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Parties for singles
February 01 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are they sex parties? If they are, I think lots of women do not want to attend as they do not know what calibre of men will be there.
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precious142
10 years ago
Spot on!!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
And what is the diffrence between a singles party and a couples party . You can met dickheads at either - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
To see what the Perth women say about this.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would not attend unless it was specifically just a meet and greet in a public venue. I have a friend I venture out with to meet new people as I have had the bad experience before. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Chelle63
10 years ago
Hi Meeka100 It is a chance to meet and mingle. There is no pressure for anyone to do anything they are not comfortable with. We are just trying to plan parties where we are comfortable ourselves as single ladies, neither of us enjoy playing with couples and it is never fun being the only singles at a party full of couples
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RHP User
10 years ago
That they will be outnumbered 50/1
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6exxy
10 years ago
Good question Meeka I think if we could get some of these guys to attend the ladies will come. I would invite all the guys on the WA guys thread. It could be a starting point😜
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RHP User
10 years ago
... in terms of "calibre" @Meeka100. As for your original question @Chelle63, it's kinda like when you go to a swingers party, a lot say "no single men allowed". Why? More single men as single women generally don't want to attend such events without a partner. Even though there are sites like RHP which may have a lot of women as members, I still think it's pretty rare you'll have single women show up to a sex party going, "Ok, I want to f* all night and want a non-stop gang bang."
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RHP User
10 years ago
part of a couple. The other half was a single male friend and by going together made me more comfortable knowing that I had someone to look out for me. Have you been to any RHP Meet and Greets where you can get to know some singles females? When they know the person hosting and the sort of guys you will be screening for they may be more inclined to come along. I have to agree with Meeka .... not knowing the caliber of men attending would stop me from attending on my own. Good luck LG
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Chelle63
10 years ago
Some of you people seem to assume I am some sort of an idiot. I can assure you I am not. As a first time poster in the forum I expected better. My mistake. I have been carefully screening guys to ensure that we get a good mix of ages and attitudes because as a single woman I have come across far too many dickheads at the parties I have attended. There have been some guys that I have run into at past parties that were complete jerks that I have already weeded out and they will not be attending the party. Our party will be like any of the other parties in that there will be rules and anyone breaking them will be asked to leave. No means no and no one is under any obligation to do anything they don't want to do. We are trying to plan a fun evening for adults to mingle and meet like minded people and rather than the majority being couples the majority will be singles.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Chelle63' Some of you people seem to assume I am some sort of an idiot. I can assure you I am not. As a first time poster in the forum I expected better. My mistake. The responses you received weren't rude or derogatory and no one assumed you are an idiot. It is an open forum and people answered your question freely and without bias. Your comments about the dickheads you have encountered at parties is the same reason other single women choose not to attend parties. The screening process for your parties wasn't explained in the OP. People can only respond to the limited information provided. Just saying!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'I would be happy to come over today and have some fun with one or two ladies am in Ellenbrook Are they sex parties? If they are, I think lots of women do not want to attend as they do not know what calibre of men will be there.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think the problem is though, even though you just want a meet and greet with no pressure, a lot of women assume there will be a lot of men thinking they are guaranteed a root and there are plenty of guys who do assume that. I have organised a couple of meet and greets and there is a lot of perception from both men and women that it is just going to be an orgy.
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tittee
10 years ago
Quoting 'Leo_girl' I have to agree with Meeka .... not knowing the caliber of men attending would stop me from attending on my own. Good luck LG obviously you don't look at the guest list, this gives you the names of the people who have expressed interest, you can read there profile to get an idea of what they are like, see if there are guys/couples you have meet or talked tooI have been to several parties and had a few, I always check the guest list and ask the host if im not sure of some that may attend, I have also met a host or two before hand to see what they are like, I don't play at every party I go to either, and if the guys expect that they have wasted their time and money, because unless it is advertised as a gang bang, there should be no expectation of any play
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RHP User
10 years ago
Where are you advertising the parties and how have you tried women to attend? I have organized a few group nights to swingers clubs and parties and I have found that a lot of people (newbies) need their hand held most of the way. They want to know who will be there, what happens if they don't want to have sex, what happens if someone asks do you they have to have sex with them, what should they wear, do they have to get naked, etc, etc. I have actually written paragraphs of "what will happen" and "what should you do if x, y and x" happens, "what you should expect" etc in an effort to make people feel comfortable with they whole night. People not used to the scene are really intimidated by the whole thing. So if you do not have the patience for some hand holding ... well. Also, why should a single woman attend a private party when they can go to an established swingers club were they may feel more secure that rules and regulations have been established and are enforced. Again it all comes down to a woman feeling safe and secure. I have also been to some private parties that were fairly shocking. Parties that quite frankly had all desperate men and much older women. Some in their 60's and 70's. I will never forget Kinky Granny until the day I die!. So just because you have vetted men to your OWN specification. So what really. You will need to get some word of mouth endorsements that your parties are good before you will get women attending. Maybe you could advertise that women can bring their FWB along, that way they are still "single" but can still bring a bloke along.
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tittee
10 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' a lot of women assume there will be a lot of men thinking they are guaranteed a root and there are plenty of guys who do assume that. I think its about time the females took control and educated the guys, they are only going to expect what they have always got, they need to know the difference between a gangbang , a swing party and a meet and greet, they assume that all parties are gang bangs, as its the only parties they have access to, more single swing parties and meet and greets with hosts chatting to each other will sort the good from the bad
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RHP User
10 years ago
Anther suggestion, if you are not already doing so, is to you advertise that you will happily chat to anyone interested in attending the parties on the phone. This would help women feel comfortable by talking to a female organiser who would be able to discuss what the party will be like and what they should expect.
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tittee
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Also, why should a single woman attend a private party when they can go to an established swingers club were they may feel more secure that rules and regulations have been established and are enforced. Again it all comes down to a woman feeling safe and secure. lol there are no swing clubs in perth our one and only closed down in December the only other venue offers a few themed parties a month
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Chelle63
10 years ago
All they have to do is ask me and I will gladly chat to them and tell them all about who will be there and what the rules are as I believe them to be. I thought there was a need for this sort of party because I know it is what I have been looking for. As for me choosing men based on my preferences that is not true at all. My guest list has men ranging from their 20 ' s to their 50 ' s in all different shapes and sizes. I am trying to think of everyone and just want people to enjoy themselves with no pressure from anyone to do anything they don't want to.
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6exxy
10 years ago
I'm happy to attend your meet & greet
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RHP User
10 years ago
Having worked at an adults/swingers club,I'd say the most important thing is security.(most women's no.1 thing in life anyway).whether it be males from the site you trust implicitly or whatever. Vet ALL your invitees,both male & female..as yes the ladies can get jealous & things can start up!! As you would know,ALL attendees MUST know that NO MEANS NO...& the ladies that attend are women,NOT objects! I wanted to run a similar meet & greet night at my place,but am still getting established so it hasn't happened. Hope it works out the way you girls would like Chelle
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting '6exxy' I'm happy to attend your meet & greet Chelle, see I am still not clear. Are you talking about meet and greet social nights were there is no sex planned. Or are you talking about sex parties?
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gazpacho
10 years ago
Put the tarp down style meat and greets, Meeks. I've been to plenty of these that didn't particularly involve couples, where people didn't really know each other, however, these were not particularly heterosexual if you know what I mean. Oh wait. You probably do know what I mean. Guys outnumber ladies 10-1 but are just as happy rooting each other so there's less pressure on the ladies to get into it. Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
10 years ago
True, that is my type of partay! :P
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On_Safari
10 years ago
I've noted how mostly couples register for the QLD meet and greets and I love that fact BUT the needs of couples are entirely different to the needs of singles. For starters they're in a relationship already and only looking for extras. Most have their own clique of other couples and select few singles they play with. I wonder how a singles ONLY event would go? I also screen OP, couples, singles of both sexes....it only takes one person to ruin an evening for someone or everyone else and you certainly don't want anyone like that in attendance. Maybe it's because "Swinging" is a couples realm, I mean most singles are looking for a relationship at some level even if it's not the "traditional" relationship and if they're not then I honestly think it's mostly single men out to sow their oats before finding the Ms Vanilla Creamcheese they can take home to their family. Though some women are the same too so I'm not generalising here. One of our forum ladies mentioned we needed to redefine and be specific about what a "relationship" means to each of us, something that singles may not be so adept at. Anyway I digress...... I'm thinking maybe about having a singles only event I guess the bummer is going to be, it's not an ORGY or FREE FOR ALL and Ladies and Gentlemen you'll have to bring your "IRL manners and approach" to others. O Lord maybe that's the problem.....too many who view RHP as a free sex site. Well, there goes that idea
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Chelle63
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting '6exxy' I'm happy to attend your meet & greet Chelle, see I am still not clear. Are you talking about meet and greet social nights were there is no sex planned. Or are you talking about sex parties? I don't understand what is so confusing about it. If you go to the events and read the ad you will see what it is about. It is an event where you can do whatever you want, if you want to have sex then you can and if you don't want to have sex you don't have to. It really is so simple...................... the easiest answer is if you don't want to attend then don't
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RHP User
10 years ago
Fact is,if I don't know the host or some of the people on the list, then checking the list doesn't really tell me very much at all about the people going. Just for the record I think OPs idea to have a singles party is great. OP asked how to get single ladies to attend. My comments are based on my own experiences and why I would prefer to attend with another male who is single. I've have had bad experiences in the past (both at a party and club - when it was open) where men pester and after a few drinks forget what NO means, to the point where they have been asked to leave. Its always the few that spoil it for the generally well behaved group. It is hard enough for me to find time to attend a party let alone make time to meet the host first. Not everyone works 9-5 Monday to Friday. Must make a note to myself that I need to find time for enjoyment too!I hope Chelle63's party is a success with more single women attending.Quoting 'tittee' Quoting 'Leo_girl' I have to agree with Meeka .... not knowing the caliber of men attending would stop me from attending on my own. Good luck LG obviously you don't look at the guest list, this gives you the names of the people who have expressed interest, you can read there profile to get an idea of what they are like, see if there are guys/couples you have meet or talked tooI have been to several parties and had a few, I always check the guest list and ask the host if im not sure of some that may attend, I have also met a host or two before hand to see what they are like, I don't play at every party I go to either, and if the guys expect that they have wasted their time and money, because unless it is advertised as a gang bang, there should be no expectation of any play
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inspirit
10 years ago
Lets face the real truth here....... why do you want just "Singles" if all you want to do is fuck? Or is it you are chasing the elusive FWB for further encounters and eventually end up in a relationship. Just a question so don't shoot me but let's face it - most woman who are single are on here are looking for that. The best parties I have been to are the ones whereby there are equal amounts of singles as to couples. In all honesty I could not think of anything worse than going to a all "singles" orgie that is all it is really. "Swinging" is predominantly a term for couples. Besides the presence of married men who show far more respect than a lot of single men (who think they are at a pussy fest) is a must have I think. (although I have witnessed some married men behave badly too, although more subtle) What is it you are really trying to orgainise....... If it is a sex party I suggest renting a penthouse apartment for say 20 - 30 people, charging all for costs and have a dayam great time. Champers, Canapes and of course Black tie. ;-) If it is just a meet n greet - The Boheme Bar is quite sexy and rooms above are good value for those who group off.
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inspirit
10 years ago
Single woman maybe do not attend as we do not network as much as we use too on here.
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Chelle63
10 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' Lets face the real truth here....... why do you want just "Singles" if all you want to do is fuck? Or is it you are chasing the elusive FWB for further encounters and eventually end up in a relationship. Just a question so don't shoot me but let's face it - most woman who are single are on here are looking for that. The best parties I have been to are the ones whereby there are equal amounts of singles as to couples. In all honesty I could not think of anything worse than going to a all "singles" orgie that is all it is really. "Swinging" is predominantly a term for couples. Besides the presence of married men who show far more respect than a lot of single men (who think they are at a pussy fest) is a must have I think. (although I have witnessed some married men behave badly too, although more subtle) What is it you are really trying to orgainise....... If it is a sex party I suggest renting a penthouse apartment for say 20 - 30 people, charging all for costs and have a dayam great time. Champers, Canapes and of course Black tie. ;-) If it is just a meet n greet - The Boheme Bar is quite sexy and rooms above are good value for those who group off. I have had more trouble with married men than I ever have with singles. I have never been treated with anything but respect by the singles I have met.I am not on here asking for advice on how to host my party or where I should have it, I asked what I thought was a simple question and suddenly I am really sorry I even bothered. I posted the question on the women's page because I thought you would give me a fair hearing and give me some good advice.Have any of you actually bothered checking out my ad on the events page? I seriously doubt it from reading the comments and replies.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Chelle, I find Perth to be quite cliquish. If you are in the group, you are in, otherwise you're not. I guess people will come once they get to know you, either through meeting at social events (meet and greets) or through word of mouth. I have been to two events hosted by someone I met at a meet and greet and they have been good. No, not every time was there any expectation of sex but the company was great and really, nothing like what some of you are worried about. The people there are friendly and respectful. I guess they are some events where things go out of hand but so far I haven't been to any like that so my experiences have been good. I guess the fear of the unknown plays a big part here, both for the host as well as the people attending. That is why people feel safer to come with a friend, to back them up in case of trouble. Another thing about your parties Chelle, might have been timing. There were a few parties going on at the same time. Some were hosted by people who have been here longer and most probably are better know in Perth. Perhaps if you host at another time, you might get more responses from single women. I know you don't really get along with me so I am not expecting to get invited to your parties. Still, hope your coming parties are successful.
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sparticus73
10 years ago
Large or small any event / party needs to have a basic business plan which identifies all that is required, establishes a solid foundation which gives patrons confidence & lastly with research / survey you are able to reduce negatives, gain knowledge ..... Deliver a great event! I know it sounds like bla bla but I can be confidant in saying most of all your questions & delemas should become minimal. I hope my opinion helped. Cheers V. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well reading a lot of posts and it seams that caliber of the men is one of the things that is important to the women, which is understandable. Like wise for a lot of guys. Everyone has a choice of who that want to chat with, sleep with, or how many they want in one night out. Yes there may be some that don't appeal to you and no one should feel pressured into being expected to have sex with someone they are not interested in, like a meet and greet, you talk to the ones that you want to find out more about. See if they spark something within. Like on here, I have had some great experiences, with females and as a third wheel. And it's has always been a no expectations rule of thumb. I think it would be nice to go to a party, meet and greet, where all are single, and if I clicked with someone then who knows the possibilities. The base rules need to be pretty clear to all and inforced. Last thing I would want is to have some drunken idiot cause issues. I would attend if invited, maybe it's a case of inviting some and see what the response is rather than opening it up to just anyone. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
There is a big difference between a sex party and a meet and greet so maybe you could market it as a blind date night or organise some games and have a little speed dating session. I went to an event with another site and I didn't get to participate as I was late but they handed the girls a lock and the guys a key and they had to find the match. You could do something similar with a deck of cards for not much expense.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well did you actually mention anywhere that you already have this up as an event? From your cheery replies I am sure women will be falling over themselves to go your party now. LMAO. And yes reading the event has made it clearer, so here is the link everyone to Chelle's sex party, which of course also has the meet and greet element too it. http://www.redhotpie.com.au/Event/Anti-Valentines-Day-40092 A lot of women are guests, so they can not see who has registered their interest in your party.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Quoting 'Chelle63' Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting '6exxy' I'm happy to attend your meet & greet Chelle, see I am still not clear. Are you talking about meet and greet social nights were there is no sex planned. Or are you talking about sex parties? I don't understand what is so confusing about it. If you go to the events and read the ad you will see what it is about. It is an event where you can do whatever you want, if you want to have sex then you can and if you don't want to have sex you don't have to. It really is so simple...................... the easiest answer is if you don't want to attend then don't Yet to go to a party where people who want to have sex can, because there's no guarantee anyone will want to have sex with you or any of them upon meeting. Just saying, how do you ensure safety if that's how you are promoting this soiree of yours? As a suggestion maybe start out slow and have a small get together with invited attendees and see hoew that goes.
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
I've read your events listing. As a chick who has attended quite a few social meet and greets, swingers parties and commercial swingers venues, I can say your write up leaves me with the distinct impression that is a sex party and nothing else. Nothing is mentioned about socialising, nothing to indicate that type of behaviour is welcome. So if I do what I want - as you claim I could - I would pretty much be the only one sitting on the sidelines and having a naughty chat with myself. No doubt I would also be being hit on regularly by men and women who won't understand that I am apparently allowed to do that... and also having to tolerate some of the behaviours which can come from handing out a knock back. You even say clothing is optional or lingerie if preferred. To quote from your events posting: Leave all inhibitions at the door and release the inner beast. There will be games for those brave enough, various edible delights for the body. There will be restraints and blindfolds in one of the rooms for the slightly kinky. As a single woman I would not attend as the only emphasis is on getting naked and playing. I might attend if I was with a couple of female friends so that I felt safe. So what would entice me to attend - can we possibly have a social start to an event? Optional dress down at a certain time? If not dressed down then only allowed in certain areas? You know..... just take the damn sexual pressure off and let a chick relax first!!
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inspirit
10 years ago
Sorry I didn't check out events... Although I was not trying to be mean at all and neither was anyone else from what I have read.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting Inspirit Besides the presence of married men who show far more respect than a lot of single men (who think they are at a pussy fest) is a must have I think. (although I have witnessed some married men behave badly too, although more subtle) I think bad behaviour by anyone, be it male or female, has a lot more to do with other factors about them rather than their marital status. I find this comment to be quite narrow minded to be honest. Chelle....I have read your event posting and it is easy to understand. Basically a` swingers` party aimed at singles with no pressure on anyone. I think one issue you have attracting single women on this occassion may also be due to the fact there are several other events on in Perth with in being Valentines night. People are also probably arranging other things too that night. Have a great evening.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Id attend every party lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I agree chelle , maybe it will remain a mystery but a great idea don't give up ;-)) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
CHELLE great idea first time forum post fantastic dont listen to the wowsers in there bubbles - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
what about bring a single friend party? a party for singles but you must bring an opposite sex friend? Any man that has been on here for any amount of time and has no female friends........ well.......
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'ahole22' what about bring a single friend party? a party for singles but you must bring an opposite sex friend? Any man that has been on here for any amount of time and has no female friends........ well....... Love this idea.
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inspirit
10 years ago
Quoting 'snowpatrol121' Quoting Inspirit Besides the presence of married men who show far more respect than a lot of single men (who think they are at a pussy fest) is a must have I think. (although I have witnessed some married men behave badly too, although more subtle) I think bad behaviour by anyone, be it male or female, has a lot more to do with other factors about them rather than their marital status. I find this comment to be quite narrow minded to be honest. Snowman! This is from MY own experiences. What you think is your opinion. Is it a sweeping statement NOT worded correctly. Forgive me!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I like the idea of a meet and greet party in a public place (maybe morning coffee). Then the address for the party is message after. Still not going to know the personality of the guys. At least you can make the decision with all the girls input. Us guys just need to suck it up and not think we are gods gift 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Singles night are the worst ever, been to two and it's either old farts or just pushy guys. Last time at shed we stayed only 10 mins, after seeing a drunk idiot vomit his guts out and the place had been open for only 1 hour. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think lots of men see this as a chance to branch out some of us are not self absorbed porno wannabes and enjoy the meeting as well
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RHP User
10 years ago
I like the idea, having been part of a couple where we swung for several years parties were fine to goto. Now im single going to swingers parties I have never done as its not really swinging for a single bloke. This way and even a no sex and public event at least lets me meet single ladies whom I get to know and maybe down the track you hook up and you she will swing together.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Definitely a genius for thinking about this and actually posting it. Sometimes I feel like being a part of a couple on RHP helps since it appears the couples are really having fun and most of us singles not so much fun. Jerks will forever be jerks and trust me ladies can attend parties with as many men they want but these jerks will still misbehave. That said I'm sure none of us sane singles will watch on whiles any lady or gent is harassed by another person.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would love to attend a speed dating event where everyone knows everyone else is a little 'open minded'
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes there are sex parties Meeka100. Look in the Events & clubs section. I think that woman probably fear being harassed if they see there are too many males wanting to attend. Just because the guest list might be 57 & most are males, it doesn't usually mean they are all going. Usually the host/s will decided a few days till the day before who can attend & who can't attend. If females/couples want more details they should ask. That's my view anyhow. Chella63, sometimes females wont go to a party because they know people at the party & don't like them or don't want them knowing they're swingers.
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RHP User
10 years ago
The singles thing is a great idea I have a female play pal and we have attended swingers together and getting your feet wet in swinging is the hardest bit. I have attend other swingers before I moved to perth and got into because I had a female friend who wanted to try but was too scared to turn up alone, I can understand the anxiety involved as I was really really nervous my first time. I think Chelle 63 has put a bit of a spin on it that we don't normally see and I think she could pull it off. I have seen some great guy partners at these things and some not so great guys, you don't want a porno star that runs in rips his clothes off and leaves you standing there in that case having female hosts like Chelle I am sure they would rally around you and more then likely the twit you came with would not get an invite back. Also a guy who is trying to push is partner into something is really doing it for him and its not the right thing to do.In the case of the singles swingers its they guy that talks to you and finds out what you want and puts you at ease is the one that may be the one to start out with and as the passion takes over who knows what happens.Its the guys that behave are polite respectfully and play well that get re - invited to these things and if you don't make the grade you don't deserve to be there. Chelle has put this idea forward and I think it would be well worth a look and if its not for you at least you have given it a shot
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RHP User
10 years ago
In spirit I understand what you meant and I see where you were going with it
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RHP User
10 years ago
There seems to be a great amount of male jerks, what about female jerks? At the swingers clubs, it's all the guys making a move trying to get into the pants of the ladies, I have yet to see another lady try to get into the pants of the guys! Anyone care to share about their female jerk experience?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'd love to offer my tongue for your needs
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RHP User
10 years ago
Seems the same old recycled people respond and attend to these...maybe that's why...when you done the rounds, people, there is not incentive lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mr_Cunninglus' There seems to be a great amount of male jerks, what about female jerks? At the swingers clubs, it's all the guys making a move trying to get into the pants of the ladies, I have yet to see another lady try to get into the pants of the guys! Anyone care to share about their female jerk experience? What? All the swingers clubs I have been too it is mostly the women doing all the moves. Men seem to take a back seat when it comes to swingers clubs. Probably worried the wife will get jealous or something. And yes I have come across women who are pissed as farts or have not taken no for an answer.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are here in Sydney such kind of parties? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sounds wonderful chelle...hope it happens with loads of smiles and no stress😊
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