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PDAs
August 03 2016
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RHP User
8 years ago
Someone I'd just met? A brief hug...not a bear hug...should be enough for meeting and saying goodbye. Not everyone is touchy-feely...myself included...so I wouldn't test that. If there's a second time, then I'd play it by ear...watch, listen and learn. Figure out what sort of person they are. Oh. Thanks for the new acronym, I wasn't aware it had one. I must live under a rock...☺
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RHP User
8 years ago
I quite like PDA's with anyone, friends, family, FWB so long as its the right time and place. I'm a hugger and tend to hug people when I meet them in a social setting but do look for signs that they are uncomfortable or may be uncomfortable with this.
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
of Euro origin, I tend to automatically go for the kisses on the cheeks and a hug. However, I have to usually think to reign myself in because not all people are naturally comfortable with such a forward display, and it can be bit of an effort to think first before instinct comes to the fore. I will usually try to read someone quickly beforehand to see what I think they may be comfortable with, but it doesn't always happen in time. The 'PDA' is just very strong in me. Tall
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RHP User
8 years ago
Was meeting a man who had travelled from interstate to meet me. He refused to even hold my hand when walking across a road,indeed he disliked to be touched at all. It was difficult to not take it personally and I wish he had of talked to me about it. Eventually he told me he was OCD. I am not a big hugger unless I know someone well,as for kisses on the cheek.no.Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
And very affectionate, luckily most of my friends are the same. The guys Ive met have all been quite huggy and hand holders apart from one. With guys I am seeing I love holding and touching them, in public though a quick hug or touch on the arm is enough. If someone wants to hold my hand in public thats fine. I think a show of affection is nice between friends or lovers....I honestly couldnt be in a relationship with someone who wasnt affectionate.
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Seachange
8 years ago
wow. that was not fun meet. yes it would have been nice to be told of his OCD to avoid awkwardness... during a chat with new guys, i normally would ask them how they feel about PDAs. but only during a meet can you really test whether they are consistent with what they say. When we met at the melb meet and greet, i may have given you a bear hug or not or a kiss on the cheek. (the face cheek - ). sorry for the pda. that is just me. lol
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LeMerovingien
8 years ago
@Tall I get that too everytime I come back from a trip in France!! Most of the time I have no idea whether a kiss on the cheek or a hug is best so I stand there awkwardly debating it and usually end up doing nothing.... Better just chuck on the french accent and go for this kiss on the cheek .
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Never sure about the kiss on the cheek thing. Awkward. So i just go for a friendly dick suck. Seems to help make friends.......
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Seachange
8 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Never sure about the kiss on the cheek thing. Awkward. So i just go for a friendly dick suck. Seems to help make friends....... You're terrible Muriel....
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Seachange
8 years ago
I do have a lot of European friends and it is customary to do the kisses on both cheeks. When I lived in Montreal, I kissed only one side and literally, I would be grabbed by the shoulders to complete the kiss on the other cheek. Lol. In the end, I got broken into the custom and I do kiss on both sides now. Le Mer, with me, if we connect, you do not need to ask for a kiss goodbye on the cheeks or a hug. I will warmly give it to you. Just me.
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Seachange
8 years ago
I do have a lot of European friends and it is customary to do the kisses on both cheeks. When I lived in Montreal, I kissed only one side and literally, I would be grabbed by the shoulders to complete the kiss on the other cheek. Lol. In the end, I got broken into the custom and I do kiss on both sides now. Le Mer, with me, if we connect, you do not need to ask for a kiss goodbye on the cheeks or a hug. I will warmly give it to you. Just me.
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LeMerovingien
8 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Never sure about the kiss on the cheek thing. Awkward. So i just go for a friendly dick suck. Seems to help make friends....... Well, looks like Annie wins this round by a landslide.
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Seachange
8 years ago
double posting? obviously it is not the kisses that comes in two... , must be the french in you LeMer
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Seachange
8 years ago
double posting? obviously it is not the kisses that comes in two... , must be the french in you LeMer... Tabarnac!
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Seems you are having a multiple with LeMe. Lucky bitch......
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LeMerovingien
8 years ago
There goes the double post again! I had to google that word, silly Canadians inventing their own words . Here's my excuse courtesy of Urban Dictionary (reliable source right?): The word comes from French 'tabernacle' pronounced with a French Canadian accent. It is unheard of in France.
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Seachange
8 years ago
Quoting 'LeMerovingien' There goes the double post again! I had to google that word, silly Canadians inventing their own words . Here's my excuse courtesy of Urban Dictionary (reliable source right?): The word comes from French 'tabernacle' pronounced with a French Canadian accent. It is unheard of in France. Yep. in Canada, the swear words are religious based - any references to religion is blasphemous and the highest form of swearing, more gravitas or profane than merde or other sexual profanities (e.g. putain de merde). When I was in France, i got away with swearing in Quebecois without my colleagues noticing it. Lol.
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LeMerovingien
8 years ago
It doesn't quite have that "wiping your ass with silk" feel of a nice string of french curses .
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PurePeony
8 years ago
At my workplace, a few colleagues and I will greet each other with hugs and kisses. :-D Others will just greet you warmly and keep a distance. I'm really bad at crossing roads and always love it when I'm on a date with a man I'm attracted to and he holds my hand to lead me in crossing to the other side safely. Oh my gosh... Makes me melt! Why did PP cross the road? To have the opportunity to hold hands with her date! :-P Sometimes, getting acquainted with the hands first is a precursor of... more skin-on-skin contact, coming soon! :-D Lily, when I'm wearing heels, I also appreciate having an arm or hand to hold on to. Too many potholes in the roads here. :-P I wish men were more gallant sometimes.
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RHP User
8 years ago
No, I'm not touchy feely in a public display kind of way, very touch feely behind the scenes though my fb's are quite often 30 years younger than me, so public display isn't required or wanted. I wouldn't even feel the need for that with a bf. It can look a bit clingy to me, when I see other women latched onto their boyfriends, quite often the bf looks disinterested
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RHP User
8 years ago
Oui Esstee...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Too funny ,maybe a hug?..Anglo Celts are reserved creatures..sigh Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
Touch me (more or less innocently) at any time, any where. Seriously, it gives me that warm feeling inside that tells me I'm wanted and appreciated by someone. The only time I would be more cautious about it is in public with a couple (ie female side), or someone who wishes for more discretion (again in public) as to our connection or involvement. So as usual it always comes down to the individual circumstances which involves the usual free and open communication.
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tylannister
8 years ago
I remember seeing you in those heels in Perth - I wonder if part of the reason for wearing them isn't to have an excuse to grab hold of a nice, muscly arm at the right time ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
8 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' At my workplace, a few colleagues and I will greet each other with hugs and kisses. :-D Others will just greet you warmly and keep a distance. This is not the norm in my corporate setting, certainly not between colleagues nor line management. Lol. Sounds relaxed and lovely though but will never happen in many of the corporate sites I work in. I think we have more chance that pigs will fly before the corporate cold shoulder thaws.
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Seachange
8 years ago
Haha 😂. You see thru me very well. Yes. One of my devious ploys in my plot towards world 🌍 dominance. 😈 i didn't see you offering your muscley arms in support? 💪
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tylannister
8 years ago
My dear, if you'll recall, you were so surrounded by men vying for your attention that night that I couldn't even push my way through the crowd to -offer- my arm.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Go in for the quick dry root of the leg...... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Welcome back 😘
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm a big hugger also. Ive found the swinging community are mostly big PDA givers. Meet you in a group setting - get a hug and a kiss on the cheek. Say goodbye and it's a hug and a kiss on the lips. Countrytouch - The first time I was out in public with a FWB was only recently. Even though hubby knows what I'm doing - our circle doesn't, nor do any of his clients. At first I was concerned about any PDA in case someone saw me that I knew. But my friend is very tactile and with our chemistry I couldn't help myself holding hands, cuddling and kissing in public. So lust and comfort won over any hesitation I had 😉
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lovman8
8 years ago
It took a while but then I am slow, both to catch on and to give public displays of affections. Which is silly because incidental and flirty touching gives such a buzz. The anglo celtic background has a lot to answer for. And as I age to become more comfortable and wiser???????? I do accept and enjoy hugs and cheek kisses with out being to awkward.
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Seachange
8 years ago
Lol. They must have been dazzled by my blingy heels 👠 And the fact I won the Rhp bikini in the scramble (twas the mark of the century, flying overhead to catch the prize) was a source of amusement to those gorgeous Perth men.
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Seachange
8 years ago
C'est vrai. 😁 Hostee challis tabarnac!
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Seachange
8 years ago
Yes. Welcome back and nice to see you back en forme. 😁 we've been missing your cutting straight up say-it-as-it-is posts.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Try escaping at least a kiss on the cheeks! If you're off RHP or I've met you in the scene, I'll forgo your cheeks and go straight for your lips! I might even cop a feel while I'm at it ;) Mary xx
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid' I do have a lot of European friends and it is customary to do the kisses on both cheeks. When I lived in Montreal, I kissed only one side and literally, I would be grabbed by the shoulders to complete the kiss on the other cheek. Lol. In the end, I got broken into the custom and I do kiss on both sides now.A number of years ago one of my (female) cousins came around for a visit, with one of her friends, whilst both of their daughters were tripping here for their 'gap year'. Already being used to the "double kiss" I was also somewhat surprized that even that was not enough - apparently the 'proper' Dutch greeting is actually 3 kisses on the cheeks, which I received from all 4 at various times in greetings. Similarly, I was very quickly held on to for the full 3 kisses - 2 was simply not the done thing. Tall
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' No, I'm not touchy feely in a public display kind of way, very touch feely behind the scenes though my fb's are quite often 30 years younger than me, so public display isn't required or wanted. I wouldn't even feel the need for that with a bf. It can look a bit clingy to me, when I see other women latched onto their boyfriends, quite often the bf looks disinterested To me I believe that could, at least in some instances, have something to do with the cultural background of the person concerned. I have noticed from long ago, as Q has mentioned, that 'typical' Aussies of Anglo / Celtic background, generally are not inclined to be 'hands on'. Also some other cultures are also not into public displays, such as Arabic backgrounds, for instance. To you it may appear a little 'clingy', but personally I welcome holding hands, arm around the waist, etc, as that shows there is a level of interest / connection between the people concerned, and again I feel that also translates into a stronger personal relationship on more levels. Tall
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RHP User
8 years ago
I touch my boyfriend all the time because he turns me on and I can't help myself. I also like it as an ownership type of thing, for some reason making out that I am the more dominant one amuses me some times. Oh the sexy games we play with each other. Lol. I am happy not to have PDA with other people but check kissing is okay with friends, although I never instigate it. Even if I am European. I kiss and hug my nieces and nephews all the time, but they are still young. That will probably reduce the older they get.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree. PDA or just hand holding, stroking, kissing on the check, etc etc is all about the intimacy and foreplay. It's like being slightly aroused all day. Some people either don't like that feeling or can turn it on and off like a tap. My ex boyfriend had an abusive childhood in a number of ways and he wasn't shown affection so he never really displayed it as an adult. To him that sort of touching meant sex and that's all.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Twice my phone has changed cheek to check above. Sorry.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Don't get me wrong, I go straight for their lips and/or pants, in no particular order, and I've done this in public many times. Happened once on a first meet. We kissed and hugged and squeezed butts lol on the street on a busy cafe strip, the chemistry was incredible, but that's different. I'm not talking about that. It's the ongoing commitment to have to hold hands or whatever. Next time you're out, watch couples closely, I do, I'm a couple watcher 😝😛 but see if BOTH share the love. What I see is more often the insecure chick grabbing him when she sees other women in close quarters, saw this only yesterday. I'm in a queue, dressed in the skins I wear, tight, sexy, anyway, this guy was hot, tatts and tight body. I was looking/lusting as I do and ended up right behind them in the queue. This chick started hugging him, she put her face right up close to his and stared at him watching to see if his gaze moved. He was completely disinterested, stood there with his arms folded. I actually felt sorry for him. That's just an example. I did cringe a little with the hand around the waist bit in your comment. How often is that comfortable for both people? Particularly walking. Look if I was in lust I wouldn't hesitate to feel my guy up in public, love that, but not into ho hum, boring relationship type expected responses. If you're lusting after and have pulsing private parts, fine, otherwise, can be a sign of insecurity within the relationship from one partner or the other, usually women. They get jealous and protective over their men. Their way of marking their territory 😉 you can't own them and I see public display in that form as a signal to others saying he or she is mine, hands off. Um that won't stop them, and it certainly doesn't stop me 😊😁
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RHP User
8 years ago
Absolutely never in a workplace, just so inappropriate and the potential to make people feel very uncomfortable. Same with social events, don't inflict hugs on everyone ladies, we don't all want them 😁 I actually hate anyone touching me unless I want to be touched sexually. Same as being called hun/love by someone who doesn't know me, why? Yes, makes me pull away and move away as quickly as I can. Not for me at all. Anyway, slightly wandering, will leave you to discuss. Just giving the other perspective on the topic. Have a great day 😃
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Seachange
8 years ago
Quoting 'Tall_n_Hard' Quoting 'lilyorchid' I do have a lot of European friends and it is customary to do the kisses on both cheeks. When I lived in Montreal, I kissed only one side and literally, I would be grabbed by the shoulders to complete the kiss on the other cheek. Lol. In the end, I got broken into the custom and I do kiss on both sides now.A number of years ago one of my (female) cousins came around for a visit, with one of her friends, whilst both of their daughters were tripping here for their 'gap year'. Already being used to the "double kiss" I was also somewhat surprized that even that was not enough - apparently the 'proper' Dutch greeting is actually 3 kisses on the cheeks, which I received from all 4 at various times in greetings. Similarly, I was very quickly held on to for the full 3 kisses - 2 was simply not the done thing. Tall 3 kisses! that is one up on the French and Spanish, and 3 more than the Anglo Celtics and Aussies. My father's side is south american so lots of touching and kissing there when we visit the paternal relations. I love it. So warm and welcoming. it also makes you feel so open and relaxed and feeling like you belong. Coming from two tactile and warm cultures, it is just wonderful as touch is very powerful and healing. My ex-fiance from a few years back has never held a woman's hand in public, as he grew up in a dysfunctional family in country Victoria. Touching was never something they do, no real kisses or hugs. He was from a very aussie family so when he was exposed to my loud, exuberant family gatherings, he was surprised and overwhelmed at first but then he realized that a simple touch or hug says a lot and a form of bonding, subconscious filial bonding. He was shocked when i held his hand in my hand when we walked down the street. He stopped for a second or two and looked at out entwined hands. I did not know what was happening but he looked at me and thanked me. He did not know how powerful touching can be outside the boundaries of sexual act. It was the intimacy of touch that made him realize how much he missed out on. since then, he always held my hands in public and always pulled me in to kiss me on the forehead or my cheeks. It was very lovely.
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Seachange
8 years ago
Quoting 'Betty7216' Off topic, but smoking hot pics thanks gorgeous!
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RHP User
8 years ago
I was thinking something cheesey like is that a run in your stocking kinda thing.... But clearly it's an open invitation :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
when my knickers are tangled up around my ankles.
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Sawadee
8 years ago
I'm a naturally affectionate type of person and give the mandatory hug and cheek kiss to all my family and friends who all return that same . I meet a cutie at of all places Bunnings where she works. We got chatting and a attraction followed . Now , whenever I go there she never fails to greet me with her kiss on the cheek and a quick hug. I never feel embarrassed about her openly showing her affections , it just feels normal. I'll never understand people who can't show affection , specially towards family and friends.. to me , it's a natural reaction..
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious' I agree. PDA or just hand holding, stroking, kissing on the check, etc etc is all about the intimacy and foreplay. It's like being slightly aroused all day. Exactly, Candy - it is a form of affection that very simply conveys the feelings that you have for the other person. Some people either don't like that feeling or can turn it on and off like a tap. My ex boyfriend had an abusive childhood in a number of ways and he wasn't shown affection so he never really displayed it as an adult. To him that sort of touching meant sex and that's all. It is a pity that that was the way that he saw such actions, although probably understandable in his case. I have been brought up with the tactility of such actions to convey particular feelings / expressions for the other, to show the extent of your liking for the other, whether that be simply be a show of friendship, or deeper emotion, depending on the circumstances. Again, it also has somewhat to do with your own cultural background.Tall
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
Some interesting points you made mention in your post. I do get where you're coming from re the example in your first paragraph, and what you say is true. You will easily spot if it is either a mutual attraction or not, and if it is not, you will more than likely not observe the mutual interactions. But what you have also described there was the defence by the 'girlfriend' by 'protecting' her partner, and I daresay you would probably act in a similar fashion in a similar circumstance. (Ok, you'd probably have his dick in your mouth just to make sure the message was clear ) OK, about the arm around the waist comment. How often is that comfortable ? It will of course depend on a few factors, including the strength of the relationship. Personally, I find this to mean more than holding hands. Holding hands, to me, signifies the early stage of "getting to know you", whereas arm around the waist indicates you are both more comfortable with one another, not a sign of insecurity in that you are physically 'barring' other people from touching your beau. To me it is the next step, so to speak. Again, I think it has got a lot to do with your cultural background as to how you perceive this. As a demonstration, I will mention an example I had many moons ago whilst visiting relo's back in Holland. It happened on a few occasions, but one in particular was when we visited one of my uncles /aunts. Whilst we were there, all the kids got together and went out for a walk around the neighbourhood. The was myself and my two sisters, the relo's kids, and they had a bunch of other friends over as well - so we were out with around a dozen of us all up. We were walking along the quiet street all abreast, with each one of us arm around the waist of the others next to us, regardless of gender. It was all just very friendly and no one thought anything out of the ordinary about it. The only hassle I have personally with arm around the waist is that it is only comfortable when you have someone who is of a similar height, otherwise it is murder on the back. Tall
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
Absolutely agree - the touch of another does bring a special bond with it, and it appears (generally speaking) that this is not generally appreciated by those whose cultures are not attuned to this. I can imagine that with your ex-fiancé you must have had quite a 'culture shock'. It does not have to specifically mean that it will lead to any overt sexual act, and to my own interpretations, it is genuinely a form of a warm greeting to show that you appreciate the other person. Even the acts of holding hands, or arm around the waist, does not necessarily conjure up thoughts of having sex around the next hidden corner. It is to my mind, simply a show of general affection that you appreciate the company of the person you happen to be with. If you later have more 'friendlier' thoughts about said person, that will usually be shown by other actions, anyway. Tall
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
Quoting 'BooHooBoo' I find Im so much more friendlier when my knickers are tangled up around my ankles. Nothing like an unambiguous show of genuine affection for another person... Tall
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway'Never sure about the kiss on the cheek thing. Awkward. So i just go for a friendly dick suck. Seems to help make friends....... Quoting 'Betty7216' Touch me, kiss me, bite me... Probably need to keep a check on myself - the whole discretion thing and all 😳 I tend to kiss on the cheek on a first meet (with pie ppl), double kiss my European friends (like you Lily, learnt very quickly, while living in a former Portuguese colony!). Soft, I hear you! Sometimes it's just there.... 😍 Koko, me either... Except I am 😏 LaMer - use a French accent and you can do anything 😉 Stirry, gotta love a dry leg root in public - nothing says 'I'm into you quite like it!' 😘 Annie, can't help feeling like those of us without dicks are being left on the sidelines, just sayin! 😇 I dont think I said I was doing the dick sucking. I have one that needs sucking so no one is on the sidelines here........
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RHP User
8 years ago
People analyzing other peoples relationships .....does countless daily forum posts give you a free counselling course? If people show affection in public it might be because they actually care about each other?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I can't decide which of you makes me laugh the most. I'd kiss you both on the cheek. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
The one with "Annie" written on it?
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RHP User
8 years ago
That would be a tremendous public display, and if you put it out there...... Maybe 😍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
8 years ago
Don't encourage Annie's cheekiness.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Shall I bend over ?? No?? The cheeks on my face?? Oh right....my bad 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Face cheeks are much nicer to kiss in public.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange
8 years ago
Quoting 'Kokohoney' People analyzing other peoples relationships .....does countless daily forum posts give you a free counselling course? If people show affection in public it might be because they actually care about each other? Exactly!!! i concur.... As I said earlier, i am quite respectful of other people's space and there is a right place and time. If I am with someone I care and I know well, I will show it with some pda, not over the top and not sexual, just some gestures of warmth and affection. There is nothing wrong with that. If I find that my initial approach is met with hesitation, well, I will back off and not force the matter. I do understand that some cultures and some people, touching and affection can be offensive. I will respect that but I think that is a lost opportunity to bond. A pity.
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RHP User
8 years ago
You dare say I would act in the same fashion? Haha That's a joke right? No I would never, I consider it completely tragic. I don't own the jealous gene and my point was, look don't even worry, you missed my point so spectacularly 😏
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RHP User
8 years ago
You sound a bit like my ex, seeing things in a negative and suspicious way . Touching each other is a natural normal thing... Even animals do it. They groom each other and sleep wrapped around each other. It's part of being human and and feeling connected to the world around you. It's a huge reason why we crave sex or search for partners because we need that touch. Look at the cuddle cafe's that have sprung up in Japan for instance. Of course some use it as a sign of possession but most of us do it because we are proud of who we are with and its another way to show love - sexual and non sexual.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I would slap your cheeks for that comment. I think two hands at once for you! ;-)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm curious..... Given your very open nature here on the fora..... Do you think that maybe, you could've been partially if not totally the cause to said lady's reaction??? Because like your perception about Tall's response, her perception may have been one of that you were the shark hunting her tuna..... Whether or not it was your intention, is irrelevant.....but often a persons insecurity is usually triggered by someone's actions, or an environment of a similar nature..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
don't be like that . I believe that I fully understood your point, and interpreted it as Stirry made mention. But as a few have put across in one way or another, due to any number of factors, including cultural 'norms', we have differing points of view in what certain actions mean. You have said you're not really the "touchy, feely" type, whereas there are others here who are so inclined, myself included, so that in turn will colour what we perceive in those various acts of PDA. Still friends ? Tall
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RHP User
8 years ago
Or an environment that created the insecurity in the first place.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Bahahaha bullshit that's the reason.....it's two hands for beginners :p
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langton11
8 years ago
and we'll (wife and I) be out with her AND her husband and without fail, every time we meet and part she'll give me a long kiss right on the lips and a, imo, extended hug AND, a couple of times now, has placed her hand on the inside of my leg (just above the knee) and moved her hand to and fro. Keep in mind, this is in front of our respective others and in public e.g. cafe/restaurant etc. I do feel it's rather bold under the circumstances, but to be honest it makes me feel very loved
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cat_n_the_hatter
8 years ago
In my mind showing affection is not in any way sex related, I kiss or hug only those I like. If I do that to you, you must be someone special. It just comes naturally. It's never planned. It is a greet for a dear friend, just like a smile is to someone you don't know so well. But I understand that many people miss that in their lives, as some cultural backgrounds discourage PDA so even family connections often luck in simple showing of affection. There is nothing more human that the touch.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm somewhere in the middle. With a FWB / partner I don't mind being a bit touchy feely in public, nothing too over the top though (unless I'm drunk then all bets are off ). With friends a hug is ok, but with people I don't know well I'm not really into hugging, and definitely not kissing, and I do think that the really overtly affectionate in the population could sometimes stand to restrain themselves a bit with that sort of stuff until they suss out whether the other person likes it or not. It can actually come across as quite dominant behaviour and be a bit offputting when people (actually I'll say women because this is really what I'm referring to) you don't know are all over you without knowing if you mind or not.
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PatchworkGirl
8 years ago
I like touching. I like closeness. With people I know, and cherish, either as friends or more, I will hug, I'll kiss on the cheeks, I'll touch their arm as we are sitting together. With people I'm more intimately involved with, it depends on the company and situation, but I love feeling arms around me, I love fingers laced together, and I love kissing. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm happy for a hug and kiss on cheek to say hi, definitely not a lip kiss unless it's a FWB. I have a girlfriend and her husband is a lip kisser hello & good bye..... Yuk Some holding hands or a hand resting on a leg when sitting down with a FWB is nice. My very best girlfriend is very huggy, she's probably the only person that I never bad an eye at any touching.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Stirry' I'm curious..... Given your very open nature here on the fora..... Do you think that maybe, you could've been partially if not totally the cause to said lady's reaction??? Because like your perception about Tall's response, her perception may have been one of that you were the shark hunting her tuna..... Whether or not it was your intention, is irrelevant.....but often a persons insecurity is usually triggered by someone's actions, or an environment of a similar nature..... - Posted from rhpmobile Maybe, but not because of anything I did as such, I was only standing in a queue, but either way, that is within her control how she reacts or how defensive she feels. The point I was making was, what is the point in standing guard. What about when you're not there? If I felt I had to distract a partner so he didn't look at other women, I'd have to ask myself why I was feeling like that, and what is the harm in him looking, or even doing more? I know I'm not the norm there, but I came to realise in recent years what a wasted emotion jealousy is, not limited to jealousy, but the whole sense of 'ownership', the 'hands off, he's mine' type of mindset. Why does he have to belong to that person, and in reality he doesn't, and he knows that, and so does she, but there lies the problem for them. Truth is they're going to look, admire or not whatever, be turned on/or not, but responsive to other people in their life. For me personally, I wouldn't have any control over that, but the main point of my comment was that I wouldn't want to, because I wouldn't be jealous, and would be happy to share, which removes that problem. I was very clear about that, and have been very clear about the whole jealousy and sharing thing, you would be well aware of my feelings about that, but not a surprising comment from you. Back to stir the pot?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm not engaging with you, or you mate. I've said my peace. I'm not a negative person in the least, I just don't have my head in the sand, there's a difference sweetie
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't care what you think of my comment, why do you always have to make it personal, always, you can't just comment on the comment, it has to be turned on the person. You do it all the time, attack the person. And you call me negative? Keep your comment about the comment. You said I remind you of someone who is negative, you see that's personal and completely unnecessary and in my opinion, reeks of insecurity. Did I have a personal go at you? Did I attack you in any way before you made that comment? No I didn't, so why would you then comment on my personality? Jealous sweetie, why don't you show your face, let's level the playing field here, then we'll talk more
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RHP User
8 years ago
interesting how much knowledge one has when not actually swinging or engaging with other people? Even more interesting why the need to hide. One's age could even be in question, how do we know who it is we're talking to? I have noticed quite a few derogatory comments about older women?
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PurePeony
8 years ago
Quoting 'Tall_n_Hard' don't be like that . I believe that I fully understood your point, and interpreted it as Stirry made mention. But as a few have put across in one way or another, due to any number of factors, including cultural 'norms', we have differing points of view in what certain actions mean. You have said you're not really the "touchy, feely" type, whereas there are others here who are so inclined, myself included, so that in turn will colour what we perceive in those various acts of PDA. Still friends ? Tall What a skilled mediator! So charming! Come on, ITM2! Shake hands and be friends once more! Hehehe! (Don't be cheeky and shake the wrong appendage! LOL!!!)
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RHP User
8 years ago
thanks but I don't have a problem with Tall as a person, I was commenting on that part of his comment. Of course we're still friends, I was surprised at the suggestion that I would do the same thing, when I said the exact opposite, it made no sense, so I commented on that, not the person, or I didn't intend to. Sorry Tall, I haven't been back into this thread to even read the comments until tonight. No problem at all with you and me. I know your comments come from a good place, all good
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RHP User
8 years ago
as for the others, I'm not even going to engage. Same old same old. Forget my questions pffft discuss it amongst yourselves. Have a great day
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RHP User
8 years ago
Is it Personal Delusional Angst? Seems to have changed a bit.....
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
Pure Peony, thank you, you're making me blush with your compliment (shows blushing emo)...A big hug'n'kiss to you... I Touch - I would offer you the same but I know that's not your style (yet ), so we'll have to work out something else in due course. Lurves ya both, Tall
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RHP User
8 years ago
just ugh
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RHP User
8 years ago
What interesting reading this has been! PDA with me depends on where I am and who I'm with. Being full blooded Sicilian and brought up traditioanally, I shake hands and kiss on both cheeks when at any gathering or function which is a family one or when visiting or being visited by family members (on my side of the family). This is often difficult as I have a relative who made my life hell for 18 months when I was a teenager and the thought of touching him at all let alone the kiss on both cheeks makes me feel physically sick. Most of the time I've managed to avoid it without being accused of being disrespectful by avoiding him while maneauvering through guests and then later passing him while he's seated on my way somewhere else and greeting him with "oh, hi, I haven't caught up with you yet but I just need to head over there and I'll come back and catch up with you later". I've greeted him and spoken to him and no one can say I ignored him. With my friends, it depends how close I feel to them. If I feel very close to them, I'll greet them with a hug. Especially if it's someone I don't see often. With my partner, I like the hand holding, the arm around the waist or shoulders while walking or sitting next to each other and the odd kiss here and there. To me, sex and love making can start outside of the bedroom with forms of affection that are acceptable among public.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Such anger. Your responses seem very negative to me. Sorry if that offends you. CD
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't hide behind generalisation while offending a whole gender btw I like to address particular comments. No dramas. I haven't given your comments a second thought. :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Spent with a few RHP friends. Lunch. live jazz music and lots of hugging and kissing all round. Perfect day
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Seachange
8 years ago
Sounds great. Knowing you, you and your Perth crew would be enjoying each others company in friendship and warmth and affection. That is what life is all about. Great company and memories. Bless you guys. ☺
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sweetgem
8 years ago
I love sweet and light PDAs such as: - Hold hands - Brief passionate kissing - Being kissed on my forehead - Hugging Have done all of the above with a partner of some sort. I am an affectionate person and doing those things is part of intimacy to me. As for people I have just met, it depends on the chemistry. If both parties feel comfortable with each other and things flow naturally, then I won't have a problem with showing some PDA on the first date. Why stop something sweet from happening naturally if both people are comfortable with each other and the mutual chemistry is there? In my old conservative self, I used to hold back my affection towards a partner in the public, and missed out on something that would make me happier. But now I'm a different person and won't miss out on opportunities that would make me happier. After all, life is too random and who knows when will I find that happiness again once it slips through my fingers! - Posted from rhpmobile
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precious142
8 years ago
Quoting 'Kokohoney' Spent with a few RHP friends. Lunch. live jazz music and lots of hugging and kissing all round. Perfect day When Mr A showed us his orange boxers.............was that a PDA????
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
Quoting 'precious142' Quoting 'Kokohoney' Spent with a few RHP friends. Lunch. live jazz music and lots of hugging and kissing all round. Perfect day When Mr A showed us his orange boxers.............was that a PDA???? Would entirely depend on how 'affectionate' he was - wouldn't it ? Seems logical Tall
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precious142
8 years ago
or how affectionate the gals were????
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ready4allfun
8 years ago
Might be a bit slow here but what does PDA stand for ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Same cheers for that
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
Quoting 'ready4allfun' Might be a bit slow here but what does PDA stand for ? - Posted from rhpmobile Public Display of Affection.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Welcome back buddy.I think I've missed your point of view. I guess it's true...we don't miss things until they're gone .
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RHP User
8 years ago
Pure Peony..I hope you are ok hugs Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' Welcome back buddy.I think I've missed your point of view. I guess it's true...we don't miss things until they're gone . thanks, I missed you too Love your new pic btw Getting back on topic, and getting back to life as we know it with me flirting madly, I'd show you pda How I'd show that affection is the variable
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Tall74nHard9
8 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta1' Pure Peony..I hope you are ok hugs Q PP has been very quiet of late - similarly hope she is in good form.
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