in on the night ,just do your own thing as long as your enjoying yourself the way you like at your own speed ,i’m sure there is some fast women that wish they were like you ,being quieter and have the slow big build up with a huge bang at the end , enjoy it all for what it is , just plain old sexy time fun mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Lol. Whos that girl? - Posted from rhpmobile
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N4November
7 years ago
But I call bullshit that girls are fakers and can squirt just to be a porn star as has been suggested. But if some girl can? Hell, half his luck!! But me? I can't fake that shit! Perhaps you should reconsider your playing environment and find the right fit for you to enjoy and share xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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Hottie1
7 years ago
The people at the party you were at certainly missed out on one gorgeous looking lady ... sexy pics you have there gorgeous :) This is a great topic btw and my post was written as a stream of consciousness and certainly not intended to belittle or anything like that. I find your responses to posts and your honest reflection, very refreshing :) I have had a number of women at parties either talk about me behind my back and the times I’ve addressed that with them they cowardly skink away. One lady cornered me and said ‘they’ll get sick of you soon. We all were the loud porn star at one stage’ ... just rude! I was reflecting on that incident and a couple of others which were the catalyst for reducing the amount and type of parties I went to ... I’d agree that there are women (and equally men) like that at parties. I’d say there were a number of people responsible at that party to ensure that everyone was having a good time, especially given the small numbers there. I’m also the person who at events like that would also be the loud one ‘just saying it as it is’ ... I would’ve found myself saying something like ‘ woman, stop being greedy, we all want the cock’ ... I often say the things other people don’t! A little truth mixed with some jest .... I’m hoping your next events rocks your world gorgeous :) xx Ps: freaky ... I love your work. Like you, I have one volume, loud!!!! Mwah xx Mary xx
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codsworth
7 years ago
im in a similar situation but from the male side Mrs CharlieTango it takes a lot to get me even close to an orgasm, i like the build up, the exploration and visual feast of the body when i first started swinging, i had similar feelings of jealousy about guys/husbands who could would cum fast or seemingly whenever they chose it was especially bad as i often got sent home without getting anything so here is me providing countless orgasms for others, getting nothing in return,it was difficult, at times stressful i met couples that loved and appreciated my approach... and abilities they taught me i had no reason to be jealous because i had the power to take my partners to heights they had never known before, i was not a problem, i was the solution and hubby's that cum quickly are a common reasons for interest in swinging so its a little different i know, but the lesson i think is the same i have come to accept that during any kind of group play there is no guarantee that you get an orgasm because everyone is chasing their own and every group is different, even the same people on different nights are different so the key is to just dive into every experience and enjoy them as much as you can next time someone is hogging all the cock dont fight her for it make a show of itgo after her as well, get involved with how hot it is when the guys see you doing that they will want to give you more attention allow yourself to have fun with it instead of being jelly ... getting flustered just thinking about itif you would like some detailed ideas, let me know
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hey :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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noeleena
7 years ago
Hi, Any one who may in the slightest be interested in myself will be told and I have told many people ,I,m very slow in fact my response time I,ll say men would be very tired of me and give up my body does not work the same as most women as I explain to men the 3 who have spent time with me have been lovely I don't have any expections or I wont.....I just work with my body and will just quietly potter along and enjoy exploring the guy I,m with no drama . If a guy wonts ,,,, and I don't know something I cant do or my body shuts down I,ll have explained those details long before I even meet a guy so they or him does know my limits and is okay with that then we can spend time together. If a or any guy expects a Hot Sexy Chic or more, then he will know not to ask me. ...noeleena...
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NewVicCpl
7 years ago
We played with a couple at a party once and the Male half of the other couple was all done within a minute... Left Mrs NVC with nothing to do but sit and watch me and the other Lady :-| Wasn't the best experience to say the least
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