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Over the borderline

April 12 2012

Hello you motley crew. Being a newbie, I'm uncertain as to whether this topic has been previously addressed in the forums before, however after doing a bit of a search I don't believe it answered my question sufficiently. For women, how do you distinguish between being bi-curious and bi-sexual? In my personal opinion, I think it's different to men in that straight women often openly admire each other's appearance, e.g. 'That dress makes her legs look amazing', 'She's got great cheekbones', etc. I read an article the other day from Michelle Bridges that in the hypothetical case of a slightly overweight couple sitting in a park and having an athletic, good-looking couple jog by before them, the overweight man's eyes will be on the athletic woman in the couple (naturally), but then the overweight woman's eyes will also be on that of the woman, because she wants to look like that. That was my personal dilemma for my last five or six years - was this admiration something more? I absolutely adore the male species - the right scent cologne will make me wobble at the knees and my mouth grow wet (and not just my mouth), and the sight of a muscular back at the gym makes me want to make me sink my teeth into that shoulder....... ahem. However never had I looked at a woman and thought to myself: 'I want a piece of that.' So when I joined a month ago, I put myself out there as being 'bi-curious'. I was approached by one of the best looking couples I've ever seen, and the lady (bisexual) was a stunner. Mostly, it was an experiment for me - if I didn't get turned on by her, well then l I definitely knew I was straight. While the experience with them was the hottest I've ever had, I have to say it confused me even more. Now that I've said that I've enjoyed being with another woman (although in the company of her hubby for part of it), does that make me bisexual? It's confusing nowadays with many women playing with a second girl merely to satisfy a fantasy of their partners, or girls younger than me hooking up at parties for the 'wow factor'. For many, its become a 'I wouldn't mind going there after a few drinks', rather than a 'I would like/love that.' Your opinions on the matter? Again, apologies if this has been covered before x CC

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RHP User

13 years ago

Sexuality is a contimuum,not fixed.Most of us have been curious about the same gender and have some sort of experience. Katie P famously sang about it. I think it's all about the other person not about their gender. Women often have very intense friendships without necessarily having a physical relationship. We can all appreciate physical beauty...doesnt mean we wont to jump that persons bones,more to attraction than that for most. Some people choose a particular lifestyle which also reflects their choice in expressing their sexuality. There is so much more freedom in choice today but still many suffer for their choices,loose friends,even families because they choose a different path. Go have fun with both genders,dont limit yourself,just enjoy wonderful glorious hot jungle with whoever floats ya boat. xHugs Hps Derrida,Foucault if you havent read em might be usefull...or not!!

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RHP User

13 years ago

but her mood on this seemed to change. at one point she looked at me and said she was strait! but in her early 20s she hung out with the lesbian crew around town.. so really to split hairs is probably pointless. maybe your bi-open (yay a new word).look at it this way. i'm strait. but i'm not turned on by every woman i see.. actually maybe 5% of them (hmm, not sure about the maths). so if you were not turned on by the lass in that encounter, maybe she's not in your 5%? you may still find a lady that makes your knees wobble and your panties fall down? and bi you may be?

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RHP User

13 years ago

very interesting indeed you may need to experiment some more ....... not hinting anything try another woman on your own just the 2 of you i don't know just the thought of 2 women together mmmm yum .........

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RHP User

13 years ago

No question about it and no arguement will be entered into over the state or non state of my sexuality. I have made it thus far in life without even being remotely curious enough to stick my tongue down another woman's throat or up her nether regions. I can watch two sexy young women getting it on and not feel a remote twinge in the crutch area. Not my thing at all. BUT I can admire the shape of another womans arse, I can like the look of her cheekbones/thighs/ other body parts...except for her pink bits. To me all pink bits are ugly things. Nothing attractive about them at all. . To answer your question...Bi curious to me means that you are interested in exploring that side of your nature...curious about taking things just that little further. Bi means that you enjoy the company (sexually) of both men and women equally....depending on the mood and the company at the time. JMO

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joosedup

13 years ago

call your self what ever YOU want, I do...others can argue over semantics...I am sexual. I dont care how you want to file it, stamp it, label or wrap it. its my business. I like men. I have been with a woman and while at the time it was wonderful, at this time I want to be sexual with men...bi-curious - ha ha ha I was once told it was a word made up by homophobic men to validate how good it felt to have another guy go down on them.besides how many times can you be curious before you know it something you want?

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RHP User

13 years ago

I have talked a bit with women re this subject. One lady put it as hetro flexible I think its like a scale of one to ten Some go just to number four As in kiss on the lips Fondle each others breasts Run hands over each other Rub up against each other Some then go for the fingering then some women will eat out another woman I find that I have had women eat me out, enjoyed it but I do not like eating women out so not fair to play if your not going to reciprocate. I am not attracted to women on an emotional level but I do fine some women sexy. I guess its like anything else there has to be chemistry no matter who you are with. When its there and your in the zone, that’s up to you how far you want go. A little bit of bi flavour is like nutmeg in a vanilla milkshake

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RHP User

13 years ago

im as straight as they come...nothing Bi about me curious or other wise although Bi boys are my favorite mmmmm Hugs

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RHP User

13 years ago

I'm Straight!I used to have bi-curious on my profile and I guess I was! Tried it, decided I like guys more, but can totally understand why guys like chicks, sooo smooth and sooo soft... not at all like when I hug my friends!! Made a girl cum with my tongue, so I now give pointers to the guys, because I reckon I've earned that right hehe. Haha, but I got bombarded with couples and that was tiring, there are always politics involved (with most, that is! some are just plain fun to fool around with!) so I changed my profile to straight. I like what Joosedup wrote, and totally agree with the "sexual" sentiment. Bi guys and bi girls in my mind are just truly sexual creatures who love to experience anything sexy. That Makes strictly straight guys and gals sound rather boxed in!So I'm straight, but if the situation is horny enough... I'll go with the flow!!Think outside the square - and if it feels right do it! That applies to everything I do actually.

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Paradisepair

13 years ago

I'm with Hesione on this one. Right now I know I am bi because I am seriously perving on hot chicks & can't wait for our first FFM with a woman who will approach me with the same passion I'll bring to her. During my lifetime I have been repulsed by the idea (straight) & also mildly interested (curious).

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