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Our dirty little secret

July 11 2015

A large percentage of people have a dirty little secret. Most of us on RHP are swingers or have many sexual partners but I was wondering how many people are open about this? How does it effects your life when you tell people the truth? I have recently started a new job and the guys talk about their weekend and how they almost got laid. I just sit there and smile at the thought of the orgy or the threesome that I had at a party with complete strangers only days before. I wonder if I did tell them, how it would effect my career and what judgements they would make about me, my wife and my family. I'm sure it is common for single guys to brag but I would love to hear from couples and the single girls. Who have you told? How did they react?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Settling in with popcorn and flat white to the ready

  • solrose

    solrose

    9 years ago

    We have a very small select couple of people that we have told and we enjoy sharing our stories of our frolics with and share in each others pleasure together. Then just the other weekend one of the girls from the group that we hadn't seen for a number of years approached us. She said she was amazed at what we do and she would love to experience her first threesome with us. Hmm what can I say that was a night to remember. But then we have the other side of the coin where none of our family and straight friends know. Sometimes I sort of test the waters with them and see how they react to certin movies or a comment or 2 about open marriages or being bi. The comments are always the same, so I know that these people will be kept in the dark about us. Then I have my husband who has a few very close mates that he tells and he then gets the legend status and don't see it a problem. They are just jelous that it's not them and they have to go behind their wives or partners backs to have their sexual needs met.

  • luvsilver

    luvsilver

    9 years ago

    The only people we speak to about this lifestyle are people from here.I wouldn't tell any of my mates ever.Mrs Luvsilver has one friend that she has considered telling but her husband would probably tell others and that is something we would rather not risk. Mr Luvsilver

  • Mr_MrsAraps

    Mr_MrsAraps

    9 years ago

    any room left ? :-) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'Araps' any room left ? :-) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Interestingly, I think I'm beginning to recognize "that smile" that us sinners do when we think of what(or whom) we did on the weekend....it's like a wicked secret handshake lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I am on here with my hubby's knowledge. I don't tell anyone about this, not friends or work colleagues. I do know of another member from my workplace being on here ( this was discovered by accident). I sometimes would like to tell my best friend, but working in education I can't risk it. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I now live in Sydney, I have NEVER opened up to my sexual activities to anyone.. EVER! I used to be a Nightclub Manager at one of the hottest spots in town (not Sydney), it gave me a lot of opportunities to explore my sexuality & fulfil fantasies I never even knew I had! Since moving to Australia I have discovered there are a lot of women out there (Australian, Ex-Pat & other nationalities) who live boring lives & are wanting some excitement. 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    The only people I have let know anything have been those outside of my friend and family circles. But still, I am very very light on the details. I do not like to "brag", not that I have anyone who I could "brag" to. In these cases I have only opened up in order to give others advice on issues or questions in their own life, that I can (now) help with. For family/friends, I've only told 1 or 2 people who trust me enough for them to open up to me about similar or related sex/dating matters. That is, people I trust to keep things mutually confidential, while still being fairly vague or "coy". So for 90% of the details, still a complete secret from everyone. As far as most know, I have still only ever been with the one person (a g/f) last year. But yes, the naughty thoughts when people ask perfectly innocent questions like: "what did you get up to on the weekend?" Well........ - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I have always found it very difficult to tell civilians ('civies') about play. Their minds just explode and you end up just telling them you are just joking. Some of them drop it others wait till you are along and ping you for a million questions.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    MrsM has one workmate who knows, other than that it's just one or two selected family members and friends who we trust :) So far we are yet to bump into anyone we know at a club :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Yes , never the twain shall meet. Mrs Why saw a parent of a pupil at a party. So awkward. We found a quiet play area and didn't stay long. I would love to tell my best mate as he would love it but i just don't want the gossip to get out.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    The secrecy is, in part, what makes this so delicious. It's such a rush. Maybe its because we both come from ultra conservative backgrounds. Our friends and family are made of the finest quality organic vanilla and this information would cause too many brains to explode. It would probably, literally kill some.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    ... I told 2 friends ...... one accepted but I feel did not take it very well ...... the other must have 'been there' before me, and can now talk about nothing else ... I liked him better before he knew ...lol Uly

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Almost neighbours! Surely we have wandered past each other at fountain gate and wondered ;) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Yep OP and MRand MRsM - I often wander around the shops looking at people and wondering. We have a "normal" couple, kids parents friends, that we are dying to ask. They just give off that vibe, but if we were wrong god knows what they would say/do.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Were a bit like sweetnaughtywife - we have had such a conservative life focused on being parents and bringing up our family that anyone and everyone who knows us would probably say....no not them two!!!!! Never in a million years LOL...but we get that rush, that thrill of being on here as a couple exploring our boundaries and having fun at it too....things that we would never even consider in the first 20 years of our marriage are now things that are making our communication and connection with each other much tighter....its both of us playing together or none at all...enjoying the ride, the journey and excitement ....and enjoying each other more, both mentally and physically :) ....and meeting some really interesting people along the way

  • BacioCouple

    BacioCouple

    9 years ago

    God none of our "normal" friends know we are on here... we are soooo Mr and Mrs average we're sure they'd die if they knew! Having said that, there are a number of our friends we'd love to see "out" one night..... But you never can tell! The last absolutely gorgeous couple we met would not, under any circumstances have indicated to us that they were swingers - had we not met them through here - guess it's the quiet ones you have to look out for!

  • rover35

    rover35

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'mrsandmrwhynot' Yep OP and MRand MRsM - I often wander around the shops looking at people and wondering. We have a "normal" couple, kids parents friends, that we are dying to ask. They just give off that vibe, but if we were wrong god knows what they would say/do. OMG and theres me thinking it was just me that did that...since I have been swinging I cant stop looking at people out at the shops and thinking if they swing.....

  • jedi_knight

    jedi_knight

    9 years ago

    Was walking through the QVB in Sydney a couple of weeks ago and recognised a lady from the angels and demons night at the couples club....was shopping with her pals....but if only they could have seen how she enjoyed herself in that throng of bodies lol....I just smiled and carried on with my own business !

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I look at people differently now too. If I'm on the way to a club or party, I'm wondering if people in car x that is heading in the same general direction will be there, doing who knows what... Also, as a single, I see a lovely lady on the street, but she's with someone. My usual response is "sigh". But at least now I can think : maybe, juuuuust maybe...... ;) More correctly, I see more people as sexual beings now, be they old/young/large/small/posh/casual etc. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Quoting 'unicorn99' Interestingly, I think I'm beginning to recognize "that smile" that us sinners do when we think of what(or whom) we did on the weekend....it's like a wicked secret handshake lol The smile I have when I walk each day, feel like a million bucks, on top of the world, fantasising about what's to come mmm

  • Want_2_play_xxx

    Want_2_play_xxx

    9 years ago

    and it is so much more exciting keeping it that way. However, a client of Mrs Play suspected that she might swing (must have given of that knowing little smile) so throughout her appointment talked all about her and her partners swinging experiences and their rules. So right at the end of the appointment Mrs Play let it slip that their rules sounded very similar to ours :) To this the girl was so happy and kept saying I new it I new it. Well that weekend we all meet up at the local nude beach and have turned into great play friends 😘 But like most people I guess we keep our two worlds seperate. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • cazgt

    cazgt

    9 years ago

    not long ago we started building our house and contacted an electrician friend to do work for us. at the same time we were cruising in here chatting to people and exchanged a few messages with a couple and got to the point of exchanging photos only to be blocked straight away. at the time we thought it unusual and assumed they didnt like the look of us. well it has just come out that it was the electrician and his wife we were chatting with oooppppps he never said a word all through the building