Our Sex Vocabulary

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  but to answer your question, fuck no:-) xxQ

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  I think a lot of people fear their partner's reaction to their kinks and I do think you have to be subtle about bringing them up especially if your partner has given no indication they may have any interest.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  where ever I am, in all situations and should sex be the theme I speak about sex. To be around me you have to be prepared to hear all sorts of things, you can't handle it you will not invite me again or we will not fit in the same circle of friends.

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  Mr_MrsAraps

  10 years ago

  Quoting 'Cuckle_shells' it is really hard to tell someone you love and have been with for 20 years that you want to change the goal post so to speak. It took me two years to tell my partner that I wanted to sleep with another man. I wasn't sure how he would react. To say that I was surprised that it turned him on was an understatement. You are worried that they won't accept this change in you. That they will look at you differently. It was also very hard for my partner to tell me about his kinks. While I never judged him and have always been open minded it did take me a while to get my head around it. It took a bit of research and talking to understand where he was coming from. When talking to friends while I keep our lifestyle secret I openly talk about sex and use sexual terms. In today's age there is a sexual term for everything and it is all at the touch of a button. I have educated a few friends on some terms I have come across. I like talking about sex and find it really interesting. Shells. Spot on shells When your with a really long term partner the stakes are a hell of a lot higher as there is always the fear of rejection or being shamed. Its a pity its not the other way round but its not (easier to say it cause your in love and you know your partner so well and have had a connection all those years) ..... but usually its not. Cheers, W.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Quoting 'Cuckle_shells' it is really hard to tell someone you love and have been with for 20 years that you want to change the goal post so to speak. Exactly - same happened with my long-term relationship, it also took me over a year to bring up a meaningful discussion of an open relationship, which did change the goal posts as nearly 20 years prior we were monogamous and then over time changed to not being exclusive. Despite what people that know it think we have not separated because of that change, it was just a natural progression from opening up to the possibility that there is a better match for each of us - not just sexually but in other aspects of our lives and personalities... The question I have asked - and in my case asked myself too, was if our closeness with people is related to how far we can go in using intimate terms, and why sex is still such a taboo... I mentioned the movie, and there was an interview on YouTube with its director in which he said "In movies these days nudity is pretty standard, and even sex scenes do not raise an eyebrow, but add the word 'cock' to a dialogue and peopl suddenly take notice"

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