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Partner Swap the first time.

October 20 2015

My wife of many years and are slowly moving towards the idea of bringing others into our lives or at least into our bedroom. The thought is both exciting and terrifying; we are by no means a vanilla couple and have done about as much as we can to each other. Whenever either of us travels for longer then a day or two we tend to engage in extremely raunchy texts and phone video exchanges, the sex when we reunite is very intense and amazing. It is during the sexting sessions that we began to explore our fantasies of introducing others to our lovemaking, while these fantasies are wonderful and extremely arousing making them a reality could come with a whole host of potential issues and potentially threaten our 25 yr + marriage. So the question behind the rather long lead up is, how did you approach this issue and what was it like seeing for the first time your partner kiss and be intimate with another person?

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RHP User

9 years ago

Heyya! My partner and I are also new to this lifestyle :) we are starting as a non swapping couple :) with same room same partner and girl on girl. We had our first same room same partner experience over the weekend of same room same partner. So I am no expert. But I say just go at a pace your both comfortable with :) Tam xx

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RHP User

9 years ago

You probably wont get taken seriously by couples if you have had a solo profile for quite a few months and you have tried date finder to hook up with women. But you can easily change your profile to a couples one( just contact technical support) without losing your paid membership. Take some nice pics with you and your lovely wife, upload them and then ask your question again. Then you and your wife can read peoples advice to you together and decide if its a lifestyle you would both be wanting to pursue with trust, love and respect for each other.

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Darkerthangrey

9 years ago

Is this your idea ? Or mutual ? Fantasies are just that ... You are heading into dangerous waters . You both need to be in the same head space for this to end well . Purely my opinion ( Mrs ) Good luck X - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

Our first threesome was a hit. We had at times fantasized sharing with a man or woman. We started with a man. I really enjoyed the sharing into the early hours of the morning. Bareback of course. - Posted from rhpmobile

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madotara69

9 years ago

Kind of happened a few times and over a few years, we discussed playing up after people we'd met or associated with amongst the circles bought up swinging during conversations, I'd always been one for flirting, especially with Tara, told the whole world how beautiful she is, smart, sexy, best advisor and friend, how lucky I am, it bought a good atmosphere and energy amongst friends, vanilla all the way, but I'd romance all the women in an eye to eye kind of way, cheeky but never offend. Faithful our years have been and the lead up, that led up too playing up in the swinging lifestyle came from the time we settled for a while, just us and sex was great, we took to edging each other over hours just to get into a heightened state flooded with chemicals, arousal such a small word, powerful thing. It gave us a confidence, we are a team and we have passion to share with that of others and have some fun charged with sexual energy in euphoric intimacy reaching heights words cannot be found, feelings are feelings. 1st, 2nd, 3rd, time could be any, it is the person your partner is intimate with will prompt feelings, those feelings tend to sit by the person as to how well you get on, relate, trust, like, respect. So it can be truly wonderful, or a little taken for granted. You have to experience the feelings to begin to understand them, all I can suggest is take care for how important communication is with each other, it's your bond and you don't want to be in a place without it, could ruin all the fun. Take care of each other, IMHO Mado Mado Tara xx

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RHP User

9 years ago

Quoting 'willowtree_2' You probably wont get taken seriously by couples if you have had a solo profile for quite a few months and you have tried date finder to hook up with women. But you can easily change your profile to a couples one( just contact technical support) without losing your paid membership. Take some nice pics with you and your lovely wife, upload them and then ask your question again. Then you and your wife can read peoples advice to you together and decide if its a lifestyle you would both be wanting to pursue with trust, love and respect for each other. thanks Willow for the info, I'm definitely no angel that's for sure, I am a philanderer a hypocrite and a whole lot of other things. Without trying to justify or explain why I do what I do, quite simply it is as it is. But is does not mean it needs to stay like that. Its fair to say that I am less content with our status quo then my wife and and am the one pushing the boundaries. She does not know about my activities, or at least I think she doesn't. So the game plan is for us to both enjoy the company of others rather then my surreptitious activities, obviously I am not here to meet play friends as that could reveal my secret life. So while many here enjoy swapping and a host of other activities the prospect of my wife, whom I simply adore, being intimate with someone else has a fantasy side and a reality side. The fantasy is intensely arousing but the reality is equally terrifying. How will I cope, will it be sensational for both of us or will I or ill she freak out, could it ruin our marriage. I have done enough reading to sink a small cruiser but with these things hypothesizing does not bring you any closer to reality. Hence my question of other couples how their first time was. I take your point that I could or should have made a couples profile, but at the moment that would have been less honest then this one.

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RHP User

9 years ago

Quoting 'littleMissShy' Heyya! My partner and I are also new to this lifestyle :) we are starting as a non swapping couple :) with same room same partner and girl on girl. We had our first same room same partner experience over the weekend of same room same partner. So I am no expert. But I say just go at a pace your both comfortable with :) Tam xx Hi littleMissShy, was your experience over the weekend at an organised event or something you organised yourself?

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RHP User

9 years ago

It was sort of a spontaneous decision to meet up with a couple we found on date finder :) we talked for a bit then went to their place for drinks :) It was very lovely experience we we all talked about boundaries ect and yeah before we knew it we were in their bed naked and fucking like rabbits :-P Communication between yourself and your partner is important. I can't stress that enough and that's probably one of the best advice we were given on here. Talk talk and talk! No matter how big or small talk about it. Communication is the key! Tam xx

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ReyandJean

9 years ago

I'm sure the journey is different for everyone. I can understand the fantasy of bringing other people into sex. That's how we broached the topic when we were hot and sweaty. Then we got to discussing it when we were more level headed. And ultimately we acted on it by attending a few swingers nights. But both of us were in on the act. I could see how it would be sexy to engineer a situation where your wife encounters people fucking, and hope it all pans out. Have you considered how you will feel if she leaps I with nary a glance at you? These things can backfire, that's why it's useful to have agreed what may go down (and who, lol) before the event. Spontaneity is great, but not if it stuffs a 25 year partnership. How did I feel when his cock was buried to the hilt in my wife's pussy? Better than anticipated. How did she feel about me and the other woman? Good enough to encourage a repeat repeat. But we've been with couples where one or the other was uncomfortable enough to call a halt. It happens.

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RHP User

9 years ago

Was a one way ticket, great investment - we both still laugh about it . Fair Dinkum...

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RHP User

9 years ago

Quoting 'Darkerthangrey' Is this your idea ? Or mutual ? Fantasies are just that ... You are heading into dangerous waters . You both need to be in the same head space for this to end well . Purely my opinion ( Mrs ) Good luck X - Posted from rhpmobile Totally agree with Darkerthangrey ... this needs to be a mutual decision and both need to be in the same heads pace. If not, this will fail. This generally works well when both couples use this as an extension of their sex life and to drive the thrill and eroticism they both seek.

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RHP User

9 years ago

Quoting 'ReyandJean' I How did I feel when his cock was buried to the hilt in my wife's pussy? Better than anticipated. How did she feel about me and the other woman? Good enough to encourage a repeat repeat. But we've been with couples where one or the other was uncomfortable enough to call a halt. It happens. I guess this is the litmus test, each partners reaction at that first critical moment, you said you felt better than anticipated, meaning you had braced yourself for a potential backfire, right?

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