Out and proud Poly's

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  It would all depend on your circle of friends and their perspective on life, love and monogamy.You could be surprised by the responses, my parents didn't have an issue with my ex wife having another partner and neither did most of my friends... the one person who did have an issue was the person I least expected it from given his very open nature and thoughts about love, sex and relationships.Suffice to say we were lucky that our friends and family are very open. I have heard less pleasant stories from others where their less than socially acceptable job was considered better than their poly lifestyle.All I can suggest is think hard, talk to your partners and take care if you decide to open up about it to others.SG

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I've not been in a poly relationship but I know some people who are. They have kids and are active in the local community. When I first came across them it was a topic of interested gossip (not nasty), and others were talking about them too. It was a bit salacious but the talk was more fascinated... How does that work? Who met who first? Is everyone happy? Etc... Now that I know them fairly well it's not a big deal... There's an extra adult in the household that's all. It's referred to as an interesting family dynamic... No probs.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I have shared my views and loves with selected open minded friends... I think you get a vibe for those who can wrap their heads around it and those that cannot. I'm lucky, in my family, there was already a pre-relationship that first paved the way. but in my friendship circle, I share discreetly which sucks as I'd love to openly love them all/both.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Well, my dear friend, you brought her up here you cracker!!! Or are we talking polyester?? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I was betrayed by my sister when I told her everything after an amazing meet up she told my mother who told my other sister , my father, my aunti ect it felt like everyone was looking down on me and I know they were all gossiping about me . It was quite unpleasant however quietened down after a while but mum still won't babysit when hubby and myself go away and always questions me on what we are doing if we go away so I have acepted that things will never be the same again- Posted from rhpmobile

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  him_and_me

  11 years ago

  Most of our friends would be shocked I think (although Mr him_and_me things most of the guys would secretly think it was awesome!) so unfortunately I don't think it's something that will come up in conversation anytime soon. Partly also it's the point in time that we are - a lot of our friends are pregnant or have just babies so their minds are less likely to be on sex at all let alone sex outside their marriage. I would love to be able to talk to others about it though, it really doesn't feel like there is anything wrong with this choice but I would be concerned how our being 'outed' might affect friendships and what possible professional ramifications there would be. So it's good to be making some friend via this site and these forums who we can openly talk about this all with.

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